Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident

Subject: Terry Silver
From: GUEST,Essex Girl
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 05:08 AM

Has anyone any news about Terry. I heard on Saturday that he was in John Radcliffe hospital in Oxford after a serious accident.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Joe Offer
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 05:13 AM

Leadfingers, I'm hoping for the best for you. You're a good man.
Joe

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 05:26 AM

Oh eck! I hope he is ok. Sending my best healing wishes.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Skipjack K8
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 05:43 AM

Hoping you're ok, Terry.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Manitas_at_home
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 05:54 AM

Terry's car broke down and while he was on the hard shoulder a passing lorry hit it and propelled it into him. I understand he may have life changing injuries. People had been asked not to post this on public forums in case someone found out his house was empty.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 06:06 AM

Oh FFS, me poor old mate Terry. I hope someone can update me soon on how he is. Hope it's not too serious, as he lives on his own, and needs to be able to fend for himself. Wishing him all the best, and please keep us posted on his progress.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Manitas_at_home
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 06:07 AM

*injuries*

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Brian Peters
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 06:20 AM

Oh dear, that's a great shame.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Backwoodsman
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 07:00 AM

That’s terrible news. I hope Terry makes a good recovery from whatever his injuries are. Very best wishes Terry.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: MoorleyMan
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 07:14 AM

My very best wishes to Terry, let's hope for some good news soon.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: GUEST,Nick Dow
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 07:22 AM

I am so sorry. I hope the prognosis is not too bad. As David says lets hope for good news.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Roger the Skiffler
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 08:58 AM

Best wishes heading his way. Keep us posted.
RtS

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: r.padgett
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 09:43 AM

O dear sorry to hear this

Ray

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: GUEST,guest
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 10:55 AM

sorry to hear this please keep us posted

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: GUEST,guest MeganL
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 11:53 AM

Terry so sorry to hear this I do hope you make a good recovery.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: The Sandman
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 12:11 PM

get well as soon as possible

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: Mr Red
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 12:18 PM

He told me he survived pretty bad injuries after a motorbike accident in Hong Kong, or was it Singapore. While serving in the military.

Let us hope he is more lead (pliable) than silver (precious).

Subject: RE: Terry Silver - accident?
From: GUEST,maeve
Date: 22 Jan 20 - 02:06 PM

While it is understood many of us are concerned about Terry, the family has clearly specified no social media. Phone and email, OK. Please consider not continuing this thread until family sends their OK. It really is serious and this request really is for good cause.

Thank you.

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I think that's a good reason to delete this thread. I'll undelete it if Terry says it's OK.
-Joe Offer-

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The family gave permission, so I undeleted the previous messages.

Subject: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,moira
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 06:06 AM

Terry's family has now started to make public about His accident o from them.
FOR ANYONE WHO KNOWS TERRY SILVER - it is now in the public arena that Terry had a terrible accident (no-one's fault) when his car broke down, and a lorry hit or clipped his car while Terry was in front of his car on the hard shoulder. I'm posting this as originally the family asked for nothing to be posted on social media, so many of Terry's friends and acquaintences won't know. However, his sister-in-law has just posted this update on Terry's facebook page which will update everyone: "There are so many of you wishing Terry well. I've decided the easiest way to keep you all informed is to post updates on Terry's timeline. At present he is on Trauma Ward B5 in the John Radcliffe Hospital, Oxford. Physically he is improving and managed to sit out of bed for a short while today and also walk with a walker in the ward. Amazing considering his injuries. There are plans, when he is well enough, to transfer him to The Hillingdon Hospital in Uxbridge but not yet. We will see him this weekend and report next week."

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Doug Chadwick
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 06:10 AM

Hope you mend quickly Leadfingers.

DC

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 06:40 AM

I'll second that, getting out of bed briefly is a start in the (long) road to recovery.

sandra

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Sarah the flute
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 06:42 AM

Hoping for a good and speedy recovery. What a terrible thing to happen

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,guest (Dawn)
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 07:26 AM

may be I'm being a bit thick but I can't see anything on Terry's timeline. we used to go to the same folk club back in the 70,s.hope you mend soon Terry x

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Brian Peters
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 08:22 AM

Glad to hear he's been out of bed, get well Terry.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: gillymor
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 08:29 AM

Hang in there, LF.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 08:43 AM

Well done that man. Keep doing the exercises ;)

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 09:34 AM

get well terry

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Kenny B(Inactive)
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 09:48 AM

Get well Terry and take it easy

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Richard Mellish
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 10:28 AM

They put him back together after a very nasty accident once before, so here's hoping they do an equally good job this time. Anyone in contact with him, please pass on my best wishes.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 11:25 AM

Wishing Terry as rapid,painless and complete a recovery as possible.

