Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 30 Aug 24 - 02:58 PM I have never fooled with an air fryer but I bought a clean used convection countertop oven I use all of the time. It is so much more efficient than the big oven in the stove when I'm baking something small. (I also use a microwave and have a bowl-and-lid-style convection oven for bigger things like roasted whole chicken or baked vegetables, etc.) |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Helen Date: 30 Aug 24 - 02:33 PM Thompson, our oven takes at least 20 minutes to pre-heat and a lot longer to cook the food than our versatile oven-style (not basket-style) air fryer. We can use either the air fryer or oven settings on it, and for some foods like roasting vegetables, we use the oven setting and then air fry for a few minutes at the end to brown the veges a bit. We're happy with it and almost all of our food is healthy and nutritious, except for some potato or sweet potato fries now and then. :-D |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 30 Aug 24 - 02:16 PM I believe this is a response to The Sandman "Dick" several days ago. Funnily enough there is a discussion germane to this topic, but not on this thread -- seek out the DECLUTTER thread instead to see talk of transportation and of eating habits. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Thompson Date: 30 Aug 24 - 11:36 AM Diabetes and its evil allies are also increasing because of obesity, which is increasing not only because of awful diets but because of the accursed private car, in each of which sits one person dying of loneliness and texting and instagramming and tiktoking all alone while driving. Talking of obesity, for those of use with swollen electricity bills, what's the deal on air fryers? Are they really that much cheaper to cook in than ovens? |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 23 Aug 24 - 03:10 PM Now, if only we could hear from dear Eliza/Senoufou, who hasn't been heard from in weeks at least ... waiting patiently on the waitlist of the NHS for her gallbladder surgery. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 17 Aug 24 - 09:05 PM Mrrzy, it might be best to leave the phone behind while at the beach. Give yourself time to absorb the salt and fresh air without the worry. Do you have a book for summer reading? Breathe deeply. Get the full value of the trip, it will help you work through the rest later, especially if there is nothing you will be able to do about it anyway. I've been reading about health and diet recently; the amount of diabetes and pancreatic cancer is increasing and it has to do with the Western Diet. There's a lot we can do about that, but it takes research. Last year I met a woman via a Facebook group and have been able to offer assistance on occasion; the goal is to not interfere or make someone dependent upon me, but to be a friend who can help occasionally. This spring she moved into a high-end building because the housing authority in town has placements with a few subsidized apartments for disabled/Medicaid-eligible people (the builders get a big tax break). She is finding that the mostly rich people in her building throw away a lot of things they should donate, and via bin diving has managed to round up and offer some interesting items on her Buy Nothing group. She is also able to sell some things and help her bottom line a bit. (Do you know how hard it is to get a bank account if your credit rating is low? She finally got a credit union account and is rebuilding that way.) Yesterday I delivered two hard-case suitcases (rolling) and two sturdy gym bags to a homeless shelter for her. Staying afloat is a challenge, so I'm pleased that she's enjoying the bin diving in her building and with all of the activity is also still helping others. I'm pretty sure that minutes after I dropped off those items four people at the shelter with crumbling bags had a new suitcase or duffle to put their possessions in. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Mrrzy Date: 17 Aug 24 - 10:00 AM Spoke too soon! Woken up this morning by frantic call from friend, whose wife (also friend) is suicidal, can I come help. No, I am 6 hours away at the beach. Next message from friend who is supposed to be my date at my kid's wedding, who may not make it because her sister is dying of pancreatic cancer, to say that SHE now has been diagnosed with a pancreatic insufficiency that might be cancer, they don't know yet. Well, shit, is all I can say. Am at the beach. Nothing I can do, so I'm going to the beach. With my phone, though. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 15 Aug 24 - 11:40 AM Mrrzy, good to hear how well things are going! |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Mrrzy Date: 13 Aug 24 - 09:47 AM Keep healing, keb! Thanks stilly! Fine, but frantic, indeed. At least the wedding is next month, yay, and my other kid did get long-term committed, yay again. Beach next week. Then classes start. Retirement is terrifically busy. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 12 Aug 24 - 05:59 PM We haven't seen Mrrzy around here for a number of weeks. I hope all is well. Wedding plans, travel, etc. Keb, are you back to your old self now many weeks after the cyst? And is the estate work moving along? Senoufou, it must be close to time for you to finally be on the schedule for the surgery. I hope! Last weekend I emailed a book review to old friends who have lived in West Texas for about 20 years, but who were some of my first friends in the neighborhood when we moved to Fort Worth. We don't talk often, but it is that kind of friendship where you pick up where you left off. Except this time I learned the husband passed away last month of a rare and late to diagnose bile duct cancer. I'm wondering if she will decide to move back to town now, in which case I'll do everything I can to help. She has her hands full with selling some extra property out there, but there are no children or siblings to make her work more difficult. The husband was 67 with a healthy lifestyle and the expectation to live many more years. What reminders have each of you had lately that we should have our affairs in order? |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 24 Jul 24 - 07:41 PM Update on previous post: the sutures came out two days ago. There is more scabbing than I expected, so I am having to go softly and carefully with that part of my head. The chorus that I sing with during the school year, just had a board meeting which established that they have got hardly any money left. The director is gloomily thinking of austerity measures, including not hiring an orchestra -- so much for Haydn's The Seasons, in that case. Donations are drastically down this year. There is serious talk of grant-writing. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 13 Jul 24 - 03:29 PM The outpatient surgery has been performed, two days ago, and in another ten days or so, the stitches/sutures come out. The procedure was stressful, less said the better. As long as I leave the site alone, there is little pain. Meanwhile, I am in touch with the director of the chorus I sing with, which has the summer off. The director wants, next spring, to perform Haydn's The Seasons, in English translation. I'm going to show the director a copy of the vocal score to see if he approves of its English translation and wants to use that particular edition; the scores will have to be acquired as this piece is not in the choral library/repertoire. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: The Sandman Date: 02 Jul 24 - 02:04 PM It's estimated that a little over 42% of American adults have obesity, while about 30.7% are overweight. Overall, more than two-thirds of U.S. adults in the United States are overweight or have obesity. Adults between ages of 40 and 59 are more likely to have obesity." why is tha? is it diet? |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 02 Jul 24 - 11:45 AM Exactly! Great example! |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: The Sandman Date: 02 Jul 24 - 11:41 AM The bottom line - eat bacon. It's good for you" QUOTE srs The World Health Organization (WHO) has determined that processed meat is a major contributor to colorectal cancer, classifying it as “carcinogenic to humans”. 30 grams of processed meat, which is just one hot dog or a few strips of bacon, consumed daily increases cancer relative risk by 18%. Bacon that has not been treated with preservatives is OK, but to obtain that you have to know someone who has their own pigs and who gets it butchered without preservatives other than salt. The only place in Europe where preservatives that cause cancer has been banned is italy, because they have a Parma ham industry to protect. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Mrrzy Date: 02 Jul 24 - 11:31 AM Not on topic, but that confirmation bias reminds me of archeological research in the Americas, when the dominant theory was that the Clovis people were first. So researchers would dig down to the Clovis layer... and then stop digging. Took decades before someone thought to just keep digging, and discovered the prior civilizations... |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Helen Date: 26 Jun 24 - 12:36 AM This catalogue will disappear soon so have a look at the lovely Aldi photo of healthy fruits & veges |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Helen Date: 26 Jun 24 - 12:34 AM Hubby & I followed the 5:2 diet and had good results. It was fairly easy to stick to because there were only two non-consecutive days of a lower calorie limit, and that was easy with lots of veges and good proteins and very limited carbs, sugar etc. The last time we had a burger was a few months ago and we shared it because eating that much white bread in one go is too much. On the five non-fasting days we ate healthily, usually Mediterranean or similar, and as we began to lose a bit of weight our motivation to eat good food on the non-fasting days was higher. To explain, I say low fat because we don't eat a lot of junk food apart from an occasional schnitzel and chips (fries) and very little white bread, but one of the last articles I saw about Dr Mosley was that he said fat is less of a problem than carbs and sugar. There was a beautiful two-page spread in an Aldi supermarket catalogue a couple of weeks ago with a photo of a variety of fruit, veges, onions, garlic, mushrooms. I looked at it and thought it was an apt illustration of a major part of our daily diet, with only proteins, legumes and wholegrain foods missing. I kept the photo because it made me feel good about what we eat. I'll admit there is the occasional bit of chocolate but I tend to make nut or fruit flavoured chocolates using dark cooking chocolate with the lowest sugar content I can find. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 25 Jun 24 - 09:23 PM It's the low fat part of that diet that is the myth of medicine. In the 1950s there was an influential doctor (Keys) who had a hypothesis about a low fat, high carb diet being the way to prevent heart disease. Thing is, any time a study came along that didn't concur with those findings, it was dismissed. A classic case of confirmation bias was going on; in the 1960s a Senate committee used some of Keys' staff to write a report about a low fat diet and it became the thing that science then had to catch up to. But it never has. The bottom line - eat bacon. It's good for you (and butter and cream and meats with fat. Your brain is happier when those are in your diet.) I have been meaning to go back to the Mosley program about fasting - because while it makes the point that the time of the fast is helpful, you can eat what you want (watching the calorie count on the off days). |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Helen Date: 25 Jun 24 - 07:51 PM Er, aah, I forgot to look for the exercises. [mumble, mumble, embarrassed mumble] :-) A long time ago my doctor tried to convince me to take statins and I said, quoting from Amy Winehouse, "No! No! No!". Starting way way back when I read about the perils of high carb, high fat diets, and then reading the late lamented Dr Mosley and watching his fantastic TV shows especially about the 5:2 diet, I have built my nutrition around low fat, low sugars, low carbs, and more healthy proteins including legumes and a balanced amount of meat & eggs. Pretty much a Mediterranean diet, really. My recent blood test showed that although my cholesterol reading was 5, my good cholesterol was high so the doc was happy. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 25 Jun 24 - 07:40 PM Keberoxu, are you seeing improvement on the spot where you'll get surgery? Senoufou, how are you feeling? Any closer to the gall bladder removal? Helen, any luck finding exercises? Last week I decided to take myself off of the statins my doctor put me on a couple of years ago. I've been reading a lot and concluded that the reasons for taking them are not good enough. Lowering cholesterol to prevent heart disease isn't actually rational and taking statins can make some cancers more likely. I picked up my copy (bought a number of years ago) of Good Calories, Bad Calories: Challenging the Conventional Wisdom on Diet, Weight Control, and Disease by Gary Taubes and from there have read several other things. The low fat/high carb diet isn't actually good for us, and add on lots of sugar in the Western Diet and it's even worse. So I'm resuming the gluten free diet I was on a number of years ago, and adding more meat protein. And apropos of nothing, someone earlier today refreshed the Pesky Sarpent thread - for some reason that song has always been a earworm for me, and just reading the title was enough - it has been running through my head all afternoon. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 22 Jun 24 - 11:03 AM Mrrzy, Excellente histoire! Toutes nos félicitations! |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 21 Jun 24 - 03:09 PM Great to hear from you again, Mrrzy. And things have worked out happily for you, indeed. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Mrrzy Date: 21 Jun 24 - 01:12 AM Hello! I was en voyage, trying to get my French back, not reading English, but I'm back, great trip. Keb, good to catch up. One son's wedding is early Sept, yay! And I got a great suit tailored in France. Other son, we won the Not Guilty by Reason of Insanity, he's in a real hospital, yay! I get to visit Sunday. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 19 Jun 24 - 06:52 PM I, too, would like to know how Mrrzy is doing. Didn't one son get married this year? |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 18 Jun 24 - 09:37 PM I decided recently that it's time to visit a dermatologist to rule out any problems with a couple of existing spots. Appointments are a few weeks out so I'm on the schedule for early August. Some of those balance exercises are helpful, but you have to keep doing them. Other of the exercises in the program I use most often (called Hinge Health, through my insurance company and via an app on my phone) are never gonna happen. The one where you bend your knee and grab your foot behind you (quad stretch) is one I've never been able to do. My knees don't bend that far (especially after knee replacement surgery). |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 18 Jun 24 - 08:02 PM The cyst removal has been scheduled next month, to give the inflammation time to settle down, the surgeon said. It will be outpatient surgery, the procedure will be new to me. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Helen Date: 16 Jun 24 - 04:48 PM And Stilly, I'll check out the Essentrics exercise programme. I saw a Michael Mosley programme where he tested people by getting them to stand on one leg and then timing it. The younger people could hold it for longer than most of the older people. I do a little bit of a balance thing when I am waiting for something to cook on the stove, or waiting in a queue by going up on my toes and then moving up and down, or going from one leg to the other, or standing on one leg to see how long I can maintain balance. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: robomatic Date: 16 Jun 24 - 04:31 PM If you're familiar with the concept of running a diagnostic routine on a piece of software - for years I've run a self-diagnostic. I recite a litany of doggerel with a few formulas. I can do it internally (fully silent) or aloud in front of a mirror. Well, after doing this for a number of years, I experienced substantially mental fuzziness and I could not get through the recital. Went to Emergency. Whatever it was was temporary and have had no recurrence. I was impressed by the rapidity with which they accepted my reason for being there. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Helen Date: 16 Jun 24 - 03:49 PM Thanks keb & Stilly, I posted it to the thread called Obit: Dr. Michael Mosley - UK physician/journalist because the autopsy has revealed that he possibly had a fall and that heat exhaustion probably contributed to his death. I broke the radius bone in my left wrist, also crushed the carpal tunnel nerve and had surgery, a cast, then a splint for a couple of months, couldn't drive, couldn't play harp for those two months as well - that was the most difficult bit to live with - but it is very close to back to normal with only a very small amount of numbness in the fingers. The funny thing was I broke it on the afternoon of Halloween. Spooky! LOL |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 16 Jun 24 - 11:24 AM Keb (and Helen) I use the exercise program Essentrics, it's from a Canadian former-ballerina Miranda Esmonde-White. She talks a lot about doing some of these for better balance, to help prevent falls. They play some of her programs on PBS (usually before dawn - never a time I'm up to exercise) and she has DVDs as well as a site you can join. And I bet if you search on balance exercise you'll find similar through Silver Sneakers or other insurance company sponsored programs. I think the exercises really do help. Did you already do the cyst removal? If it has the same annoyance factor as a few moles I've had removed over the years you'll be glad to have it gone. Mrrzy, how are things going for you, health and family-wise (that you'd care to share). Heat is here, so now it's a matter of going in and out to do things and cool off before doing a little more. I'm never very good at getting up super early to work, so I pace myself when it is hot. And it is about time to put the cooler on the porch with water for the mail carrier and other delivery folks. I've done this for several years, an on one instance the UPS or Amazon driver stopped and thanked me - told me they didn't have a delivery here one day but knew about the water and stopped to grab a bottle. That's fine - it's there for folks who are spending their day in the heat and need a drink now. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 16 Jun 24 - 10:47 AM I read about Helen's two recent falls; now I've forgotten which thread she posted to, but I read her posts. I'm really sorry to hear about that; I had a couple of minor falls late last year, and they were like warnings really, more a shocking experience than a really damaging one. Sounds like Helen was actually seriously injured. I'm sorry! |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 10 Jun 24 - 06:32 PM No, no younger relatives who need a job to do. Tomorrow I see a general surgeon who is going to remove a cyst; it's under my scalp. It got infected, and we've cleared up the infection; but these things tend to recur, so the only way to stop it is to get the cyst out. Tomorrow is just the consultation, the surgery has not been scheduled yet. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 07 Jun 24 - 07:41 PM Keb, I visited a friend's house this afternoon because she had some fabric and notions for me or my daughter. I knew her kids were working on the house, and when I walked in I could see it is a major intervention in a hoarding situation. I'd considered messaging the older daughter to ask if they had plans, but they took the initiative themselves. My participation today was to take away a number of usable items they don't need that can be offered on the buy nothing or free sites in my area. It wasn't a lot, maybe a cubic yard of stuff, but every little bit helps and my friend is ok with it. (Resigned?) They do ask about things, they're not just rolling over the top of her. (Her yard is piled with big stuff like furniture that is functional but surplus - I told them about the groups I'm using, the FB buy nothing and Freecycle, and I think they'll join and start listing this weekend.) I don't suppose you have any younger relatives out of college for the summer looking for a job to do for a while? To work beside you on the task? I think the fact that all three of her kids (plus one friend of the kids) are there at the same time makes my friend so happy the sting is mostly gone from the reason they're doing the work. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 07 Jun 24 - 07:17 PM Then there is a de-clutter that is years overdue in my apartment. I"m thinking seriously of getting professional help with this one, not because it has gotten that bad, but because my health and attitude are kind of fragile. I have to do something about it this summer. This at the same time I am considering moving to a retirement community. The two are related, as I would be leaving a two-bedroom apartment for the community's one-bedroom apartment, so downsizing is inevitable, and I have to let go of things. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 01 Jun 24 - 10:11 AM This is a good time to look back on the opening post to this thread. That post speaks of a blood relative "operatically" dropping hints that they don't know if they can live with it any more. That relative was my mother, who died in April. She died in memory care, with my siblings in attendance. So there was no suicide attempt; she saw her life through, one way or another, to its natural end. I might have known that those melodramatic hints amounted to so little. From some people, hints of being unable to live with it any longer are serious affairs and cause for concern. But in her case, it was business as usual, I'm afraid. In fact, whenever she threatened something in anger or in tears, the thing she threatened never came to pass, whether it was a bad thing or otherwise. Her volatile emotions would rage through her and consume her, temporarily, and then she would snap out of it and forget everything she had said. So in a way this thread has arrived at some conclusion, since, as I say, the troubled relative saw their life through to its natural end. The drug-using relative is still alive and kicking, though. And I'm still in residential treatment. So the work, and the struggle, go on. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 27 May 24 - 02:46 PM The residence where I am staying is on Main Street, and is next to an intersection with a War Memorial island. So when the Memorial Day parade went past today, the parade stopped in front of the War Memorial and the servicemen made a gun salute. Good thing I was outdoors watching, so I knew what was happening. Hearing that close-quarters gun salute inside the residence would have scared me. The weather is fickle today. We are in for thunderstorms late in the afternoon. Fortunately it was bright sunshine during the parade at noon. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 23 May 24 - 10:11 PM Keb, when I administered my father's estate I knew there was a sibling who would argue about everything, so all of my work was documented, and with the house contents I had an appraiser come in (recommended I don't remember how, but he was a local dealer and had booths at antique malls, etc.) That made it a lot easier in the long run. The income taxes had to go to a local accountant because of a bank account that I had inherited with a CD that matured before he died, and the tax on income that needed to come out of the estate. There were also a couple of IRA's that had direct inheritors to be noted and excluded from the total. It all took over a year, maybe as long as 18 months (I'm not pulling out records to confirm my estimates). I'm hoping it's easier for you than it was for me. I did all of the work myself once (with a set of state-specific probate documents) then had to turn it over to an attorney to do the exact same thing I had already done because of the fighting sibling. Before it was over that attorney had a restraining order against the sibling, so it wasn't just me he was mad at. (And a more personal note - at the end of this I was diagnosed with a form of endometrial cancer that I am still convinced was brought on by the stress caused by that particular sibling.) Here's hoping you're dealing with functioning adults through the process. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Helen Date: 23 May 24 - 08:24 PM Hope for the best, but expect the worst - except in this case - because you were expecting the worst and you experienced the best. Yay! |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 23 May 24 - 07:20 PM The conference call went better than I could have imagined. It's the difference between night and day, the way it was forty years ago versus yesterday. I was actually treated like an adult. The bankers and attorneys were on their best behavior, faultless manners, and they were eager to be of service. It's partly because they were on the clock, but it was astonishing how much information got crammed into thirty minutes. AND I could understand most of it, at the same time I did not feel that they were talking down to me. There was even a timeline given that explained how probate and everything are going to take a long time, "everything" meaning the IRS for the most part. It was all laid out and open to questions and comments. I'm still taking it all in. But in a good way. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Helen Date: 22 May 24 - 03:39 PM keb, I hope it all goes well. Think positive and focus on the good times you remember. Keep calm and carry on. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 22 May 24 - 03:01 PM In thirty minutes, I have to phone in to a videoconference with my mother's attorney, my attorney, and the bank. I'm not looking forward to this one. The last time I went through something like this, the settlement of the estate of a recently deceased person, was forty years ago, and that was the stuff of nightmares. I just hope this occasion will be more positive and constructive than that last one forty years before this. But back then, when I was young, I didn't have my own attorney, and I have one now, and this is her specialty, so I ought to be all right this time. I'm still emotional, of course, about losing my mother. So I'll eventually report back on how it goes, I may need time to compose myself afterwards. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 10 May 24 - 07:32 PM keberoxu, how is the apartment declutter going? An occasional participant on the declutter thread (PattyClink) has just moved stuff from a storage unit to a new place via trailer (packing and moving it herself). Are you considering anything along those lines as you decide what to keep? Had you found a new area to apartment hunt (I don't remember)? How is that going? Mrrzy, is your son comfortable and settling into his new routine? |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 26 Apr 24 - 10:43 PM From the point of view of an uninvolved bystander, that dual-obit sounds kind of perfect. Takes in everything. I've realized in recent times that my history fits neatly into ~ 20 year segments, with radically different things happening in each of those times. That the people in those worlds don't know much about the people in the rest of them. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: keberoxu Date: 25 Apr 24 - 07:06 PM Today was another difficult day. Luckily there were people I could talk to. Someone decided that my mother needed not one, but two obituaries. They can be read online, that's where I found both of them. The situation was this: my mother stayed where she was born and raised until her father died. Then she relocated across the country, and lived her last forty years there -- of which roughly thirty years were in good health, before the end. So the two obituaries were place-specific: one for the area where my mother spent the early part of her life, and another for the area where she relocated. And yes, the obituaries were different -- related, but different. In the place she came from, and published in their local newspaper, the obituary did all the formal things, identifying the pre-deceased and the survivors, mentioning the parents and the upbringing, all the places she went to school, and the divorce from the father of her children. There was a brief paragraph about her relocation elsewhere, where she died. In the place where she died, there was next to nothing about her life before she moved there. Instead the obituary pretty much started with, "[name] moved to such-and-such a city in such-and-such a year," and went on from there. Much attention was given to all the volunteering that she did in her healthy years there, and to her time in assisted living and memory care. (Alzheimer's) So it is almost as if she lived two lives in one. ONe of my friends asked me who wrote these two obituaries, and of course they never print the person who writes them. Online obituaries can have photographs attached, and both of them did -- completely different photos as well between each obituary. I think looking at some of those photos was triggering for me a little bit, which is not surprising. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: The Sandman Date: 25 Apr 24 - 03:54 PM 7uey are supposed to help sleep anxiety and stress, they go under the name 4 7 8 breathing exercises 4 second in through nose hold for 7 seconds then breath out through mouth for 8 seconds |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 25 Apr 24 - 02:14 PM Where are the breathing exercises directed? Grief, sleep, or dieting? |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: The Sandman Date: 25 Apr 24 - 01:32 PM i have found this breathing exercise helpful, Pranayama is the practice of breath regulation. It's a main component of yoga, an exercise for physical and mental wellness. In Sanskrit, “prana” means life energy and “yama” means control. The practice of pranayama involves breathing exercises and patterns |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Helen Date: 25 Apr 24 - 01:23 PM Yes, good news Mrrzy! And keb, I have been keeping you in my thoughts, hoping you are feeling ok and progressing well on your life plans. Stilly, my Hubby & I used Dr Mosley's 5:2 fasting diet (5 days of regular eating, 2 days - but not consecutive - of 500 calories, with mostly veges and salad and lean protein on the 2 days) a few years ago and we both lost the amount of weight we were aiming for and kept it off. Now I cut calories without thinking on certain days and stick fairly well to the Mediterranean type of foods and very, very limited junk food. (I do like hot chips now and then, but I only eat a few now and then and I have probably only had a few shop bought burgers in any given year.) I have seen almost all of Mosley's TV shows and I think he bases his work very firmly on reliable, practical science which works in the real world. For that reason, I trust his Sleep Revolution suggestions. |
Subject: RE: BS: stay afloat while others don't From: Stilly River Sage Date: 25 Apr 24 - 11:52 AM Good news, Mrrzy! That thread will be my next stop. Helen, Thanks! I watched a program by Michael Mosley from years ago that had to do with different forms of fasting. I think he set off the surge in programs that tweak various types of intermittent fasting. (I lost 45 weight that way, but not using anyone's program. I watched my calories, keeping them to ~500 alternating days, regular eating the rest of the time, and got to the gym a lot). The program he hosted was Horizon, and he seems to have a lot of science interests (reminds me of the US host David Pogue, who came perilously close to that Titanic submersible that imploded in one of his programs). I'm already finding that making myself leave the screen behind not only helps sleep but I'm getting to bed a bit earlier. Better quality of sleep is goal. |