Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Roger the Skiffler
Date: 05 Jun 23 - 11:33 AM

Worrying but glad he's safe.
RtS

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,RJM
Date: 31 May 23 - 01:50 PM

I agree

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 31 May 23 - 02:28 AM

Thank heavens he is safe.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,RJM
Date: 31 May 23 - 01:22 AM

Poor Terry, what bad luck he had

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 30 May 23 - 07:26 PM

There's a note there now that says he has been found and is safe. Posted at about 12:15am London time.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 30 May 23 - 05:52 PM

Sadly, Terry seems to have gone missing :-( I cannot share the post for some reason but look up Duncan James Silver on Facebook and you will see the details. Fingers crossed that all ends up ok!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers) - looking for
From: GUEST,Ray Martin
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 04:46 PM

Thanks for the responses. I found a contact with Terry's niece. He is still with us but not great. Pain when he tries to play guitar and other issues from the accident. I will drop him a line.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver
From: FreddyHeadey
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 12:35 PM

^
Ray :
https://mudcat.org/thread.cfm?threadid=167212

Subject: RE: Terry Silver
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 12:33 PM

He has a Facebook page which is posted on occasionally. I don't know whether a message on there might get through or not.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver
From: The Sandman
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 12:20 PM

Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident mudcat
google this, it might help

Subject: RE: Terry Silver
From: The Sandman
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 08:08 AM

there is a thread about this, he is being looked after[i think] by his sister

Subject: Terry Silver
From: GUEST,Ray Martin
Date: 11 Jan 23 - 06:39 AM

Does anyone have contact details for Terry Silver? We did a great deal of work together before his accident, in the UK and on the continent .... festivals, ferries, corporate, theme shows. I did send messages to his mobile a while back but I don't know if he can still use it. Several other musicians would like to know how he is getting on. Any update appreciated. Thanks. Ray Martin

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST, the sand man
Date: 10 May 22 - 04:45 PM

Poor Terry .

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: MudGuard
Date: 09 May 22 - 06:37 PM

Any updates? It's quite some time since the last news ...

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 19 Apr 21 - 07:01 AM

The only number I have for him, is his old home number. :(

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,Severn
Date: 18 Apr 21 - 12:09 PM

I talk with him on the phone from time to time, the last time being yesterday. He is about the same as Moira has reported and seems to be staying as he is. Though he can still play his whistle and sing a cappella, he has no interest in having anyone hook him up with online Zoom Room sings. Some of it might be accessibility to where he is, as he would need a friend as an internet guide, but it just may be he would rather just watch the tube instead. We talk of old memories and shared adventures on both sides of the pond and have a good chat, thanks to paying extra each month for unlimited overseas calls. I hope someone has posted his phone # and address. I am sure he would like to hear from you.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,Hilary James
Date: 15 Apr 21 - 06:25 PM

Hello Terry, So sorry to hear about your accident. Hope you're on the mend and can get back to playing soon. Very best wishes, Hilary and Simon

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Genie
Date: 12 Apr 21 - 06:56 PM

I’ve been so sorry to hear, belatedly, about Terry’s accident and   now glad to hear that he’s doing a lot better, but sad to hesr he’s no longer playing. I’ve enjoyed Tery’s company and music several times at Getaway and had hoped that might happen again.

Blessings on you, Leadfingers.

Genie

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: SINSULL
Date: 12 Apr 21 - 09:16 AM

I'm glad he has recovered but very sad to hear he no longer plays. Terry spent some time in Maine several years back. The music began at dawn and went until the wee hours. Terry was friendly and generous with his knowledge also the perfect houseguest. He also had a wry sense of humor Kendall particularly enjoyed.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman
Date: 12 Apr 21 - 06:13 AM

Terry, nice friendly guy, hope his recovery continues

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,Clive Hughes
Date: 11 Apr 21 - 06:13 PM

Just happened to come across this when I was searching for info on Sidmouth. Very sorry to hear of the accident - Terry and I were the resident duo at the Robin Hood Pub in Bermuda in 1973-74. Met up again with him in Sidmouth in ‘93 or ‘94 and saw him again every year there for several years. Many happy memories of Bermuda and Sidmouth - I hope the recovery goes well. Cheers Mate!,

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Benjamin
Date: 07 Apr 21 - 08:20 AM

I'm just now finding this, I do not check this forum often. I'm sorry to hear the news about Terry. I remember back in the earlier days of HearMe and then Mudcat chatroom. He is among the friendliest of people I have met here. I'm sorry to hear of his accident, I hope and pray for his continued recovery.

