Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: MudGuard
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 01:57 AM

Oh Terry, that's terryble!

Get well soon, my favorite pasta musician (always noodling along ...).

I wish you a speedy recovery so you can soon visit more of these viewpoints - those that are marked with a camera sign at the road side ;-)

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Acorn4
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 03:45 AM

Hope you mend soon Terry!

We don't REALLY mind when you join in with your banjo!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Nick
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 12:58 PM

There is a Panorama programme on tonight at 2030 about the increased incidence of accidents on hard shoulders. Always think these things never happen to people you know of. Probably not a great thing to watch in the current circumstances

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,jacqui.c
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 02:11 PM

Just found this from Moira Craig on Terry’s Facebook page. I’m sure she won’t mind me
reposting.

Just getting round to writing about our visit. and yes, we got a bit lost in the hospital too. Trauma ward 5b, not unit! we were so happy to see him in good spirits and still having a healthy appetite. He is gets tired very easily and is still in some pain and discomfort but his sense of humour is intact. They are weaning him off his oxygen ( his breathing was affected due to his chest damage and he slowly mobilising. No idea yet about when he might be move closer to home. if you are planning to visit please note that parking is a nightmare and we finally found a side street not far away which gives you two hours free. I took a photograph of Terry on my phone which he said I can post but I emailed it to myself and it hasn't turned up yet. xx

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,henryp
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 03:01 PM

The motorway hard shoulder is a dangerous place to be. But the Panorama programme tonight is concerned with "smart motorways" where the hard shoulder is used as an additional running lane. In that case, there are only occasional lay-bys to offer refuge from moving vehicles.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 03:32 PM

I have only driven on a "Smart" motorway once, and it scared the bejazus out of me, never again. I shall avoid them at all costs.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Richard Mellish
Date: 27 Jan 20 - 04:20 PM

So-called "smart" motorways are an invention of the Devil and a serious misnomer; but the account of Terry's accident implies a normal motorway with a proper hard shoulder where people should be safe from passing vehicles, unless a driver strays into the shoulder.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Mr Red
Date: 28 Jan 20 - 04:37 AM

The info I was given was that Terry's clutch went and by the time the car stopped not all of the back was clear of lane 1. The only thing Terry could have done was to stand over the barrier, but maybe he was assessing the problem and the lorry came by pretty much immediately. He managed to get out of the car safely, obviously. No mean feat given the circumstances.

Any news of the banjo?

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Ross
Date: 30 Jan 20 - 06:41 AM

I was very sorry to hear this news

Get well soon Terry

You have several farewell tours in you yet

Ross

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: skarpi
Date: 30 Jan 20 - 08:34 AM

I did not know about this, Get well Terry, slow recovery is the best .
all the best from Iceland Skarpi .

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman
Date: 02 Feb 20 - 03:14 AM

refresh

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Ian Cameron & Dee Kraaij
Date: 02 Feb 20 - 01:17 PM

Goodness Terry, what a bloody awful accident. We're so sorry to hear of it, and wish you good healing. We've got a card to send you, and will get that to you somehow, somewhen. Not sure of what address to use.

Keep that good old humour of yours, and we do hope that the pain is manageable!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 03 Feb 20 - 10:58 AM

So sorry to hear of this, and have already sent my good wishes via friends on Facebook. Also knew him a little from Sidmouth, and the Rosehall sessions. The banjo may have been a joke, but I did hear that his treasured mandolin was damaged.
Hopes for a speedy and full recovery, and a new mandolin in due course.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,keberoxu
Date: 03 Feb 20 - 01:21 PM

for what they are worth,
my get-better wishes added to the rest.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Dave Illingworth
Date: 04 Feb 20 - 06:56 AM

Have lost touch with Terry, and very sorry to hear about the accident. Wishing him a good recovery. Our associations were mainly via his whistle playing   - his love of trad jazz showed through.
Hopefully he will be back tp blow some more.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,open mike
Date: 04 Feb 20 - 10:54 PM

Oh, no, plumb digits . . . . you must have "parking sons disorder" . . . . please do take care when you are in or out of a moving or non-moving vehicle. And hurry up and get out of that hospital . . . that is where sick people are . . . . singing a song of healing for you . . . .best wishes for rapid and complete recovery!! Laurel from California

