BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: fat B****rd
Date: 21 Apr 12 - 03:24 PM

Would that I could !
AS my old dad used to say "Keep B*****ing in"
Charlie

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: wysiwyg
Date: 21 Apr 12 - 10:14 PM

...anybody nearby want to take a road trip and visit me?

I forget where you are, Mrr, but if you PM I can put you on an itinerary. Hardi and I seem to have a lot of unusual-for-us travel coming up this year.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Apr 12 - 12:20 AM

I thought you might learn that an eviction isn't so easy once you spoke with an attorney. My brother is in Real Estate (in California) and they do some property management - there are people in California who make it a practice to rent then get themselves evicted by landlords who are so desperate to have them leave that they pay them to move, even though they stopped paying rent months earlier. I know that's not where you're at - those people are taking advantage of laws set up to help someone like you.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 23 Apr 12 - 01:21 PM

Central Virginia, USA... come on by and tell the landlady this is a livable situation!

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 01 May 12 - 12:31 PM

Update for May Day, wish I had some lilies-of-the-valley, very French to have those today.

Anyway, I have a car again, that's good, and the weekend I'm supposed to move out is this coming weekend... but I'm not.

Upon legal advice I sent landlady an email saying we wouldn't be moving, and she sent back Yes you are, which I forwarded to lawyer saying How do I respond? Advised not to bother, I haven't... so it might be interesting this weekend, I think I'll encourage the boys to have their larger friends over, he he. Definitely not going out of town, though.
How are all of your lives?

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From: Monique
Date: 01 May 12 - 02:09 PM

Je t'envoie un peu de muguet virtuel par la pensée...

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From: gnu
Date: 01 May 12 - 02:15 PM

Good luck!

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From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 May 12 - 02:32 PM

dont know if the same in the US but i hear its best to be seen to continue paying rent to demonstate good faith on your part-though i suppose your legal has advised.
wishing you all the best.pete.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: fat B****rd
Date: 01 May 12 - 03:33 PM

My life isn't too bad at all. Thank you, Mrrzy.
It's good that you ask about others.
ATB as ever from Charlie. fB

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Charley Noble
Date: 01 May 12 - 04:47 PM

Mrrzy-

It's useful to remind the landlady that you're aware that she'll need a court order to legally evict you. Then maybe you can agree to something more agreeable as a date to move out.

A tenant who know his or her rights is a force to be reckoned with.

Cheerily,
Charley Noble

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: GUEST,mg
Date: 01 May 12 - 05:06 PM

That is true but it also makes people who would have been interested in having a small rental unit or two and who would do their best to be good landladies just stay out of the business entirely for fear of all that could happen to them from renters..I know..this has been my situation...you can be destroyed by bad renters..you can be forced to accept bad renters...so many people smarter than me just won't do it..that leaves it to people with lawyers, managers etc. who can afford loss of rent, legal processes etc. mg

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: katlaughing
Date: 01 May 12 - 05:49 PM

I was advised to put the rent in an escrow account when in a similar situation.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 01 May 12 - 06:06 PM

I deposit straight into her account, and she has given me (verbal) permission to keep doing so, so I'm paying the rent as I can. Tomorrow, in fact; I have till the 4th.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 01 May 12 - 06:08 PM

Et merci pour le muguet!

Half the reason I post is so people will make me feel better; half is to make other people feel better; and half is to get ideas flowing about the problem. When I post about a problem and a half, that is.

Love,

-Mrr

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 01 May 12 - 06:25 PM

I see you subscribe to the CarTalk approach to their program, in which they have three halves. :)

Be polite to one and all, and if the sheriff should arrive on the porch, ask for the documents that need to be file. But I can't imagine a constable or sheriff would try to evict someone without proper papers in hand, and from a court order.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 May 12 - 09:08 PM

I hope your weekend turns out to be duller than dishwater.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Charley Noble
Date: 01 May 12 - 09:24 PM

mg-

Also true. Being a landlord myself for the last 20 years I have run across my share of "tenants from hell." However, they still have rights.

Charley Noble

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 01 May 12 - 10:06 PM

Hey, if I'm from anywhere, it's from the earth!

As I said, I don't deny the damage, I deny that she has to throw us out now, when she's renewed the lease *more than once* with the damage existing, AND even more especially *after* we cleaned up and did all the other stuff she wanted (and which we, well, I, needed to do, sure, but the point is, we DID it). So she can wait till the twins finish high school next spring, they've lived here since they were 3 for crying out loud.

