BS: Do Americans know II

Subject: Do Americans know II
From: Bert
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 01:51 PM

I know you're all enjoying this thread so much.... link to old thread

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Amos
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 03:58 PM

I had just gotten set too ignore it, Bert! :>)

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: bbc
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 04:09 PM

I think this thread title is unnecessarily inflamatory (& downright incorrect!)! Please consider posting instead to Rick's thread on tourists, which is the same topic. Please let this one DIE!!!

bbc

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: GUEST,grey wolf
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 04:18 PM

bbc,

sorry if you found my original post inflammatory (it has 2 m's)

I really can't understand how the title annoys you - it's a completely open ended phrase - and by itself says nothing unless you choose to attach a particular meaning to it.

Regards

Wolf

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Bert
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 05:37 PM

Well being an American who used to be English, I've been quite enjoying it.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: GUEST,Jimmy
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 06:54 PM

This, from a Canadian newspaper, is worth sharing. 'America: The Good Neighbor. Widespread but only partial news coverage was given recently to a remarkable editorial broadcast from Toronto by Gordon Sinclair, a Canadian television commentator. What follows is the full text of his trenchant remarks as printed in the Congressional Record: "This Canadian thinks it is time to speak up for the Americans as the most generous and possibly the least appreciated people on all the earth. Germany, Japan and, to a lesser extent, Britain and Italy were lifted out of the debris of war by the Americans who poured in billions of dollars and forgave other billions in debts. None of these countries is today paying even the interest on its remaining debts to the United States. When the franc was in danger of collapsing in 1956, it was the Americans who propped it up, and their reward was to be insulted and swindled on the streets of Paris. I was there. I saw it. When earthquakes hit distant cities, it is the United States that hurries in to help. This spring, 59 American communities were flattened by tornadoes. Nobody helped. The Marshall Plan and the Truman Policy pumped billions of dollars into discouraged countries. Now newspapers in those countries are writing about the decadent, warmongering Americans. I'd like to see just one of those countries that is gloating over the erosion of the United States dollar build its own airplane. Does any other country in the world have a plane to equal the Boeing Jumbo Jet, the Lockheed Tri-Star, or the Douglas 10? If so, why don't they fly them? Why do all the International lines except Russia fly American Planes? Why does no other land on earth even consider putting a man or woman on the moon? You talk about Japanese technocracy, and you get radios. You talk about German technocracy, and you get automobiles. You talk about American technocracy, and you find men on the moon -- not once, but several times -- and safely home again. You talk about scandals, and the Americans put theirs right in the store window for everybody to look at. Even their draft-dodgers are not pursued and hounded. They are here on our streets, and most of them, unless they are breaking Canadian laws, are getting American dollars from ma and pa at home to spend here. When the railways of France, Germany and India were breaking down through age, it was the Americans who rebuilt them. When the Pennsylvania Railroad and the New York Central went broke, nobody loaned them an old caboose. Both are still broke. I can name you 5000 times when the Americans raced to the help of other people in trouble. Can you name me even one time when someone else raced to the Americans in trouble? I don't think there was outside help even during the San Francisco earthquake. Our neighbors have faced it alone, and I'm one Canadian who is damned tired of hearing them get kicked around. They will come out of this thing with their flag high. And when they do, they are entitled to thumb their nose at the lands that are gloating over their present troubles. I hope Canada is not one of those." '

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: bbc
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 07:55 PM

Thank you, jimmy. I appreciate you sharing good news.

bbc

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Kelida
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 10:12 PM

This from a young American, who likes to think realistically:

America is one of the better countries, though only (very) arguably the best country in the world, but like any other country, America has its own good and bad points. As a high school student, though, I'm still in the thick of where all the worst problems in America are. Here is an excerpt from an essay I am writing for a project I'm working on with some friends of mine:

