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Subject: How To Be Nice From: GUEST,Jessica Date: 23 Jan 00 - 03:02 PM I hope nobody minds this. My mom talks about this place a lot, and she gets upset sometimes and I had some ideas so she said why not tell them. All the time grownups are telling us kids how to be nice and I thought maybe they just do not teach grownups how or maybe they forget. So here is what I learned. First if someone says something you do not like and you get mad you shoud not hit them or call them names. I know that hitting someone is not something you can do here but you can say something mean and thatts the same thing. If you do this you will get in trouble and other people will get mad at you even if the other kid started it. Some kids will be on your side and some kids will be on there side but everbody will just be mad at everybody else. Next if somebody says something you think might be mean ask them what they meant. If they meant something mean they will say so or they will say something eles mean or they will not anser. Most kids are nice and they probly did not hurt your feelings on purpose. Third. Theres a kid in my school who always says things in class to make people mad. The kids get mad and the teacher gets mad and the hole class just starts talking about the kid and what he said and we dont ever talk about school stuff. Lots of times the teacher has to tell us to not pay attension to what the kid says. My mom says he has something rong and has to say things like that so we will make a big fuss and he will feel important. She says if we do not make him feel important he will not do it so much or even if he does it will not cause a problem if we dont pay attension. Last we kids talk alot about how the school shoud run and how some keds do not want the chiken king stuff with the pees in it for lunch anymore. Our teacher says its O.K. to talk about it but rember that the principal runs the school and makes the rules so it does not make any sense to get in fights about it because we do not have the "authoritay" to change anything. (I like the chicken king stuff) But I think some kids just like to fight about anything. If you know of other good things to do please write them here. |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Banjer Date: 23 Jan 00 - 03:36 PM My Mom always told me that if I have nothing nice to say, say nothing.....My Dad,on the other hand, told me always to say what was on my mind....Here lately I've been following Mom's advice because it seems the easy way out, don't have to do all that typing!! |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: folk1234 Date: 23 Jan 00 - 04:00 PM Dear Jessica; Thank you for the well-deserved admonishment. I think it is often wise to ask ourselves, "What would we advise our children to do is this same case?" Bye the way, Jessica, do you like folk music? Thank you and Happy chords |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Alice Date: 23 Jan 00 - 04:01 PM Thank you, Jessica. -Alice |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: kendall Date: 23 Jan 00 - 04:46 PM It's not so much what you say, but, rather how you say it. If you come on with your horns out, it can only cause one reaction..defense. Example.. YOU REALLY PISSED ME OFF.. here you blame the other person for your reaction to what was said or done. or.. When you say things like that I get pissed off. Here, you take responsibility for your own emotions. As Shakespere said "Nothing is bad or good..thinking makes them so." |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: fulurum Date: 23 Jan 00 - 07:13 PM I just got this e-mailed from a friend of mine . he doesn't come to this site and i thought it weird that i should get it at this time. Respect for self Respect for others Responsibility for all your actions. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer. Live a good honorable life. Then when you get older and think back you'll be able to enjoy it a second time. A loving atmosphere in your home ( mudcat site?) is the foundation for your life. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonius home (mudcat site?) When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. Spend some time alone. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don't bring up the past. Share your knowledge.It's a way to achieve immortality. Be gentle with the earth. Once a year go to some place you've never been before. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: GUEST,_gargoyle Date: 23 Jan 00 - 09:40 PM fulurum.....do you know SYLVESTER?????
I e-mailed her the identical same thing about 4 hours ago. |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Caitrin Date: 23 Jan 00 - 09:56 PM Basic niceness and manners are so often sadly underrated. Thank you, Jessica. |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Callie Date: 23 Jan 00 - 10:25 PM Being nice isn't always possible. Here's a retort worth keeping up your sleeve if ever accused of being "not nice" in the workplace: "I'll be nicer if you be smarter". Callie |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: GUEST,Guest of a GUEST Date: 23 Jan 00 - 10:26 PM Let me get this straight....the same, naive, little, sweet high-school-kid that posted these "scalding, whiplashes"....is admonishing the "Catizens" to Be NICE??????
Well, just to update... Last night, I did a quick "Usher Orientation", authorizing them to eject people who couldn't behave. It turned out, however, that merely asking people to be quiet worked pretty well. Our only problem was the jerk with the laser pointer, and he was removed with little difficulty by one of our larger and more imposing looking ushers between acts. As to small children, the hard part is determining what sort of performance environment is appropriate. For instance, someone brought a three year old to The Crucible. This play really isn't appropriate for little kids...it's quite long and deals with difficult themes. However, some shorter concerts and such are good behavior training, as long as the kid has at least some degree of self-control.
As my grandmother is fond of saying, "You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar." My response is usually, "I don't want to catch any flies; I'd rather just swat them." However, Granny's usually right about such things. When I can keep my temper under control, I try to take the polite route first. Fewer knife fights occur that way.
Though this goes WAY back, the song katlaughing mentioned is called "New Age Girl", by Deadeye Dick. My worst line is really not bad in and of itself, but because it is repeated at least eighty-four thousand times: Take it to the limit one more time. Every time that song gets to the end on my CD player, I cut it off. Of course, some more modern pop is considerably worse. I mean, Britney Spears "Hit me baby one more time"? Yuck.
