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Subject: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Bonnie - Guest
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 12:52 AM

Here I am a woman in her mid-50's and find it very difficult to meet single men in my age range. I don't really want to go to a single's dating service - but at the same time, I find very few men that are single (divorced is fine) to meet. (50's to early 60's.)

I go to different places, always keeping my eyes open but it seems like all the men in this age group are married or involved with someone.
At folk clubs, house concerts, coffeehouses I have been to the men there are always with their wife or girlfriend. Not always the same club but I go to different venues and never see single guys.

I am always open to meeting someone at other places too.
The Supermarkets/grocery stores - I have talked to a few men that work there - a friendly "Hello" or ask for help in finding an item.
There are some nice guys that work there - but they are all married and do have their wedding band on. Even younger guys who work there in the 40's are married.

I have smiled or friendly "Hello" to a male shopper who is alone - only to see their wedding band.

Restaurants for lunch or dinner. Sometimes see guys on their own, maybe on their lunch hour but have their wedding band on.

Antique car shows - A lot of guys here with their antique cars and their wife by their side. You'd think that might be a good place to meet someone but I have been to several antique cars shows - I do enjoy looking at these cars although I don't have one myself.
You can walk around and talk to people about their cars and most are pretty friendly but their wife or girlfriend is always sitting next to them.

Church - Only single guys I ever see are just in their 20's.
All the guys at church are married that are over 40 years old.

Work: I only work part time anymore. It is a very small company with a few people working there. No one single.

Friends: My close friends are married and husband's don't know single guys anymore. One friend is single but she doesn't find any single guys - she lives far away from where I live and does not meet single guys in places in her area either.

So...where are the single guys in their 50's, early 60's who don't smoke, do drugs or heavy drinkers?

Oh yeah, I have taken classes at local college at night in things that interest me like Photography, music class for learning guitar and no single guys there either.

So where does everyone meet people these days? Only online dating sites?

I dress nicely, have good grooming habits always, keep up with current events, smile and have a friendly demeanor to all people, men and women.   

I guess it is just difficult to meet single men once you are in your 50's. I do not smoke, do drugs or drink heavily. Just an occasional / light drinking is ok..

I am not really into sports too much and although there might be a lot of guys there - I am just not into sports.
I don't mind watching a few games here and there on TV but just not that interested in sports as I am more into the arts, folk music, photography, etc. art, travel, browsing in antique shops, record shops.

So I guess it just might not be in the cards so to speak but it would be nice to meet someone even just to go places with, talk about common interests, etc. Just don't know where anymore.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Joe Offer
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 01:08 AM

I met my wife at a singaround. She was somebody else's date, and then she got married to a man who became my best friend. He asked me to watch out for her welfare after he died, and I've been watching out for her for 13 years now.

In the ten years I was single, I enjoyed the company of a number of women, and I met most of them at singarounds. But yeah, there were times in those ten years when I was profoundly lonely.

-Joe-


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 02:29 AM

As a single woman for most of my life- the last 51 years (I will be 79 soon) - it has often been forcibly brought to my attention that life seems to come two by two. I am involved in music and in putting on concerts and I sometimes wonder how each of those couples found each other. There was a time when I too wanted someone at my side, and did until about age 50, even though the relationships were linear in nature and some were downright transitory. Each time I met someone new I automatically wondered 'if this was the one'.

That ended when I realized that I didn't want the "one", that I am much happier by myself, that even if I found the 'right' one I didn't want it, that, frankly, I like myself better when I'm not in a relationship. Realizing all that simplified my life wonderfully.

That said, I still like men and have a number of platonic relationships, a good number of them single. I grew up with four brothers and I like how men's minds work (most of the time).

It sounds like you have done or are doing just about all the things that I would advise in how to meet men. I'd say, just keep on. They are out there.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: My guru always said
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 02:35 AM

Sometimes people meet when you're not looking or least expect it. Good luck Bonnie!


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 09:44 AM

Women seem too be more successful at living alone. Men pair up more quickly out of desperation? Women more picky in having s3l3ction criteria men do not appr3ciate or understand. Onlin3 da4ing is cruel a nd haphazard and encourages criticisms tempered by the politeness of face to face encounters. But at least you know you share similar objectives. When young , I was an island and I enjoyed solitude. Now I think Id better buy a dog.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Bill D
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 11:07 AM

It seems to simply be the case that the ratio is against you

statistics for the US

Of course there ARE men out there, but obviously, single men who wish partners have a bit of an easier time of it. As the stats show, locality is relevant..... you don't say where you are.

You are doing the right things-- going places where you can enjoy life, whether you 'meet' someone or not.

I will say this... I have seen the awkwardness of social situations where it is obvious that certain women are there looking for a husband, and scaring away some of the possible ones who are being cautious. Have fun first... let things develop as they will.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 11:30 AM

... and many of the few presentable single guys in the age group you specify may be single
because they have never been at all attracted to women...

Openly or otherwise.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 12:09 PM

For what it's worth, I tick most of your positive boxes except I'm happily married.

However, looking out for absence of wedding rings as a reliable indicator of avilability ?

I have never worn or wanted a wedding ring.

Maybe it's a cultural thing, but here in the UK I've never known any married men older than me
or my same age who wear wedding rings.

