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Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet

katlaughing 03 Apr 01 - 05:49 PM
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Subject: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet!
From: katlaughing
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 05:49 PM

Something inside me has been stirring and I finally acted upon it. I called the local hospice and asked about comng in to sing to patients. She said they have a woman who coms in and "tried" to play the flute once per week, but have never had someone who comes in to work with an individual patient, as I would like to do. They have used music tapes to help those in transition. And, she is very open to what I might want to do.

So, I made an appointment to meet with her next week. This is a really big step for me. 1) It takes a lot of physical effort 2)I've never done this, specifically, before....so, please help me not to get cold feet. Any suggestions on appropriate songs, both solo voice and solo dulcimer as well as just making myself go to the meeting would be greatly appreciated. Whew!

Thanks,

kat


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Amergin
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 05:51 PM

I know of a way that will make you want to show up....just imagine me being there......nekkid.....


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: mousethief
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 05:51 PM

Wow, Kat, that sounds like a wonderful thing! Don't stop now -- keep up the momentum! I'm rooting for you all the way!

Alex


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: catspaw49
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 05:52 PM

Just go do it luv.......Its right down your alley and a great thing to do.

Spaw


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Rick Fielding
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 05:55 PM

Go Go Go Go. They'll simply be glad you're not playing a Tuba!

Rick


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Rick Fielding
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 05:57 PM

Oh, and one other thing: You can chat. You're articulate and you care about folks. That is a HUGE bonus. You will be VERY welcomed by the patients, believe me.

Rickagain


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: mousethief
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 06:00 PM

Just don't make jokes about how they're a captive audience and can't leave if they don't like your music. People in nursing homes HATE that kind of humor.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: katlaughing
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 06:01 PM

You guys make me cry...thanks, from the bottom of my heart.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: mousethief
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 06:04 PM

Sorry. Not nursing homes. Hospices. My bad.

Alex


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: GUEST,Bruce O.
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 06:39 PM

I got together a group to do square dancing exibitions at nursing homes, with a singer between the 1st and 2nd tips, and a juggler (my son, sometime professional at it) between 2nd and 3rd.

After about a 9 or 10 gigs I gave it up. It was a fair amount of work for me and the others in he group. At best about 3 members of the audience were entertained, but for most it was just another place to try to sleep with a lot of noise around.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: harpgirl
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 06:52 PM

I've spent lots of time in hospice and nursing homes, kat and I am sure they will enjoy your presence! Your lullaby collection will be wonderful. Gentle old time music like Stephen Foster, Lorena, and others from their heyday will be most appreciated. It is very hard work though physically and emotionally and if you decide to do it in short segments, you might last longer at it. You have the ego strength for it though, I'm sure. Poetry readings would be wonderful and just listening and sitting with someone means alot. You go girl...hg


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: GUEST,amdg
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 06:54 PM

My buddy (fiddle) and I (piano) have been playing at several nursing homes on a fairly regular basis for about a year now, and it's been one of the best things we've ever done. My hope is that the more time we spend in those places now, the less we'll have to spend in 'em later....

My favorites are the old ladies whose fathers were fiddlers or dance callers.

But, of course, that's a pretty different audience and environment than you'll be playing for, Kat, and I wish you all the best luck and good cheer. How lucky those folks will be to have you there as they take their long journey.

Annie


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: John Hardly
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 07:02 PM

WOW Kat,

I can't express the respect I feel for you right now.



I second the Stephen Foster. Also all those "kid" songs--kinda campfire type songs (I'm blanking on any but "Oh Mr Moon, Moon, bright and silvery...)

JH


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Don Firth
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 07:26 PM

Good on ya, Kat!

Back in November 2000, there was a thread on "Your proudest moment as a musician." I posted a moment of my own, then went on to add the following. I thought it might be appropriate to pass it on to you:

. . . I feel impelled to recount an experience of music therapist Esther Littledove John, a local native-American woman who plays the flute, composes, and is a powerful advocate of the healing power of music. She and a woman who often accompanies her (guitar/Celtic harp) frequently play in retirement homes, hospitals, hospices, and nursing homes. After their main performance in the dining room, lounge, chapel, or whatever, they usually go up and down the halls and play for people who are bed-ridden or who, for whatever reason, are unable to attend.

On the occasion she was telling me about, she and her accompanist stopped outside the room of an old gentleman who sat motionless, staring out of the window. They spoke, but he said nothing, just continued to stare. A passing nurse or attendant said, "Don't waste your time on him. He's in a world of his own. He just sits there and stares out the window. He hasn't responded to anyone or anything in two years."

