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Subject: what cheers you up? From: Dorrie Date: 19 Mar 02 - 05:53 PM what cheers you up? i'm really sad at the moment for loads of silly reasons i went to a session on sunday and it didnt even make me smile! just wondering about all you guys out there in cyber space. i usually find singing really loud in the bath is good. U? d xx |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: RichM Date: 19 Mar 02 - 05:59 PM Depends on why I'm sad. Anticipating the arrival of spring helps. Getting outside, going downtown, visiting my favorite music stores(--where I have friends I can talk to). Going to a concert helps. Playing a gig always helps my mood, my energy level.
Having a partner to share my sadness with, is a big one. Ultimately, the most effective one is looking at why I'm sad, and making a start to do something to resolve the cause. Rich McCarthy
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 19 Mar 02 - 06:00 PM At the moment, not a lot.... a good sing helps though. LTS
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 19 Mar 02 - 06:02 PM Then, in the words of Queen 'a nice long ride on my motorbike', or better still, my friend's motorbike (she's got a really big one.....)to the beach to walk in the wind. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Bagpuss Date: 19 Mar 02 - 06:03 PM Singing at the top of my lungs on the top of a hill in the middle of nowhere. When singing doesn't cheer me up or I have no inclination towards music, it is usually a sign that I might be getting depressed and I take plenty of preventative measures. Hope you find something to bring you cheer. I would tell you a joke to help things along, but I'm afraid all the jokes I know are so bad that they would have the opposite effect! Bagpuss |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: InOBU Date: 19 Mar 02 - 06:03 PM AH LIZ! Ya beat me to it! I was going to simply say... "nothin" ... that would have cheered me up immeasurably! Cheers Larry |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Menita Date: 19 Mar 02 - 06:15 PM Oh Dorrie, I'm sorry you feel so low. I find looking thru' old photo albums cheers me up. Giving my mind time off helps to get things into perspective. Being a woman has a lot to answer for-can't expect those poor chaps out there to even try to understand! If you need someone to talk to-I'll listen. LA |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: SharonA Date: 19 Mar 02 - 06:17 PM Playing with my goofy cat! |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Amergin Date: 19 Mar 02 - 06:27 PM my partner.... |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Desdemona Date: 19 Mar 02 - 06:46 PM When in doubt, immerse yourself in hot water: I always head straight for the bathtub (a whisky on the side doesn't hurt, either). Getting out & seeing people whose company I enjoy & having a good, hard laugh. A hot cup of tea, a good book, and the leisure to enjoy them. A nice long walk, long enough to really feel the blood pumping through your veins & to put some colour in your cheeks. A long drive at top speed, singing at the top of my lungs. Hope you feel better soon! D. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: gnu Date: 19 Mar 02 - 07:22 PM Number one is cheering someone else up. Number two is just talking to someone. Number three is the Cafe where I can usually find something to occupy my mind. So, I can combine 1 & 3 and tell you that you are in good company. If all else fails, put on some Rickie Lee Jones and settle in.... might I suggest "Company". It might be a bit down, but it's the blues, man, and it helps to know it's not just us... after all, like Red says, we're all in this together. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: dagenham doc Date: 19 Mar 02 - 07:50 PM Good point 'gnu'.. cheering someone else up always works for me, and performing is the way I cheer up others.If it has lifted them, it's sure lifted me . You know that feeling?? Doc. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: gnu Date: 19 Mar 02 - 08:42 PM Oh yeah.... it's the best... that's why we do it. That's what folk, trad, rock, blues, rap (yes, even crap) ....... is. It's being human. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Midchuck Date: 19 Mar 02 - 09:32 PM Playing and singing - by myself is good; with others with compatible musical tastes is better; for an audience that actually listens is best. Any kind of aerobic activity - x-c skiing, jogging, just brisk walking. A client paying a bill. A little good ale or good bourbon - provided that I remember that more will not necessarily make me feel even better. One other answer is too obvious to need mentioning. Peter.