"When I was your age. . ." I, for one, am sick of hearing that tired old phrase when it's the beginning of another patronising story about the "good old days." It seems that many, if not most, of our parents' generation(s) don't seem to realise that while they were our age once, we are our age--and times have changed. I suppose in some ways we have the same problems as earlier generations, but at the same time there is something fundamentally different about us. Something in our society has changed, making us almost completely separate from earlier generations. Now, as in no other time period in history, a generation of young people has become painfully self-aware. Yes, Virginia, we are people, too--and now we know it. Our parents had the Summer of Love and the pacifist and feminist movements, but we have a greater fight. This time the fight isn't for any single selective group of people, but for an entire generation of people who have just awakened in a century when the world is supposedly better than ever before, but holds nothing but disillusionment for more then a few people. And who exactly is the world better for? Not for us, certainly, and not for the next generation of youths that are coming quickly in our footsteps. The only people who benefit from American prosperity are the wealthy few who can afford the luxury of personal freedom and the many poor whose freedom is paid for by the government. Our parents remain secret middle-class elitists, hidebound to the bone, for all that their generation was one that affected much change and growth in American society. We, our whole generation, may never have such an opportunity to change things. Now, before most of us reach our majority, the older generations seem bent on signing away our rights before we even have the chance to exercise them. "An ye harm none, do as ye will." This is a good motto to live by, but in an age when personal freedom is quickly evaporating, we don't have the right to do as we will.. Freedom of religion exists--if you're a Christian. We still have freedom of speech--as long as we're alone in a soundproof room. Freedom of expression, our most cherished privilege as Americans, is practically non-existent, as something new is censored every day. Our rights are being pissed away by people who simply don't want the responsibility that comes with freedom. Everything we have been taught shows us in explicit detail that the Bill of Rights is a farce and that "democracy" is only an elaborate facade for American fascism. We are taught from birth that Americans have a moral obligation to spread our lifestyle, culture, government, and economy throughout the world; we are taught that economic imperialism, covert fascism, blatant bigotry, and obvious hypocrisy are OKAY. Much of the world despises Americans as fat, greedy and lazy, or as Americans say: "well-fed," "wealthy", and "leisurely." Euphemisms are what keep America running, and are what keep Americans believing in the illusion of social progress. . . (I'm not finished yet, but this is it for now)

Now don't think I'm being un-American or anything--I love America. On the other hand, though, I see a lot of problems that should never exist. I think though, that the only way for me to help in the fight against many of those problems now is to make sure that other people know about them. Spread the word, so to speak. Maybe I'm not a very good American, but at least I have solutions to problems that don't involve losing the Constitutional rights that I hold very dear, as they represent my entire livelihood as an artist and a writer.

Peace--Keli

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: GUEST,Art
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 10:12 PM

I'm feeling better too. Thanks.

Art Thieme

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 11:09 PM

Boom goes London, and boom Par-ee
More room for you, more room for me
Every city the whole world round
Will just be another all-American town
Oh how peaceful it'll be, we'll set everybody free
You wear a Japanese kimono, be Italian shoes for me
They all hate us anyhow
So let's drop the Big One now
Let's drop the big one now

-Randy Newman

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Liam's Brother
Date: 12 Apr 00 - 11:55 PM

Do Americans realise (or care) about how much most people hate them?
People of many nations have a love-hate relationship with the United States. On one hand, they love certain aspects of American culture (e.g. rock'n'roll, Disney, etc.); on the other hand, they either envy American properity and/or fear American power. I don't think the average American is aware of this love-hate situation and, what they don't know about, they don't care about. The British think that most Americans are stupid...
I don't think the British have a "lock" on intelligence. Traditionally, the educational systems in each country emphasize different things; while both countries "track" students so that they are more likely to stay in the socio-economic strata of their parents, the British do this more effectively. In defense of Americans, at least they do not subject themselves to an heredity monarch who does not even have to pass the "11+ Exam" to be kept in luxury by the State.

Europeans think that Americans are greedy and that they eat far too much.
I would reject any notion that Americans individually or collectively are greedy. Quite to the contrary, Americans, individually, are very generous and, as a nation, have shed blood and given foreign aid money in great quantities. I think that the World's expectations of America are very high. It is clear that the average American eats too much.

Many areas of the world see Americans as being politically agressive.
I think the World would do well to reflect on post World War II Europe and the domination sought by the Soviet Union vs. the restraint shown by the United States.

Most other bits of the world see America as being politically naive.
Is that agressively naive? The United States, blessed with oceans to the East and West, has not had to concentrate on foreign policy quite as hard as some other nations. Does the average American know the difference between Switzerland and Sweden? No.

The feeling 'globally' is that Americans only really care about America.
Dear 'Mr. Global,' People of all nations care most about their own nation... nothing new there!

What's really different about the United States is a) it's made up of people from all over the world and b) most of the American people - or their forebearers - were either chased out of or starved out of the countries that complain about Americans today.

I was not born in the USA. By the time I was 16, I had lived in 4 different countries; by the time I was 32, I had been around the world twice. The last time I was out of the United States was last Friday. These are my thoughts.

All the best (and I mean it),
Dan

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 12:11 AM

Glad to hear it, Art.

Well said, Dan, thank you.

