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Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?

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GUEST,Kay 23 Mar 05 - 12:48 PM
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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: GUEST,Kay
Date: 23 Mar 05 - 12:48 PM

We had a good one. One of the singers in our 5 piece arranged a gig for us.

Before the booking happened this particular singer left - not of their own will it has to be said.

They then told us that the gig had been cancelled - some obtuse reason was given.

They also told the booker that the band had split up and wouldn't be able to do the gig but that they would do it as a solo spot to save the day for the booker, did the gig, pocketed the dosh and the rest of us only found out about it later when the booker bumped into us at another gig.

Hows that for etiquette?


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: GUEST
Date: 23 Mar 05 - 01:17 PM

Guest Kay's example is a little different in that there was dishonesty involved. The gig wasn't cancelled, as the singer told the band. Nor had the band split up, as the singer told the booker. Sounds like the singer was getting back at the other band members, since he apparently was forced to leave the group, and he was probably pissed off. Not saying the band might not have had a good reason for getting rid of him, but he probably didn't agree. It can be difficult putting and keeping a band together - getting the right skill sets along with the ability to get along together, put in the work required, etc.


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: mad2
Date: 23 Mar 05 - 01:37 PM

having once toyed with being in a band myself ( i was crap) i learned the following
_ if you start off as friends you probably wont be for long
- you may become friends as you go along - and then fall out later
- no matter how amateur you all are ego will out !
- a decision based on what is good for the music will probably be bad for the friendshiP!

All in all being in a band is a tricky mix of camaraderie, friendship,PASSION for music and fertile ground for umbridge to be taken! Most folkies are going to be in parttime bands - meeting when you are completely knackered after work or having to sacrifice a saturday lie in to practice - another possible reason for tetchiness!

Bloody good fun though!


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Mar 05 - 03:28 PM

Um, Ted, does the band have any remaining commitments as a trio?

If so, are you planning to honor the commitments? If so, what can you do short-term, to be sure you will HAVE a trio? :~)

Cuz, if you do have gigs lined up, you might want to be cautious in the short term and THEN replace them! :~) Because as you have said, it's your name out there as the band's business representative, so you won't want bookers associating pissy band members' actions with you!

~Susan


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: Gedpipes
Date: 23 Mar 05 - 03:32 PM

Whistle players are 10 a penny. Get another one ;-)


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: GUEST, whistleblower
Date: 23 Mar 05 - 03:53 PM

If I, as a potter, have a teacup and saucer with a broken cup, do I offer for sale a saucer and the handle of the broken cup? No. I move on and sell a pitcher or a bowl.

You're the potter.


I'll have a pint of whatever John's drinking ...


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: GUEST,UK Ted
Date: 23 Mar 05 - 05:00 PM

There are a couple of gigs coming up but not for a couple of months (obviously we don't gig for a living - we all have full time jobs). I'll see how things develop as to how I'll handle it. But I will have a couple of musos quietly lined up to fill in in case something like this happens again.


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Mar 05 - 05:26 PM

Good man, Ted!

~S~


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: greg stephens
Date: 23 Mar 05 - 05:50 PM

UK Ted: make sure you advertise the next gig here, especially if you are still with the old line-up. There are a lot of us who will turn out to watch. I especially look forward to the whistle showcase numnber.


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: jonm
Date: 24 Mar 05 - 03:05 AM

I personally think your only failing was in explaining the situation to the band : no melodeon player = no band = no gig. If the booker is then happy to accept an alternative performer for the same slot, that's not an issue with the band. Would they perform as a duo without you?

I play with a four-piece, members are over 100 miles apart. From the outset we have arranged and rehearsed material we normally play with any combination of two or three of us, or which two of the members perform solo, in addition to four-piece numbers. This means that if anyone cannot make it, or has done a flounce, we still have a gig and rehearsed material. Gives the audient some variety and each of us some time at the bar and an opportunity to tweak levels on the PA.