Newly-wedded men in their 20s / 30s may have recently started to accept this fashion;
but I can't help suspecting they are soft touch victims of the grossly profiteering Wedding Industry ???


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 12:11 PM

One of my best friends is a gay man. Good man. Great company.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 12:21 PM

Bonnie,

Whenever Carol goes to Lowes Home Improvement or Home Depot she gets hit on by men in that age range. Maybe you can do some little projects around your home.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 02:03 PM

I wonder if you have a local newspaper Bonnie? Here in Norfolk there's one which has a Finding Partners page. It's better than an online dating site, because the men on it will live relatively near to you, and thus are more likely to be genuine. (It's hard to cheat or be a villain if you're in the same local area as the lady!) I'm sure statistically there are plenty of available men who are a bit lonely and would love to meet you. So if you advertised in a newspaper like that one, you'd probably have many replies.
I still think the best way is through a hobbies or interests club. It's a case of choosing the right subject or interest. My late widowed father took up bridge and French, and used to say it was in both cases a front for a dating agency!


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Phil Cooper
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 02:32 PM

I know some single men in my age group (I'm 59 and married), but they are quite often like this adage: Single men of a certain age are like parking spaces, the good ones are taken and the others are either handicapped or "out there." I couldn't in good conscience introduce anyone or try to set someone up with some of these guys.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 03:56 PM

They are out there. I am one. But, like a lot of "nice guys", a dozen times bitten, a dozen times shy. I have absolutely NO need to roll the dice again so I actually avoid encounters of the female kind. I prefer writing, music, comedy and sports TV and keeping to myself. It's horrible that I got messed over so bad that I didn't have any children but I often think, if my potential children grew up in the toxic environment I was subjected to when married (13 years, 4 months, 17 days, 11 1/2 hours), how would it have affected them? Maybe it was meant to be?

Of course, none of that has anything to do with your situation except to say... a 57 year old divorced man like me is NOT getting married again unless he falls in love and I know better than to let that bullshit happen again. I preclude such as stated above.

Good luck. Love is grand... for some but not all.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Mrrzy
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 05:01 PM

Seriouslah.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 05:24 PM

They're around. You just can't see them. Without money, political power, or celebrity, a man isn't visible to women. Unless he's at an age where his natural instinct is to aggressively pursue and/or harass them.

And of course the few older men who do have any of those desirable qualities are busy with younger women. Growing old is tough on everyone.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 05:35 PM

Meetup?

Although in practice, those in their 50s are rather too wise now to fall for the old old story, and those in their 60s are starting to thin out already.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: bbc
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 07:00 PM

I'm in the process of moving to a more populated area, now that I've retired. I've decided to pursue my interests--photography, dance, folk music, shape note, hiking, nature, birding, travel. I think that may be a better direction for me than seeking men. If they happen along, I might consider it. Otherwise, I think my life will be plenty rich. Wish me luck!

bbc


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 07:11 PM

What with the female menopause and sagging male virility,
mid 50s to 60s aint exactly the most conducive time in life for new couples to try getting it on together..


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: gnu
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 07:22 PM

Guest... "... getting it on together"? At the age being discussed, that is the last of the considerations. It takes a lot of time to get to 'carpet burn'.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Jack Campin
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 09:01 PM

The second strain of David Young's tune fits your broadside. The first seems to have been added by an instrumentalist, it's not very singable.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 09:10 PM

"Without money, political power, or celebrity, a man isn't visible to women" Guest

Broad brush, indeed. My criterion required "interesting" above all. And talent doesn't hurt. Good sense of humor either.

However, the heavens protect us from boring, whiny, negative or controlling ones.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Janie
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 09:30 PM

What bbc said. And best of luck on your move and finding your way around a new community, bbc!


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Rob Naylor
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 10:04 PM

Guest: Maybe it's a cultural thing, but here in the UK I've never known any married men older than me
or my same age who wear wedding rings.

Newly-wedded men in their 20s / 30s may have recently started to accept this fashion;
but I can't help suspecting they are soft touch victims of the grossly profiteering Wedding Industry ???


I don't know how old you are, but I'm a Brit in my late 50s and wore a wedding ring for many years from the day I was married. I stopped wearing it regularly when I really got into rock-climbing and saw one guy get his finger "de-gloved" after he forgot to take his ring off and fell with his finger jammed in a crack in the rock. Having heard about more cases, I changed my "default setting" to "ring off" so that I won't be so used to it being there that I forget it.

Probably over half the men of my acquaintance in my age group got a wedding ring when they were married.

And it wasn't due to being a soft-touch victim on the wedding industry. Our wedding was Registry Office, with a meal for ourselves plus 10 family members only afterwards, and a self-organised party for friends at our flat in the evening. Cost, including 4 days honeymoon was under £200 all-in, in 1980. Most of our friends also had "budget" weddings, but the blokes mostly still had rings.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Janie
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 10:32 PM

Also what Bill D. said. Live your life and do what you enjoy because it is what you enjoy. Finding a mate, if that is important to you, will be more likely happen if it is a secondary goal.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Stim
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 10:53 PM

I highly recommend MeetUp. It is not a dating or matchmaking site, it is an activities site--groups of every conceivable type post their meetings and let you join their groups and sign up for events. And there are groups everywhere.

