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Subject: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Wesley S Date: 26 Dec 00 - 11:55 AM I can't tell you how much I appreciate all of the messages, prayers and candles sent our way. It's made a most difficult time a little easier. Our son Patrick died in our arms a week ago today at 5:30 AM. His little body put up a grand fight but it just wasn't meant to be. He got the very best of care fron his team of doctors but there are some things that medicine can't do. It was our very first time to hold him after his birth. We let him know that it was time for him to let go and stop fighting. We also informed Patrick that we expected him to be the guardian angel for his brother Brendan and that Brendan would need his very special help from now on. As you can imagine this is the toughest thing Bretta and I have ever faced. We had a beautiful memorial service/celibration last Friday afternoon. One of our very good friends Rev Linda McDermott led a touching service of songs and stories. My friend Jack sang a medley of "Precious Lord Take My Hand" and "Jesus Won't You Come By Here". Then Linda's husband Tom McDermott sang an irish lullaby that included Brendans name. The group I sing with The Crossroad Singers finished the service with "May The Lord Bless You And Keep You" followed by "Go Tell It On The Mountain". We also included the one bedtime story that I read to Patrick called "Old Turtle". We've been surrounded by love and care while we've been walking this road. Our family, our church family, and both of our offices , not to mention you guys have just been great. We'll have to deal with this hour by hour and we realize there will be some emotional land mines to deal with in the future. But we have an excellent support group to help us get through this time. Eveyone asks us what they can do for us. Give blood. Patrick used up quite a bit of it the short time he was here and with New Years Eve just a few days away the hospital in your town is going to need it. We were also touched to find out that Linda is setting up a fund to make a stained glass window that will be a tribute to Partick. It will be installed in the chapel when they complete the expansion of the mission at our church. It houses an infant formula program, food bank, clothing bank ect. They also plan to hold 12 step meetings there. I'll be helping to get those started. On the other hand Brendan is doing just great. He'll be coming home in about two weeks. He's almost four pounds now. My wife nicknamed him Mr Magoo but his wrinkles are starting to fill out. I've changed two poopy diapers so far - just 500,000 more to go. He has the most beautiful tiny sneezes and yawns. We were able to spend three hours on Christmas just holding and loving him. He is an incredible blessing to us. We are determined to not let Patrick's death be "the elephant in the living room". We will deal someday with a suitable explanation for Brendan about these events. In the meantime I'll get the wonderful opportunity to sing lullabies to my son. Suggestions welcomed - especially Irish ones. Thanks again for your support my friends - but it's time to blow out those candles. Wesley |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: wysiwyg Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:08 PM Wesley, and Bretta, Our hearts have been burning for you all, and I know that this will continue... the candles have been as much for you and Bretta and Brendan as for Patrick. Please call upon any of us at any time for any support you need. I'll send you a note in e-mail so you'll know how to get hold of me if you need to... to brag about dear Brendan or cut another chunk of grief off to chew. God bless you all, dear, and thank you for letting us know about the loveliness of Patrick's passing as well as the hurts. All His Love-- ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Ebbie Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:12 PM I weep for you and smile, too. I love your imagery and believe it too- he's not far away. May blessings be poured upon you. Ebbie |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: katlaughing Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:13 PM Oh, Wes, thank you so much for letting us know. I am so sorry it turned out this way, but it sounds as though you are doing a beautiful job of it and Brendan will be the better for it. How wise and wonderful you've been in helping Patrick to let go and how difficult it must be. Good to know you have a good support system there. If you'd like to PM me your email addy, I've a couple of lullys my mom used to sing to me, one of them Irish. I'd be happy to send you a midi. In sorrow mixed with elation for "Sneezy", with care and love, kat |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: annamill Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:15 PM I'm so sorry Wesley. You and Bretta have my tears and my love. I know having Brendan to love will help. Love, annamill |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Sorcha Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:17 PM Oh Wes, I am so sorry. Your attitude is wonderful, hope you can keep it up. Don't forget to include Patrick in Brendan's life as he grows older..........Patrick, you go on home, now, and come back some better time. We all love you, and will pray for your peace. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Morticia Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:17 PM Wes and Bretta, thank you for letting us know and my heartfelt sorrow at your loss.This happened to a friend of mine a few years ago and I know the strange mixture of heart break and joy you must be experiencing.I was certain little Carrie's twin was with her, I could always feel her in the room and I am certain that Patrick will always be with Brendan.My dearest love to all of you and please, let me know if there is anything at all we can do for you. I'm not going to blow my candle out tonight....I will keep it lit one more night and sing all the lullabies I know for Patrick and Brendan. with love and sympathy Terri |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: kendall Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:26 PM He did not die..he only moved to the next level. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: SINSULL Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:28 PM Bless you all. This is a strange mixture of joy and sorrow. Keep both your children close. And love each other. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: wysiwyg Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:32 PM As some of you know, I was invovled with Red Cross for the last three years and I would like to add a word about donating blood, at least in the USA. In the USA, the Red Cross covers about half of the blood supply and may be the ONLY place to donate in your area. You can find a donation site near you by calling: 1-800-GIVE LIFE. To donate, you must be in good general health, weigh at least 105 (or 110) lbs (they keep changing it), and have not given for at least 56 days. There are some medications that disqualify you from giving, but these change often too and although you may have been deferred in the past, you may be able to give now. Call ahead once you get the donation site info and ask about your meds. You might be surprised what you can be taking, and still give. Blood IS always in short supply around the holidays due to poor weather canceling drives or limiting turnout, the crazy busyness of blood donors like the rest of us, and the increased need due to accidents and other holiday stressors. The good news is, blood is shipped where it is needed, when supplies are low. So you can help where you are, knowing that it will go where it is needed most. And you cannot get AIDS from donating-- it is safe and more painless than a blood test, because these nurses who stick you are REALLY GOOD. And afterwards you can visit with other donors as you munch cookies and share a bit of why you are donating... it's good to talk about this, you know. Some of you will not be able to donate, and this means you have an extremely powerful opportunity-- you non-donors can be the best possible recruiters of other donors, because you are so motivated. Each unit of blood is processed, broken down, to be able to save up to four lives-- just think the impact you can have. And although it can take time to set up a new blood drive, MANY workplaces can support in-house drives with a bit of planning. Memorial drives are a regular feature of some workplaces. Finally, another powerful opportunity to increase the blood supply belongs to you each time you perform. Use that microphone to tell about Wes, the Mudcat, Patrick, and the importance of donating blood. ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Sorcha Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:53 PM I can't give anymore, heart probs and meds, but Mr. gives every time he is allowed. Will do what I can, in Patrick's name....... |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Dave (the ancient mariner) Date: 26 Dec 00 - 12:56 PM I'm so sorry about Patrick. Brendan (the navigator) will be piloted by a special angel called Patrick. Yours, with heartfelt condolences Aye. Dave |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Rick Fielding Date: 26 Dec 00 - 01:08 PM Dear Wesley and Bretta. Our deepest condolences. Rick and heather |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Dave (the ancient mariner) Date: 26 Dec 00 - 01:09 PM Though sad fate our lives may sever Parting will not last forever There's a hope that leaves me never All through the night |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Llanfair Date: 26 Dec 00 - 01:11 PM I'm so sorry to hear the news about Patrick, and my best wishes go to Brendan and his mum and dad. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: GUEST,Mary in Kentucky Date: 26 Dec 00 - 01:12 PM Wes and Bretta, I'm so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort among all your friends and feel the love that can lighten your burdens. Mary |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Mrs.Duck Date: 26 Dec 00 - 01:34 PM We share in your sadness at the loss of Patrick and share in your joy that Brendan is doing so well. The candles that have been burning all week have lit a flame in all our hearts and none of us will ever forget little Patrick. Our love to you Bretta and Brendan Jane and Geoff |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Bill in Alabama Date: 26 Dec 00 - 01:36 PM Bretta, Wes-- Anne and I send our prayers and thoughts to you during this time of loss. I shall think of you both often in days to come. Bill Foster |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Micca Date: 26 Dec 00 - 01:47 PM I am truly sorry for your loss. i am not eligible for blood donoring, but i will hector others into doing so...Thanks for letting us know... the candle will remain alight for those in need... |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: JedMarum Date: 26 Dec 00 - 02:06 PM So sad for your loss, but happy for your start with Brendan. May his life, growth and welfare quickly overshadow your loss, and may he always know the face of his guardian angel. I will be donating blood this month in memorium for Patrick. Love and best wishes to you and Brendan's Mom! |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: KT Date: 26 Dec 00 - 02:09 PM Dear Wes and Bretta, I have been holding your babies and all of you in my heart. I am so sorry about your loss of Patrick. May the love that's being sent your way bring you some measure of strength and support. My candle is still burning, for both of you and little Brendan, and for dear Patrick who is surely not far away.