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: Lowden Jameswright
Date: 24 Mar 05 - 09:12 AM

_" if you start off as friends you probably wont be for long
- you may become friends as you go along - and then fall out later
- no matter how amateur you all are ego will out !
- a decision based on what is good for the music will probably be bad for the friendshiP!

All in all being in a band is a tricky mix of camaraderie, friendship,PASSION for music and fertile ground for umbridge to be taken!"

Madeline sums it up pretty well.

Having recorded some band sessions it's interesting to study the group dynamics. On one particular mixdown I produced different samples for the band to listen to and make a decision on the final tracks for the CD. The accordian player (having played through the entire recordings) did not appreciate my editing sections out, and fading portions in, leaving the volume of the instrument lower to get (IMHO) a good balance. The other 3 members preferred my interpretation of what made for a good mix/balance. The accordian player was obviously miffed.

The final result was good quality - much better than their live performances (they never used a sound man; everyone played their instruments ALL the time (not good form folks!!) Instrumentally, they were all over each other like a rash.

It's a real shame, but the band broke up soon afterwards. They could have been very successful (If only they'd had the balls to be able to open with each other), but ego and a lack of leadership got in their way.


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: PoohBear
Date: 24 Mar 05 - 10:13 AM

LJ - you must be worth your weight in gold at a sound board. It is not easy to balance sound, either at a recording or live gig, so that all are happy with it. One of my pet peeves with almost any group is the idea that all instruments and voices must be at the same (usually too loud) decibel level. I was taught, 100 years ago, in choir, that music is not only the notes, but the silences between them. Also, that to sucessfully be a GROUP, you must listen to the other performers and blend with them. IMHO, a band is not a band, merely a collection of bodies with musical instruments, unless they learn to listen to one another and play together, not just beside each other.
OK, I'll get off my soapbox now. . . time for a little smackerel of something. . . honey, Guinness. . .
Cheers
PB


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: Lowden Jameswright
Date: 24 Mar 05 - 10:23 AM

Spot on PB - music to my ears. Where gropus/bands are concerned there's a simple formula. Count the number of members in the band. If the sum total can't be expressed musically as a percentage greater than 100, then some adjustments need to be made to the formula (you know - the one that produces REAL chemistry).


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: M.Ted
Date: 24 Mar 05 - 12:26 PM

>They could have been very successful (If only they'd had the balls to be able to open with each >other), but ego and a lack of leadership got in their way.

Is this the most common epitaph for failed bands?


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: GUEST,Sliptrack
Date: 24 Mar 05 - 12:54 PM

It amazes me that you have the front to take gigs knowing that at least 1/3 of the band wasn't competent!

I suggest you cancel all forthcoming gigs, get some accomplished musicians, practise, practise, practise and only when you have a product worth putting on the market, put the band out for hire.

You may only work for "pin money" having a "real job" but you should still be professional in your act and your dealings.

Its time like this that the trade description act should apply to services.

as we used to say in the RAF "Get Some In"


Sliptrack


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: RichM
Date: 24 Mar 05 - 01:39 PM

Sliptrack, I think any band that you put together would meet your criteria--I mean that sincerely as a compliment.

Amateur musicians who invest time and energy in a band do not always have the luxury of selecting first rate musicians...and in my opinion, as an optimist, I like to see people learn and progress from being included in a band... Sometimes though, one makes errors in selection, and its usually only when a situation develops, like the one in the subject case , that a crisis erupts.

As important to me as giving a first rate performance, is allowing aspiring performer of lesser levels to be immersed in a performance situation, and learn from mistakes, and progress in their abilities.

One also has to look back to the purpose of the band: Was it to perform at an already outstanding level? Or to encourage and allow amateurs of lesser experience to progress?


My thoughts anyway, presented without trying to one-up anyone here!