I was about to spend my first Christmas alone in twenty five years, and I was desperately looking for somewhere to go. I found meetup, and on Christmas day, I was hiking with about 30 other people. A bunch of us went out to dinner afterwards, too. And if you can cover Christmas, everything else is easy...


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Bonnie - Guest
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 11:17 PM

Nice to hear so many responses.

One person: Jack the Sailor mentioned about doing projects around the home and going to Home Depot & Lowes. I don't have my own home. Have an apt I rent so any work that needs to be done, the manager of the apt. building does it. I am on the West Coast, USA and the guys do seem to wear wedding bands here.

I should also mention that I use public transit - trains & buses a few days a week for part time job.

There are a lot of men on the train and I am always looking around to see if there might be someone single. Well here, the men are also all wearing wedding bands on the train - woman too.

I sit in different places on the train - not the same carriage all the time and I am on the train to get home about 1 hour.

It amazes me sometimes that all these people are married!!!
If the divorce rate is so high - I don't see single people in this age range around, 50 - early 60's. Even the younger guys on the train - who appear to be in their mid-30's or so are all wearing a wedding band. This is a commuter train - the one I use to my area only runs Monday - Friday. Plenty of people on the train, I can't get over that they all seem to be married. Most are business people.

I think that someone was saying that men have a more difficult time of being alone so I imagine after a divorce they get remarried very quickly, maybe even having met the woman while they are still married. I also think professionally at their job that men feel better, more confident if they do have a spouse and not alone, especially in their 40's & 50's.

I also wanted to mention that I am not skinny or heavy - but I think it is pretty hard for a woman in her 50's to meet anyone - here on the west coast anyway. I guess if there are any single guys in the 50's,& 60's, they probably want to meet someone younger, 30's & 40's but not their own age. Their first wife might have been near their age but if they do get a divorce it seems like they do prefer much younger women the 2nd or 3rd time around and not a 50 something year old woman.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,jcp
Date: 29 Jun 14 - 11:49 PM

I was afraid, when I broke up a 22 year marriage a few years back, that I wouldn't be able to find a woman in the 50 - 60 range who would want me. In fact that fear was part of what kept me in the relationship for the last few years we were together. I quickly found that I had some sought-after traits: I have a job, my house is clean and neat, I'm not looking for a mommy, and I have minimal bad habits. I was given to understand that I would be snapped up soon, and I was as soon as I was ready to be. Apparently, a lot of guys who get divorced at my age do so because they are terrible at being in relationships; my single female friends report that most of them are looking for someone to take care of them. In general, decent guys in our age group aren't sitting around being single if they don't want to be. My unscientific and ego-centric study of the subject indicates that there are a lot more good single women in this age group than good single men.

And that's just the available pool of mates -- you still have to find the one who turns you on, makes you laugh, and has personal habits you can live with comfortably. Maybe you have to identify the acceptable men shortly after they get divorced and be ready to move in as soon as they are ready to move on. Maybe it makes a difference if the divorce was his idea or hers.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,#
Date: 30 Jun 14 - 10:03 AM

Probably the easiest way to find 50-60 single men would be a newspaper advertisement.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 30 Jun 14 - 12:03 PM

" I don't really want to go to a single's dating service"

After reading the replies to this thread
you may reluctantly conlude this might be the the optimum pragmatic option...


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 30 Jun 14 - 02:42 PM

Build yourself a coffee table.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Bugsy
Date: 30 Jun 14 - 07:53 PM

I've never been in this situation (Single and looking) I met wy wife when I was 6 years old, started dating her when we were 16 and married her at 20. We've been married now for 45 years(I've been told te firs 46 are the worst.)

I will make one observation though. Wearing a wedding ring doesn't always mean that a man is married. Many widowed men still wear their wedding rings, and that doesn't mean that they are still bonded to their deceased wife.

Good luck with your quest.

Bugsy


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 30 Jun 14 - 09:35 PM

The only good years that you had were the tires on your car, eh? :)

(Taken from the song)


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: bbc
Date: 30 Jun 14 - 09:45 PM

Thanks, Janie!

Barbara


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 30 Jun 14 - 10:52 PM

Some of you folks are damned depressing. Don't you ever watch those Viagra commercials? (They've gotten much better - the Cialis commercials still set set my teeth on edge).

SRS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest, city girl
Date: 30 Jun 14 - 11:24 PM

This is a site I stumbled upon recently that you might find helpful:

Meeting people

It is probably geared more towards issues with shyness / introversion and how this affects meeting people. (my own issues). From what you've written here, this doesn't seem to be the issue for you. However, I found the articles on this site to be generally helpful, and they might give you some ideas as well.

The person who writes them apparently faced his own problems with this issue and eventually improved his situation. He also got a degree in social work. (I'm just quoting from the site here, and can't verify this.) Regardless, I found these to be some of the more realistic articles on these issues I've come across. They're written with a very practical common sense approach, and, while encouraging, don't try to sugarcoat the process of meeting people. I think he does present some valid ideas about why certain things, like simply being friendly, might not work, and what you might try instead.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 02:04 AM

I came up with a truism today: Old Guys may not be HOT but they are COOL.