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: McGrath of Harlow Date: 26 Dec 00 - 02:14 PM We're so sorry to hear about Patrick, and at the same time happy that things seem to be going well for Brendan. It must be such a strange mixture of feelings for Bretta and Wesley to hold at the same time, and desperately hard.
I opened a book of lullabies on my shelf, and the first I read was this Polish one:
Go to sleep, my little son, it's time now,
Sleep, my little son, the sun has gone from the day,
And here is a prayer or a song I found in another book from the Irish, with the heading "Patrick sang this"
May thy holy angels, O Christ, son of the living God,
Let them reveal true visions to us in our sleep,
May no demons, no ill, no calamity or terrifying dreams May our watch be holy, our work, our task, Our sleep, our rest without let, without break. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: KathWestra Date: 26 Dec 00 - 02:16 PM Dear Wesley, What a season of joy and sorrow for you, Bretta, and your family. I grieve with you at the loss of your little Patrick; you and all of us had so much hope for him. But I rejoice at Brendan's progress, and that he has such wise and gentle and strong parents. Love to all of you at this holiday season. May the turning year bring comfort, new joys, and renewed hope. Kathy |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Fortunato Date: 26 Dec 00 - 02:39 PM I'm sorry to hear of your loss, Wesley. And I'm very glad to know Brendan is well. I'll be thinking of you and your family, all the best. Chance |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: mousethief Date: 26 Dec 00 - 02:40 PM Condolences, prayers, and tears for the loss of Patrick. I truly believe he is not far off, but having lost a child myself (2 actually) it is hard to always remember that. Take especially good care of Bretta, and remember that the two of you will grieve differently, and at different rates, and that doesn't mean that either of you loves Patrick less. Best wishes and prayers for a long, healthy, and happy life for little Brendan. A heart full of love from Seattle. Alex |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Lonesome EJ Date: 26 Dec 00 - 02:42 PM Wes,its hard to come up with the proper words when you have gained and lost so much in so short a time.Give Brendan and extra hug and kiss for me. lej |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Dave the Gnome Date: 26 Dec 00 - 02:53 PM I think it has all been said before, much better than I can say it. I love the analogy with moving onto another level as I always like the one about the ship moving over the horizon. Just because we cannot see it anymore doesn't mean it's not there! I also offer the advice of trying a bottle of any fine single malt for when the pain is worse. It helps more than you think and even the hangover serves to remind us that the pain is only temporary. Sincere condolences, Wes and family. Dave the Gnome |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Peter T. Date: 26 Dec 00 - 02:53 PM I am very sorry to hear of your loss, and wish you love and strength. yours, Peter T. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Jon Freeman Date: 26 Dec 00 - 03:05 PM I'm so sorry Wes and Bretta, Jon |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Wesley S Date: 26 Dec 00 - 03:06 PM And would you believe that the guy at the shop tells me that it will cost $1,900 dollars to fix my car?? The one I paid $5,000 for. Please don't tell me that bad things happen in three's. I've got to just laugh this one off. And Dave - about the single malt - my AA group would frown on that { I'm 7 years clean and sober }. I know you meant well but according to AA "If you have a problem - take a drink - then you'll have two problems". Thanks anyway. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: sophocleese Date: 26 Dec 00 - 03:07 PM I'll echo Peter T's wish for love and strength to you and Bretta. Brendan is lucky to have you as parents. Sophocleese |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Naemanson Date: 26 Dec 00 - 03:10 PM I just got home, shared a late Christmas with my kids, and came up to find tha patrick lost his fight. I'm so sorry. I can't see the keyuboiard |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Quincy Date: 26 Dec 00 - 03:15 PM Safe in the arms of Jesus, safe on His gentle breast There by His love o'ershaded, sweetly my soul shall rest.
