BS: grumpy old men

Subject: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,cranky young woman
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:24 AM

I am fed up with Grumpy Old Men. I am sick of the lot of them - their constant whingeing, finger pointing, their raised voice, interrupting other people who are talking, and their refusal to take responsibility for their grumpy moods.

Well I'm sick of them. Grumpies, get a life. Do something meaningful:buy a pet, take up tap-dancing, learn to knit - that will give you something to be grumpy about.

Madame Lafarge.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:25 AM

right behind you there sister.....   Don't be looking at the Billy Bragg sells out thread above the line!!!

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:28 AM

Do the fuckin' dishes and be quiet.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,cranky young woman
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:33 AM

put the garbage out, and hop in first.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:36 AM

You would bite the arse out of a skunk and bark at the hole, wouldn't you. (That is NOT a question.)

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:37 AM

PMS at its finest.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,cranky young woman
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:49 AM

Like a red rag to a bull, brucie. I repeat:










I am fed up with Grumpy Old Men.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,cyw
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:49 AM

And with grumpy young men too.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:50 AM

X









Bang your head on the X.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:51 AM

. . . and get me a beer on the way back.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:51 AM

I don't know who you are, but were we married at one time?


LOLOLOL

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:53 AM

Next time there's a branding, we'll call for you instead of the cutter.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,even crankier young woman
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:55 AM

Next time I wipe the dribble out of the corner of your mouth, I'll spill the soup in your lap.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,Nurse Ratched
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:57 AM

Just call me if you need me, Miss CRW, always happy to assist.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: gnu
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:01 AM

Hehehehe. Hand me a tissue. No, brucie, I was married to her... for thirteen years, five months, seventeen days and twelve-and-a-half hours... approximately.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Blissfully Ignorant
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:04 AM

Crabbit bastards, the lot of you. Go have a cup of tea and chill out....:P

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,heh heh heh
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:04 AM

Researchers found that men who were socially isolated had raised levels of a blood chemical linked to heart disease. The cell signalling protein, interleukin-6 (IL-6), is known to promote the inflammation that helps artery walls to thicken and harden. This can lead to heart attacks and strokes.

Scientists in the US studied 3267 men, with an average age of 62, who underwent physical examinations and answered a series of questions about their social lives. They were asked if they were single or married, how many friends and relatives they knew whom they could confide in and the extent of their participation in group activities and religious meetings or services.

The men were then assigned a social network score of one to four. Isolated men were at the bottom of the scale, and those who were highly connected at the top. The researchers found that the average level of IL-6 in the blood of men with a score of one was 3.85 picograms per millilitre. Men with a social network score of four had a level of 3.52 picograms. "This was a statistically significant difference," said the research's leader, Dr Eric Loucks, from the Harvard School of Public Health in Boston.

"Our analyses suggest that it may be good for the heart to be connected. In general, it seems to be good for health to have close friends and family, to be connected to community groups or religious organisations, and to have a close partner."

The researchers said the same link was not found for women.

Press Association

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: wysiwyg
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:15 AM

I think it is a fine rant on a narrowly-defined subject. I don't see how anyone can fairly assume, from the post, that this person is anti-male. Just anti-abuse.

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: JohnInKansas
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:25 AM

As a wee little child, I had a particular affection for a couple of notoriously grumpy old men. I found that when I learned to communicate a bit with them, they had some valuable, and valued, things to say. Of course the kids in my "peer group" thought I was a "little odd" for taking the time to deal with them, and the old grumpies probably thought I was a little strange too - but I got quite a lot from them.

Now that I've reached the age to be one of them, I understand even better how difficult it can be to deal with whiny snot-nosed, self-centered little beggars who think they're the center of the universe and that nobody else matters: - and there seem to be a lot more of them around recently.

I've also noted that the ones most likely then to fault their elders have turned into the grumpiest of old men (and women) now.

John

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,Martha Gummet
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:27 AM

I'm concerned that Cranky Young Woman's angry and patronizing rhetoric reflects her own agist biases, her statement of principles hides an agenda that at least many young women hold to, an agenda that really is dark. Older men already know that they are subject to exclusion and discrimination. I see Cranky Young Woman trivialising the feelings of older men. I find that to be more than a little disingenuous.

I'm going to keep working towards dialogue, but it's beginning to look to me as if dialogue through the institutional structure of this thread would be a waste of time because the common ground I thought we shared on welcoming all people to Mudcat --whether they're "looking for 'music'" or not--doesn't seem to be there.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,Charlene
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:32 AM

Martha Gummet, you old cow, you are just male-identified. I bet you ENJOY scrubbing out the oven while your dotard husband is watching the football on TV.

Cranky Young Woman, I hear your pain, I am with you. Grumpy old men, take heed, you are inspiring me to move a motion.

in the struggle

Charlene

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: wysiwyg
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:48 AM

GUEST,Martha Gummet, I would agree that

the common ground I thought we shared on welcoming all people to Mudcat --whether they're "looking for 'music'" or not--doesn't seem to be there.