I am sure I am also speaking for some more of the many friends he has made on this side of The Pond.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Severn
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 11:27 AM

Whoops! That last guest was me.......

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Pal Carter
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 11:45 AM

Oh Terry I'm really sorry to hear this. Here's wishing you a full recovery and that it won't take too long. Sharps won't be the same without you! All the very best xxx

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Starship
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 11:51 AM

Best wishes to you, Terry. Follow your physio's advice and you'll be out and about soon I hope.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 12:48 PM

First met Terry at Bracknell folk festival in the late 70's always came across as a good man so I will happily add my good wishes for a speedy and full recovery.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Raggytash
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 02:00 PM

Guest was me, forgot to reset my cookie!!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 04:37 PM

Yes Richard, I had forgotten about his med-evac from Singapore after he parked his motor bike in a storm drain. He has previous as the boys in blue like to say. Should be old hat to him by now.
Keep knitting Terry.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: JennieG
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 04:45 PM

Bugger! Take care Terry, just keep doing what they tell you to do and recover as quickly as possible......the world needs you.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Sheila Finn
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 06:34 PM

Sorry to hear this and wish you very much better soon. Have best wishes from David Diamond in America and all your many friends. Love and get well soon Sheila Finn

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Richard Atkins
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 08:12 PM

Having known Terry for over 30 years devastating news for me and us. All love and wishes to him on a long recovery now I think I was surprised by the (no-one's fault) in the message. On the hard shoulder on a motorway. The driver should be prosecuted for driving without due care and attention with an insurance claim later to aid his claim in future for help care perhaps.
Terry keep a diary for that now to use it later perhaps then Fond thoughts Richard and Hils

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Rapparee
Date: 25 Jan 20 - 10:13 PM

Get well and stop doing this sort of thing, ya hear?

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: EBarnacle
Date: 26 Jan 20 - 02:12 AM

Push yourself. It makes recovery faster. Been there, done that.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Hesk
Date: 26 Jan 20 - 03:17 AM

Terry has been an integral part of The White Horse Folk Festival since the early days of Stanford in the Vale. Gill and I have always enjoyed his friendly company and talented singing and playing, particularly the penny whistle. Hope that he may be able to make it again this year. Get well soon, Terry.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Herga Kitty
Date: 26 Jan 20 - 03:19 AM

Terry was a lot younger when he came off his motor bike, so I suspect his recovery will take longer this time. I hope it's good and steady though!

Kitty

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Jamie McCoan
Date: 26 Jan 20 - 05:07 AM

Very sorry to hear this. Wishing Terry a speedy recovery.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Waddon Pete
Date: 26 Jan 20 - 06:35 AM

Wishing you all the best, Terry. Music is a great healer!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Bonnie Shaljean
Date: 26 Jan 20 - 09:57 AM

Thinking of you, Terry - and sending wishes of healing and strength. Waddon Pete is right: music does help to make us whole again. Stay with us and keep us posted. We're right behind ya.

Bonnie xx

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Jo-Jo
Date: 26 Jan 20 - 10:31 AM

Leadfingers, I can only agree with all these good wishes GET WELL SOON
best regards from Jo-Jo x

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: leeneia
Date: 26 Jan 20 - 03:08 PM

I'm so sorry to hear what happened, Terry. I'm happy to hear that you are sitting up and walking a bit, and I hope very much that you continue to recover.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Mr Red
Date: 26 Jan 20 - 05:24 PM

Well I sent a Get Well card, with a suitable gawdawful joke. If he is walking a bit, there is hope for a reasonable recovery.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Nick
Date: 26 Jan 20 - 05:32 PM

Met him years ago in Sidmouth in folk week at the Newt. Hope he gets well soon

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: MudGuard
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 01:57 AM

Oh Terry, that's terryble!

