BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 11:19 AM

Hey, cartoons are either super honest or subversive.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Jeri
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 11:31 AM

DtG, you needed something didn't you? I mean, you did what you had to do, and saw it through without exemption.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: meself
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 12:37 PM

(My extended 'okay' was in response to Donuel's post).

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Helen
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 04:00 PM

Edith Piaf - Non, je ne regrette rien

Mrrzy, the only time a barren field is a cause for celebration. LOL

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: JennieG
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 07:51 PM

Here's a song for you, Mrrzy and Helen......

No more fucks to give

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Helen
Date: 29 Sep 19 - 09:00 PM

JennieG, thanks. I think.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Mrrzy
Date: 30 Sep 19 - 02:53 AM

It can also be fallow, that field, to give one hope.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: JHW
Date: 01 Oct 19 - 05:02 PM

Most of us will have got some things right and some things wrong. Considering the things I didn't do, and think now maybe I should have done - they might have worked out well but they might have ended in unimaginable disaster.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Gurney
Date: 02 Oct 19 - 06:45 PM

I do wish that I'd been a little more selective in the songs that I learned. At my advanced age, it is very hard to learn a completely new song, possibly because the space in my swede dedicated to lyrics is full. It seems that if I force a new one in, an old one fades away, and my taste has changed somewhat. But it is hard to do.
Ah, but you can't put a young head on old shoulders either, can you!

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Raedwulf
Date: 03 Oct 19 - 04:20 PM

Well, you can Gurney, but it's a bit messy & if the stitches aren't nice & tight.. Don't nod! :o ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: leeneia
Date: 04 Oct 19 - 01:00 PM

1) When we think back on things we are ashamed of, we often realize that it was in a situation where we had only seconds to react. Another factor: pressure from a person with power over us, perhaps when we were too young to realize it. These two realizations can help us forgive ourselves.

2) If tiresome thoughts of blame and shame are keeping you up in the middle of the night, read P.G. Wodehouse. He offers a wonderful combination of mild distraction, interesting style, and deep, welling rhythm which will quiet your Inner Protester and let you get back to sleep.

Two nights ago I found a perfectly reasonable Wodehouse sentence which had 15 verb forms in it.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 05 Oct 19 - 10:32 AM

Learning a new song or instrument just takes time. Expectation can overcome most doubts. What can't be learned can be replaced with old abilities. What took a year to do before, may to take 2 or 3 years now. So what

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Joe_F
Date: 07 Oct 19 - 09:28 PM

Several times an hour I am reminded of something that makes me wince. The active list of shames goes back to childhood, is still being added to, and must be in the thousands.

Some of them are not actually offenses. After all, shame is only an emotion; it doesn't prove you were wrong, any more than being proud proves you were right. Most of them, however, are real evidence that I am a bad person, socially acceptable only insomuch as my cowardice inhibits my meanness.

Of course, there are many people much worse than I am. The news is full of them. But I have always had the luck to consort with my betters.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: meself
Date: 08 Oct 19 - 10:29 AM

Finally, Joe F. - a man after my own heart.

Actually, and curiously, since I started this thread, those regretful visitations have been giving be a bit of a reprieve. No, it's not because of some philosophical breakthrough; more just a psychological or neurological fluke.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Charmion
Date: 08 Oct 19 - 10:31 AM

"The luck to consort with my betters". Thanks, Joe_F, that's a great point.

I had to great good fortune to marry somebody whose ethical compass does not waver from true North. The only pity of it is that he did not cross my path until I had already married Mr Wrong. So I had to slog through the consequences of that last great mistake of my over-extended youth before I could finally straighten out and fly right.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 09 Oct 19 - 04:18 PM

way to go joe
but every hour is alot unless you are having a reminisent day

Happy New Year
Yom Kippur is the day people are suppose to think of wincing moments and make amends if possible.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Janie
Date: 10 Oct 19 - 05:30 PM

I'm 68. I don't find myself looking back and regretting much, if anything.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 13 Oct 19 - 10:32 AM

We have a transient way to grow younger by lengthening our telomeres.
Before someone goes off half cocked, it is true that size matters when it comes to cell division life and longevity.