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Transcribed from all caps—they hurt our eyes.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: beachcomber
Date: 05 Feb 20 - 07:30 AM

I've been reading your posts for many years Leadfingers and I wish you a speedy recovery and return to our forum.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Cool Beans
Date: 06 Feb 20 - 05:36 PM

Get well soon, Terry. Wishing you all the best from Detroit.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Billybob
Date: 06 Feb 20 - 07:58 PM

Get well soon Terry,so sorry to hear a out the accident,best wishes Wendy and Bill xx

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: keberoxu
Date: 08 Feb 20 - 09:54 AM

refresh

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Ian
Date: 11 Feb 20 - 03:58 AM

Has anyone an update on his condition please.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 11 Feb 20 - 07:16 AM

I believe he is still in hospital in Oxford. (This is from Facebook, where friends are posting on his timeline.)

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 11 Feb 20 - 09:29 AM

From the latest post on his FB Page

?John Quinn? to Terry Silver
9 February at 15:31 ·
Saw Terry yesterday. He was a bit more compos mentis, though very, very, very tired and we left after about 10mins. Seems to us he is slowly on the mend.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Gervase
Date: 13 Feb 20 - 06:08 PM

Send the old gravelly-voiced crab my very best! What a rotten show.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 17 Feb 20 - 07:40 PM

Latest from Facebook suggests that he may soon be fit enough to be moved from hospital in Oxford to one nearer home, in Hillingdon.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman
Date: 20 Feb 20 - 05:22 AM

hope he gets well soon

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: BrooklynJay
Date: 20 Feb 20 - 01:53 PM

Belated get-well wishes from myself and the Missus as well as all the members of the Sunnyside Singers Club in Woodside, New York - where we had the pleasure of having you as our featured guest a couple of years ago.

Slowly and steadily, we know you'll be up and about, singing and playing - and you owe us a return visit!!

Jay
(and the Sunnyside Singers)

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: MudGuard
Date: 05 Mar 20 - 06:20 PM

Any news?

Terry, what's going on? Hope you get better!

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 05 Mar 20 - 08:11 PM

Latest from his Facebook page a couple of days ago, posted by one of his relatives:
Terry is still in JR. He is making some progress and will be transferred to Hillingdon when he finishes the latest course of antibiotics for a spinal infection. It's going to be a long haul for him.
(JR = John Radcliffe Infirmary, Oxford.)

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,sheila finn
Date: 06 Mar 20 - 09:17 AM

Give him my love and wish him a speedy recovery. Please keep us posted. Does Terry know Gerry

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Doug Chadwick
Date: 22 Jun 20 - 05:06 AM

Does anybody know how Terry is getting on?

DC

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Guest Anonyme
Date: 22 Jun 20 - 11:00 AM

26 March Pat Silver
Terry has been discharged from Hillingdon, in the present situation they cannot do rehab and needed the bed. He is now staying with us, (brother Colin and me), in Newark. We are all oldies isolating together!.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 22 Jun 20 - 01:48 PM

Thanks Pat, that's good to hear. Hope you are all keeping well.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST,Guest Anonyme
Date: 22 Jun 20 - 02:33 PM

I am not Pat.The post was copied from Facebook

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Doug Chadwick
Date: 23 Jun 20 - 03:50 PM

26 March was quite a while back. Does anybody have anything more up to date?

DC

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 05:12 AM

There doesn't appear to be any more recent news Doug. Moira Craig is the go-to person regarding passing on any updates to interested parties, and all is quiet from her at the moment, re Terry anyway.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Manitas_at_home
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 07:16 AM

Liz the Squeak here

Last I heard (end of May) he was doing well, but has some memory issues. He can't remember how to get onto his laptop, and his family don't know either. He is improving slowly, but it will be a long time before he's fully fit.

LTS

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Bill D
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 11:50 AM

Terry often said hello to me on Mudcat chat after getting home from a session. I miss him a lot and hope he continues improving.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Severn
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 06:35 PM

I hope someone can take a portable device and let him see how he is missed and get to see and hear some of his friends singing online from some of his old haunts.