Get well soon, my favorite pasta musician (always noodling along ...).

I wish you a speedy recovery so you can soon visit more of these viewpoints - those that are marked with a camera sign at the road side ;-)

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Acorn4
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 03:45 AM

Hope you mend soon Terry!

We don't REALLY mind when you join in with your banjo!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Nick
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 12:58 PM

There is a Panorama programme on tonight at 2030 about the increased incidence of accidents on hard shoulders. Always think these things never happen to people you know of. Probably not a great thing to watch in the current circumstances

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,jacqui.c
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 02:11 PM

Just found this from Moira Craig on Terry’s Facebook page. I’m sure she won’t mind me
reposting.

Just getting round to writing about our visit. and yes, we got a bit lost in the hospital too. Trauma ward 5b, not unit! we were so happy to see him in good spirits and still having a healthy appetite. He is gets tired very easily and is still in some pain and discomfort but his sense of humour is intact. They are weaning him off his oxygen ( his breathing was affected due to his chest damage and he slowly mobilising. No idea yet about when he might be move closer to home. if you are planning to visit please note that parking is a nightmare and we finally found a side street not far away which gives you two hours free. I took a photograph of Terry on my phone which he said I can post but I emailed it to myself and it hasn't turned up yet. xx

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,henryp
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 03:01 PM

The motorway hard shoulder is a dangerous place to be. But the Panorama programme tonight is concerned with "smart motorways" where the hard shoulder is used as an additional running lane. In that case, there are only occasional lay-bys to offer refuge from moving vehicles.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 03:32 PM

I have only driven on a "Smart" motorway once, and it scared the bejazus out of me, never again. I shall avoid them at all costs.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Richard Mellish
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 04:20 PM

So-called "smart" motorways are an invention of the Devil and a serious misnomer; but the account of Terry's accident implies a normal motorway with a proper hard shoulder where people should be safe from passing vehicles, unless a driver strays into the shoulder.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Mr Red
Date: 28 Jan 20 - 04:37 AM

The info I was given was that Terry's clutch went and by the time the car stopped not all of the back was clear of lane 1. The only thing Terry could have done was to stand over the barrier, but maybe he was assessing the problem and the lorry came by pretty much immediately. He managed to get out of the car safely, obviously. No mean feat given the circumstances.

Any news of the banjo?

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Ross
Date: 30 Jan 20 - 06:41 AM

I was very sorry to hear this news

Get well soon Terry

You have several farewell tours in you yet

Ross

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: skarpi
Date: 30 Jan 20 - 08:34 AM

I did not know about this, Get well Terry, slow recovery is the best .
all the best from Iceland Skarpi .

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman
Date: 02 Feb 20 - 03:14 AM

refresh

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Ian Cameron & Dee Kraaij
Date: 02 Feb 20 - 01:17 PM

Goodness Terry, what a bloody awful accident. We're so sorry to hear of it, and wish you good healing. We've got a card to send you, and will get that to you somehow, somewhen. Not sure of what address to use.

Keep that good old humour of yours, and we do hope that the pain is manageable!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 03 Feb 20 - 10:58 AM

So sorry to hear of this, and have already sent my good wishes via friends on Facebook. Also knew him a little from Sidmouth, and the Rosehall sessions. The banjo may have been a joke, but I did hear that his treasured mandolin was damaged.
Hopes for a speedy and full recovery, and a new mandolin in due course.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,keberoxu
Date: 03 Feb 20 - 01:21 PM

for what they are worth,
my get-better wishes added to the rest.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Dave Illingworth
Date: 04 Feb 20 - 06:56 AM

Have lost touch with Terry, and very sorry to hear about the accident. Wishing him a good recovery. Our associations were mainly via his whistle playing   - his love of trad jazz showed through.
Hopefully he will be back tp blow some more.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,open mike
Date: 04 Feb 20 - 10:54 PM

Oh, no, plumb digits . . . . you must have "parking sons disorder" . . . . please do take care when you are in or out of a moving or non-moving vehicle. And hurry up and get out of that hospital . . . that is where sick people are . . . . singing a song of healing for you . . . .best wishes for rapid and complete recovery!! Laurel from California

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Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: beachcomber
Date: 05 Feb 20 - 07:30 AM