Keli, as an op/ed columnist, may I make a suggestion? Give specific examples of why you make such claims. I am not saying I disagree, just show your readers why you and your fellow students think it is this way. You have some really strong thoughts articulated well, just add to them a bit, eh?*smile*

All the best (I mean it, too!)

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: GUEST
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 12:11 AM

teenagers...get a grip...right now things are really good for very many people...and hopeful for many many more....who are lacking information more than anything else and that is free and more and more available. If you are a teenager, learn a trade. now. in high school. get your friends to learn to weld or learn bookkeeping or carpentry. You won' t starve and your families won't. Speaking of which, don't get pregnant or get someone pregnant too soon. Marry wisely, take continuing education, buy good real estate and you will be fine. Take a percentage of your income and donate it to the Red Cross. Take in foster children. Cut back on the angst. It never did anyone too much good. mg ps stay away from drugs...think happier thoughts...wear more pink and less black.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Mbo
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 12:17 AM

Tell 'em GUEST! Right on!

--Mbo

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Sorcha
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 01:11 AM

Wish I knew which Guest that was, it is Right On!Would like to welcome THAT Guest to the MudCat. Welcome, A Nonny Guest!

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: The Beanster
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 02:21 AM

Keli, you write very well and it's obvious that your views are heartfelt. I know your opinions are based on what you have experienced, of course, and rightly so. In one way, however, I'm disappointed by what you write and in an another, encouraged.

I know that from your viewpoint, things may seem bleak but when I think back to the time I was in high school (oh, here it comes...lol) all the way up until now, I see that real change has taken place. I'm sorry you feel disillusioned because I don't believe you need to feel that way. When I was in high school, we were at war. Older brothers of my friends were dying, one after the other. Adding to that, there was blatant, in-your-face sexism, racism, drug abuse, pollution, crime (Nixon! for Pete's sake!)--plus there was always the threat of nuclear war hanging over our heads. We as young adults felt isolated, powerless and misunderstood, as you evidently, do now. All those things I just mentioned, except for Viet Nam and the Cold War threat still exist, but improvements have been made in a lot of these areas. Those changes don't come easily or quickly, however, and they are hard to discern over a short period of time.

I think perhaps, since you have nothing to compare your current life to (e.g., the past) you lack the perspective that seeing events on a continuum affords--by the way, just as WE did, just as every generation does. Each generation IS isolated and doesn't have the advantage of hindsight--except from second hand sources like me--and I know how tiresome that is! lol

On the brighter side (!), I think it's healthy for younger people to be not satisfied with the status quo. People who don't think things are good enough (like you) are usually the ones who get up off their patooties and find ways to change things for the better. Slow, laborious work, but worth every bit of sacrifice. (Said my piece. Won't preach anymore. Promise.)

I didn't mean to ramble this way, I just

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: The Beanster
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 02:24 AM

I just what??? lolol

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: GUEST,Kelida
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 01:21 PM

I know I don't have a lot to compare my life now to, and I know (god, do I know) that things have definitely been worse before than they are now. I think, however that the thing that bothers me the most is that, although things may be better than ever before, they are still not good. There is a lot of hypocrisy, and there are a lot of people who think that everything is "good enough" and that there is nothing left to strive for. That, more than anything is what I hate, not just everything that is bad in the world, but the fact that people don't really want to bother changing it.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: catspaw49
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 01:42 PM

Hey Kelida.........pssst...Ignore the crap. It isnn't your right to want to improve things,it is your DUTY. Every generation feels much as you do and my only problem with your generation is that there aren't more like you. Kick ass and take names while the energy of youth is upon you. There's time to focus on smaller issues as you age and grow weary......Just do not give up the fight. Sure some things may have improved, but we have to be sure of what we see.......ie, I can make a good argument that racism is far more scary today than it was 35 years ago, glossed over and beautifully covered, but below the surface it feasts and festers.

Change the world .... It is your duty.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Wavestar
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 02:45 PM

Kelida- Don't give up hope yet, for heaven's sake! What makes you think we won't get our chance to change the world? I think we already are.. and I don't plan to stop! Spaw's right, it is our duty, the world is good but it's not enough. Maybe it's getting harder to be a teenager, god alone knows my parents were horrifed by the stuff I faced in high school, but that only means we should fight harder to make it an even better place. All of it- not just our country. The world's getting smaller... and maybe easier to change?

I've learned... cynicism becomes no one.

-J

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Kelida
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 03:11 PM

I'm not trying to be cynical, and I don't think that the fight is hopeless. I just think that there aren't enough people who want to make things better and still allow people to have rights. I see a lot of people trying to change things in the world--really, I do--but they are trying to do it by taking away rights like free speech and press and the right to bear arms, all in the name of increasing safety. I think that if we can convince people that taking away rights is not the way to go about bettering ourselves, then we will be able to REALLY start changing things. Enforce the old laws instead of creating new laws, etc.