It has disappeared under a barrage of judgmental defensiveness where whatever one posts is immediately taken as an opportuity to feel either morally superior or victimized, and to let fly from a soapboax that precludes "dialogue."

This makes a fine example of that new model of Mudcat: I see Cranky Young Woman trivialising the feelings of older men. I find that to be more than a little disingenuous.

Perhaps your pre-existing perspective makes it hard to see her post from another view. Older men already know that they are subject to exclusion and discrimination. Yes, they do know this and they are treated this way, and I agree ity is wrong and hurtful.

I also know quite a few older men who are reaping the seeds of poor relationship they have sown, who have brought "exclusion" upon themselves as their own actions drove caring people away. For example, I know MANY caregivers who labor on despite an increased rate and degree of abuse. Once in awhile, you know what-- they need to VENT. And all caregiver support professionals urge them to have a safe place where they can do just that.

What is my own pre-existing view? Well, about 20 years ago I started a movement called Allies of Men. We quite actively (and effectively) protested male-bashing. We focused on mutually respectful relationships between ourselves and men, and did not engage in telling men how they "ought" to treat women. But we didn't sit around and encourage bad behavior, either, and once in a great while, we VENTED in a safe place and then got right back to those relationships.


It was amazing to me that when I did some respite cargiving for my paw in law, he was really nice to me. "What did you DO?" I treated him with respect and I smilingly told him to knock it off when he didn't, and left the room till I could resume my own friendly cheer. Guess what-- he was perfectly capable of being quite nice, and thanked me for interrupting his bad habit. I occasionally ranted and vented in a safe place-- away from him-- to maintain my detachment and high expectations.

Mudcat isn't really a safe place, though, for any kind of rant, as most ranters have seen. The group dynamic and environment's design here does not allow it.

I strongly believe that one doesn't need to enable bad behavior in order to prevent men's isolation-- they are completely capable of forming and maintaining lifelong, close relationships THEMSELVES. Our community is full of them.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:59 AM

I think this thread is just what I needed today. Haven't had a good laugh in a long time. I don't know who started this thread, but you have my thanks. When you have the housecleaning done, please post again. Me, I am gonna watch TV, drink beer and scratch my nuts.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,fed up 2
Date: 03 May 05 - 12:03 PM

Good for you, cranky young woman - you go girl! And very well said, Susan.

I'm sick of the ones who are always looking for a fight, and take everything personally.

Hey guys (those to whom this applies), believe it or not, it's not always about you, and no, you are not always right. Occasionally, someone else might have something of value to say, and letting them say it won't turn you into a weakling.

Far from it - a man who is sure enough of himself to listen and learn as well as having his own opinions is one who is worthy of respect.

Ahhhhhhhh! Rant over. That felt good!!

Cassandra Whelkworth

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,Martha Gummet
Date: 03 May 05 - 12:09 PM

Thank you for your comments, Susan. Yes, I've noticed the atmosphere here. I think dialogue is paramount to any understanding - and that co-operation is more powerful than confrontation. While I understand that some men have brought isolation upon themselves, I believe that with communication and understanding, any person can be assisted back into a community.

Charlene, I am not male identified, but I believe that a functioning family unit is at the heart of social health, and that a woman's role is to work to keep that family happy and whole.

Your lesson, Susan, with your father-in-law, is a good one.

with thanks

Martha G.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,Charlene
Date: 03 May 05 - 12:21 PM

Brucie, like many men you seem to believe that other people want to hear about your nuts. This genital focus is a symptom of grumpium narcissism - i ask you to put to one side your testicular obsessions, and do something for humanity - take a course in bean sprouting. This will both satisfy your subliminal desires, and teach you a culinary skill that is good for the ecology and good for your inner health.

regards

Charlene

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,Ms C Whelkworth
Date: 03 May 05 - 12:28 PM

If I was you brucie, I'd be keeping an eye on those nuts - there are some squirrels around here that seem to have forgotten what time of year it is. I saw some just this morning adding to their collection.

CW

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 01:26 PM

You folks gotta get out more.

Thank you Charlene for your insight and kindness. You are the same gal you always were.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,jeffp
Date: 03 May 05 - 01:34 PM

You know, when I first saw this thread I thought it was going to be about Roger and his campaign for the greater glory of Mudcat.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: SINSULL
Date: 03 May 05 - 01:44 PM

I'll take a grumpy old man over a crankie old woman any day. And I thought brucie was obsessed with his bygone case of crabs. Somehow it triggers fond memories for him. But I could be wrong.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: rumanci
Date: 03 May 05 - 01:49 PM

there's a very serious sense of humour by-pass on this thread .....and it aint from the grumpy old men quarter !!!
rum

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 02:29 PM

SINSULL,

I miss them so. They were the pets I never had in my youth. And then, all of a sudden, there I was, infested with pets. Thousands of them. No longer did my widowed parents have to tie chicken around my neck so the dog and cat would play with me. There they were. Crabs. They loved me just because I was me. Thank you for bringing back fond memories.