I've been reading your posts for many years Leadfingers and I wish you a speedy recovery and return to our forum.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Cool Beans
Date: 06 Feb 20 - 05:36 PM

Get well soon, Terry. Wishing you all the best from Detroit.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Billybob
Date: 06 Feb 20 - 07:58 PM

Get well soon Terry,so sorry to hear a out the accident,best wishes Wendy and Bill xx

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Feb 20 - 09:54 AM

refresh

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Ian
Date: 11 Feb 20 - 03:58 AM

Has anyone an update on his condition please.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 11 Feb 20 - 07:16 AM

I believe he is still in hospital in Oxford. (This is from Facebook, where friends are posting on his timeline.)

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 11 Feb 20 - 09:29 AM

From the latest post on his FB Page

?John Quinn? to Terry Silver
9 February at 15:31 ·
Saw Terry yesterday. He was a bit more compos mentis, though very, very, very tired and we left after about 10mins. Seems to us he is slowly on the mend.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Gervase
Date: 13 Feb 20 - 06:08 PM

Send the old gravelly-voiced crab my very best! What a rotten show.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 17 Feb 20 - 07:40 PM

Latest from Facebook suggests that he may soon be fit enough to be moved from hospital in Oxford to one nearer home, in Hillingdon.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman
Date: 20 Feb 20 - 05:22 AM

hope he gets well soon

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: BrooklynJay
Date: 20 Feb 20 - 01:53 PM

Belated get-well wishes from myself and the Missus as well as all the members of the Sunnyside Singers Club in Woodside, New York - where we had the pleasure of having you as our featured guest a couple of years ago.

Slowly and steadily, we know you'll be up and about, singing and playing - and you owe us a return visit!!

Jay
(and the Sunnyside Singers)

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: MudGuard
Date: 05 Mar 20 - 06:20 PM

Any news?

Terry, what's going on? Hope you get better!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 05 Mar 20 - 08:11 PM

Latest from his Facebook page a couple of days ago, posted by one of his relatives:
Terry is still in JR. He is making some progress and will be transferred to Hillingdon when he finishes the latest course of antibiotics for a spinal infection. It's going to be a long haul for him.
(JR = John Radcliffe Infirmary, Oxford.)

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,sheila finn
Date: 06 Mar 20 - 09:17 AM

Give him my love and wish him a speedy recovery. Please keep us posted. Does Terry know Gerry

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Doug Chadwick
Date: 22 Jun 20 - 05:06 AM

Does anybody know how Terry is getting on?

DC

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Guest Anonyme
Date: 22 Jun 20 - 11:00 AM

26 March Pat Silver
Terry has been discharged from Hillingdon, in the present situation they cannot do rehab and needed the bed. He is now staying with us, (brother Colin and me), in Newark. We are all oldies isolating together!.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 22 Jun 20 - 01:48 PM

Thanks Pat, that's good to hear. Hope you are all keeping well.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Guest Anonyme
Date: 22 Jun 20 - 02:33 PM

I am not Pat.The post was copied from Facebook

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Doug Chadwick
Date: 23 Jun 20 - 03:50 PM

26 March was quite a while back. Does anybody have anything more up to date?

DC

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 05:12 AM

There doesn't appear to be any more recent news Doug. Moira Craig is the go-to person regarding passing on any updates to interested parties, and all is quiet from her at the moment, re Terry anyway.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Manitas_at_home
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 07:16 AM

Liz the Squeak here

Last I heard (end of May) he was doing well, but has some memory issues. He can't remember how to get onto his laptop, and his family don't know either. He is improving slowly, but it will be a long time before he's fully fit.

LTS

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Bill D
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 11:50 AM

Terry often said hello to me on Mudcat chat after getting home from a session. I miss him a lot and hope he continues improving.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Severn
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 06:35 PM

I hope someone can take a portable device and let him see how he is missed and get to see and hear some of his friends singing online from some of his old haunts.

I'd love to hear his singular voice singing out at us again.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 09:47 PM

Just caught up with this. Only knew LF through the old Hearme meetings. All the best from down under Terry.
jacko@nz aka Scalliwag

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 10:07 PM

Maybe someone can set up a laptop with the next Zoom meeting so he can listen and see people.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Raggytash
Date: 01 Sep 20 - 05:36 AM

Does anyone know how Terry is doing? Picking up I sincerely hope.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Mick Pearce (MCP)
Date: 01 Sep 20 - 06:04 AM

Moira just put up a post on f/b about his condition: Moira's post on Terry.