Peace--Keli

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Amos
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 03:37 PM

'Spaw,

I echo your very words, man. Well done.

Kelida:

You are putting your finger on the biggest "unseen" issue out there, my friend: the loss of the vision of really generating freedoms. The world has many places where a fire-breathing, honest, articulate, energized Jeffersonian tornado fighting for more liberties could win hearts and influence people. It would not be an easy road, but it sure would move civilization forward a notch. To rekindle the REAL American dream -- which has nothing to do with SUVs and everything to do with the responsible freedoms of humans -- would be as great a service in this century as anyone did fighting for Civil Rights in the Sixties.

Just a thought for your contemplation of a lifetime's business...

Affectionately,

Amos

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Caitrin
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 04:04 PM

I'm with ya, Kelida! There need to be more of us who are willing to speak up and speak out and change things.
Guest, you've got some good points. However, things being good for me, or even for a lot of people, isn't enough. There are other people out there who need help and opportunities. And I don't like pink. : )

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Metchosin
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 04:15 PM

Kelida, it's also known as "I'm all right Jack"

Spaw, your words typify all that I find wonderful and heartening about American culture. Amen. (see cultural differences)

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Wavestar
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 04:15 PM

I'm with you, too, Caitrin... I HATE pink. I do wear black... but it's so... functional? And I don't wear ONLY black!

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: M. Ted (inactive)
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 05:41 PM

Kelida,

Consider yourself lucky indeed to have so many people willing to listen to what you have to say, and are trying to respond to you----these people are not just the run of the mill internet surfers, but have been around for a while, and done quite a bit--If you don't like what they say sometimes, keep in mind that they said it because they take what you have to say seriously--

For my part, I will just point out a few things(like I ever only have a few things to say....!)

The Declaration of Independence lays out a set of ideals, not guarantees--and The Bill of Rights, like most legal documents, are rather vague and subject to interpretation, so don't assume that, because some of the rights seem to be in conflict, that the document is worthless--if it was worthless, there would be no conflict about rights at all--

The world, and particularly America, changes so much, so fast, that no two generations have grown up in the same world for a really long time---don't think that your generation is the first to notice that the older folks are clueless about your world--

Be careful about the assumptions you make about the past--You may know what is happening today, because it is the world you live in--but your understanding of the past really just based on what you read and hear, which is not always 100% accurate--

Pick your fights--everybodies got a hardluck story, everybodies got a worthy cause, and everybodies got a plan--the only thing is that you have to do the math yourself, and figure out if it really adds up to what they say it does--then you've got to figure out if it really makes a difference to you--

And when you toss around words like hypocricy, fascist, elistist--just remember that everybody thinks that they are on right side, even when it is not the same side as you--and they feel the same justification for doing and saying what they do as you do--

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Mbo
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 06:08 PM

"It is time we decide who we are
Do we have to fight for the right to a night at the opera now? Have you asked of yourself, what's the price you might pay
Is it simply a game for rich young boys to play?
The colors of the world are changing day by day
Red...the blood of angry men
Black...the dark of ages past
Red...the world about to dawn
Black...the night that ends at last!"

Lord knows I can't change the world...I am only one person, but I'm using all the power I have to make a difference. Yes, I'm a supporter of "the old values"...but there are some ones we must change as well. Not wanting to turn this into a huge argument, but some of the things you say Kelida, I'm gonna have to disagree with.

The world is not hopeless. I am not an Albigensian, who believed the world is hopeless and evil--if you think so, why don't you just kill yourself if it' so hopeless? THINGS ARE NOT HOPELESS. I know I belong here, and I'm gonna do what I can, make at least my small part of the world a happier place. I'm no radical...no tattoos, no piercings, no black clothes, no angst and anger at the world. Because of these things, I call myself normal, but in this day and age, I'm probably considered a weirdo.

I am an artist, but I DO NOT have this bizarre attitude that most of the other artists have here at my school...I have no "deep internal struggles," I don't make strange art, like some of the slop I see on the walls here. I just make my happy little pieces. Is this weird? Probably. I want to please ME and be creative...I don't want to show the world what a horrible troubled person I am (which I ain't) or what terrile social injustices are happening. I can't do anything about some stuff, and changing my style to show killings in Uganda is NOT going to please me, even if it will give me a better "image" among other artists.