:)


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Mr Red
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 05:55 AM

IMHO
sessions, singarounds, and Festivals would be the best places if you want a shared interest in Folk.
If you are fit, ceilidhs are a great place to just enjoy the social atmosphere. Whatever else transpires is a bonus.
If you lived in Gloucestershire UK, I would recommend Stroud Ceilidhs. We have a policy of not having morris or song spots, in the break, so that people can mingle, socialise and re-fill their glasses without missing-out on any given dance. And the committee and a few regulars make a point of asking wallflowers to dance, and reminding them that any woman can ask a man and no-one will think it at all strange. And the latter is pretty much de riguer in most ceilidh series I know about.
Stroud Ceilidhs the first dance of the season is on (unusually) a Friday and part of the Stroud Folk Festival 26th - 28th Sept.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 06:01 AM

Funny, I'm sure I posted here and saw it take.

I'd have thought that folk music would be a good place to look. Many men, few women, and most of both over 50. Also most are not "conservatives" - a definite plus.

I would suggest "online dating" too. Just be careful who you go to meet, where and when, and have an exit strategy until you know each other tolerably well. Going on an anti-austerity demo together is a good safe option!

I'd also suggest that many men remain horizontally capable to much older than 60 - and have learned that there is more than one way to skin a cat and that women should be pleasured too. I'm reasonably sure there are accredited cases of fatherhood at 80.

I'd agree that most older English men do not wear wedding rings. Indeed any rings apart from signet rings. Avoid anyone wearing a sovereign ring or sovereign medallion.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Johnny J
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 06:21 AM

Why not go for a "toy boy" in his forties?
;-))

Seriously, don't worry about it. Just enjoy making friends in the meantime.

Also, enjoy your own company too. I never managed to have a successful relationship until such times that I could be happy and content on my own.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 06:27 AM

"Funny, I'm sure I posted here and saw it take."

Yup. Me too. I check em all now. And, I did post herein and I did check it and it WAS here... now it's not.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 06:32 AM

Here it is again...

I took my ring off the day I said I was filing for divorce, April 17, 1999. A few years ago, a pawn shop opened nearby. The guy weighed the ring and announced it was X grams. I said, "Really!? It weighed a lot more than that when it was on my finger."


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: bubblyrat
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 10:16 AM

Andres Segovia fathered a child in his eighties , and was he a good guitarist !! I am nearly 67 now, and met Nicola (70 last week) via a newspaper dating page mix-up ( Telegraph / Times ) over two years ago.After a very short telephone "courtship" I eventually travelled to Winchcombe,(Glos.)to meet her ,stayed the night and am still here today !! We have never had a day apart ,except for when I was in Reading hospital for a month ,and she visited me every day anyway.So, these newspaper dating sites CAN work ; I would certainly advise giving one a chance ( "quality" newspapers, NOT "gutter press " !! ).


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 11:03 AM

bubblyrat... wonderful story! Thanks for sharing.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: meself
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 11:35 AM

Pierre Trudeau became a proud daddy at 83, I believe it was. However, I don't think the OP is looking for someone to give her a child ... !


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: maeve
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 12:23 PM

Guest, Bonnie- If your focus is Looking for a Husband, you are likely to be blind to nice fellows around you. If your focus is to live an interesting and productive life, and your interest in all the people around you shows you are open to meeting like-minded people, both men and women who aren't looking will be inclined to notice you and introduce you to special men who may be interested in you.

Stop shopping for a husband. Live your life. Learn new things. Be kind to all you meet. There are many wonderful men around, but they won't drop their camouflage unless you get busy living your one amazing life. I wish you well in your journey.

Maeve


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Stim
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 02:07 PM

Do what Maeve says-go places where people are enjoying themselves and enjoy yourself. If you're having a good time, people will want to connect with you--go to the beach with friends, go ride bikes, or horses, walk your dog, or someone else's dog, join a choir, go bowling, enter a chili cook-off--or, wait! Did someone mention this already? Join a Meetup group!!!!

Whatever you do, you should understand that staring men's wedding bands on the bus and wishing they weren't married is what they call a zero-sum game.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 03:08 PM

My point was not simply that old men can father children, but more that it tends to indicate that such fathering indicates that the said old men are not past enjoying nookie. And perhaps they have learned that it's a good idea to try to help women enjoy it too.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: LadyJean
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 10:58 PM

I'm also single, and past 50. The good men are mostly taken. The untaken ones tend to have issues. I'd love to have someone to go places with. But I'm not sure a guy my age would want to do much besides sit in front of the TV and watcht he game.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 11:25 PM

Ladies, we who are past 50 (I'm past 60) and find ourselves single have no reason to think we are any better or any worse than men who find themselves single within our age cohort. Let us steer away from sexist stereotypes of any ilk.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,City Girl
Date: 01 Jul 14 - 11:56 PM

I'm also over 50 and single, but I mainly consider this to be due to my own issues, and not because of a lack of men.

Over the years, I have always encountered at least some single, heterosexual men in my age group, both at work and at music and other activities. A number of them have been very nice people, and most likely still single because of being shy or lacking in confidence. Although I may have not found "the one" for myself, I did not see these men as losers.

I also have met plenty of men over 50 who enjoy pursuing various interests and are not just sitting home watching TV.

