Obit: Sparky

Subject: Obit: Sparky
From: katlaughing
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:37 AM

My dad passed away this morning sometime around 3. He always told me if I cried and carried on too much he'd come back to haunt me. I asked him if that was a promise. I am relieved because he was in so much discomfort and hadn't been able to play music in over a year, but oh gawd how I shall miss him...no more stories, no more songs...I know he'd want me to tell you one and all, thanks so much for being there, for caring, for sharing with him over the years.

I love you, Daddy,

"katty"

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: freda underhill
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:40 AM

I'm sorry to hear it Kat, your Dad sounds like a lovely man. my thoughts are with you

lots of love

freda

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Rt Revd Sir jOhn from Hull
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:41 AM

Sorry to hear this.

Take care.

john

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From:
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:45 AM

Sorry to hear you news Kat.

{{{Kat}}}

Love

Khatt

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Tinker
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:45 AM

Kat, I'm in between getting kids off to school and my eyes are full. Sparky is so clearly in you in so many ways. And I am thankful you shared him with us so many time over the years. I doubt you'll have to "cry and carry on" for him to stay with you.

Blessings

Tinker

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Steve Latimer
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:47 AM

Kat,

There is nothing that I can say at a time like this that will make you feel better. I can just offer my condolences and I'll say a prayer for him and you.

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Micca
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:49 AM

kat, He was a Lovely man and an inspiration to you and to us, My sincere sympathies to you, Rog, Rue, and the rest of your Family
your friend, Micca

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: wilbyhillbilly
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:53 AM

So,so sorry Kat, he will be with you and us for always, he left us his music to remember him by.

Sparky, you are among the greats now, just where you belong. We love you.

whb

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Alice
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:55 AM

Kat, I'm very sorry. May you and your family find peace.

Alice

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Alba
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:55 AM

I can't leave for Scotland without telling you that I love you Kat.
I can only hope that Sparky finds Tommy and they both come back to see us.
I feel so helpless. You have been my rock for the last few days Kat and I feel like a pebble now that you need me. I wish I was able to give you more. I trust though that we know each other well enough in that you understand that my Dearest Sister.
Sparky...may You walk in tall grass and bright Sunshine. You are so Loved and your Daughter is all you could have ever wished for.
A wonderfilled, Beautiful, Kind and Caring Woman.
She got that from You Sparky. She has all the good you had to give.
May Your Journey be swift and filled with Light.
Take my Love along with you Sir.
My deepest sympathy and Love to you Kat and Rog, Rue, my little Man Morgan and all the Family.
Blessings
Jude

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Steve Parkes
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:57 AM

Kat, I never knew Sparky except from what you've told us about him, but I've always felt he must have been a great bloke and a wonderful dad. God
bless you both.

Steve & Sue

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Bobert
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:57 AM

Sniff...

I'm so sorry, kat...

Bobert

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: MMario
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:57 AM

Now it is your turn to tell the stories and pass on the songs - you've got a good start. Thank *YOU* for sharing your Dad with us these past few years - There will be thoughts turned to him and you around the world today , I'm sure.

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Jeri
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 08:58 AM

Kat, so sorry for your loss. He died appreciated and loved, and you couldn't have done more to let him know.

Big hug from me,
Jeri

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: black walnut
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:03 AM

Oh my.....many hugs.
~b.w.

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Janie
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:08 AM

Dear, dear Kat. So very sorry. (((((((((hug))))))))).

Janie

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: kendall
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:08 AM

I'm sorry to hear this,you have my deepest sympathy.

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: wysiwyg
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:13 AM

no more stories, no more songs....

May they all bubble up from your heart when you most need to re-savor them, and when the world most needs to hear you pass them on. May all his love and wisdom flow forth from you. May your tears bring you release so that all that remains of the grief is the blessing of him forever in your heart.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: MartinRyan
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:15 AM

Sorry to hear of your loss - but lovely to watch a community rally round....

Regards

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Roger the Skiffler
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:17 AM

It's all been said. Don't stop telling stories about him, kat.
Thinking of you.

RtS

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Flash Company
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:24 AM

Kat, we've all been in this situation at some time, they don't go away, just take up another existance inside your memory.
Thinking of you!

FC

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Den
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:36 AM

Kat, I'm very sorry for your trouble. My own Father passed away last Christmas Eve. Somehow the Holidays just won't be the same. Den

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Fibula Mattock
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:37 AM

Really sorry Kat. Take care.

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: jacqui.c
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:38 AM

So sorry Kat.

As long as he is remembered he will always be with you. Now you must carry on the stories and the songs, and you will remember when he told them to you.

I didn't know Sparky but he sounded like a great guy and his life would definitely be one to celebrate.

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Deckman
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:45 AM

All my best to you Kat. Roope

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: jeffp
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:45 AM

My deepest sympathies, kat. And to you as well, BET. And to everybody in the family.

jeffp

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Peter T.
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 09:49 AM

Hi kat, find a little room in that heart of yours as big as a barn for yourself. You need a katlaughing for katlaughing -- much love.

yours,

Peter T.

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: katlaughing
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:05 AM

Thank you all so very, very much. Thanks, Jeff, for remembering my sister Bet. I wasn't quite coherent when I started this thread...