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: The Pooka Date: 19 Mar 02 - 09:36 PM Well *listening* to good performers, like youse guys, *does* lift the spirits of us civilian audience-types; so if that's a mutually-reinforcing thing, all the better! Gnu, yeah even "crap" could do it sometimes; but that's a moot point, we talkin Mudcatters here...) For me, humor often works too --- especially if it's totally ridiculous and and directed at me by my compassionate wife. It is so aggravating :) to be lifted out of the black gloom and set to giggling, by having yer significant-other poke fun at you with unerring aim & exquisitely anarchic skill. But lucy ann -- Yes us "poor chaps" out here can "try to understand" -- & succeed, even! We get sad. Depressed, even. We do. And Yes we can even admit it. (Well. Sort of.) /I read (today!) how our *symptoms* are somewhat different from yours; but -- so wot? The cause is the same. / Sometimes maybe we need another man to talk to. / More often, maybe a woman. :) / Woops Sorry. I think I'm cheering up, here. Dorrie, I sincerely hope you feel better very soon. / I wish you could hear ME sing really loud. You'd roar with laughter I can assure you, and lose dem blues. / But I won't suggest this therapy take place in the bath; that would wreck the effeck. (The horror! The horror!) |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: pattyClink Date: 19 Mar 02 - 10:05 PM Committing some small mischief. Who needs a chuckle or a peg-down, what can you do to shake things up? Can be elaborate setups or just zoom a harmless missile over the cubicle wall, Calling an old friend or sibling and telling them about something idiotic you've been going through, and finding things to laugh about. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: hesperis Date: 19 Mar 02 - 10:32 PM Depends on what kind of sad it is... some sadnesses are worth a good descent into the dark... My friends cheer me up when I need them too, and don't cheer me up when I want to enjoy the beautiful melancholy mood. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Rt Revd Sir jOhn from Hull Date: 19 Mar 02 - 11:01 PM beer. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: michaelr Date: 19 Mar 02 - 11:14 PM A big fat hooter of NorCal's best. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: dagenham doc Date: 19 Mar 02 - 11:16 PM hesperis... Oh how right you are! Midchuck.. I find it hard to get up when I'm down...or is it down when I'm up? Doc. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: kendall Date: 19 Mar 02 - 11:30 PM A stiff shot of 16 year old Scotch! Seamus. I wish you were here to share it. I might even let you play my Apollo 12 string! Thanks again my friend, that was one hell of a gift. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: kendall Date: 19 Mar 02 - 11:38 PM What cheers me up? thinking of all the beautiful friends who have sent me e mails and PM's from all over the world.I dont know what I did to deserve it, but, I sure do appreciate it. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CarolC Date: 19 Mar 02 - 11:51 PM Frank Capra films frequently cheer me up. Playing my accordion usually cheers me up. Writing often cheers me up. Laughing almost always cheers me up. And of course, enjoying friends cheers me up. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CarolC Date: 19 Mar 02 - 11:55 PM If I reach my goal of getting healthy enough to go rollerblading, I think that will cheer me up, too. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 20 Mar 02 - 12:31 AM "some sadnesses are worth a good descent into the dark..." yeah, but sometimes the dark just swallows you up, and that's when things need help like right NOW! My own little dark pit of despair has been looming larger and larger for a while now..... not exactly helped by some stuff on here recently either. It's got to the point where I don't know if I'm taking my home problems out at work or my work problems out at home..... Ian Dury may have come up with lots of reasons to be cheerful, but sometimes you can be hard pressed to even find one. Personally I find looking through old photo albums terrible, they bring back memories of happier times, yes, but then you remember the people you were with, and what has happened to them, and sometimes the remembering is too hard to bear..... all those happy faces, all those might have beens...... that smiling cheerful face in my last school photo, glad to be leaving school, but then I remember what happened later that year...... the girl on the boat having the time of her life with a man she loved more than anything... where is he now? Married to someone else and out of reach.... the boat long gone to another shore. When you're down in the dark, sometimes thing just get darker.
