Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi

Subject: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Wincing Devil
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:01 AM

Robi Kay Wilding

Sept 9, 1955 - May 19, 2006

A Beauteous Light has Gone from this World
Memorial Web Site

My favorite Chantey Sing partner is gone.

After a courageous over 2 year fight with lung cancer, my SweeteeFace is out of pain.

20% (that's 1 in 5!) of women over 40 with lung cancer are non-smokers. The numbers are probably higher, as I see on her death certificate that the doctor (whom I've never heard of) marked "Unknown" to the question "Did tobacco contribute to the cause of death"?".

Take LOTS of pictures of your sweetie!

This one's for you, babydoll:

Ben Backstay
Ben Backstay was our bos'n, A very jolly boy,
No lad than he more merrily Could pipe all hands ahoy.
And when unto his summons We did not well attend,
No lad than he more merrily Could handle a rope's end.
Could handle a rope's end, Could handle a rope's end.

Singing! Chip chow, cherry chow, fa da ra da diddle dow
Chip chow, cherry chow, fa da raddle day
Chip chow, cherry chow, fa da ra da diddle dow
Chip chow, cherry chow, fa da raddle day

One day at sea, our captain, A very jolly dog,
Served out to all the company A double whack of grog.
Ben Backstay he got tipsy, Unto his heart's content,
And he being half-seas over boys, right overboard he went.
Right overboard he went, Right overboard he went

A shark was on the starboard bow & sharks no man can stand
For they do grapple everything, Just like them sharks on land.
We heaved out some tackle, to give his life some hope
But as the shark bit off his head, he couldn't see the rope.
he couldn't see the rope, he couldn't see the rope.

Without a head his ghost appeared, out on the briny lake:
He piped all hands ahoy and said; "Lads, by me warning take:
By drinking grog I lost my life, And you my fate could meet,
So never mix your rum, me lads, but always drink it neat."
but always drink it neat, but always drink it neat.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:06 AM

Commiserations, and may I say a wondeful tribute.
The soul journeys on.
Giok

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: catspaw49
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:09 AM

I am so sorry and from that tribute website anyone can see just how in love the two of you were. No words can ease the pain but your obviously wonderful memories will help to fill the hole in your heart.

Karen and I both were reading this and send you all of our best thoughts.........

Pat and Karen

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Bonnie Shaljean
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:09 AM

She sounds like a wonderful lady - our thoughts are with you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Leadfingers
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:12 AM

Sympathies Sir !! Keep your memories .

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: katlaughing
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:16 AM

Beautiful tribute site. Thank you for sharing her with us. Our sympathies to you and your friends and family. It must've been a hard couple of years.

Thanks for the info, too and the advice on taking pictures. I would also add, tape record the fun stuff as often as possible.

Good thoughts coming your way,

Kat & Rog

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Amos
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:26 AM

Accch. My condolences, WD; a fine lady. Keep breathing, man.

A

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: jeffp
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:29 AM

My sincere condolences.

Jeff

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: sapper82
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:40 AM

Far too many early losses.
My condolences.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Ebbie
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:43 AM

Thank you for sharing those pictures with us. The two of you had a full life together and it is good to remember that. My heartfelt condolences to you and to all whom she touched.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Bill D
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:46 AM

Vince...you honor her very well. ...........................no more words are necessary.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Alba
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:47 AM

My deepest sympathy WD.
Words escape me as I know there is nothing I can really say to ease your pain.

Robi's Light shines out from every Picture on Her Memorial Website.

With Love
Jude

{I detest the disease that took Robi from You and her Family too soon and caused Her so much pain. The same diagnosis took my Mother, she too was a non- smoker.}

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: gnu
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:52 AM

Condolences, thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: alanabit
Date: 26 May 06 - 10:53 AM

My condolences too. She was a few weeks younger than I am. Too soon. Hope you find some comfort in your memories.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Morticia
Date: 26 May 06 - 11:03 AM

I'm so sorry ((hugs))

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Wesley S
Date: 26 May 06 - 11:05 AM

My condolences also

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: GUEST,Scooby doo
Date: 26 May 06 - 11:09 AM

My thoughts and sympathy go out to you.
Scooby

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: GMT
Date: 26 May 06 - 11:25 AM

My condolences too.

Gary

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Sorcha
Date: 26 May 06 - 11:29 AM

I'm so very sorry.....

Sorch

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 26 May 06 - 11:41 AM

What you've once held in your heart is never gone -- but that doesn't make the separation any easier for you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: CarolC
Date: 26 May 06 - 12:20 PM

A beauteous light indeed.

Deepest condolences on your loss, Vince.


Carol

(sister of bos'n Peg Riley)

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Rapparee
Date: 26 May 06 - 12:32 PM

Thinking of her and dwelling on the joy will help ease the pain. Trust me; I know.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: M.Ted
Date: 26 May 06 - 12:45 PM

What a sweet, happy pair you were! Anyone who has ever been in love   shares your grief . I know a lot of people who would give anything to have pictures like those, and the memories that go with them. Take care of yourself.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Big Mick
Date: 26 May 06 - 01:30 PM

I pity those who tread the path and never find one like your Robi, sir. Can you imagine going through all we go through in this world, in our lives, and doing so without the absolute love that you seem to have found with her? Congratulations on your great good fortune to have known her, loved and been loved by her. You sang together, you created a life together.

I wish there is something I could say to help you deal with the grief. I cannot. But I can tell you that I am sorry for your loss, and I am sorry for the emptiness. Based on the great capacity for love that you so obviously possess, I can tell that you that will heal ...... later.