And then there's freedom. Freedom of religion "only if you're Christian" you say. Read the statistics. Christianity is the most persecuted religion in the world. Now even a respectable mention of Christianity is considered taboo, witness "Season's Greetings" instead of "Merry Christmas", people on the news aren't supposed to mention "God", but yet we all are supposed to hoot and holler and learn all we can about Buddhism or Islam (not that I'm against any of them) and how wonderful it is, while we put down our own religion, cast IT aside to make other not feel offended, instead of putting all religions on equal standing.

Freedom of speech. Well, I could go on all day about this one. If you're saying that I can't stand on a soapbox on my college campus and rattle off the injustices to learn, then that's not freedom. But if you're one of these disgusting shock "artists" (an I use the term artist as loosley as possible) who ridicule other's beliefs with elephant dung, or do anything just to get attention is repulsive to me and invalidates the whole concept of art. I wrote 2 papers on this, and I do believe that people should have a right to express themselves as they wish, but using it as a loophole to insult, offend, or hurt others is a travesty. Websites for making bombs on the net is another loophole used in the name of freedom of speech. So is the reviling language that people use today, sure, just be a sporcaccone and spout whatever obscenities you want. Get the little ones hooked too while your at it. So in the future we can all have a common language all made up of profanity while the remnats of real intelligent speech are only a cloud on the edge of memory.

NOTE these are only my opinions. If you stop trying to be an Angry Young Man/Woman and be realistic. No one cares about your angst--everyone else does it so they pass you by. Do the duty you feel with commitment, passion, understanding, and happiness---not with anger and cynicism. All day long I hear people at school--they complain about EVERYTHING! They are SO stuck on the negative it's annoying. You just want to give them all a dopeslap and say JUST BLOODY SHUT UP AND STOP COMPLAINING!! Don't you have a POSITIVE thing to say about anything?! They don't seem to understand that by IMPROVING (acc-entu-ate) the positive, they can reduce the negative.

Man I'm rambling. I just need to get these things out. I am so tired of seeing this hopeless wasteland of depressed youth, who spend more time screaming about the bad and hopeless than actually getting off their can and doing something about it.

FAG AN BEALACH!!!!!

--Mbo (an try wearing something that shows your personality. All black clothes shows me a closeted, gloomy mind--advice--wear plaid!)

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: kendall
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 07:11 PM

Today is Thomas Jeffersons birthday. When he wanted to make a statement he wrote the Declaration of Independence.. When Abraham Lincoln wanted to make a statement he wrote the Gettysburg Address. When Martin Luther wanted to make a statement, he demamded change in the church.. what do kids today do to make a statement?They walk around with the ass of their pants dragging on the ground with a face full of schrapnel pissing and moaning about how life sucks.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: kendall
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 07:14 PM

As far as I'm concerned, Guest Jimmys post should be the last word in this thread. Thank you .

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: GUEST,Hoser
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 07:25 PM

Guest-Jimmy,
Gordon Sinclair has been dead for about 15 years.

Next time, perhaps a more current editorial?

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: M. Ted (inactive)
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 07:36 PM

And how long ago did he write (and record) that charming little nugget? 30 years ago, at least!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Wavestar
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 07:55 PM

Does this make it any less true?

And actually, Kendall, some of us don't. We make statements that don't completely embarass us for the rest of our born days. Well, I make those too, but in COMPLETELY different ways.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Metchosin
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 08:27 PM

Your right M. Ted, Gordon Sinclair, the curmodgeon I loved to hate in my youth, hasn't been with us for awhile.

Seems to me I heard Gordon quoting kendall on today's youth and culture, thirty years ago (they were called dirty fithy hippies then). Sorry kendall, but as a mother and observer of two very socially aware and politically astute daughters and their friends, I have a lot more faith and affection for the youth of today than you seem to have, baggy pants, black clothes and all. Your loss.

Gordon just refused to look at things in a balanced manner, but then again he was somewhat right of Atilla the Hun.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: fox4zero
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 09:04 PM

I think that a major reason for American inaction at home is that AMERICANS DON'T GET ANGRY anymore. They just don't give a sh--! The last time I saw the population of this country really get angry was when the NFL went on strike and families had to actually WALK and TALK together! I think that we are soooo comfortable with our posessions that we are afraid to rock the boat. I remember that when Parisians got pissed-off at the government they would tear up the cobble-stone streets and build barricades with the stones and heave a few through the windows of the local police station. I suspect that was the motivation for the French goverment paving those streets. I don't know the solution. Larry Parish

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Pei T
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 09:25 PM

I know I came upon this thread late, and I'm usually a lurker on the DT (though I've been one for about three years now, off and on).. But I HAVE to say something on this one..