As soon as 'spaw came into the room, Caitrin walked over to him. She knew better than to ask where he'd been. Wherever he went, he had his reasons. "It's gettin' late. I've gotta help Mbo close up. You want to meet me over at the tavern later?" she says. "Sure, babe." "Alright...I'll see you there, then." Caitrin gets a tray and starts clearing tables...What a day this had been.
Oh, if we're going to get into military songs,I know lots of those. I have an uncle who was Airborne and got a big kick out of teaching me stuff that would tick off my mother. For instance...
Good Lord Help US!!!!!These are the ones that will be paying OUR social security!!!
Thank Heavens we will have depleted it before THEY are eligable....Lord knows they aren't worthy.
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Amos Date: 23 Jan 00 - 10:29 PM Well, comes down to what's nice; the trick is being willing to hex-perience most anyfink atall, while allowing that others might have some limits and tryin' to adjust yore impact accordingly. On the othe rhand bein' smart is purdy important too. Maybe even more so. A |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Mbo Date: 23 Jan 00 - 10:37 PM Hey, lay off, GUEST. Don't talk about Caitrin like that. If more folks were like her, we wouldn't have this kinda problems. --Mbo |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: GUEST,guest of a GUEST Date: 23 Jan 00 - 11:11 PM Problems....
Whose got problems?//// |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Joe Offer Date: 24 Jan 00 - 12:17 AM Yeah....NICE. You gotta problem wit' dat, buddy? Now make nice to da people, or I'll make you an "offer" you can't refuse. -Da Godfadder- |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Caitrin Date: 24 Jan 00 - 04:15 PM Guest, I don't consider any of my posts "scalding whiplashes." At The Crucible, I was perfectly polite, as I believe I said in the post. The Juke Joint thread, as I 'm sure you would know if you read the rest of it, was just a story. I, like everyone else in there, was in character. The Airborne Ranger song, you may have noticed, was in a "Worst Lines" thread. The reason I posted it was because I thought it was a lousy song. I have endeavored to be friendly and polite in all my postings, and I don't believe I've ever been less than nice to anyone here. If anyone had a problem with my behavior, I would hope he or she would send me a private message and let me know. Public humiliation goes beyond "not nice" and into "outright cruelty." I would request that, if any of my postings offend you in the future, you would simply tell me. |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: catspaw49 Date: 24 Jan 00 - 04:48 PM And lets not be adding years to my already advancing ones, huh? And on the "invalid" thing....If you'd be so polite as to post your name and address, I'd be happy to work you into the travel schedule and kick your fockin' ass. Happy to oblige! Spaw |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: GUEST,reeebop Date: 24 Jan 00 - 05:22 PM there's a song that i started out every morning with while i was working a a tedious painting job all summer...it's called pixie by ani difranco my favorite part is: maybe you dont like your job---maybe you didnt get enough sleep nobody likes thier job nobody got enough sleep maybe you just had the worst day of your life but there's no escape ---there's no excuse so just suck-up and BE NICE. -------- it was enough to get me out of bed and smile at everyone i worked with every morning (almost) i like to think that i'm here on this little planet to bring some niceness and happiness and make other people feel good and that is what makes me feel good....i may be an idealist but it's worked for 20 years...... |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: harpgirl Date: 24 Jan 00 - 05:34 PM ...guest...haven't you been getting me E-Mail about being nice? |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Clinton Hammond2 Date: 24 Jan 00 - 05:37 PM What if I don't want to be nice?!?! ;-P |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: harpgirl Date: 24 Jan 00 - 05:45 PM Clinton...I am serious...I am not E-Mailing you. Guest knows who he is....harpgirl |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Clinton Hammond2 Date: 24 Jan 00 - 06:24 PM Seeing as how ya won't answer me on ICQ, I'll have to post it here... HUH!?! I don't get it h-girl... I was goofing around, not that I've ever been accused fo being nice anyway... maybe some people are right... this justmight be one uptight place... maybe it's a whole lot of missunderstandings... It's only the internet... ;-) |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: harpgirl Date: 24 Jan 00 - 06:43 PM Dear Mr. Hammond, You will find my sincere answer in your ICQ mailbox. Politely, harpgirl |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Clinton Hammond2 Date: 24 Jan 00 - 07:08 PM Dear Harpgirl Please check yer personal messages section for my peace pipe offering k? Just As Politely CAH ;-) |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Magpie Date: 24 Jan 00 - 07:24 PM Jessica I wish more kids(and grown ups) were like you. I don't know how old you are, but I think you are more mature than many grown-ups I know. Sometimes it's so easy to tell one's kids how to behave, and so difficult to remember how to do it ourselves. Don't let anyone fool you! It is easier to get along if you behave properly, and as you get older you'll see that very often the people behaving badly, making nasty comments about other people, they are the ones with no friends, and no self-esteem. Sometimes you have to tell someone that the way they behave is annoying or hurtful, but it's a good idea to try to do it in a nice way. Insults will generally get you nowhere, at least not in the long run. Thank you for posting! Magpie |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: GUEST Date: 24 Jan 00 - 08:46 PM I'll be NICE
Thanks Harpy |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: Lonesome EJ Date: 24 Jan 00 - 08:48 PM |
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Subject: RE: BS: How To Be Nice From: GUEST,stupidbodhranplayerwhodoesn'tknowanybetter Date: 25 Jan 00 - 07:45 PM Jessica, thanks for the wake up call. Although I think it's a shame that even on a thread about being nice we're still fighting. Rich |