You can be assured of prayers and deepest condolences at this time.
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Naemanson Date: 26 Dec 00 - 03:16 PM I'm better now. Please accept my good wishes and support. Brendan has a lot of life to live now and will do so with Patrick watching over his shoulder. Good luck to all. Please let us know when you both get a full night's sleep... |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Parson Date: 26 Dec 00 - 03:26 PM Wes, I haven't posted before about Patrick, but I've been reading the threads daily. (Sometimes, several times a day.) My wife & I have also had a similar, (but in many ways different) experience. But close enough that we can say that we understand something of what you feel. Looking back on that event now, some 16 years later, the thing I remember most is that despite all the grief, confusion, anger, etc, I was constantly aware of God's love. May it be so for you & your good lady. We care very much for your loss. Now, as to lullabies, don't lock yourself in too much with those. As a father of 4 I can tell you that none of my children responded to them at all. But they went to sleep almost every night, lying on my chest as I sang cowboy songs to them (Nope, I'm from the Southeast & have never lived in the West.) But especially, "I Ride An Old Paint," and "O Bury Me Not On The Lone Prairie." Don't ask me why. I don't have a clue. But it only took a couple of verses & despite my terrible singing voice, they would be asleep. Give Brendon a hug from us. Randall |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: dwditty Date: 26 Dec 00 - 03:30 PM Wesley, Patrick's death is a sad loss for you and Bretta, and for all those around you. Some comfort may come from the fact that his short life touched so many all around the world. I am sure that I am not alone in saying that his passing is a great personal loss for us here at the Mudcat. I, too, would be looking to my church and my faith to find comfort. I am glad that you have such strong support there. The human spirit is truly resilient, and that comes through in your expression of love for Brendan. He is so blessed to have parents of such fine character. We salute his arrival, and I will keep a candle lit tonight in celebration of him. God Bless you all. dw |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Jeri Date: 26 Dec 00 - 03:39 PM Wes, I'm so sorry you lost Patrick, but I'm glad you have Brendan to hold. It must be a terrible thing to have such strong emotions going in two opposite directions. Hot chocolate works too...and get a second opinion on the car. I'll join Peter T and Sophocleese in wishing you love and strength.
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: catspaw49 Date: 26 Dec 00 - 03:41 PM Dear Wesley and Bretta.......... As you know I'm rarely without words, but what is in my heart for you I cannot express. You have carried on far better than I can say and I am glad for the support group you have around you there at this time. A Guardian Angel huh? That's a great job and one I know Patrick will fulfill. Karen and I continue to send our best for all of you and some special love for Brendan. I cannot know how the future will turn out for him but I can tell he has very special parents and no young man can ask more. I know it was not easy to come back and tell us this news, but know too that you have friends here and we care very much. As things move along we expect you to be here with us as before........Good times and bad, it is all a part of this community too, and we care for our own as best we can. Much Love To You All, Pat and Karen |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: MudGuard Date: 26 Dec 00 - 04:08 PM It is very hard for me to express my feelings - and even harder to do it in a foreign language - but I will try! It is a strange thing - although I do not know you I had tears flowing down my face when I read about Patrick! May God bless Brendan and Bretta and Wesley! And may Patrick be a good Guardian Angel! My thoughts are with you Andreas from Munich, Germany (who is usually known as MudGuard, but there are times when I don't want to "hide" behind a nickname) |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: jaze Date: 26 Dec 00 - 04:41 PM I'm so very very sorry for your loss. But know that the candles may go out but our prayers will continue... |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Cobble Date: 26 Dec 00 - 05:40 PM We are so sorry to hear of your loss. The night is not so dark now -there is a new star in the skies -a star that wasn't there before; and if it lacks size it is intense. What wise man would not follow its blaze? By Fearghas MacFhionnlaigh (English translation from Gaelic) Brian and Margaret |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 26 Dec 00 - 05:53 PM Dear Wes, I am so, so sorry, and yet so glad that you still have a wee one to love and snuggle. I know that you will hold him close, watch him grow, and think all the time of his brother beside him, watching too. Blessings on you all. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Helen Date: 26 Dec 00 - 06:23 PM Now that I have stopped crying over my keyboard I can type again. I posted two really beautiful Welsh lullabies in the birth announcement thread.