RichM


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: GUEST,UK Ted
Date: 24 Mar 05 - 02:57 PM

Points well taken. We don't make a living off music but I still try to put on a good performance and be professional. I'd hoped the whistle player would improve and should have spoken up sooner when it just wasn't happening. But I didn't want to be too direct for fear of hurting somebody's feelings. I did tried to hint around but never came out and said anything flat out - such as "If you don't show some improvement you're out of the band". It didn't help that the melodeon player has something of a crush on the whistle player and always tells her how great she is. In retrospect, I should have bitten the bullet and made my concerns known. This incident has caused me to rethink the entire concept of the band, which is what I should have done a long time ago.   I don't know what I was thinking, having someone who was only acceptable as long as somebody played louder than her to cover up the mistakes. It really hit me when I thought about playing an entire three set gig with an off key whistle and occasional shaky vocals distracting me in the background. A melodeon can cover up a lot of this...


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: GUEST,Sliptrack
Date: 27 Mar 05 - 09:40 AM

RichM:-

My comments were based on the opening facts of the Topic referring to the splitting up of the payment for gigs etc. and I directed my comments to the leader of a semi-pro band.

To reply to your comments (which I take in the manner they were written and with no offence taken or given - hopefully)

Amateur musicians who invest time and energy in a band do not always have the luxury of selecting first rate musicians
The band is not what I would call "amateur" - as for talent, I have found a great amount of talent out there in people who play at sessions, floor spots and just in their bedrooms, it's the recruitment of such people that leads to good if not great bands and not band members made up of wanna be's and friends (though this can work if they have the perseverance to learn their trade). GIGO

Any product put out for sale should be worthy of purchase, I have seen many bands over the years get a bad name by being too quick in offering themselves for paid gigs when they weren't ready.

As important to me as giving a first rate performance, is allowing aspiring performer of lesser levels to be immersed in a performance situation, and learn from mistakes, and progress in their abilities.

In part I will agree, but it does depend on where you are playing, sessions, freebee gigs and practises are the place to involve potential members, and only when they are capable of becoming full time members of the band should they be put on the payroll/line-up - If their involvement is in ratio to their ability e.g. the whistle player can play a couple of tunes well, guest them for those numbers, and expand from there. It's not fair to inflict an incompetent member on a paying audience or put that pressure on other members of the band.


One also has to look back to the purpose of the band: Was it to perform at an already outstanding level? Or to encourage and allow amateurs of lesser experience to progress

Again I say "Horses for Courses" - If I had hired the band and they were playing/singing out of tune, I would not have been happy! if it was a freebee or in a session, I wouldn't have been impressed or consider hiring the band.

I do feel Guest UKTed was not really serious when posting, as he was well aware of the action he'd taken and the reasons why, and was only looking for support for his actions. He set up the band, he recruited the musicians, he supplied the PA and bookings and he decided on the split from the revenue.

If he wants a good band he needs to rethink, or start again setting up his rules for the start e.g..

Recruit competent or potential members (then work with them to gain a tight sound)

Practice and arrange the music and sets.

Then when they're ready, use his ability to get gigs that are within their capability (if they only have 8-10 good songs/tunes there's no point in doing a whole night, far better doing one spot well, than two or three with lots of mistakes).

Inform all the members before accepting gigs, how the money from the gigs will be apportioned, e.g. money for agents fee, travelling cost, PA use, etc to be taken out first the rest then split equally.

Ensure everyone is available for the gig and will not let him down unless impossible to avoid reason, and what will happen if they do let him down.

Running a professional band is just like running a business and should be treated as such.

I may sound harsh but note I am talking about professional and semi professional bands who expect to get paid for making music, not friends having a thrash around and making music just for fun or a few beers down the local.

Good luck UKTed, with finding members of your band that are willing to put the time and energy into getting it right and lay your cards on the table from the start along with you mission statement

Sliptrack


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Subject: RE: Band Etiquette Question - Am I a prat?
From: breezy
Date: 27 Mar 05 - 05:39 PM

No diss, but Sounds like the band name aint worth much so go again and good luck.

Start as a duo with someone, go trio when ready but dont be in a hurry.

The worst scenario is when the worst muso is the leader!!! and is a control freak.!!!!!


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