Benjamin

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 06 Apr 21 - 01:28 PM

It was his birthday yesterday. Lots of good wishes on Facebook for him!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST
Date: 06 Apr 21 - 05:45 AM

Thinking of you Lf xo

Your “old” friend,

Fred

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Felipa
Date: 22 Mar 21 - 03:24 PM

Silly River Sage - He probably should get vitamin D supplement anyway due to age and amount of time spent indoors. That would apply to many of us.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Mar 21 - 01:08 PM

I spoke with my friend who had the severe head injury and she asked me to pass along a tip on something she found helpful. There is a medication in the US called Armodafinil that she found particularly helpful in treating some of the impact of the brain injury. Online there is a description: Armodafinil is currently FDA-approved to treat excessive daytime sleepiness associated with obstructive sleep apnea, narcolepsy, and shift work disorder. It is commonly used off-label to treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, chronic fatigue syndrome, and major depressive disorder.

I'm guessing her use is "off-label." And she also said that a test to determine if she's getting enough Vitamin D helped because she's getting supplemental now. Both of these things have helped clear some of the fog the injury caused.

Each case is different, so this is just one avenue to explore.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: guitaaress
Date: 21 Mar 21 - 06:07 AM

I worked with Terry for years during the 70s and early eighties. I've known him since the sixties and The Coach and Horses in High Wycombe. We were really good friends until I left UK for foreign lands.

Should any of you meet up with Terry pleas tell him I think of him often and still consider him a good and trusted friend. Love him like a brother. Just say Crown Pishill and The Drover. I'm sure it will jog his memory. Just praying to the heavens for his full recovery.

Subject: RE: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST,Ray Martin
Date: 20 Mar 21 - 06:21 AM

Thanks so much. I will pass this on to others he worked with.

Subject: RE: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Mar 21 - 05:57 AM

this is the current situation but there is another thread giving a lot more information about what's happened to Terry over the past years

Subject: RE: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST,henryp
Date: 20 Mar 21 - 05:39 AM

There is a thread; Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)

From: gnu Date: 21 Feb 21 - 07:11 PM Re Terry Silver, Leadfingers:

Moira Craig :
Hi Sally, Terry has basically recovered well although his fine motor skills are not great and he isn't playing his instruments now. He has little or no interest in music now and his memory is not great due to the brain damage from the accident.. He is living in a sheltered accommodation apartment in Newark near his brother and sister in law. They say he seems settled and happy enough but he doesn't use his phone or laptop much as he gets confused about how to use it. It's very sad when you consider he was out nearly every night before the accident. Xx
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Subject: Review: terry silver
From: GUEST,Ray Martin
Date: 20 Mar 21 - 05:25 AM

I worked with Terry Silver for many years but have been unable to make any contact with or about him since his accident. Does anyone have an update of where and how he is?

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman
Date: 15 Mar 21 - 08:50 AM

i have tried to contact twice ,no luck but will carry on

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Hesk
Date: 15 Mar 21 - 07:16 AM

I've known Terry to natter to, especially at The White Horse Folk Festival, for many years, but never noticed that he was particularly stubborn. What form did the stubbornness take, if it is not a rude question?

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Gaffer
Date: 14 Mar 21 - 10:05 AM

Don't know why I took so long to hear the news. Perhaps the pandemic was one factor. I wish Terry as complete a recovery as possible. His legendary stubbornness will help him in his battle as will patience - he must have enormous reserves of patience as he was never one to squander it on the likes of us! Get well as soon as you can old mate!
Gaffer

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Charley Noble
Date: 28 Feb 21 - 04:40 PM

Hoping for the best. Better will be alright as well.