I know, the wits will say, they're twins, they've always been 2.. {;-)

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From: maeve
Date: 01 May 12 - 10:26 PM

http://frenchindc.files.wordpress.com/2010/05/lilyofthevalleybouquet.jpg

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 01 May 12 - 10:28 PM

(grateful kissing noises!)

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 02 May 12 - 08:48 AM

A certain amount of wear and tear is expected in a rental situation. Did the clutter/damage go beyond a normal accumulation of stuff or a normal amount of wear? Things can be fixed, as you say, and if they continued while you had leases renewed, it seems to suggest it wasn't a concern. I was in an apartment for 2 1/2 years between divorce and buying a new home. When they inspected there were some splashes on the wall, slight stains next to the trash can where tomato sauce or tea bags had splashed on their way into the trash. Even with regular wiping down, the spots left stains - nothing structurally wrong, just a cosmetic thing that paint will solve. She commented that since we'd been there over two years it was covered as a reasonable kind of mark to expect. If I'd stayed less than 2 years I might have had to pay for paint.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: GUEST,Mrr
Date: 02 May 12 - 05:38 PM

We've been there 14 years, and yes, it was excessive, Tim used to put his fist through the drywall a lot when he was little...

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 03 May 12 - 10:55 AM

check engine light just went on...

*sigh*

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Becca72
Date: 03 May 12 - 11:08 AM

Did you recently fill the gas tank? Make sure the cap is on tight! That can cause the engine light to come on

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From: Maryrrf
Date: 03 May 12 - 11:50 AM

Maybe it isn't too bad - my "Check Engine" light kept coming on and they couldn't find out what was wrong - the car ran okay. It has now been permanently "on" for well over a year. The mechanic said there are lots of things, some major, some minor, that can cause the light to go on. When it's flashing that usually means a major problem, when it's just on - maybe it's a major problem but it might not be. My car has been running fine so maybe you can get away with it for a while...Good luck!!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: jacqui.c
Date: 04 May 12 - 08:55 AM

Been keeping up with the thread. I'm glad to see that you won't be thrown out on the street this weekend. Here's hoping that you can stick to the plan and let the twins graduate. Lots of good thoughts coming from Maine.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: SINSULL
Date: 04 May 12 - 08:55 AM

This feels a bit like the gunfight at the OK Corral. Waiting to see who blinks first.
Good luck, M.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 04 May 12 - 08:58 AM

If you are not a high mileage driver go onto turbobricks (website - google) and start looking out for a nice used 2 or 7 series Volvo estate - you will get one as cheap as chips, they are spacious and comfortable. Remember they are 20 years old and budget for maintenance and check the oil and water daily and keep a spare fuel pump relay and you will probably be fine for another 10 years. They rust less than almost any other car. The catalyst equipped ones should fly through emissions testing (smog testing). But they do do only about 25 to the UK gallon (less of course to the US gallon).

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 05 May 12 - 12:21 PM

Engine light went off by itself. Hmmm.

Tomorrow is the We're Here, Get Used To It party, 3pm to whenever, come one come all! Pot luck - I could use both.

Luvs!

Anybody else having disasters? I could use some schadenfreude and you could use some sympathy...

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: GUEST,Chongo Chimp
Date: 05 May 12 - 01:44 PM

There ain't no Schadenfreude here right now, Mrrzy, but I think I got an old bottle of Gewertztramiener somewhere that I can send you. I'll check in the back of the fridge.

- Chongo

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: gnu
Date: 05 May 12 - 01:56 PM

Sometimes, if you park a vehicle on a slope with the front end downward a "vacuum pressure" in the gas tank will cause the check engine light to come on. SOMEtimes, merely taking off and replacing the gas cap will clear it. If not, at my Ford dealership, it costs $68 + 13% tax to clear it... or $10 cash for my buddy at my service station. He never wants the money but I tell him if he doesn't take it I will drop it on the ground and walk away and that would be rude so, "Please don't embarass me."

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: jacqui.c
Date: 05 May 12 - 06:03 PM

Hope all went well today.