Not to be deterred, they started to play. After several minutes, Esther said she noticed a slight movement. He was patting his foot in rhythm to their music! When they finished the piece a few minutes later, he turned slowly and looked at them.

"He was completely toothless," Esther said, "and he smiled the most beatific smile I have ever seen!"

"That," she said, "is one of the reasons I do what I do."

That's great, Kat. Go for it!

Don Firth


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Bernard
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 07:46 PM

Go for it, Kat. I've done lots of that sort of gig, and the one thing I have learned is not to be intimidated by the surroundings.

Do the music you enjoy, and that enthusiasm will rub off on your audience. Laugh with them, not at them, and they will enjoy themselves all the more.

Don't be afraid to talk. If working 'one-to-one', make 'eye contact' by looking at the end of their nose, not straight in the eye. It's less distracting for you!

Most important of all, remember they aren't going to be all that critical about your performance, so you can relax and get on with it.

One last thing - people in a hospice don't often have long left, but they won't behave that way. Two problems arise - arriving to find they are no longer around is obvious, but less obvious is the temptation to try to compensate for it on their behalf. They know, and prefer you to carry on as if nothing is wrong.

Three weeks ago I lost a fairly close friend to cancer, so it's fresh in my mind - and maybe she's helping me write this, because I don't know where some of this is coming from...

She wasn't in the hospice for even a week...

I have no regrets, as I know I did my bit for her, and she is no longer suffering. All is well.

It's possible that some of this sounds patronising - sorry, it's not intended that way. I'm speaking on a general level - take what advice you need, and ignore the rest!!


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Morticia
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:01 PM

Kat, as you know I have worked a lot in hospices....I think what you are doing is wonderful and I haven't a doubt in the world you will do the right thing but you might find it helpful to read up a bit on Elizabeth Kubler Ross and so on, just to see what you might be walking in to...please lemme know if I can help and very best love and good wishes!


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: GUEST,Les B
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:04 PM

Kat - good for you ! I've found in playing at nursing homes (not hospices) for people in their 70's & 80's that songs popular in the 1940's & 50's go over best.

The music they danced and courted to really brings back the memories, like "Springtime in the Rockies," "Red Wing," "Golden Slippers" "Maggie," "Remember Me" "San Antonio Rose," "Faded Love," etc. Granted, "Golden Slippers" and "Maggie" are much older, but they were popular dance tunes for nearly a century. Your dad should be a gold mine of these.

One warning, the bluegrass version of "Will the Circle Be Unbroken" has some pretty somber verses - "undertaker, undertaker ... that body you are haulin'...etc."

Have fun, you're doin' people a real favor.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Dani
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:06 PM

Please keep us posted. Working with our local hospice is something I've considered for some time, but not sure about it. Maybe someday.

I've got a friend who did what you're considering with patients at a VA hospital (as a job) and it sounded very grueling emotionally, but also very rewarding. Blessings on your work!

Dani


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: katlaughing
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:09 PM

Not patronising at all, Bernard, thank you very much. A lot of what I've been feeling, I know, is wanting to get back in touch with the good feelings I had when I worked as an EMT and aide in two hospitals and a nursing home in my 20's. I cannot do that kind of physical work anymore, but I am a really good listener and adept at putting people at ease, esp. in such situations (harpgirl, is this the "ego strength" you mentioned?**BG**)

Rick, thanks, if all else fails, I will be there to hold a hand, listen, or sing a lully.

I will have courage remembering your kindness, support, and encouragement...even at the thought of seeing Amergin nekkid!**BG**

This seems like a natural progression in my life. Perhaps it is my way of facing my own mortality and not feeling so sad at the thought of it, whenever it comes.

Thank you all, dear friends...I am practising what I know and also doing some improv of soothing tunes. I will ask the Great Spirit to guide me, too, so that I may really be of service.

luvyakat


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Hawker
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:09 PM

Kat,
You care enough to be there,
That will mean a great deal to those you visit
On a one to one basis, this could be a beautiful experience for you, rather than approacing it with trepidation......embrace it with open arms
If I was terminally ill, I would be so grateful if someone came to share their music with me!
GOOD LUCK
Lucy


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: harpgirl
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:11 PM

...it's "mental strength" kat...