Essentially: He's moving into an assisted living flat where he will have to do some things for himself; he still can't use the computer; he's somewhat divorced from reality and happy to let people do things for him.

Mick

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Raggytash
Date: 01 Sep 20 - 07:24 AM

Thank you Mick

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman
Date: 04 Sep 20 - 05:13 AM

get well soon

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: gnu
Date: 21 Feb 21 - 07:11 PM

Re Terry Silver, Leadfingers :

Moira Craig :
Hi Sally, Terry has basically recovered well although his fine motor skills are not great and he isn't playing his instruments now. He has little or no interest in music now and his memory is not great due to the brain damage from the accident.. He is living in a sheltered accommodation apartment in Newark near his brother and sister in law. They say he seems settled and happy enough but he doesn't use his phone or laptop much as he gets confused about how to use it. It's very sad when you consider he was out nearly every night before the accident. Xx
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Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 02:27 AM

Very sad

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Roger the Skiffler
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 06:36 AM

Sad to hear the latest update. Terry was one of the few Mudcatters I've been able to meet and chat to a couple of times in person.
At least he is well cared for.
RtS

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 10:10 AM

Recovering from a traumatic brain injury (TBI) takes a LONG time. And it isn't just a matter of the brain reaching one point and stopping healing, the brain will continue to improve slowly over time. The process is incredibly frustrating for the individual involved because they know what they used to be able to do and can't do it now (or not very well). At this point his body has healed, and now the work can really start on the brain part of it.

That said, if friends who are musicians visit him, don't avoid the music because Terry can't perform perfectly now. Gently offer to include it as part of the visit because he used to love it and may find another avenue to being musical again. Share a new song you're learning, sing acapella, etc. And who knows, those pathways in the brain may help him improve more once they are triggered.

My best friend here in Texas was a pedestrian in a parking lot hit by a young woman driving into the space way too fast - Susie was thrown a distance and landed on her head and also had a shattered hip. She has come back a very long way (this happened 9 years ago and she spent 4 months in the hospital and rehab), and it has involved treating not just her physical health but her mental health because it was frustrating to not be able to do things. She is an artist and the fine motor skills have gradually returned to some degree. Not like before, but she can do some of it.

The biggest problem she has, as does another friend who suffered a TBI when he was in college (he's nearly 60 now) is that she loses things. All. Of. The. Time. Short term memory sucks. We tried setting up a system with bright colored bowls on the counter where she would leave her hearing aid and her car keys (yes, she can drive and made sure she could pass the driving test before she renewed her license) but the family didn't pay attention when they came through and the bowl ended up moved or hidden or used for something else. If there is a plan to help then everyone needs to be on board with it.

I haven't seen my friend since the COVID stuff started last. I need to give her back the cane she loaned me for my recovery from knee surgery last year at this time. After deciding her house was too much work she lived with family for a while, and last year she moved to a senior apartment where she lives independently but eats in a communal setting. It sounds like Terry is in a similar situation, so during COVID visits are rare and precious. Don't try to cram in the music as part of the visit, maybe share a favorite song or CD or file for his computer along with flowers or a food gift. A year out from that injury is still early days for him and his friends can help him (please listen to what he asks for - don't assume anything - he will know what he wants and needs now).

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,James Phillips
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 03:02 PM

The brain is an amazing thing and often makes amazing recoveries. Look at Jerry Garcia, after his coma. He had to completely relearn to play the guitar. Chet Baker had to relearn the trumpet after a vicious beating - took him 8 years, but he got there. Baby steps.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 03:30 PM

Well hopefully it will be possible to visit Terry in about 6 months, if the projected lockdown easing schedule, goes to plan,
I know I'd like to visit him if I could, We've not had a chinwag in a long long time.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman
Date: 23 Feb 21 - 03:19 AM

if i had a phone number i would give him a ring and even sing him a song if he wanted it

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Mick Tems
Date: 23 Feb 21 - 10:51 AM

Good God - I didn't know about Terry's terrible accident, which occurred over a year ago. Here's wishing you a steady return to recovery, mate.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: the lemonade lady
Date: 26 Feb 21 - 04:22 AM

?? H

I'm the Sally that message was sent to.
It was public on Facebook so I thought I'd just solve that puzzle

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Charley Noble
Date: 28 Feb 21 - 04:40 PM

Hoping for the best. Better will be alright as well.