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:06 AM

What you've once held in your heart is never gone. Thank you for sharing your father with all of us.

Sympathy and hugs to you, Rog and the whole family.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Mooh
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:24 AM

Our hopes and prayers to you and yours, Kat. After the hurt of his passing there'll be all those good memories. Take your time, pass on some memories to others (like us!), and take comfort in knowing you're not alone.

Peace & Love,

Mooh.

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:30 AM

Kat,

It's never easy to lose a parent, even when they're ailing and you wish for the pain to cease. Thanksgivings will be difficult, poignant, for a few years, but will also be richer for the stories you will tell about him. My sympathy to you and your family.

Maggie (SRS)

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: SINSULL
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:30 AM

Go ahead and cry, kat. Many of us are crying with you. His pain is over now.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Homeless
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:31 AM

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: karen k
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:34 AM

Kat,
I didn't know Sparky physically but somehow he is in my heart because of how much you've shared him with all of us. I'm so glad to have the tape of his songs and it will be a part of my collection for as long as I am on this earth. I know that you will carry on his stories and his songs. He is in your heart and your memory and no one can take that from you. I hope that today you feel the love and the caring that you are so often the first to offer others. I hope we can meet in person someday. I have a lot to thank you for myself.

You and Bet are in my thoughts and in my heart during this difficult time.

Much love and condolences,
karen

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Sorcha
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:36 AM

Blessings, kat. From all of us here.

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Juan P-B
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:36 AM

All my condolences and warmth coming to you!

Having read the previous input - You are definitely among the right people at this time

All love
Juan P-B

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: MBSLynne
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:37 AM

So sorry Kat......

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Louie Roy
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:44 AM

Kat I 'm truly sorry to hear about your Dad and I never knew him but he had to be a great and caring person to have a daughter as caring and kind as you.My deepest sympathy Louie Roy

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Áine
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 10:45 AM

Oh darlin', I am so sorry to hear this news. I know how much you worried about Sparky's discomfort these past months. I'm sending big hugs to all y'all up there (and a certain trio that's helped out in the past). I just wish I could be with you.

Be good to each other.

I love ya, sister-girl.

-- Áine

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: JennyO
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 11:03 AM

So sorry to hear this, Kat. Lots of love coming from Oz.

Jenny

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Carly
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 11:10 AM

So sorry to hear this sad news...May you find comfort in all that he passed on to you, and may his memory never fade from all who knew him.

Sympathy and peace to you and your family.

Carly Gewirz

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: GUEST,Art Thieme
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 11:13 AM

Kat,

I'll always feel I knew him---through you, through his songs that you and he graciously sent to me, and through the many musical places where he and I coincided --- and where we sang the same songs differently--and carried on the tradition.

Sparky was, as you know, a real link on the chain. He'll keep on keepin' on !

Love,

Art

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: M.Ted
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 11:19 AM

I'm so sorry, Kat--Over the years you have shared him with us, and he's really been a part of the mudcat community--Life is a short and frail thing, but, in song and story, he's touched many of us, and he will live on with us--

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 11:24 AM

Kat, have a big hug from Scotland, and hang on those happy memories, Sparky would want you to do that; and to pass on his heritage.
Giok

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Justa Picker
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 11:59 AM

Kat,
I am so sorry to hear this.
I know and he knew how much you loved him.
My thoughts are with you and your family at this time.

M.

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: freightdawg
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 12:08 PM

Kat, so sorry to hear of your loss. Our deepest sympathy to you and all your family.

His stories and songs will continue, sometimes in the oddest of places and at the oddest of times. But you will hear his voice and know that he is still with you.

{{{{big hug}}}}

Freightdawg

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Dani
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 12:17 PM

I am so sorry. What a hard time. I'm thinking of you and sending hugs.

Dani

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: Metchosin
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 12:18 PM

kat, I'm so sorry. Even when one is expecting it, the loss is no less painful. Take care.
Susan

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: katlaughing
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 12:19 PM

Folks, I need some help with some old feelings. Dealing with his second wife and her kids and grandkids. As little as possible, but still one of them got in a little "dig" and I really want to rise above it. I know it didn't really matter to dad and it shouldn't to me, but they've decided to bury him in Utah instead of over here in CO where his folks are. He wanted a plain pine box which they will not do. They are pillars of the community and have to keep up appearances, imo. They are at least honouring his request that there be no funeral, just a graveside service. They are writing the obit and keeping it short because they don't know how much they will be charged for it and he "didn't leave any money for expenses." I got them to add one line, "he passed his love of music on to his kids."

Please send me some "stay kind and calm" thoughts for the next few days as we try to sort things out, the service as well as his instruments and gifts etc. which we gave him over the years. Sorry if that sounds ghoulish.

Thanks a bunch,

kat

Subject: RE: Obit: Sparky
From: DonMeixner
Date: 29 Nov 04 - 12:25 PM

Hi Kat,

My deepest sympathies to you.

I have little say that you haven't heard. I did notice there is a balance when my Dad died. I have never gotten over the loss but I have never forgotten the stories or the lessons either. And very often when I think back on something he said or had done. I find he has taught a new lesson.

He still keeps teaching and touching me. I'm sure Sparky will do the same for you.

Don