Charlie Ipcar

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: the lemonade lady
Date: 26 Feb 21 - 04:22 AM

?? H

I'm the Sally that message was sent to.
It was public on Facebook so I thought I'd just solve that puzzle

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Mick Tems
Date: 23 Feb 21 - 10:51 AM

Good God - I didn't know about Terry's terrible accident, which occurred over a year ago. Here's wishing you a steady return to recovery, mate.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman
Date: 23 Feb 21 - 03:19 AM

if i had a phone number i would give him a ring and even sing him a song if he wanted it

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 03:30 PM

Well hopefully it will be possible to visit Terry in about 6 months, if the projected lockdown easing schedule, goes to plan,
I know I'd like to visit him if I could, We've not had a chinwag in a long long time.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,James Phillips
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 03:02 PM

The brain is an amazing thing and often makes amazing recoveries. Look at Jerry Garcia, after his coma. He had to completely relearn to play the guitar. Chet Baker had to relearn the trumpet after a vicious beating - took him 8 years, but he got there. Baby steps.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 10:10 AM

Recovering from a traumatic brain injury (TBI) takes a LONG time. And it isn't just a matter of the brain reaching one point and stopping healing, the brain will continue to improve slowly over time. The process is incredibly frustrating for the individual involved because they know what they used to be able to do and can't do it now (or not very well). At this point his body has healed, and now the work can really start on the brain part of it.

That said, if friends who are musicians visit him, don't avoid the music because Terry can't perform perfectly now. Gently offer to include it as part of the visit because he used to love it and may find another avenue to being musical again. Share a new song you're learning, sing acapella, etc. And who knows, those pathways in the brain may help him improve more once they are triggered.

My best friend here in Texas was a pedestrian in a parking lot hit by a young woman driving into the space way too fast - Susie was thrown a distance and landed on her head and also had a shattered hip. She has come back a very long way (this happened 9 years ago and she spent 4 months in the hospital and rehab), and it has involved treating not just her physical health but her mental health because it was frustrating to not be able to do things. She is an artist and the fine motor skills have gradually returned to some degree. Not like before, but she can do some of it.

The biggest problem she has, as does another friend who suffered a TBI when he was in college (he's nearly 60 now) is that she loses things. All. Of. The. Time. Short term memory sucks. We tried setting up a system with bright colored bowls on the counter where she would leave her hearing aid and her car keys (yes, she can drive and made sure she could pass the driving test before she renewed her license) but the family didn't pay attention when they came through and the bowl ended up moved or hidden or used for something else. If there is a plan to help then everyone needs to be on board with it.

I haven't seen my friend since the COVID stuff started last. I need to give her back the cane she loaned me for my recovery from knee surgery last year at this time. After deciding her house was too much work she lived with family for a while, and last year she moved to a senior apartment where she lives independently but eats in a communal setting. It sounds like Terry is in a similar situation, so during COVID visits are rare and precious. Don't try to cram in the music as part of the visit, maybe share a favorite song or CD or file for his computer along with flowers or a food gift. A year out from that injury is still early days for him and his friends can help him (please listen to what he asks for - don't assume anything - he will know what he wants and needs now).

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Roger the Skiffler
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 06:36 AM

Sad to hear the latest update. Terry was one of the few Mudcatters I've been able to meet and chat to a couple of times in person.
At least he is well cared for.
RtS

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 02:27 AM

Very sad

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: gnu
Date: 21 Feb 21 - 07:11 PM

Re Terry Silver, Leadfingers :

Moira Craig :
Hi Sally, Terry has basically recovered well although his fine motor skills are not great and he isn't playing his instruments now. He has little or no interest in music now and his memory is not great due to the brain damage from the accident.. He is living in a sheltered accommodation apartment in Newark near his brother and sister in law. They say he seems settled and happy enough but he doesn't use his phone or laptop much as he gets confused about how to use it. It's very sad when you consider he was out nearly every night before the accident. Xx
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Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman
Date: 04 Sep 20 - 05:13 AM

get well soon

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Raggytash
Date: 01 Sep 20 - 07:24 AM

Thank you Mick

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Mick Pearce (MCP)
Date: 01 Sep 20 - 06:04 AM

Moira just put up a post on f/b about his condition: Moira's post on Terry.

Essentially: He's moving into an assisted living flat where he will have to do some things for himself; he still can't use the computer; he's somewhat divorced from reality and happy to let people do things for him.

Mick

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Raggytash
Date: 01 Sep 20 - 05:36 AM

Does anyone know how Terry is doing? Picking up I sincerely hope.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 10:07 PM

Maybe someone can set up a laptop with the next Zoom meeting so he can listen and see people.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 09:47 PM

Just caught up with this. Only knew LF through the old Hearme meetings. All the best from down under Terry.
jacko@nz aka Scalliwag