I understand COMPLETELY where Kelida is coming from, but I also kind of agree with Mbo (nice use of gaelic _&_ Les Mis there! :)) My step-mother (a wonderful woman who has put as much emotionally into my upbringing as my biological mother) just turned 60, and often mitches about today's society (mostly those of us under 25) and how "useless" it (they) is (are).

Just a reminder for some of you adults out there. In high school today sex is considered passee (sp?!) pot is an expected at a party, unless the host/ess specifically invites only people s/he knows will not be so interested. What was considered "fringe" when todays college/high school students parents were their age is now considered normal.

We have to open our eyes and loose that wonderful innocence that you expect to see in a 16 year olds face really early. You can't NOT know what's out there anymore (unless you happen to live in THE smallest most innocent town in the world). You have to learn to say NO and say it loud and clear, you have to learn that no matter how much you love him, and how many times he says, "if you love me baby" sex is precious, but can be horrible (mentally/physically/emotionally), even when consenting, if you're not ready. You have to learn all of this, and do it mostly with the help of people who are learning it too, because a lot of parents today (and from what I've read here, this doesn't count for the DT) come home and are too tired and wrapped up in their own lives to listen to their children for 10 minutes. You get burnt out facing those realities when you're in high school. You have enough to deal with!!!

But Kalida, Mbo is right, don't give up hope, and don't be angry just to be angry.. There is so much good that can still be done, and so much wonder still in the world.. "An it harm none.." it's a wonderful phrase, but keep in mind what is often joined with it, the law of three.. If you send out only anger, you get it back, and then some. So be angry that there is hurt, but help. So be angry that there is pain, but heal.

Just my two bits RR

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: kendall
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 10:28 PM

when I was a teen ager, many of my "peers" were boozers. They combed their hair in the shape of a ducks ass, they wore leather jackets with studs, and, a bike chain, they all smoked and generally followed the crowd like a bunch of lemmings. I smoked, but, that was all I did. Things havn't changed that much have they? By the way, I have a 13 year old grand daughter, and, a 15 year old grand son. They both have this annoying habit of saying "like" every 3 or 4 words. Otherwise, they are both gifted. one near genius class.(Also, they dont look like they dressed in the dark inside a Salvation Army collection box either)

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Petr
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 11:02 PM

The scene: a little coffe shop in the Connemara countryside. The time: last August.

Here we are enjoying a pot of tea and nice break from the long drive when a couple of tourists enter. Do you have any real coffee here? I mean coffee from real beans. ... Do you have a hard time understanding me? he goes on to order a coffee for his friend in the bathroom. Do you have any decaiffenated coffee. I mean decaf. coffee from real beans! the conversation continues for about 5min. and I have to say the girl working in the coffeshop handles it very well. The two Italians beside us are killing themselves laughing at the ugly american who is totally oblivious. My companion, (american as well, although currently residing in Canada) instantly places him in California which is confirmed later by his conversation. Not that we were eavesdropping but it was so LOUD we couldnt help but overhear. Once again he gets up and says to the girl, Ok I know that was difficult but heres another one for you. (pulls out a map) Where the hell are we? (I was hoping shed tell him some place else).

THe scene: a session in Miltown Malbay, after an enjoyable session I chat with a local fiddle player and find out he was originally from Tennesse. A really nice guy. Came over years ago because he was really into the music. A beautiful obsession he calls it and I know exactly what he means.

You get all kinds.

He who likes to generalize, generally lies.

BUT then again, when I lived in a gaijin house in TOkyo I could immediately spot the americans they all talked so loud, all the canadians were quiet and polite. the aussies and kiwis hated each other and drank like fish. in short we all lived up to our stereotypes. Although the assholes and decent people were evenly distributed through all the nationalities.

Oh and that business about America saving everyones ass in wwII. From the point of view of casualties suffered the war was primarily between Russia and Germany. the USSR suffered about 100 times the losses of the US and the germans were in full retreat on the eastern front when the US entered. Not to belittle any lives lost but lets put history in perspective.

I think there is a certain global resentment of MCculture at the expense of everyone else. here in Canada we are inundated with American TV and Magazines but we have our own identity and when people asked me in SCotland which part of the states I was from. I replied from canada actually and I really do like this part of England by the way. Peace Petr.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Metchosin
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 11:02 PM

kendall, when my daughter entered Junior High, after a couple of weeks, she started frequenting the Sally Ann for the overlarge, gender neutral, clothes and took up the skateboard and bass guitar with a passion.

I got a little concerned with the dress until she said to me one day, "Mom, I don't want to grow up yet, I still want to be a kid".