Since I don't know the OP or other posters here personally, I have no sense of what other people's personal issues are. But it may help for some of us to do a little more self reflection when things don't work out, and look at our own role and attitude in the relationship process. (I do not consider myself either an optimist or "positive thinker", by the way, just a realist.)


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 12:15 AM

"Since I don't know the OP or other posters here personally, I have no sense of what other people's personal issues are. But it may help for some of us to do a little more self reflection when things don't work out, and look at our own role and attitude in the relationship process. "

From my not particularly unique male point of view...

Cats are a serious warning signal.

multiple cat ownership = beware

Cat litter tray in her bedroom = thanks for the offer but i'll see myself out...


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Shimrod
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 04:55 AM

I am now in my 60s and have been 'emotionally disabled' for most of my life. I suspect it's because I was hospitalised at the age of 4. In those days parents were only allowed into the ward for an hour a day and, as a result, the bond was broken between me and my mother. Years later, I overheard her telling someone else that: "When he came out of hospital he pushed me away".

When I got into my teens and early 20s I found it impossible to form close relationships with women of my own age (there were platonic friendships but nothing else). Love and marriage happened to other people - but not to me. At the time, I put this down to very, very low self-esteem (no-one would be interested in an inadequate wretch like me) but it was only years later (in my 50s) that I realised that I had been pushing women away - as I had my mother all those years before. Eventually, I met someone through a dating agency. We were together (sort of - there were complications) for 4 years but it didn't last - mainly, I suspect, because she had issues to.

Nevertheless, I survived and somehow, despite the self-esteem issues, got myself a decent job - which paid enough to allow me to buy a house and, eventually, to provide me with a decent pension. Now I'm retired and living alone in my own, paid for, house.

When I retired, I decided to devote my time to my passion - which is nature conservation. I seem to have been more successful than I ever dreamed possible - which has done wonders for my self-esteem! I'm also a member of a rich and vibrant community of like-minded people. This community includes quite a few attractive women (some much younger than me). Trouble is I now find myself quite severely 'hormonally challenged' - so would find it difficult to take advantage of these opportunities (not that I would take adantage of younger women, of course). Life is complicated and then, I suppose, you die!


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 05:09 AM

I strongly suspect, Shimrod, that contiguity and like-mindedness would still perform the Indian rope trick. I recommend trying. You might even pre-mention that your age creates a statistical possibility - some women might feel challenged to see if their wiles still worked...


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,kendall
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 09:44 AM

Bonnie, you don't say where you live.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Peter
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 11:11 AM

A lot depends on the size of the pool of available singles which in turn is down to population.

What would work for me in London with a population, including the commuter belt, of nearly 19 million wouldn't necessarily work in a small west coast city like Portland (well under a million).

In general terms Maeve's advice is best but, if you really don't want to be a "single", then you may have to end up either resorting to a commercial dating service or moving to a more densely populated area.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Lizzie Cornish 1
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 11:22 AM

I'm not saying a WORD! ;0)


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 11:53 AM

What's your problem, Fwuffy? I'm content at the moment (and you would NOT want to have the details).


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Jim McLean
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 01:35 PM

Remember the old song

When I was single I used a powder puff,
Now that I'm married I cannae afford the stuff.
It's a life, a life, a weary, weary life
It's better to be single than to be a married wife.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 01:50 PM

Guest: 'Cat ownership beware' LOL. When my husband first arrived in England for our wedding, he met my FIVE cats and was a bit daunted. No-one keeps pets in his part of the world; they eat dogs, cats, rats, anything that has meat on it. Now, decades later, he absolutely adores our present contingent of three. Over the years, he's cried his eyes out at the demise of some of our elderly moggies, buried them solemnly in the garden and sincerely missed them. I always smile in the early morning when he goes to make us a nice cup of tea. He natters away in Malinke to them all in their large cat bed in a silly high voice. I bet they laugh their socks off at him! I certainly do. So even if you have pets, there is someone out there who can accept them.
I have to add that it's perfectly possible (like brave Shimrod) to create a happy and fulfilled life for oneself without a partner. We have a lovely chap of about sixty in our village who has never married, but has so many activities, interests and friends that he hardly has time to sit down. He seems to me to be one of the most well-balanced and contented folk I know.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Stim
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 02:03 PM

She's on the West Coast, and rides the commuter train, which means she's in one of four major metropolitan areas. All of which have really active MeetUp groups for people in your age range;-)


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 02 Jul 14 - 09:33 PM

Live! Live!


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 12:18 AM

To Guest STIM,

Excuse me, but I do not "stare" at men's wedding bands on the bus.

There is a difference between just taking a glance and staring.

I never "stare" at anyone. It doesn't take long to "notice" a wedding band - you don't have to stare to see it. It is rude to stare and I DO NOT STARE.
I do attend, go to places I enjoy. If you reread my post, I was in a photography class (because I enjoy it) I took a guitar class (because I enjoy it), go to hear folk music .

Sure, it would be nice to meet someone at these places or classes so you can share that interest with someone else. I didn't say I was actually looking for a husband but would be nice to meet a guy to hang out and go out with sometimes.

I am not into some of the interests you mention. No dog and no one around here can have dogs in the apartments. I do have a cat though.
I also go to folk music venues and house concerts to hear folk singers that I enjoy listening to. (if I can get there on public transit.)