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From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 May 12 - 08:57 PM

What jacqui.c said. I look forward to an update. I hope you did have friends stop by. And I hope they brought food and moral support. And hugs.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: gnu
Date: 06 May 12 - 03:08 PM

Me too.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: SINSULL
Date: 07 May 12 - 11:39 AM

So, how goes the battle?
SINS

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 26 May 12 - 04:53 PM

just looked in to see if any news of how its going.best pete

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 26 May 12 - 07:16 PM

I hope that no recent updates means things are going well.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 06 Aug 16 - 10:14 AM

Younger twin kid (21) waiting for psych bed after calling suicide hotline who sent him to ER... think good thoughts and Calm Blue Ocean.

Oh, and the Check Engine light is still on. Hadn't realized how long it had been!

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Senoufou
Date: 06 Aug 16 - 10:23 AM

Oh Mrrzy, what a worry for you! At least he called the Suicide Line and is getting help. I hope he will be given all necessary treatment and counselling.
Look after yourself and try to stay strong. Thinking of you.

Eliza

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Thompson
Date: 06 Aug 16 - 12:28 PM

How to fix drywall. Point out to the lads that women find men who are handy around the house irresistible, as a rule. There's something atavistic about the attractions of a man in work clothes, fixing things and doing it well.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: fat B****rd
Date: 06 Aug 16 - 01:27 PM

Best thoughts as always from Charlie.

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From: Donuel
Date: 06 Aug 16 - 03:52 PM

this is the first I've heard of this misfortune.

A good wish patch and a thoughtful spot respray doesn't seem to be the answer, a full karmic restoration would be best but...
Those take 3 months, showing up on schedule and a group effort applying a small AOC.

oh, if you drink coffee, change your brand!
Oct. 7 Is closer than it feels. That's when repairs and preparations pay off.

Bob Wheeler
Karmic Garage

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Steve Shaw
Date: 06 Aug 16 - 06:11 PM

Apropos of "check engine" light: I have a 2011 Ford Focus. Early last year the "engine malfunction" light started to come on at frequent intervals, accompanied by an apocalyptic bleeping noise and the car going into limp mode. The first time it happened I called out the AA man, who, having plugged in his diagnostic gizmo, told me that it was something to do with my turbo overboost (or was it underboost?) and that he couldn't fix it and it might cost me hundreds. Well, I noticed that all I ever had to do to get the car out of limp mode and banish the warning light was to turn off the ignition and turn it back on again. After a spate of this happening, well, it stopped happening, for over a year. Last week it did it again, twice. Same solution: ignition off then on again. It's done 300 miles since the last time and the car goes like a bomb. In fact, since the first time it happened, I've done 30,000 miles trouble-free. I sort of know when my car is playing up and I don't need nannying by an onboard computer. And if I think I hear a funny noise, I always try the time-honoured solution first: turn the radio up!

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 06 Aug 16 - 07:54 PM

It is a ford focus - maybe it has Windows?

Merci, Eliza!

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: keberoxu
Date: 06 Aug 16 - 07:58 PM

Interesting times, indeed: in light of another recent thread about transitioning....there seem to be lots of "opportunities for learning and growth" (aaaaagh!) under your roof lately. Keep breathing, mrrzy.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Aug 16 - 09:39 PM

Good thoughts and calm blue ocean. Gotcha!

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 06 Aug 16 - 10:13 PM

Thanks, keberoxu & Chanteylass...

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 07 Aug 16 - 01:46 PM

On Being Sane In Insane Places:

Nurse: Well, he wants to be called Jesus.
Me: Yeah, that's been his nickname since he was 14.
Nurse: Oh, ok then. (Adds: Not surprising, he looks exactly like it.)

Nurse: he's been pacing all morning.
Me: Yeah, he paces for meditation/calming purposes, has for years.
Nurse: Oh, ok then.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: keberoxu
Date: 11 Aug 16 - 07:11 PM

Dear mrrzy, there's this music thread you started a while back -- you had heard a howler of a song and were trying to identify it.

Recently YouTube has available, a rare live video of the authors, Flanders & Swann, performing that very song. I've supplied a clicky link to your music thread. I tried to link this thread to the message, didn't work; let's try linking to that thread.

WomPom and scroll down to the blue clicky in today's message.

Hope it lightens up things for you.

Subject: RE: BS: Mrrzy is living in interesting times...
From: Mrrzy
Date: 11 Aug 16 - 08:51 PM

That was kind of just what I need.

"It practically gallops."