They are both beautiful blessings on Brendan and they both mention angels watching over him so Patrick is there in both songs too.
All Through The Night
Sleep, my child, and peace attend thee
from Suo Gân:
Why have you just started smiling,
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Smile in peace upon my bosom http://www.mudcat.org/thread.cfm?threadid=28749&messages=103#360139 Love and light and candles for you all. Helen |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Clifton53 Date: 26 Dec 00 - 06:43 PM My deepest condolences for you and your family Wes. God bless. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: jeffp Date: 26 Dec 00 - 07:04 PM Our deepest condolences on your loss of Patrick, coupled with our joy at Brendan's birth. You and your family are in our thoughts this night. Jeff and Bonnie Porterfield |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: alison Date: 26 Dec 00 - 07:18 PM everyone else has said it so well..... I am so sorry about Patrick, but yet pleased that Brendan is doing so well....... my love and prayers for you all slainte alison |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Nynia Date: 26 Dec 00 - 08:04 PM Like Alison just said, there is not much that I can say that's not already been posted,the only thing that I CAN add is to say how lucky Brendan is to have such a loving family to grow up in. Nynia |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: GUEST,Noreen (at my sister's) Date: 26 Dec 00 - 08:31 PM Feeling very deeply for you, Wesley and Bretta. If even a fraction of the intensity of feeling that has passed continuously around the world since we heard of the birth of Brendan and Patrick, has reached you, you will feel supported and loved. And this will continue. Noreen For the sake of completeness, and for future reference: Smith Twins Birth Announcement |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Ribbit Date: 26 Dec 00 - 08:53 PM My prayers, thoughts and tears are with you at this very difficult time. I wish that I was better with words like so many of you are. Thom M |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Ma-K Date: 26 Dec 00 - 09:32 PM Wes So sorry. You will never forget Patrick, and you will see him again. Another thing to make Heaven more beautiful.....Mary |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: CarolC Date: 26 Dec 00 - 11:01 PM Wesley, I can't begin to tell you how profoundly sorry I am for your loss. The loss of a child is a terrible thing. It's good that your little Brendan will have such a fine guardian angel to look after him. I send my best thoughts and wishes to you, Bretta, and Brendan. I hope you all recieve whatever comfort and healing you need to help you get through this difficult time. Carol |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: roopoo Date: 27 Dec 00 - 03:06 AM I am so sad to hear the news. I've had to let the tears dry before attempting this. Our Rector has often talked about people he has attended having a "good death". Patrick's was such, peacefully, in the proper place: in the arms of his mum and dad with God so close. I will continue to pray for all of you. I saw an epitaph recently, that of young girl actually, but the words seem somehow right: "Budded on earth to bloom in heaven". The candle was lit in church on Sunday, and I spoke to the presiding minister about Patrick. I will let him know what has happened: he is the Anglican chaplain of a big local hospital, and will understand what has been happening. Andrea |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Mark Cohen Date: 27 Dec 00 - 03:48 AM Wes and Bretta, warm hugs from the tropics. I have seen many babies and children die, and have lost a father. But I still can't imagine how big the hurt must be, even though you'd only known Patrick for a few short months, and only seen him for a handful of days, and only held him for brief minutes. As you grieve, and as you nurture your new life, allow yourselves to feel the warmth and love and caring of your friends and family nearby, and those in this far-flung community as well. Brendan will grow up in good hands: yours, theirs, and Patrick's. Aloha, Mark |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Tony in Sweden Date: 27 Dec 00 - 06:30 AM Dear Wesley & Bretta, There's not much that one can think of to say at this moment in time, except that my wife and I send our prayers, love and wishes to you both. Although I never posted to the earlier thread,you have been in our thoughts and prayers as my wife is currently pregnant with our second child, due in may, and it has benn discovered that there are copmlications with the kidneys and heart. To Patrick, may you be filled with the fighting spirit that your brother showed in his short time here on earth. I lost my twin brother 18 years ago on our 17th birthday, but everyday I feel his presence around me. It's a beautiful and wonderful feeling. God Bless you all. Tony & Stina. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: GUEST Date: 27 Dec 00 - 09:25 AM For UK 'catters, The National Blood Service website provides info on donor sessions in your local area. I've been meaning to start donating again, and this is a good reason to do so. Noreen |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: GUEST,Big Mick Date: 27 Dec 00 - 11:46 AM Wes & Bretta, Although nothing can take away the pain of Patrick's loss, you should know that your song has helped me. I am dealing with some things just now that are a bit tough. But I have watched this song unfold, and it has shown me what uncommon grace, wisdom, and strength look like. While I choose not to go into detail, let it suffice to say that you have helped me find a path that I must pass along on. Thank you. With regard to young Patrick, I have expressed HERE my feelings on it. But there is a custom I have followed that may help. When I lose a precious voice in my life, I begin to listen for that voice in others. You may find it in Brendan, or another, but Patrick's voice is there for you. You may hear it in other children that need your special brand of love. It may come in the cry for your wisdom from one who is sorting out their own problems. Listen for it, respond, and you will never be without your precious son. I grieve with you and I celebrate that short, very special life with you. Mick |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: CamiSu Date: 27 Dec 00 - 11:46 AM Wesley & Bretta The candles in our hearts won't go out, as the ones in yours will also stay lit forever. Many blessings on you all, and may Patrick's presence always be a comfort to Brendan. And Tony & Stina- Blessings on you for the health of you soon to arrive child, as well for your losses, Tony. CamiSu |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Susan from California Date: 27 Dec 00 - 01:26 PM Wesley, You and your family will continue to be in our prayers. If you haven't already, see if your community has a chapter of Compassionate Friends. They are a support group that was very helpful to my sister when her first child died being born. Your pastor or people at the hospital should be able to connect you. Can you share with us how to make a donation for the stained glass window? I am sure I am not the only person who would be honored to send a check. Sue |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Wesley S Date: 27 Dec 00 - 01:47 PM Thanks Susan - Since you've asked the person to send it to would be Rev. Linda McDermott c/o First United Methodist Church of Ft Worth - 800 West 5th Street Ft Worth Texas 76102. There's no official name for the fund that I know of but just let her know what it's for. I could be wrong but I think your check would be tax deductable. Thankyou. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Extra Stout Date: 27 Dec 00 - 09:56 PM Dear Wes and Bretta, Condolences and congratulations. I can't support it by any scripural logic, but I believe that Patrick still loves you, just as Brendan does. Love, Marty |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Extra Stout Date: 27 Dec 00 - 10:06 PM I won't blow out the candle. It will keep burning to symbolize our prayers for you, Bretta and Patrick. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: GUEST,Den at work Date: 28 Dec 00 - 10:25 AM Dear Wes, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Andrea and I lost a little boy who would have been 10 next May 12th. I can only tell you from experience that time is a healer. I don't know you but you strike me as being a strong person. Spend some extra time with your wife through this troubled time, these things are especially hard on the mothers for they suffer in their coming and their going. You will draw strength from each other. But you now have an angel on earth and one in heaven to look out for you. A special little voice in God's right ear when you need it. Den |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: Megan L Date: 28 Dec 00 - 11:09 AM Wesley whatever the age it is never easy to say goodbye. 21st November my Dad (92) went in his sleep, 21st December David's (my husband)Mum (79)went after a stroke, today was her funeral. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family, hold on to each other, you are precious people. M. |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: bydand Date: 30 Dec 00 - 07:02 PM Dear Wes and Bretta: Our sympathy and condolences to you both. We have been following this thread since it began, and hope that you have been helped by all of the kind thoughts, prayers and words of encouragement. We lost our first son many years ago when he was less than a week old, and those were indeed difficult times; especially for my wife. So, yes, do spend extra time with Bretta. One additional thought! The many kind words, hugs and warm hearts are much like a wonderful meal. You WILL be hungry again. So, do not hesitate to reach out for a listening ear, word of encouragement or asking for prayer. It is not a sign of weakness to ask for assistance, again and again; as healing takes time. God bless you both. -charles & jill |
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Subject: RE: Thanks to all of you from Wesley From: GUEST,guinnesschik, (cookiless for the time being) Date: 31 Dec 00 - 12:32 AM Wes, so sorry about Patrick. I am sure that he'll oversee Brendan's journey quite well. Best of luck, recovery, and prolonged health for you, Bretta, and wee Brendan. |
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