I am just saying that at these places (I do go to, there are just not single men there) I do live in a large city.
So I do have different interests. It just is not that easy to find single guys at these places to meet, hang out with.

My friends are married and do not live near me. We talk on the phone.
If they do go out at night it is with their husbands or a friend who lives in their area - close. Most of my friends who do drive (which is fewer and fewer) do not drive far or do not drive on freeways at all.(fear of driving as they get older I guess.) I don't have that huge circle of friends (woman)anymore- just a handful of friends but they do not live near me. I have known them for years and years and it is pretty hard to meet new friends as you get older. Most of them moved far away years ago to the suburbs when they got married.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest - Bonnie
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 12:21 AM

The last post was from me (Bonnie). I forgot to enter my name so it just says Guest. Was also having a tech problem for a few minutes in submitting message but I think it is ok now.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 02:53 AM

Bonnie, I do hope you find somebody soon, and can relax in a happier life. I was alone for several years until I met my husband, and, like Joe, sometimes felt very sad and lonely, although I had quite a few lovely friends, which I've kept close to. I'm sure there is a good man out there for you, so trust to your destiny! I wish you lots of luck and send you my best wishes. Eliza


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 03:17 AM

I was just trying to remember how I met most of the men I currently am friends with.

* Two were co-workers, neither is married, both are in their 50s, both are straight
* Five were tenants of a building I once managed. I am no longer close with any of them although we still have coffee when we happen to meet and bring each other up to date. Four are married now, I have no idea whether the remaining one is straight
* One I met through a woman friend; he is gay
* One I met through the gay man. He is also gay
* Two are single men, elderly but interesting, that I met where I now live. We play cards together and have long talks. I think they are straight.
* Most of the rest of my men friends I met through music. Most of them are married, several are single. Not one is below 40.

All of these men are friends, i.e. if I needed help they would help.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Mr Red
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 03:45 AM

The suggestions of joining groups is a good one. There are walking groups where you can be with people and the dynamic is such that you get to talk to different people over the course of the day.
Something like a knitting bee is not going to cut it IMNSHO.
The way walking clubs work in the UK is that they usually have one or two with cars willing to share the journey to the "interesting" location and share the fuel costs.
Mingle is the catch-word. Spread your net wide. Volunteer for a worthy charity, join a band/trio maybe. But most of all, don't be earnest, be interested and interesting.

the demographic can't be ignored. There are more older women than men and in their 50's that is certainly true. It may take time.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 03:55 AM

Hah! The post eater is at it again.

As I said - typical pub song session, UK. 80% male. 80% of them in the specified age range. Sadly 80% of them white. Some may be unavailable but many simply MUST be on the market.

Learn and sing a saucy-ish song (maybe a music hall one, like "Puss, puss, puss") and you will be mobbed with admirers, Bonnie.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 03 Jul 14 - 09:46 AM

it is pretty hard to meet new friends as you get older.
Up to a point, part of the trouble is that you simply don't form the same (non sexual) attachments to people that you did in your teens and early twenties. You end up with a cirle of people who you talk to in a friendly manner when you see them but would not drop around to their house.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Stim
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 02:41 AM

Bonnie, sorry if I upset or offended you in any way. I didn't mean to--I intended my comment to be more jovial than it seems to have come off. My point had more to do with not letting yourself think too much about that sort of thing...I know, from my own experience that it is easy to do.

In all seriousness, one last time, check MeetUp.com--Here is the description of one group called "Pacific Beach 45+Single Women Weekend Friends" in San Diego-

"This group is for single (divorced, widowed, separated, we're not picky about labels) women 45+ who enjoy the beach, movies, brunch, happy hour, the zoo, picnics, festivals, shopping, hikes, etc., but are tired of doing these activities alone. So, what I'll be doing in this meetup is scheduling something I would normally do, alone - go to the SD zoo, relax on the beach, take in a Saturday matinee, grab a bit to eat, or ride my beach cruiser on the boardwalk. "

And that it just one group--for instance, there are dozens of photography groups, at least a million hiking/biking/kayaking groups and, like all MeetUp groups, they are everywhere in the world.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Rob Naylor
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 03:54 AM

it is pretty hard to meet new friends as you get older.

I don't agree with that.

I still have a few people from univesity that I'm in contact with....but rarely see. The last time I met one of them was about 3 years ago. Same with my early working life...a few people I'm in intermittent contact with.

The people I'd regard as my closest friends these days are mostly people I've met in the last 10-15 years. I took up rock-climbing when I was 42 and now, approaching 60, I have a wide circle of climbing friends in UK and abroad, several of whom I can just "drop in" on. I was 52 when I took up British Military Fitness and 54 when I started running half marathons and marathons, having not run a single step prior to 2007 since 1971! Again, I have several friends in the running and BMF worlds who I regard as true friends, rather than just good acquaintances. The music world (both folk and indie/ rock) has also civen me an ever-evolving circle of new acquaintances, some of whom have developed into friends.

There appear to be quite a few people of both sexes in my age group in all these areas of interest who are unattached, too, although I have to say my own friendships span a wide age range, from a climbing partner in her late 20s to a running friend who still does marathons at 82.