The clothes eventually changed towards the last year of highschool, she eventually gave up the skateboard, won a rarely awarded gold medal for her bass playing in the Coastal Jazz Festival, (and still plays bass in an alternative/punk band by the way), found her way to the Honour Roll and eventually found her way to the opposite sex, but in her own time.

What you might have missed kendall, by being a couple of years older than me, (I straddled both youth cultures, the Greaser and Hippy) was that the Hippie generation's clothes culture, really brought home to us that what you see is not necessarily what you get.

Youth has been doing this since the time of the Romans and Greeks. It is a necessary part of human development.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Metchosin
Date: 13 Apr 00 - 11:11 PM

oh yeah, and while I'm still in proud Mom mode, she eventually went on to win second place in British Columbia, for her animated short film, depicting man's hubris with regard to rampant technology.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: ceitagh
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 12:02 AM

Whoa.....when I wasn't looking this turned into a thread about angst and the fate of the world! One of my favorite topics, actually, or at least it used to be.
I don't want to side with anybody, since I did my own "look how the world sucks, the youth are being screwed, etc." not that long ago...I went on a two week exposure tour to Mexico and came back a radical- since I'd been there, I felt I knew something about what was going on...then i realised everybody (from both sides) was feeding me a line and got angsty about that....then I got paranoid about the press and the absolute impossibility of anyone anywhere being impartial....then I woke up and realised I really can't know what is best for the world or do anything to save the world on a global level. I will never have enough trustworthy information. On the local level tho, there are a million things to do, starting with becoming the best person I can be, and doing what I can to be a positive influence on whoever I meet. This doesn't mean I wouldn't picket for a good cause, but it means it takes a lot more to convince me a cause is good.
Meebs wrote a good post above...he is obviously a little tired of the stuff he hears from his fellow students, and I can understand totally where he's coming from. And you're right about a lot of stuff, Mbo(IMHO). But give the angsty art students a chance...'cause some of them will have something really worth saying, however they choose to say it, and some of the slop on the walls will have come from a lot of thot and life experiences....but you can't tell 'til you ask. Personally I think pants hanging off someone's ass is unattractive and kinda dumb...but the statement made by a persons clothes doesn't always reflect accurately the human being within. I wore black from grade 8 to grade 11.

Pax,
Ceitagh
(btw...gotta love those americans...if it weren't for american tv, where would I see all those great canadian actors?)

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: GUEST,mary g not really a guest just a new acct.
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 12:36 AM

well here are some more thoughts if you want to save the world. which you should, and if the military conflicts can be stopped, the rest is comparatively a cakewalk....

first of all, make sure that you are not going to be a burden to the world through any irresponsible acts, such as o.d. ing on drugs, having babies that you personally cannot take care of (both mother and father) etc. Have ways of supporting youselves and your offspring and hopefully your aging parents. You can do this by going to your community college and financial aid is available.

Now, to save the world...in America we have too much stuff in some places, too little in others...in developing countries there is often too little period...we grind ours up and put it in landfills. not smart....what you, I will call you Generation T for Transportation, should do is figure out how to get stuff from point A to point B following a flood, hurricane, war, etc. There should be regular routes..maybe by train..going up and down the coast from Canada to Mexico, filling up with clothes and refrigerators and especially old computers...there should be ways to quickly mobilize stuff and personnel to places facing crises....think about refrigerated transport while you are at it..especialy for medicines and vaccines..

well Generation T there is your challenge....

mg

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Mbo
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 12:46 AM

Ceit, that is why the angsty "typical" troubled artist stuff will sell, and my stuff will be ignored. That is why I'm majoring in Graphic Design...I am not a fine artist. I don't have the mindset to be a fine artist--I'm much more at home just creating for fun. You can bet yer sweet bippy that Picasso wasn't having fun when he painted Guernica (which I don't particularly like)--that's what makes me different...weird...take your pick of words. BTW my pants are falling off, only because I've lost 15lbs in the last 2 months, and now they're all too big...and when you can't find yer belt...spells big trouble! Actually I DO own 2 articles of black clothing, my POW/MIA shirt & my prized Hootie & The Blowfish shirt. Black, but positive!

--Mbo

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 01:40 AM

I have worn black for years AND baggy, cotton clothes, for comfort; learned a long time ago not to care what others thought of how I dressed.