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Sorcha
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:16 PM

It's difficult emotional work, kat, esp. in a hospice. You know they are dying, they know they are dying....and sometimes NEED to talk about it. Most people won't--prepare to have your heart broken, because you will get attached to these people. Take breaks after "important deaths".....the hospice will understand. Quite often, in a one on one situation, it is several months after a death before a Volunteer can come back for another patient.

Be brave, and try it for a while. If it takes too much out of you, you can always stop.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: katlaughing
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:40 PM

Thanks, Harpgirl, I figured it was something like that and I like the term...it's confidence building.:-)

Lucy, thanks, it's not trepidation at being with the dying as much as being a novice on the dulcimer and playing in public, but I will approach it as positively as possible.

Sorcha, that's kind of what I am wondering about. I used to work on the terminal ward in hospital. I remember being really happy about my work and having an empathy with the patients which seemed of great help to them and me.

Now, in the shape I am in, on the surface it seems a little crazy to put out so much effort because I know it will effect my heart, which has already been broken so much, BUT in some Cosmic way, I am getting the message that this may be part of the healing my heart needs. I know when I do this kind of work online or on the phone, it does sap me of energy....I am thinking that maybe being with other people will lessen it in some ways which may be helpful.

Don't know is this makes much sense and it sounds egotistical to me, but it sure helps a bunch to talk it through with you all. Thanks so much.

luvyakat


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: McGrath of Harlow
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:45 PM

Now that sounds like kat, and I can't imagine anybody who'd be more suited to do it. Especially with the dulcimer now, it's the right instrument.

The thing is with hospices, people die at all ages, so there can't be any rules about the age of the songs and so forth.

There's a little book I picked up in a sale somewhere made up of poems and pictures from people in a hospice, gathered by a writer in residence - "Now I can tell" edited Lynne Alexander. Out of print, which is how things go. Anyway, here's a quote from DH Lawrence that serves as its introduction (and I don't even like DH Lawrence generally):

We are dying, we are dying, so all we can do
now is to be willing to die, and to build the ship
of death to carry the soul on the longest journey.

A little ship, with oars and food
and little dishes and all accoutrements
fitting and ready for the departing soul.

(DH Lawrence, from "The Ship of Death")

I think the crucial thing is to share with the people the songs and the tunes that you love most yourself.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Little Neophyte
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:51 PM

Kat, your presents alone would be enough. They will love you no matter what you do. Just be yourself and everything will fall into place.
This is a wonderful thing you are doing.
Good luck,

Bonnie


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: SINSULL
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 08:56 PM

Good for you! Kat. With you around they will be living instead of dying. You will make a lot of people happy and the happiness will rub off on you too. Let us know how it goes. And NO. You can't take anyone home with you.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Sorcha
Date: 03 Apr 01 - 11:12 PM

kat, let your heart, their eyes and their words guide you. Play what they request if you can, if not, play something similar. Talk if they want to, talk about what THEY want to talk about, play soft, gentle stuff for those in coma--there is a LOT of evidence that they can hear, it's the last sense to go.

If your heart says "DO IT", then you know there must be a reason.......I want to do it, too, but I am not far enough beyond my mother's death to be able too yet. The last time she was at my house before she died, I spent about 3 hours playing her viola for her......

She alternately beamed and cried.....and asked for more. It was hell on my hands to play viola that long, as it is so much bigger than my violin, but I am so glad I did it. I had planned to "harp her home", but she was only in the hospital one day before she died, and that was my sister's day with her.......


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Amos
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 12:30 AM

You go, kat lady! Ya make us all proud!!

A


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: jeffp
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 12:58 PM

kat, I think it is a wonderful idea. People who are in the final stage of life appreciate knowing that somebody cares enough to give them personal attention. Often friends and even family abandon them because they don't know how to cope with the impending loss. Whatever you play will be enjoyed. Just sitting and listening can be as valuable, too. You have a big heart and I know you can do this.

Don't forget, some hospices provide home help for people who wish to die at home. Perhaps some of these folks would like a visit, too.

jeffp


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Mrrzy
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 01:15 PM

Kat, I'm proud to be part of a group that contains you.

This is NOT thread creep...
My recommendation: see the movie with Timothy Dalton and some American who wasn't Kiefer Sutherland being in a hospice; It's called something with Foxes in the title. It's about dying versus living while being terminally ill but not dead yet. Black comedy, much more black than comic, but it is howlingly funny in spots. Although both main characters have terminal illnesses and are young men, Dalton has accepted his fate and is living his last days, while the American hasn't and is depressed and acts like he's dying all the time (well, OK, he is, but that isn't the point. Or maybe it is...).
Anyway, Dalton basically kidnaps him and MAKES him see that life, what is left of it, is still worth living. I remember one scene where they are trying to pick up chicks and the American is so weak that Dalton steals a bicycle so that the American can lean debonair-ly on it...