I was surprised, on emerging from a self-inflicted "work coccoon" of about 30 years duration to find ut how *easy* it was to make new friends as an older person. I had thought it would be almost impossible.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 04:09 AM

Here in UK, there is an ever-growing older population, and the clubs, societies, groups, adult-education facilities, sporty outlets etc etc are endless. Even in our tiny village, there are several clubs and interest-groups for older people of both sexes, well-subscribed and flourishing. Our Church is a great source of friends and social meetings. There are also, in most parts of the country, gyms, Keep Fit clubs and swimming pools with hours set aside for the older folk, the University of the Third Age, WEA lectures, Adult Education centres and so on, where one can learn and meet people. I'm sure there are the equivalent of these in the US. Good luck, Bonnie!


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST, topsie
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 04:26 AM

Eliza's description of her village is very positive, but rather than "clubs and interest-groups for older people of both sexes", I would prefer older people to be welcome at "clubs and interest-groups for people of both sexes". I don't want to be shepherded into a social life restricted to one age group - I find the idea really depressing. Rob Naylors friends, whose ages range from 20s to 80s, sound much more appealing.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 08:52 AM

Just go!

I occasionally go to the electric gigs of some kids who used to dogsit my house when I went away to festivalling - they liked to be in a house with many guitars to play and where they could see their girlfriends. They'd be about 20 now.

Friday I'm going to see two electric bands featuring contemporaries of my daughter's - So they are early 30s.

Of course the kids think I'm a mad old man. So what?


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Rob Naylor
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 05:00 PM

Topsie: rather than "clubs and interest-groups for older people of both sexes", I would prefer older people to be welcome at "clubs and interest-groups for people of both sexes". I don't want to be shepherded into a social life restricted to one age group

Absolutely! People say things like "what can you possibly have in common with someone 20-30 years younger/ older than you?" "Shared interests" is the answer, whether musical, sporting or something else. I can have far more in common with a 30 year old climber or a young guitarist in an indie-type band than with a carpet slipper wearing, Vicar of Dibley re-run watching person my age who sits in front of the TV every evening.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 06:47 PM

I'll second what My guru always said said. I found Tom (Curmudgeon) after I extricated myself from my first marriage which lasted (sort of) for ten years, and I swore I would never be stupid enough to marry again. I was adamantly NOT looking...even for an enjoyable companion. Then I went to a Christmas party at a recording studio and met Tom...and the rest is history.

In my experience, the best friendship/companionship/lover/whatever arrives when you least expect it and definitely are not searching for it.

Continue going to places where you enjoy what's going on and there will be new people with like tastes. Don't turn down opportunities to be social, but go because you enjoy the company and activity. The right person will find YOU.

I lost Tom a mere six months ago which means it's like yesterday. I'm not even THINKING about thinking about another companion on this crazy journey through life. But who knows what might happen in the future?

And if I don't, that's okay, too. I have a lot of friends (of all ages) and romance is not required. (Or, at this point, even desired.) I like living by myself. Not sure I'd ever find someone else who could put up with me being me and sharing a domicile besides.

Linn


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 06:55 PM

"Any Single Men 50-60 around??"

Trying to get them to try to stuff an oyster into a slot machine???


GfS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Mrrzy
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 09:23 PM

Isn't it something into the oyster, usually?


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 09:41 PM

Think harder....or softer...

GfS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 09:48 PM

How sad for you goofball.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 11:13 PM

Well, read 'em and weep!

GfS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 08 Jul 14 - 11:44 PM

I just hate calling names but why do I suddenly get the impression that GfS is in actuality Sarah Palin? ;)


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 04:43 AM

Im free!


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 09:39 AM

Im a male folkie in 59-60 bracket hoping to upgrade from a one man tent at festivals. Looking for single lady with a mobile home.

Beer Belly


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 12:44 PM

"Please send picture of mobile home"?


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 01:23 PM

Well I offered a question to you in jest...but it got deleted by the fun loving humorist left wing.

GfS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 01:30 PM

Actually, on second thought, I'll re-post it....(for some reason, it was considered an 'insult'...by the same people who champion how 'normal and honorable' it is....

"Do you think you might be gay?"

So I guess that down deep..underneath, that to be asked if you are 'gay' is somehow derogatory....IRONIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

'Homophobia' in 'noble and righteous' disguise??

GfS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 01:43 PM

To whom did you, goofball, offer that suggestion? Since the OP is specifically looking for men (with the usual implied possible consequence) it would not seem to be apt for her.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 01:48 PM

Richard, It was a response to this question from Ebbie:

"I just hate calling names but why do I suddenly get the impression that GfS is in actuality Sarah Palin? ;)"

Which I also took in jest..and I believe that Ebbie meant no harm at all!

GfS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,eldergirl on another computer
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 06:58 PM

I agree with Bat Goddess; someone turns up when you least expect it/ when you're not looking/ (I guess) when you're not giving out a "desperate" vibe. Not that you're desperate, Bonnie.. just somewhat concerned. Sorry I can't be more help. Focus on the activities you're doing. Hoping that Destiny kicks in for you.
X el


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 07:09 PM

Hey, it's been on the 'news' that there are dating websites where people are getting married, being matched on the computer...and they haven't even met!
Sorta like a 'blind date'...but instead, a 'blind marriage'!