I will depart this thread now. GUEST, Cranky young woman: Thank you for this thread. Sincerely. I don't want to hang around because it is beginning to feel like it ain't gonna be too much fun real soon. But you brought a bunch of smiles to my face and I certainly thank you for that.

Bruce M

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,Grumpy
Date: 03 May 05 - 02:39 PM

If I say ANYTHING some GYW will just take it the wrong way so I will just sit here and be grumpy !!

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 02:52 PM

As a PS: I scratch my nuts when they itch; have no TV so never watch one; do not drink--been 20 years now.

When folks have to go to a proctologist to find their sense of humour, then they should go. If I offended anyone on this thread because you feel I am a MCP--well, in the parlance, tough shit.

Have a good day everyone. Except the one or two to whom the above remark might apply.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: gnu
Date: 03 May 05 - 06:07 PM

GUEST, Fed up 2: "...as well as having his own opinions ...". Oh, I had opinions. The only one that ever really got through was delivered by my lawyer.

Ditto brucie. This COM takes humour too seriously to listen to the weening, however enlightening it may be.

gnight

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: jacqui.c
Date: 03 May 05 - 06:07 PM

I live with a grumpy old man and love it. He engenders so much entertainment every day and it's great fun winding him up occasionally.

He also has a number of friends of the same ilk - I just don't take them at all seriously and we all get on well. It's great fun anticipating the reaction to any given situation that might arise.

Brucie - condolences on the loss of all your pets, I feel for you. Keep on posting mate - I for one look forward to reading your stuff.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,freda
Date: 03 May 05 - 08:12 PM

beware of grumpy old men, you never know what they get up to

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,freda
Date: 03 May 05 - 08:14 PM

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,and that's not all
Date: 03 May 05 - 08:15 PM

now they have to build special prisons for them

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 08:56 PM

Well, it gives me something to look forward to, anyway.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: SINSULL
Date: 03 May 05 - 09:15 PM

brucie - any chance that your forgotten conversation with Pete Seeger involved your pet crabs and their extinction?

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:06 PM

Easy for YOU to laugh . . . . That was one of the tykes.

Have no idea who the fellow is, but he's a prince among men for sure.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 10:15 PM

And this SOB was the worst. Tenacious and tough. The last to go.

Percival.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: SINSULL
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:09 PM

Looks like a grumpy old man to me.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:11 PM

LOL

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: dick greenhaus
Date: 03 May 05 - 11:42 PM

As for me, I'm not getting older...I'm getting bitter.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 04 May 05 - 12:40 AM

Angostura?

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Leadfingers
Date: 04 May 05 - 05:31 AM

Pint of Bitter ? Dont mind if I do !

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From:
Date: 04 May 05 - 07:05 AM

I'm marrying a grumpy old man on Saturday and I love him and I love living with him. You can't change a grumpy old man. If you don't like them rise above it all and ignore them.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: jacqui.c
Date: 04 May 05 - 07:24 AM

Right on catsphiddle!

Actually they are a lot of fun as they've generally stopped taking themselves quite so seriously. Mine doesn't get offended when I insult him, he just gets even.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: kendall
Date: 04 May 05 - 07:33 AM

Hrrumph

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From:
Date: 04 May 05 - 07:34 AM

Indeed Jacqui...mine does the same!!

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Leadfingers
Date: 04 May 05 - 02:59 PM

Actually , when you look further into the situation , its usually a cranky young woman who's made the old man grumpy !!

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Peace
Date: 04 May 05 - 06:33 PM

Son, ya gotta know when to hold 'em . . . .

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,Joe_F
Date: 05 May 05 - 05:57 PM

*Grumpy*? *Old*? Why, I was a member of Grump Parliament. I breakfast every morning on tea & grumpets, and dine on grump steak. Whenever I climb, it is in the Grumpians. Pillars of society grumple under my grumps.

--- Joe Fineman    [e-mail]

||: Death before dishonor? Too late, but never mind. :||

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Shanghaiceltic
Date: 05 May 05 - 07:51 PM

I'd buy you a diamond Cartier watch to cheer you up, but why bother when there is a perfectly good clock in the kitchen!

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,grumpy young woman
Date: 20 Jun 06 - 09:41 AM

It has been a very difficult day, a difficult week and I turned to this thread as an outlet for my grumpiness. Imagine my dismay when I saw the grumpy gremlins had been active, and some little grumpy gnomre has shuffled the posts.

To all those having a good day, I say - who do you think you are?

g.y.w.

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: Bill D
Date: 20 Jun 06 - 07:25 PM

you'd prefer Sneezy, Dopey and Sleepy?

Subject: RE: BS: grumpy old men
From: GUEST,Rufus
Date: 20 Jun 06 - 08:36 PM

I nominates Amos.