There was some music in it too, but I'm recommending it for the mind-set and the cold feet. It's a British film, I believe, and I've never been able to find it anywhere here in the US in stores (I saw it on TV years ago, before Dalton was Bond, James Bond, I think).

And do keep us posted.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: katlaughing
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 01:38 PM

Jeffp, Sorcha, good points, thank you so much.

Bonnie, Kevin, Amos thank you.

All of you make my heart sing. I want you to know I've been practising a lot and feel more confident and shall think of you all the first time I am there. I'll bring my own "Aura of Support!"

Mrzzy...I found Dalton's website but don't see any listing with Foxes in it. Do you have any other info? I really would like to see it.

Thanks!

luvyakat


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Amergin
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 01:57 PM

I know what movie you're talking about, Mrrzy....I can't remember the name of it, but I didn't see it listed in his credits....and since such classics like Flash Gordon and The Rocketeer were listed, one can be sure that would be as well....are you sure it was him? Though he does sound about right.....ah hell I'm just confused as usual...


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Don Firth
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 02:08 PM

The movie Mrzzy refers to is Hawks (1988) with Timothy Dalton and Anthony Edwards. Video should be rentable.

Too bad most Americans know Timothy Dalton only as James Bond. He's a terrific actor and, according to my wife, the ultimate hunk (next to me, of course). His portrayal of Edward Rochester in the BBC production of Jane Eyre is definitive.

Don Firth


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Amergin
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 02:19 PM

Ah hell, I guess I need to apologise, Mrrzy......


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Bert
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 02:53 PM

I'd better not say - "Knock 'em dead kat" *BG*

Seriously, You're wonderful, they'll love you as much as we do.

Bert.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 02:54 PM

Oh Kat, Bless you. Just making one person remember and smile will be worth it. I wish you were here.

Liz


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Amergin
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 02:59 PM

We love her, Bert?


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: McGrath of Harlow
Date: 04 Apr 01 - 04:34 PM

"Hawks" - "Foxes". It's logical mindspin.

Here's a poem from that book that you might like, kat. It's by a lady called Kath Dinsdale, who was dying in St John's Hospice Lancaster when she was prompted into writing it, after she'd said how she couldn't write poetry:

Grandma's Cat

I remember Grandma's cat
he was called Sooty
he was black
he used to sleep on the piano
on the keyboard
so I couldn't play it
he fell asleep on my half-made jigsaws
he would spit at me when I tried to move him
he could be very friendly when I was eating
he'd rub around my legs purring
trying to scrounge himself a little of my meal for himself.

I used to try to smuggle him up to my bedroom
so he'd be there for company during the night
I could only manage if the terms were right for him.

It's funny that they should have cared about one another,
Sooty and Grandma.

She would have given everything to make you happy.
He would have taken the lot.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: katlaughing
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 01:09 PM

Great poem, Kevin. Thanks for posting it.

Well, today was the big day! Thanks to all of you, I had the courage to go through with it. I couldn't sleep last night; my neck and shoulders were tight with anticipation, my mind going round in whirls of "what ifs", until about 3a when I finally did get some sleep.

I knew when I got up that I was ready no matter.

The place itself is a beautiful large home with a large vaulted living room and very large kitchen, very inviting. The living room has several seating areas, very soothing lighting and tones, with a beautiful stone fireplace, and also a piano.

The staff were quite nice, a little puzzled as none of them knew what a dulcimer was, but very open and delighted I'd come.

For today, I sat in a wonderfully comfortable chair besides the fireplace, right next to a wonderful bronze statue of an Amerindian playing a flute, the kind of music I love to attune to!

I sat there, with my little list of song names, so I wouldn't forget any, and just played as I would at home, almost to myself. It had been explained to me that the acoustics were such that anything which went on in the living room was easily heard in all of the rooms. I said that was fine, people needn't feel they had to come out to listen, that I just love playing and wanted to help them through an hour of their time.

So, I sat, and I played just like at home nad it felt so comfortable. The windows were big, but not bright, little primroses bloomed just outside, and I didn't miss too many notes, oh, and it began to snow!*BG*

About half way through, the director came over and asked about the instrument and took me up on my offer to try it out. She really loved it and just kept telling me how wonderful it was that I'd come and how much she looked forward to me coming again and could she put me in the newsletter!