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Mudlark Date: 20 Mar 02 - 01:08 AM I think the very act of trying to "cheer oneself up" is depressing, and often bound for failure. Happiness is a byproduct, not a goal in itelf (I know this is true, but I have a hard time living it myself). The two things that usually get me out of a downward spiral are: interaction with somebody else, preferably someone who wont point out to me how lucky I am (I know that already...and for some reason sometimes it doesn't help), and tackling a difficult job and getting it done...somehow in the act ov focusing on the job at hand, and the satisfaction of completing it, my mood often turns around. For shallow depths, a rousing romp with my dogs outside usually works, as do lots of things, like actually achieving an unblurry Bminor, singing loud (especially whle driving with the windows open, singing along with something that rocks and I really like, like Bonnie Raitt). And sometimes I can even write myself out of the blues, by getting all the circular thots in my head down on paper in a linear way that helps--sometimes--to lead me to the source of the problem. And sometimes, the only thing to do is let the blues have their way with you, and hope you wake to sunshine the next day. Hope things are looking considerably brighter by the end of this thread! |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: C-flat Date: 20 Mar 02 - 03:26 AM In a bid to improve my fitness, I recently bought a bicycle. As I knew that my 5 year-old daughter wouldn't let me go without her I added a second saddle to the crossbar and some foot-rests. Although pushing a combined weight of 18 stone and being 20 years out of practice, I've found this activity to be a most uplifting experience. If I ever feel down, and there's been plenty to be down about lately, I get the bike out and spend an hour with my daughter seeing the world through her eyes! |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Fibula Mattock Date: 20 Mar 02 - 07:14 AM Reading the "Campsite at Drumcree" thread(s) on Mudcat helped a bit when I was in my recent pit of despair. And the "Humor Us" threads have enough daft jokes to curl up the corners of your mouth. (The joke perma-thread is here.) Listening to Tom Lehrer's "Vatican Rag" makes me laugh out loud every time. Rock climbing at the local climbing wall. I've found that climbing and climbing til I fall off (safely) works wonders to get adrenalin flowing and tires me out. Sense of achievement plus sense of exhaustion - mental and physical focus so you can't think of anything else, even if you want to. Are you near the sea? That's usually a good spirit-lifter. The smell and the wind and the water and the sound. Buy some nice food, spend time cooking a good meal, enjoy it with a great wine. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CarolC Date: 20 Mar 02 - 07:59 AM These guys almost always cheer me up... Click for some laughs. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Steve in Idaho Date: 20 Mar 02 - 11:14 AM My partner giving me a boot in the butt. Reminds me of how much I have to be grateful for. And I wouldn't do alcohol to alleviate sadness on a bet. It's a depressant - Steve |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: greg stephens Date: 20 Mar 02 - 11:25 AM Well, on my birthday recently I got sent a card which was a picture of Brigitte Bardot and Jane Birkin in bed together with no clothes on. And I cant explain why, but on a bad day looking at that picture helps make me feel that the universe is basically a Good Place. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST Date: 20 Mar 02 - 12:43 PM Prozac and Xanax-25. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Dorrie Date: 20 Mar 02 - 01:01 PM i found a new way of cheering up being reallllllllllllllllllllly bad at accents but still singing everything in them. hahaha |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CapriUni Date: 20 Mar 02 - 02:27 PM Laughing hard -- even fake laughing (just chanting "Ha, ho, he, heh, ha, ha, ha"); keep fake laughing up long enough, and it will turn into real laughter -- especially if you try not to laugh, for some odd reason. Maybe singing in a fake accent is akin to that. Creating something -- drawing a picture, writing a poem or song and then giving it away as a present; inventing a cat toy and then watching my two kittle cats leap after it. Anything that provides tangible evidence of my value in the world. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Celtic Soul Date: 20 Mar 02 - 05:51 PM As someone here has already said, it largely depends on what exactly is making me glum. 1.) PMS: Extract of Chastetree berry. 2.) Grey day: Think about next sunny day (when it's not *too* cold) when I can take a drive in my convertible. 3.) Bad day at work: "Red Dwarf" in large quantities with my sweety. 4.) Interpersonal political BS/flames/injustices/double standards/"holier than thou" crap: Get the hell away from it, and spend some time amongst the sane. 5.) Death of loved one/acquaintance: Time with other someones to reconnect, and share the mourning. If all else fails, the turning of the earth always helps. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Steve in Idaho Date: 20 Mar 02 - 06:11 PM Ah Celtic Soul - what sage advice - I liked it - Steve |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: SharonA Date: 20 Mar 02 - 06:24 PM "Laughter, the Best Medicine", as Reader's Digest says. When I'm down, I'll gravitate to TV shows that consistently give me a good belly-laugh or six (for example, the "Sound Effects" game on "Whose Line Is It, Anyway?" seldom fails me!). I also get a kick out of listening to unintentionally funny songs; this morning on the way to work, I heard Frank Sinatra's jazzed-up version of "South of the Border (Down Mexico Way)" and that was good for a broad smile! Then there's Bobby Darin's rendition of "Artificial Flowers" – I never fail to grimace gleefully at the improvised ending: Throw away those artificial flowers, Those dumb-dumb flowers, Fashioned from Annie's, Fashioned from A-a-a-annie's Des-pa-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-a-air. (Give her the real thing!)" |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Gareth Date: 20 Mar 02 - 06:48 PM A good pint or three, Good company and a song. Preferably with a good win against England at the Arms Park/Millenium Stadium. My God them pirates new how to enjoy life ! Gareth |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 20 Mar 02 - 07:40 PM Then there's good friends who send you virtual Sean Connerys (I'll never ride side saddle again) and chocolate..... better already! LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Amos Date: 20 Mar 02 - 07:56 PM Wal, in the final analysis the only things that cheer me up are (a)communicating with friends (b) producing valuable results and (c) the truth. This last is a special joy when available. Sadly rare, tho'! :>) A |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Big John Date: 20 Mar 02 - 08:32 PM Listening to radio reports of proceedings at Dail Eirann. (The Irish Parliament). Todays discussion centred on the awarding of a Government contract of 50 million euros to an English company who had a bank balance of 5 euros. It sounds like an Irish joke but its true. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST,John Gray ( at work ) Date: 20 Mar 02 - 09:39 PM Sex. JG/FME |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: YOR Date: 20 Mar 02 - 11:02 PM I'll second that vote! SEX |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 21 Mar 02 - 03:36 AM Well..chocolate..... and hugs both real and virtual...and what worked this week was reading Night owls thread. Made me realise that the people who matter most to me are still here and all in fairly good nick. Diva |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: hesperis Date: 21 Mar 02 - 01:41 PM LTS - sorry, didn't mean to belittle the OTHER dark. I've been in both places. One is rather enjoyable, the other DEFINITELY isn't!!!!!!!! *Hugs in apology* |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: SINSULL Date: 21 Mar 02 - 02:18 PM Watching my half grown cat (whom I helped deliver) run, tumble, slide and fall up and down stairs. He never learns. Then watching 12 year old Homey chase the kitten up and down, in and out until both need a rest. He has never learned either. I sing when I am happy. Can't do it when I am sad. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Dorrie Date: 21 Mar 02 - 02:25 PM guys please bear in mind i'm only 17!!!!!!! i'm far too young for sex!!!! hahaha no its true. chocolates, singing and laughing are ace d xx |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: JudeL Date: 21 Mar 02 - 02:27 PM LtS ... Chocolate & Virtual Sean Connerys ..... sounds good to me .....it must be a really good friend who knows you well ... the only thing is what's this about never riding side-saddle again? |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: SharonA Date: 21 Mar 02 - 02:31 PM Diva: I dunno, I found Night Owl's thread depressing. Not because of the stories of tragedy in her life, but because of the stories of all the things she has done with her life. Makes me think, "Geez, I'm 45 and I haven't done sh** with mine!!!!" (I'm not sure how true that really is, but one tends to think in absolute negatives when one is in a funk!) |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: bflat Date: 21 Mar 02 - 02:43 PM Positive thinking; music; friendships; serving an ace; my grandson's voice; humor(I have some funny friends, natural comics); doing things for others and lots of happy memories works for me. Ellen |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 21 Mar 02 - 04:18 PM JudeL - refer back to John Gray's post, add Sean Connery covered in chocolate..... There you go... but remember, I thought of it first. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CarolC Date: 21 Mar 02 - 04:28 PM ...although sex can be the reason one needs cheering up, if one isn't getting any. So I'm sticking with laughter. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 21 Mar 02 - 05:01 PM I have a copy of his biography (Sean Connery) sadly no pics of him covered in chocolate. Damm!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Hollowfox Date: 21 Mar 02 - 05:58 PM I dunno, Sean Connery's kinda furry on the chest for chocolate. Still, I'll get in line with the rest of you. Well, Dorrie, now I know you're not the girlfriend I had when I was seventeen! The good news is you have the good sense to ask, and the wisdom to not follow all the advice given. *g* Now for my two bits..drinking alone is generally a bad idea when you're feeling down, as alcohol is a depressant. Having a dram with a friend (when it becomes legal for you) is one thing, then it can be a relaxant. Of course you know that drinking won't solve the problem, etcetc.. enough of that lecture. Physical movement, like all that advice above to take a walk, is a very good idea. Part of this is because, if nothing else, you're changing the scenery, and you're actually doing something. Even if you're "too tired", some movement of some kind helps. Maybe it's an aid to circulation or something. Back in the 1600's, Robert Burton wrote a (now) delightfully goofy book called Anatomy of Melancholy on this very subject. This is one of the things he got right. Also (educated guess on my part), get your school work and household chores out of the way. If they pile up on you, you'll feel overwhelmed and really depressed. This lasts well past school, Hon. I'm still trying to grow up enough to follow this advice, and I have a son your age. (Don't tell him, I'm trying to keep up the illusion that I'm a good example!) That being done, do a little something you enjoy, nothing elaborate. I have some needlework I can always pick up. I even do a bit of coloring, in one of those museum gift shop coloring books I got for just such times as this (I can't draw). And of course, there's the music. If you're not making some, put on the radio or a CD, rather than listen in the silence to your own bummed out mood. When silence and solitude are the right thing, you'll know. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Kim C Date: 21 Mar 02 - 05:58 PM When Mister acts like a big goofball, most of the time that will make me laugh. However, there are those times when foolish behavior backfires and only makes me more annoyed. I like cooking an extravagant (well, for me, anyway) meal. It's usually still cheaper than going to an extravagant restaurant, plus I get to take part in the creative process. The bathtub, as others have mentioned, is also good. I usually take a glass of wine in with me. However it isn't always a good idea to partake of alcohol when you're down. In those instances, cocoa will suffice. Pet a dog. Buy a new lipstick. Go for a drive or a walk. Make something. Several years ago my wallet was stolen, with a large amount of cash, and a couple of credit cards, which were promptly used by the perpetrators. I had just got paid, and that was all my money. I sat in the floor and made a beaded necklace, one bead at a time, and it distracted me for awhile. I never wore it, and later on took it apart to use the parts for something else. I realized in this instance it wasn't the finished product that was important, but the process of making it. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Mickey191 Date: 21 Mar 02 - 07:50 PM Been working for years-Put on Joplin doing Me & Bobby McGee-Open the window and breathe Deeply-Roll around with the Barking Pomeranian-and lastly coffee. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Gervase Date: 22 Mar 02 - 10:25 AM At the moment, bugger all. But cooking is good, especially if there's someone to share it with. Getting out into the elements helps too - the past two days with their hint of sun after what seem like weeks of rain have bucked me up no end. Grow something - anything; a dope plant in a pot, a row of beans or a windowbox full of herbs. Play with the cat. Laugh at the dog. Don't look backwards. And it can sometimes help to recall that, however shitty things seem at the moment, for someone, somewhere, life is hugely shittier. Buy the Big Issue every week and practise random acts of kindness. And did anyone mention music and song? Then, one fine day, you'll find that the black dog has gone. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Bearheart Date: 22 Mar 02 - 12:49 PM Great thread. Sometimes singing the saddest song I can think of will help, because what I really need is a good cry. But it's different every time. Almost always, being touched (sex or other wise) by someone who really cares. It gets you back in your body, out of your head and you don't feel so alone. (A big depression trigger for me.) It's helpful to find out what's at the root of it-- feeling 1)alone/abandoned, 2)overwhelmed, 3)useless, 4) uncreative, 5)general low self-esteem, 6) powerless 7) not in control (perhaps because of something horrible going on in the world. Interesting, there are often physical causes. I liked Celtic Soul's comments. There are herbs that help if it's hormonal or to tonify your nervous system. (Find a good herbalist or read up on it.) But also it's now well documented that people who are blood type O are metabolicly prone to depression especially when stressed, and many of us can combat the depression simply with dietary changes and proper excercise. (For Os that means really getting the blood up-- walking, running, biking, dancing, even vigorous drumming.) See "Live Right For Your Type", the latest of the blood type diet books for lots of info. I found that just getting wheat out of my diet and substituting other grains made a tremendous difference. Bekki
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Jimmy C Date: 22 Mar 02 - 01:31 PM When I am down and need a little tonic a visit from my grandchildren does it every time. Next ,just lazing around picking and grinning, either alone or with friends. Some times I just want to get to a calming plateau with "a bottle of wine and Patsy Cline", or a Guinness, or a Bushmills, or a vodka, or a Jack Daniels, or the whole damn lot, God I am so easy to cheer up. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: fat B****rd Date: 22 Mar 02 - 02:16 PM Finishing work at 6 o'clock this morning and looking forward to a weeks holiday with lots of time to myself. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: lady penelope Date: 23 Mar 02 - 07:30 AM Parker wearing the "Hat of a thousand smiles" My cats Damn loud sing Watching an over emotional film ( tears streaming down my face "I'm so happy!" ) Walking round in Parkers shoes (my feet are size 6, Parker's are size 11 ) Free wheeling down a bloody great big hill, Wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! Blowing bubbles Spontainiously improvising dance routines in the kitchen Watching the sun rise out in a field or something, reassures me that the world hasn't ended during the long dark night! TTFN M'lady P.