But then, 'marriage' isn't what it used to be....but that's another story of deterioration!

GfS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 07:46 PM

Little, if any, homophobia here but - I'm afraid you're out of luck on this one, GfS. I observe that Palin is not aging well. I think the ugly has something to do with the Garbage In she delights in, evidenced by her Garbage Out.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 07:54 PM

Well I was hoping you might have had better taste than Sarah. I'm not particularly a fan of hers...though she can be entertaining!..but so can Betty Boop!....(note the similarities!)

GfS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 08:54 PM

sheeeesh You made me laugh- you are right.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 09 Jul 14 - 10:11 PM

"Hey, it's been on the 'news' that there are dating websites where people are getting married, being matched on the computer...and they haven't even met!
Sorta like a 'blind date'...but instead, a 'blind marriage'!"

American History ?

The wild west settled by lonely cowboys marrying mail order brides,
and weddings by proxy ?


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Richard Bridge
Date: 10 Jul 14 - 08:11 AM

But, Guest 10:11, then the gender roles were more rigid.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Stim
Date: 10 Jul 14 - 07:30 PM

Gender roles were not very rigid on the frontier, Richard Bridge. Who ever could do the work did it, and if they couldn't, they learned it fast. Men often did "women's work" because there were no women to do it, and women did "men's work" because all hands were needed.

I've heard more than a few stories about farms and ranches that were run by the oldest sister, after the accidents or disease had taken the parents.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 10 Jul 14 - 07:34 PM

Ebbie, I posted more, both parties...but alas, it got deleted...they were pretty good, too!!

GfS

P.S. I could probably remember them....


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST
Date: 10 Jul 14 - 07:41 PM

Interesting - googling "wild west mail order brides" looks like there's hours worth of reading on the subject.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Bonnie
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 01:11 AM

"Someone shows up when you are least expecting it." "When you're not looking."
For the most part I don't really agree with that. Yes, when you are younger, that probably is true as there are a lot more single people around - but really after 50 I don't think that is too likely to happen. I used to meet people that way sometimes "when I least expected it" way back when.

When I was in my 20's & 30's & even maybe into the early 40's, that did happen sometimes but considering all the places I go to now such as the grocery store, library, post office, dentist office, bank (places where I am not thinking about meeting someone) but thinking about stamps I have to buy or cashing a check at the bank or going for dental check ups, well it is a myth about "when you are least expecting it" because come to think of it, I have never met anyone "when I was least expecting it" these days.

When I go to record shops and antique shops (my hobbies) I am concentrating on all the folk records I might find that day or antique shops (not always to buy but sometimes fun to browse.) These are times when I am actually not thinking about meeting someone - I am busy looking at the folk albums, etc. - and I guess you might say
"I am not looking" at those times. (to meet someone). But bottom line is even though those are situations where I am least expecting to meet someone - (it does not happen anyway.) I really think that is just a myth or cliché. Or happens when you are young.

Like I said, I did many, many years ago when a lot more single people were around, I would meet people when I was least expecting to - but not for years and years now.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 03:09 AM

I have a suggestion: Ditch your car and take the bus! Learn to start the conversation. Be upbeat and full of energy. Smile.

I thought of it the other day when I got to chatting with an interesting man at the bus stop. We got on famously. He suggested that we might meet again "tomorrow".

Not likely. I am really not interested in meeting 'someone'.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Bonnie - Guest
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 03:21 AM

To Ebbie:

Ha! I don't have a car to ditch - don't have a car at all.

So I do use buses and trains to get around! Hard to get around at night though on public transit and quite a walk to the closest stop.
Not too good to be out late at night coming home on public transit for a woman alone. Do use it during the day, early evening hours though.
Plus no buses or trains (near me) that run very late anyway.
Taxis are too expensive.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 03:44 AM

Doesn't have to be at night, does it? How about weekends?

(I do taxis on occasion but I would agree it is not as good a way to meet men- one at a time is not good odds.)

I actually am serious about this. I have had many a conversation with both men and women at bus stops.

I have a widowed sister who says she can't 'do small talk'. My answer is that that strangers are more interested in how you make them feel than in how you feel.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 12:46 PM

If you hitch-hike, I'll pick you up and take you there...but you have to spring for the gas. I've been to Alaska before, I know the way!

GfS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: Ebbie
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 12:54 PM

You're weird, sir.


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,eldergirl
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 01:39 PM

Bonnie, all I can say is, never say never. If that sounds too cloud-cuckoo land for you, I'm sorry, it's not meant to, but I've no wish to do details here of what has not too long ago happened to me; he never noticed my wedding ring though! So I rather rudely never answered his thoughtful little note.. This was in my last year at work, aged 60 and most definitely not looking!! Hoping something turns up for you. Really truly.
X el


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Guest from Sanity
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 01:46 PM

They tell me that creatively talented people often are!

GfS


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Subject: RE: BS: Any Single Men 50-60 around??
From: GUEST,Bonnie - Guest
Date: 11 Jul 14 - 05:02 PM

To Sanity:

Hitchhike?? Are you out of your mind?

Do you really think a woman should be hitchhiking? - unless she is out of her mind.

Would you want your daughter, sister, hitchhiking??

I can't believe anyone would be so stupid as to suggest hitchhiking in this day and age.


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