Charlie Ipcar

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Gaffer
Date: 14 Mar 21 - 10:05 AM

Don't know why I took so long to hear the news. Perhaps the pandemic was one factor. I wish Terry as complete a recovery as possible. His legendary stubbornness will help him in his battle as will patience - he must have enormous reserves of patience as he was never one to squander it on the likes of us! Get well as soon as you can old mate!
Gaffer

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Hesk
Date: 15 Mar 21 - 07:16 AM

I've known Terry to natter to, especially at The White Horse Folk Festival, for many years, but never noticed that he was particularly stubborn. What form did the stubbornness take, if it is not a rude question?

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman
Date: 15 Mar 21 - 08:50 AM

i have tried to contact twice ,no luck but will carry on

Subject: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST,Ray Martin
Date: 20 Mar 21 - 05:25 AM

I worked with Terry Silver for many years but have been unable to make any contact with or about him since his accident. Does anyone have an update of where and how he is?

Subject: RE: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST,henryp
Date: 20 Mar 21 - 05:39 AM

There is a thread; Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)

From: gnu Date: 21 Feb 21 - 07:11 PM Re Terry Silver, Leadfingers:

Moira Craig :
Hi Sally, Terry has basically recovered well although his fine motor skills are not great and he isn't playing his instruments now. He has little or no interest in music now and his memory is not great due to the brain damage from the accident.. He is living in a sheltered accommodation apartment in Newark near his brother and sister in law. They say he seems settled and happy enough but he doesn't use his phone or laptop much as he gets confused about how to use it. It's very sad when you consider he was out nearly every night before the accident. Xx
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Subject: RE: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Mar 21 - 05:57 AM

this is the current situation but there is another thread giving a lot more information about what's happened to Terry over the past years

Subject: RE: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST,Ray Martin
Date: 20 Mar 21 - 06:21 AM

Thanks so much. I will pass this on to others he worked with.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: guitaaress
Date: 21 Mar 21 - 06:07 AM

I worked with Terry for years during the 70s and early eighties. I've known him since the sixties and The Coach and Horses in High Wycombe. We were really good friends until I left UK for foreign lands.

Should any of you meet up with Terry pleas tell him I think of him often and still consider him a good and trusted friend. Love him like a brother. Just say Crown Pishill and The Drover. I'm sure it will jog his memory. Just praying to the heavens for his full recovery.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Mar 21 - 01:08 PM

I spoke with my friend who had the severe head injury and she asked me to pass along a tip on something she found helpful. There is a medication in the US called Armodafinil that she found particularly helpful in treating some of the impact of the brain injury. Online there is a description: Armodafinil is currently FDA-approved to treat excessive daytime sleepiness associated with obstructive sleep apnea, narcolepsy, and shift work disorder. It is commonly used off-label to treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, chronic fatigue syndrome, and major depressive disorder.

I'm guessing her use is "off-label." And she also said that a test to determine if she's getting enough Vitamin D helped because she's getting supplemental now. Both of these things have helped clear some of the fog the injury caused.

Each case is different, so this is just one avenue to explore.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Felipa
Date: 22 Mar 21 - 03:24 PM

Silly River Sage - He probably should get vitamin D supplement anyway due to age and amount of time spent indoors. That would apply to many of us.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST
Date: 06 Apr 21 - 05:45 AM

Thinking of you Lf xo

Your “old” friend,

Fred

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 06 Apr 21 - 01:28 PM

It was his birthday yesterday. Lots of good wishes on Facebook for him!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Benjamin
Date: 07 Apr 21 - 08:20 AM

I'm just now finding this, I do not check this forum often. I'm sorry to hear the news about Terry. I remember back in the earlier days of HearMe and then Mudcat chatroom. He is among the friendliest of people I have met here. I'm sorry to hear of his accident, I hope and pray for his continued recovery.