I'd love to hear his singular voice singing out at us again.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: GUEST
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 09:47 PM

Just caught up with this. Only knew LF through the old Hearme meetings. All the best from down under Terry.
jacko@nz aka Scalliwag

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 24 Jun 20 - 10:07 PM

Maybe someone can set up a laptop with the next Zoom meeting so he can listen and see people.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Raggytash
Date: 01 Sep 20 - 05:36 AM

Does anyone know how Terry is doing? Picking up I sincerely hope.

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Mick Pearce (MCP)
Date: 01 Sep 20 - 06:04 AM

Moira just put up a post on f/b about his condition: Moira's post on Terry.

Essentially: He's moving into an assisted living flat where he will have to do some things for himself; he still can't use the computer; he's somewhat divorced from reality and happy to let people do things for him.

Mick

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: Raggytash
Date: 01 Sep 20 - 07:24 AM

Thank you Mick

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: The Sandman
Date: 04 Sep 20 - 05:13 AM

get well soon

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)
From: gnu
Date: 21 Feb 21 - 07:11 PM

Re Terry Silver, Leadfingers :

Moira Craig :
Hi Sally, Terry has basically recovered well although his fine motor skills are not great and he isn't playing his instruments now. He has little or no interest in music now and his memory is not great due to the brain damage from the accident.. He is living in a sheltered accommodation apartment in Newark near his brother and sister in law. They say he seems settled and happy enough but he doesn't use his phone or laptop much as he gets confused about how to use it. It's very sad when you consider he was out nearly every night before the accident. Xx
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Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: The Sandman
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 02:27 AM

Very sad

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Roger the Skiffler
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 06:36 AM

Sad to hear the latest update. Terry was one of the few Mudcatters I've been able to meet and chat to a couple of times in person.
At least he is well cared for.
RtS

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 10:10 AM

Recovering from a traumatic brain injury (TBI) takes a LONG time. And it isn't just a matter of the brain reaching one point and stopping healing, the brain will continue to improve slowly over time. The process is incredibly frustrating for the individual involved because they know what they used to be able to do and can't do it now (or not very well). At this point his body has healed, and now the work can really start on the brain part of it.

That said, if friends who are musicians visit him, don't avoid the music because Terry can't perform perfectly now. Gently offer to include it as part of the visit because he used to love it and may find another avenue to being musical again. Share a new song you're learning, sing acapella, etc. And who knows, those pathways in the brain may help him improve more once they are triggered.

My best friend here in Texas was a pedestrian in a parking lot hit by a young woman driving into the space way too fast - Susie was thrown a distance and landed on her head and also had a shattered hip. She has come back a very long way (this happened 9 years ago and she spent 4 months in the hospital and rehab), and it has involved treating not just her physical health but her mental health because it was frustrating to not be able to do things. She is an artist and the fine motor skills have gradually returned to some degree. Not like before, but she can do some of it.

The biggest problem she has, as does another friend who suffered a TBI when he was in college (he's nearly 60 now) is that she loses things. All. Of. The. Time. Short term memory sucks. We tried setting up a system with bright colored bowls on the counter where she would leave her hearing aid and her car keys (yes, she can drive and made sure she could pass the driving test before she renewed her license) but the family didn't pay attention when they came through and the bowl ended up moved or hidden or used for something else. If there is a plan to help then everyone needs to be on board with it.

I haven't seen my friend since the COVID stuff started last. I need to give her back the cane she loaned me for my recovery from knee surgery last year at this time. After deciding her house was too much work she lived with family for a while, and last year she moved to a senior apartment where she lives independently but eats in a communal setting. It sounds like Terry is in a similar situation, so during COVID visits are rare and precious. Don't try to cram in the music as part of the visit, maybe share a favorite song or CD or file for his computer along with flowers or a food gift. A year out from that injury is still early days for him and his friends can help him (please listen to what he asks for - don't assume anything - he will know what he wants and needs now).

Subject: RE: Terry Silver (Leadfingers)-Jan 2020 accident
From: GUEST,James Phillips
Date: 22 Feb 21 - 03:02 PM

The brain is an amazing thing and often makes amazing recoveries. Look at Jerry Garcia, after his coma. He had to completely relearn to play the guitar. Chet Baker had to relearn the trumpet after a vicious beating - took him 8 years, but he got there. Baby steps.