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Uncle_DaveO Date: 23 Mar 02 - 08:16 AM Singing for an audience, anywhere from one to you-name-it in size, whether in actual presence or on Paltalk. I never feel so alive as when performing. Dave Oesterreich |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Celtic Soul Date: 23 Mar 02 - 12:27 PM Sharon A penned: "I dunno, I found Night Owl's thread depressing. Not because of the stories of tragedy in her life, but because of the stories of all the things she has done with her life. Makes me think, "Geez, I'm 45 and I haven't done sh** with mine!!!!" (I'm not sure how true that really is, but one tends to think in absolute negatives when one is in a funk!)" I hear that! Recently (in terms of my whole life) I learned something to help with this one, though. In order to change your perception/self image for the long haul (so that it carries through even during the tough times), you have to make a habit of looking at what is good and right in your life. The things you have done well, and try not to make many comparisons. Even when faced with internal or external judgmental behaviour, you have to continue looking at what it is you have done that is good and right. I learned this by looking at my kid, and watching when she *really* learned and grew the most. It is always when she is positive, and is recieving positive reinforcement, especially in moments of stress. When she is feeling bad about herself, or when she is being criticized, she learns how to feel bad, but nothing really changes. In order for her to move beyond it, she needs to be positive. And I discovered that, even though I am 40 years of age, I am no different. What is different for me though is that I am cognizant of the fact that I play the primary role in my own happiness, and that the worlds opinions are simply that, their opinions, and not necessarily "the truth". Now if I could just make my heart believe it 24/7, I'd be doing really well. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 23 Mar 02 - 02:52 PM The sight of 5 fairy wing clad pink and white lacy things called children having a whale of a time dancing the can can, dropping the whole of the party table onto the floor, minus birthday cake, thank heaven!!, and knowing I don't have to do it for another year, that has cheered me up!!! Hearing Manitas clear up the remainder of the mess has cheered me up even more!! LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Ebbie Date: 23 Mar 02 - 04:43 PM 'Misery loves company'? Nope. I remember from years ago when I was really depressed, hearing someone else's sad story didn't cheer me at all. It just made me realize all over again that the world is a really, really sad place. In recent years (20 or so), it's much easier not to get into that space at all. In fact, when I do, I have created it myself. I call it 'poisoning my own well'. Like not being able to keep your tongue from a wobbly tooth. For me, since I evidently don't have a chemical imbalance, it's easier just not to go there. What cheers me the most, and most quickly, is throwing a jam or song circle in my own home. Even when I'm not up to participating myself, as after recent surgery, just immersing myself in live music among friends is a nurturing, absorbing experience, something I hope to honor the rest of my life. Ebbie |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Mrs Cobble Date: 23 Mar 02 - 05:44 PM ......Daffadills in the little wood next to my house....... Mrs C |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Catherine Jayne Date: 24 Mar 02 - 05:50 AM I agree with Liz about the photo albums.....only having a handful of photos of my familiy and actually looking at them makes me feel even worse when I feel down. I havent seen any of my familiy apart from my 18 year old night club mad brother since christmas. I find listening to my favourite cd, a hot bubble bath surrounded by candles, a long chat whether over the phone or in person and a hug helps. If all of the above fail then a huge bar of chocolate, a pack of 2o cigarettes and a bottle of Jack Daniels!!!!! catsPHiddle x |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 27 Mar 02 - 10:12 AM To drag this screaming and kicking back to music....