Just before I left, I gave my card to one of the aides. She said that my playing was very soothing and that was the most gratifying thing to me, as that is what I wanted it to be.

Just before I went into play, I sat in my car and gave thanks and asked for the aid and assistance of the Great Spirit. I felt calm then, all worry about flubbing up was gone. When I came back out, I felt a deep sense of gratitiude and "rightness" and now know this is something I will be doing a lot. It was good for my heart and that counts for a lot!

Thank you so much for your encouragement and faith in me. BTW, Spaw...you will know why when I tell you, last night, in the realms of Sleepnot, I finally came up with "Peaches" for a name for my dulcimer, in honour of you and your encouragement in my getting it and learning to play. I am in your debt, my dear.

luvyakat


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Amergin
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 01:27 PM

Alright! I just knew you'd be able to do it, katdarling! (inspite of my smartass comments) I am so glad to hear that everything went well! Though I knew they would. So when's the next concert date? When do you start touring?


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Bert
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 01:37 PM

Oh, so that was a SPAW dulcimer! No wonder it started to snow. *BG*

You're wonderful.

Luvya, Bert.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Little Neophyte
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 01:46 PM

I'm sooooo happy for you Kat. You sound great! Savor the feeling as long as you can. So, will you be doing this on a regular basis? Whats the plan?
I know one thing, performing sure gets a fire under my butt to practice and I end up getting so much better at what I do.
You are giving these folks such a gift and in return receiving one too. I think this is just wonderful.

Bonnie


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: jeffp
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 01:47 PM

kat, I'm so glad you were able to do this. Thank you for sharing the experience. What songs/tunes did you play?

jeffp


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: katlaughing
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 02:06 PM

Well, first, Bert, it's not a Spaw dulcimer, much as I would love it to be, BUT it is because of him that I got it and if ya'll remember when he and LeeJ were hotrodding in that one Tavern thread, he was "Peaches", so...that why "he", my dulcimer, is named Peaches, in Spaw's honour!

Amergin, thanks, the whole lot of you were there, in my mind and heart. It was such a peaceful and soothing setting...I could just sit there and play myself into a meditative state it is that nice of a space.

No touring dates, no concerts, ya buggah!**BG**

But, to answer you each, I will be going in at least once per week to play for an hour or so, except next week as I will be away. I have given them my card with phone number and instruction to call me whenever and if ever someone feels an immediate and real need to some soothing strumming. I can feel this is a direction I am to move into and it something I want to do, so...it becomes much less effort, which is also good for me. At least I wasn't the only one with an oxygen bottle by my side!**BG**

Bonnie, you're right, I've practised so much in the past week, my hands cramped up last night! But, the tunes are coming in an order which seems to be pleasing and nicely segued, so...I should keep sounding better and better, as I learn more, too.

Thanks, Jeff, very much, I playedsongs that I know well and am comfortable with:

Holy Manna
Country Roads
Aunt Rhoady
Missouri Waltz
Irish Lullabye
Ode to Joy
Simple Gifts
Amazing Grace
Walking in the Light
The Seine
Been Ridin'
Wayward Wind
Early One Morning
Tell Me Why
Colorado trail
Yosha and Josha
Down in the Valley.

I segue, just naturally, from Holy Manna into some old hymn of something that I do not know the name of, but it is a perfect fit, then it slides right into Country Roads. When I have time, I'll post the dulcimer frets/tabs for it and maybe someone can identify it. I think the words are something about "What ?? is this, who lays to rest, etc." **BG**

THANKS!!


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: catspaw49
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 02:47 PM

katmyluv, I couldn't be happier that it went so well and that you are as happy with yourself as I know they are with you. Thanks for the kind words, but your desire is what's done the trick. I thought a long time back that an App would be a good instrument for you and I'm not surprised things have worked out between the two of you!

Spaw


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Ebbie
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 04:59 PM

Sounds like you and your surroundings were in perfect syn, kat. Lovely.

Ebbie


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Amergin
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 05:18 PM

So we were all there? I have a quick question....was I wearing clothes or not?


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Bert
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 05:20 PM

Impressive play list.


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Sorcha
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 05:37 PM

kat, is the tune Greensleeves? aka What Child is this, who laid to rest on Mary's lap is sleeping?


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Subject: RE: Help: Took a big step, Now to avoid cold feet
From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 10 Apr 01 - 05:49 PM

Way to go, Darlin'. What a wonderful thing to do for those folks.


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