A new procedure can quickly and efficiently increase the length of human telomeres, the protective caps on the ends of chromosomes that are linked to aging and disease, according to scientists at the Stanford University School of Medicine. Treated cells behave as if they are much younger than untreated cells, multiplying with abandon in the laboratory dish rather than stagnating or dying. The procedure, which involves the use of a modified type of RNA, will improve the ability of researchers to generate large numbers of cells for study or drug development, the scientists say. Skin cells with telomeres lengthened by the procedure were able to divide up to 40 more times than untreated cells. The research may point to new ways to treat diseases.

In conclusion 100 years is all telemere extension can offer now.
at present, most individuals are not reaching the LTL brink during their life course, but findings suggest that further extension in human longevity will be increasingly constrained by telomere length. This inference requires an assumption that a possible increase in telomere length at birth and a decrease in the average rate of telomere length attrition after birth in future generations will not offset this prediction. Notably, however, potential interventions to forestall the telomeric brink may have adverse consequences. While short LTL and alleles associated with a shorter LTL increase CVD risk, recent studies show that long LTL and alleles associated with long LTL increase risk of major cancers. Such findings beg the (evolutionary) question: Why is human telomere length as long as it is? Emerging data suggests that evolution has been fine-tuning our telomere length to balance cancer against degenerative diseases. In contemporary humans, this balance has ostensibly influenced longevity beyond the reproductive years.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Helen
Date: 02 Nov 19 - 07:33 PM

Hi meself, I've had some recent thoughts on this topic.

A couple of days ago I woke up realising I had been dreaming about someone I knew 40 years ago but then I kind of forgot about the dream, except that later that day I found myself thinking about another topic and had to backtrack through my stream of consciousness/line of thoughts to get back to the first thought that started the line of thoughts, and then I realised that it related to the time in my life that I had dreamed about that morning.

So my musings are:

1. dream subjects just seem to pop up out of nowhere but if I look more closely at the crazy plotlines and characters, quite often they will reveal something important, or even help me to solve a problem I have been dwelling on.

2. Maybe the aging and regrets thoughts just pop up in a similar way to relate to an issue we might not have consciously been aware of but which has been niggling in the background of our brains for some reason.

OR

3. Maybe we have dreamed about that topic but woken up and consciously forgotten about the dream, but it has popped into our heads, seemingly unbidden, because our unconscious mind has something interesting to unravel.

I don't know. I'm just musing out loud, on the screen, as it were.

I've been reading some interesting books lately about the way our minds work, so that's probably why I have also been thinking about this thread.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Donuel
Date: 03 Nov 19 - 12:15 PM

That is an intriguing and reasonable line of thought.


I am wondering if memory foam is not good for my lower back that aches in the morning.

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: meself
Date: 05 Nov 19 - 01:20 PM

You know, since I started this thread, this regretful affliction seems to have eased up somewhat - 'talking' about it, so to speak, seems to have served some therapeutic function. Kind of like how AA meetings work, I suppose ....

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Amergin
Date: 05 Nov 19 - 11:54 PM

"Tut, I have done a thousand dreadful things
As willingly as one would kill a fly,
And nothing grieves me heartily indeed
But that I cannot do ten thousand more."

Aaron the Moor

Subject: RE: BS: Question About Aging and Regret(s)
From: Mr Red
Date: 06 Nov 19 - 06:31 AM

TED Talk on how to improve ageing
I would bet the people in the "Blue Zones" they refer to have few regrets.

But yes, there does seem to be something in it when the OP asks I'm just curious as to whether this is a common phenomenon with age, or if it's just me.

Maybe it is part of the other phenomenon that comes with age, particularly retirement, where the important things in life may be sorted and the experience of age puts all sorts of memories, good & bad, higher up the priority for attention.

And little of it from 10 seconds ago when I went upstairs for, er, what was it?