Hit the prozac, Thank you Lady P, have used this so much recently..... LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 27 Mar 02 - 10:49 AM Not a lot at the moment. Not even chocolate. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Murph10566 Date: 27 Mar 02 - 11:27 AM Invariably: my beautiful wife, Patricia... Brilliant post, Celtic Soul... (and so many others)... By logic: oft-times lately - The Mudcatters... Thanks to all, M. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 28 Mar 02 - 02:57 AM Hey Diva, what about a whingefest one evening....? I ate a whole easter egg yesterday. Didn't help. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 28 Mar 02 - 03:49 AM How long you got Squeaky?? Even the thought of Ian Bruce in his leather trousers isn't denting this....and I'm going to the folk club to see him tonight Diva |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Jerry Rasmussen Date: 28 Mar 02 - 07:04 AM Doing something for someone who is worse off than I am. Just because you have the inaleinable right to pursue happiness doesn't mean you're going to catch it. Jerry |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CapriUni Date: 28 Mar 02 - 12:45 PM Jerry -- Then again, sometimes the happiness comes from the pursuit itself -- doing something, anything, often fights off dispair. Especially when the dispair comes from feeling powerless. I truely believe that the purpose of life is to experience joy (whether that purpose is granted by a Divine being, or arose out of the evolutionary process is irrevelent, as far as I'm concerned). But that doesn't mean we ever come by joy easily. After all, the purpose of a cactus's roots is to find water in the desert. But even so, keeping joy as the focal point of my thoughts and actions is a big help, even when that focal point is on the distant horizen. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 28 Mar 02 - 12:56 PM Kind friends who send me hugs and good advice from afar. And old friends who know I'm in the doldrums and come out of their way to visit and drag me round Jedburgh and feed me huge cream teas,then make me walk it off!!!!!!! Diva |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 28 Mar 02 - 02:40 PM Eating a whole Easter egg. That won't surprise you. What will surprise you is that it was one of last years!!! Discovering the Mississippi Mud Pie Muller Corner Yoghurt. It's a yoghurt, it must be doing me good. Chocolate doesn't count when it's a yoghurt. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST,mg Date: 28 Mar 02 - 03:58 PM I am grateful that I don't have this problem. I suspect a large percentage of it in many people is biological, and one place to look is fatty acid intake..both quality and quantity. Don't get on the low-fat or no-fat or no saturated fat bandwagon if you are depressed, especially if you are from Irish, Scandinavian or Native American ancestry. I have read in several health books that we do not convert certain fatty acids right because of our ancestors' easy access to and dependence on seafoods. So eat your seafoods, several times a week. Salmon is especially good they say..or fish oil tablets. Read up on depression and fatty acid imbalances. Read Krispin Sullivan (I think) on Vitamin D deficiencies which are rampant..get in the sunshine, unless contraindicated. Read up on trans-fats and the havoc they are wreaking in people's nervous system and circulatory system structure. Anyway, what cheers me up..whenever I realize I have enough to eat and there are no bombs falling on me I am basically slightly happy. To get really happy I get a real coke (which I shouldn't) and a National Enquirer. If I was really sad I would put on a Linda Rondstadt album and blare it till the neighbors complained. mg |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST Date: 29 Mar 02 - 12:38 PM raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Diva Date: 29 Mar 02 - 01:33 PM And to round of a very pleasant day,a rather lovely hug from a leatherclad man!!!!!!! Diva |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CapriUni Date: 29 Mar 02 - 02:36 PM Four neighbor children running up my front walk and ringing my doorbell for no other reason than to hand me freshly picked daffodills, and then running off again. : - ) Makes my worries about relationships with grown-ups much less important. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST,DL Date: 30 Mar 02 - 02:41 AM Cheers the tv show Cheers |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: MichaelAnthony Date: 30 Mar 02 - 03:04 AM Midchuck, Are you sure about the exercise? I guess it varies. Sometimes, it does me some good. Othertimes, even after doing it when I really don't feel like it, it doesn't seem to make much of a difference. Or is this just me making exuses? |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 30 Mar 02 - 03:04 AM I watched Cheers yesterday morning... I can't see why I thought it was so funny 20 years ago.... except for Carla. I want to be Carla (and not just because she's married to Danny DeVito... I've no idea why I find that man attractive, but I do..... is this another symptom of impending fruitcakeness?). LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: CarolC Date: 30 Mar 02 - 03:10 AM Maybe it's his eyes, LtS. He's able to use his eyes to communicate an amazing amount of stuff. Especially devilishness. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: lady penelope Date: 30 Mar 02 - 10:16 AM Hi Liz, I'd forgotten about that! Was that at the Towersy when you pegged me out in my army surplus poncho? I have just aquired a different poncho with no convinient peg holes.........<20>: ) TTFN M'Lady P. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: MichaelAnthony Date: 30 Mar 02 - 12:16 PM Eating a can of tuna with triskets. Changing my sleeping pattern. Interacting with someone I find intelligent and sensitive. Guthrie. Doing something small that I've been putting off for a while, like slightly organizing the dresser. |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Deckman Date: 30 Mar 02 - 04:14 PM Bride Judy's tongue in my ear! CHEERS, Bob(deckman)Nelson |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST Date: 05 Apr 02 - 11:16 PM dead easter rabbits and chickys