Benjamin

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,Clive Hughes
Date: 11 Apr 21 - 06:13 PM

Just happened to come across this when I was searching for info on Sidmouth. Very sorry to hear of the accident - Terry and I were the resident duo at the Robin Hood Pub in Bermuda in 1973-74. Met up again with him in Sidmouth in ‘93 or ‘94 and saw him again every year there for several years. Many happy memories of Bermuda and Sidmouth - I hope the recovery goes well. Cheers Mate!,

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman
Date: 12 Apr 21 - 06:13 AM

Terry, nice friendly guy, hope his recovery continues

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: SINSULL
Date: 12 Apr 21 - 09:16 AM

I'm glad he has recovered but very sad to hear he no longer plays. Terry spent some time in Maine several years back. The music began at dawn and went until the wee hours. Terry was friendly and generous with his knowledge also the perfect houseguest. He also had a wry sense of humor Kendall particularly enjoyed.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Genie
Date: 12 Apr 21 - 06:56 PM

I’ve been so sorry to hear, belatedly, about Terry’s accident and   now glad to hear that he’s doing a lot better, but sad to hesr he’s no longer playing. I’ve enjoyed Tery’s company and music several times at Getaway and had hoped that might happen again.

Blessings on you, Leadfingers.

Genie

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,Hilary James
Date: 15 Apr 21 - 06:25 PM

Hello Terry, So sorry to hear about your accident. Hope you're on the mend and can get back to playing soon. Very best wishes, Hilary and Simon

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,Severn
Date: 18 Apr 21 - 12:09 PM

I talk with him on the phone from time to time, the last time being yesterday. He is about the same as Moira has reported and seems to be staying as he is. Though he can still play his whistle and sing a cappella, he has no interest in having anyone hook him up with online Zoom Room sings. Some of it might be accessibility to where he is, as he would need a friend as an internet guide, but it just may be he would rather just watch the tube instead. We talk of old memories and shared adventures on both sides of the pond and have a good chat, thanks to paying extra each month for unlimited overseas calls. I hope someone has posted his phone # and address. I am sure he would like to hear from you.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 19 Apr 21 - 07:01 AM

The only number I have for him, is his old home number. :(

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: MudGuard
Date: 09 May 22 - 06:37 PM

Any updates? It's quite some time since the last news ...

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST, the sand man
Date: 10 May 22 - 04:45 PM

Poor Terry .

Subject: Terry Silver
From: GUEST,Ray Martin
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 06:39 AM

Does anyone have contact details for Terry Silver? We did a great deal of work together before his accident, in the UK and on the continent .... festivals, ferries, corporate, theme shows. I did send messages to his mobile a while back but I don't know if he can still use it. Several other musicians would like to know how he is getting on. Any update appreciated. Thanks. Ray Martin

Subject: RE: Terry Silver
From: The Sandman
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 08:08 AM

there is a thread about this, he is being looked after[i think] by his sister

Subject: RE: Terry Silver
From: The Sandman
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 12:20 PM

Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident mudcat
google this, it might help

Subject: RE: Terry Silver
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 12:33 PM

He has a Facebook page which is posted on occasionally. I don't know whether a message on there might get through or not.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver
From: FreddyHeadey
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 12:35 PM

^
Ray :
https://mudcat.org/thread.cfm?threadid=167212

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers) - looking for
From: GUEST,Ray Martin
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 04:46 PM

Thanks for the responses. I found a contact with Terry's niece. He is still with us but not great. Pain when he tries to play guitar and other issues from the accident. I will drop him a line.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 30 May 23 - 05:52 PM

Sadly, Terry seems to have gone missing :-( I cannot share the post for some reason but look up Duncan James Silver on Facebook and you will see the details. Fingers crossed that all ends up ok!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 30 May 23 - 07:26 PM

There's a note there now that says he has been found and is safe. Posted at about 12:15am London time.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,RJM
Date: 31 May 23 - 01:22 AM

Poor Terry, what bad luck he had

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 31 May 23 - 02:28 AM

Thank heavens he is safe.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,RJM
Date: 31 May 23 - 01:50 PM

I agree

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Roger the Skiffler
Date: 05 Jun 23 - 11:33 AM

Worrying but glad he's safe.
RtS