When my son was an angst-ridden teen, we lived in Northampton, Massachusetts, home of Smith College and a lot of radical happenings. It was a ripe environment for activism of all kinds, mostly liberal. We all loved it. He rebelled enough to die his hair black, wear all black, never wash his clothes (by then I wans't doing anybody's laundry but my own), create some really dark art, and did a bunch of other stuff I will never know about. He looked like a juvenile delinquent and I didn't feel I even knew who he was. Dropped out of high school, stomped into the house in the middle of the night, made it through suicidal depression when his first real love, an older "Smithie", dumped him, got put on probation for a fight with a guy who jumped him at a punk concert. Oh, and wore a T-shirt for the "Cramps"!

When we moved to Connecticut, he'd just turned 17 and as we drove off with the moving truck, he stood in the middle of our street, with a small bundle of belongings and nowehere to live, with no job. He didn't want to abide by our household rules, so he was on his own.

In a couple of weeks, he will turn 30 (I can hardly believe it!) He got his GED, rode it out and survived. Worked up from being a dishwasher, crashing at friends' apartments to building manager of a wonderful old historic building in Noho where Calvin Coolidge used to have a law office. Went on to love a Smithie grad, who moved to Kentucky with him five years ago. He now is a manager for a company which owns hundreds of property units in Louisville; owns two homes; and is supporting his mate while she gets a doctorate, then will probably go back to school himself.

he has not given up on the dreams of his teen years, the desire to make a difference. I believe he's found more effective ways and know him to be a kind and gentle soul who is making a difference, in his community, among his friends and family. Heck, he's even gotten *wise* enough to counsel ole' Mom a time or two.

So, what I am trying to say is, don't lose hope, don't judge a book by its cover, and know that it never has to be an "either or" situation; there is always a third or fourth, or fifth way to see things, do things, effect things. Above all keep talking and writing; singing and painting.

katlaughing

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: kendall
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 08:27 AM

I dont object to being different. I have always been different. What I object to, is they all wear the same clothes to "fit in". well, so do sheep and lemmings.

This culture thing..10 years ago, I had a friend from New York, (New Rochelle) who toured Scotland with me. She irritated me often by drinking too much, being loud (not belligerent, just loud) and the last straw was when she wanted to buy something in a little shop, and, in a voice that the proprietor could hear, asked me "How much is that in "real" money?" I love Scotland, and the Scots, so, this really pissed me off. By the time I got her home, I was glad to see her back.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Little Neophyte
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 08:53 AM

Kendall, maybe your friend was just being herself and the Scots in that little Scottish shop appreciated some spice thrown into their work day.
There can be an appreciation of people from different cultures with different characters, especially colorful characters that may offer a contrast to the predictable routine of our daily existance.

Little Neo

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Mbo
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 10:17 AM

All I need is a kilt to wear to school...then I'd be REALLY cool!

--Mbo

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: MMario
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 10:19 AM

This thread hit home to me today, as last night I learned that an older relative passed away in the hospital. Cousin Laura wasn't particularly close, but she was a favorite relative - when I was young, and as I grew older, because she was different. Among the staid new england family members she stood out like a flamboyant "Auntie Mame".

It was not that anything she did was totaly off the wall - but more that she allowed herself to enjoy life, without caring about what society thought about her. Yet at the same time, a most loving, giving and compassionate women. She has left a legacy behind, of stories and laughter that will continue for at least a few more generations....

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Hyperabid
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 10:21 AM

Sympathies and Condolences MM...

Hyp

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: Metchosin
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 11:31 AM

kendall, we all wear clothes for purposes other than protecting ourselves from the elements, primarily as subtle or not so subtle "tribal" signals. Uniforms that conform with our occupation, clothes to attract or repel the opposite sex, clothes that say I fit in with this group or conversely, I am trying not to fit in with any group. My point is this: our "fashion statements" whether they are concious or not, are endemic and not just the perrogative of youth.

Mbo, careful with the kilt laddie, one of my daughters friends did that, a few years back. Well perhaps he went to extremes, he also wore a plain skirt to school with his "army" boots, for a couple of days as well, for a hoot. It resulted in a severe beating by a "jock". You're probably a little safer from exteme reactions to extreme clothing in an institute of higher learning though.

Subject: RE: BS: Do Americans know II
From: M. Ted (inactive)
Date: 14 Apr 00 - 12:40 PM

MMario--

Life is too short--and these wonderful people in our families, that we loved as children and grew away from--one day. they are just not there anymore--Leaving us just a few pictures, and a few memories--

Everything that everyone says here suddenly seems trite, and unimportant--

For all of you young ones, out to change the world, don't forget to stay in touch with Uncle John, and Gramma Cora, and Pop-pop Emil, and Cousin Laura, because one day, they'll be gone, and the memories will be all that you have...