because they are in my belly
chocolate and mellow of course
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 06 Apr 02 - 04:14 AM GUEST - it's a bad time when not even a dead bunny gets me cheered up.... I feel the need to rip something up... last few times that's happened, I christened our 1950's tiled fire surround 'Newham Council' (they'd just sacked me for being asthmatic and part time), then beat the crap out of it with a pickaxe and a 5lb lump hammer, or took the same 'implements of destruction' to the patio, temporarily renamed 'that bastard from work' and ended up with a 3ft deep, 4ft square pond. Heaven only knows what will happen this time.... we may end up with a serving hatch in the dining room wall or a bedroom with suspended bed and gothic roof beams (I want to move a ceiling light..... we may end up with no ceiling.....) LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Catherine Jayne Date: 06 Apr 02 - 11:56 AM Any good ideas would be grateful. I tried going out for a walk in the glorious sun today but it hurt too much. I've run out of cigarettes and I've nearly finished off the JD. I think I need to curl up with my cats and watch a girlie film............OR I would like to beat the crap out of something but snails can move faster than me at the moment. Oh well fake smiles all round I think!!! cat |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST Date: 07 Apr 02 - 01:42 AM What are you talking about?
>I christened our 1950's tiled fire surround 'Newham Council' (they'd just sacked me for being asthmatic and part time), then beat the crap out of it with a pickaxe and a 5lb lump hammer |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 07 Apr 02 - 03:38 AM What don't you get....? The 1950's tiled fire surround - a shit brown coloured ceramic tile and concrete structure, bordering an open fire place for coal/log fires. They were very popular in the 1950's, when the fashion was for ripping out anything Victorian and replacing it with souless, non functional ugly stuff. The whole thing was less than 6" wide which made it useless as a mantlepiece, as the clock is 7" wide, it obscured the original art nouveau tilesss and stuck out 2' into the room. Being concrete and tile, an unsteady 2 yr old had already fallen over it several times, and the risk of serious injury was increasing as the top was about level with her head when she got to 3 years old. Newham Council were my former employers. They had a purge of those with high sickness levels. They sacked several people, two of whom were asthmatic. The full time asthmatic got reinstated on appeal. Despite proving that my manager massaged my sickness figures (doubling them pro rata to my part time status, thus giving me a 6 day working week once a month and twice as many sick days as actually taken), my appeal failed, simply because I was part time. To give an example... if I worked 3 days one week, and took the middle day off sick, my manager would work it out as if I were full time, thus giving me a 6 day week and 2 days off sick, regardless of which days I took. Obviously, if I were at work Wed, off Thurs but back Fri, I would have worked the same if I'd been full time. Get it? In the UK, despite being a life threatening illness, more so than diabetes or epilepsy (stats show more people die in a year from asthma than the other two) asthma is not considered a disability. Were it so, I'd still be there. Pickaxe and a 5lb lumphammer - a pickaxe is a large digging implement, a wooden handle with a curved blade fixed at one end. The handle is fixed to the middle of the blade, one end of which is pointed, the other flattened out to make a cutting edge some 2-3 inches across. Commonly used for breaking concrete, levering up paving slabs and other physical labour. A lumphammer is a sturdy wooden handle bearing a solid metal head, roughly rectangular in shape, weighing between 2lb - 8lb. The commonest is 5lb. Used in conjunction with a wedge or chisel, it is heavier than the common hammer and is used for tougher substances such as concrete. Clearer now? It cheered me up no end. LTS
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Catherine Jayne Date: 07 Apr 02 - 06:59 AM Good explanation LtS I enjoyed it. I have asthma but dont consider it a disability however I do think it should be taken into account. Because I work in a smokey environment my employer makes sure I have regular check ups at the asthma clinic. If my peak flow drops too far I get taken out of the club and put on reception until it rises. cat |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: Liz the Squeak Date: 07 Apr 02 - 01:42 PM Never ask me to explain, I can bullshit for my country. LTS |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: JeZeBeL Date: 07 Apr 02 - 02:57 PM Beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex, beer, men, chocolate, sex..........get the idea?? |
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Subject: RE: BS: what cheers you up? From: GUEST Date: 08 Apr 02 - 12:30 AM www.mudcatblues.org |