God be good to her,

Mick Lane

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Azizi
Date: 26 May 06 - 01:36 PM

Along with others, my thoughts go out to you.

Positive vibrations,

Azizi

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Barry Finn
Date: 26 May 06 - 01:55 PM

Anything I can say won't cut it so I'll wish you a continued bright live ahead as you've had in the passed to get you by this darkest of times, my heart goes out to you & yours, WD.
Barry

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: GUEST,saulgoldie
Date: 26 May 06 - 02:01 PM

My deepest condolences, Devil.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Ferrara
Date: 26 May 06 - 02:07 PM

Vince, I'm so sorry. Your memorial is beautiful. Clearly she loved and lived very fully.

Rita F

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: SINSULL
Date: 26 May 06 - 03:03 PM

I would say "Celebrate her life!" but you are already doing that. Give yourself time to breathe and grieve and reflect.
So sorry.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: fat B****rd
Date: 26 May 06 - 03:09 PM

Please accept my codolences. Best regards from Charlie.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: GUEST,Nancy King at work
Date: 26 May 06 - 03:15 PM

So very sorry to hear this sad news, Vince. But it sounds like you have many wonderful memories to hold onto. You're in my thoughts.

Nancy

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Anonny Mouse
Date: 26 May 06 - 03:18 PM

So many things to say, or write or quote. At times like these, mostly insufficient. A profound, soul-shattering loss no doubt. But there is good news in that many of us believe this is not simply an end--but also a beginning. You will be reunited. My prayers and condolences as well. Words, at a time like this, seem so inadequate, but it's all we have.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: wysiwyg
Date: 26 May 06 - 03:33 PM

My favorite of the wonderful pictures is the 1983 in Nimitz cap-- pure sugar, finest kind.

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A moment of silence-- because I can feel for you, but there aren't words that go into it or come out of it.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Joybell
Date: 26 May 06 - 07:17 PM

Our thoughts too. Joy and her True-Love.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Kaleea
Date: 26 May 06 - 08:31 PM

Waht a lovely lady! I'm very sorry to know that you are feeling this deep loss. She is shining brighter than ever, now.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: GUEST,Art Thieme
Date: 26 May 06 - 11:15 PM

From us too--condolences.

Art and Carol

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: maire-aine
Date: 26 May 06 - 11:34 PM

I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing the memorial site with us.

Maryanne

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Pistachio
Date: 27 May 06 - 02:13 PM

Please accept condolences from across the pond.
What a beautiful tribute - hold those happy memories.
H.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Tannywheeler
Date: 27 May 06 - 04:01 PM

A singing partner and a lover--NOT an affordable loss. So sorry. Don't stay too much alone. While there's not much friends and family can do for the grief(but hold the extra tissue), they CAN watch for signs of shock and take care of you when that occurs. Hang on.
I *H*A*T*E* the C-word. Let's find a way to make it obsolete--just a dictionary listing that ends up, "...no traceable incidence in population planet-wide."

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Wincing Devil
Date: 27 May 06 - 11:59 PM

I just got back from Robi's Memorial Celebration (I refuse to use the "F" word). There was song, joy and friendship. A funeral parlor is an unusual place to hear a sea chantey, but I lead her favorite (Ben Backstay) to an enthusiastic crowd. Later, at the dinner (OOFF! So much food!) we had a mini chantey sing. We had Weapons of Musical Destruction and audience participation! I got several comments where folks said that I throw a great funeral Memorial Celebration.

My family, my friends, my co-workers & my cats will get me thru this.

Pix (scads of them) will be posted shortly.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Wincing Devil
Date: 28 May 06 - 01:19 AM

My pix are up Robi's site

More pix are at My Son and Son-in-law's site

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Big Al Whittle
Date: 28 May 06 - 03:33 AM

I am very sorry for your loss. As someone said, don't be lonely. I can see you have many friends to turn to and if it helps to talk - you have lots of friends on mudcat.

Let us all know how its going.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: GUEST,KT
Date: 28 May 06 - 03:48 AM

I'm so sorry, WD.

Wishing peace to that great, loving heart of yours. Your mudcat friends, too are holding you in their hearts.

KT

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Keith A of Hertford
Date: 28 May 06 - 04:13 AM

You are both in my thoughts.
Very best wishes,
Keith.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 28 May 06 - 08:19 AM

WD, I've been there. Sending light and love to you as you learn to live without her physical presence.
The most important thing I've learned is- love never dies. She will be with you always.

Allison

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Wincing Devil
Date: 28 May 06 - 10:10 AM

An sweerie (sweet & eerie) happening this morning.

Last night, I brought home the flowers that I got for Robi and put them where I thought the kitties wouldn't get at them. When I woke up, I went looking for Fuzzee (her favorite cat), as Splotch and Minnie were in bed with me. I found Fuzzee asleep on the top of the glass cabinet, basically right over her urn, guarding the flowers! He has NEVER perched up there before! He sniffed at them, but otherwise didn't try to disturb them. He is an extraordinary cat! I amended the website to include the pictures of this amazingly loving cat!

(Clickez Ici) [Repaired]

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Wincing Devil
Date: 28 May 06 - 10:13 AM

That link should be http://www.RobiWilding.com/RobiMemorial/index6.html

Somehow, it became a link back to this thread. Robi's sense of humor is showing up in this thread!

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Alice
Date: 28 May 06 - 11:41 AM

My sympathy to you, your family and friends.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: CarolC
Date: 28 May 06 - 01:05 PM

That looks like it was a very beautiful celebration of Robi's life, Vince. Thanks for letting us see the pictures. And cherish the sweerie things (as it looks like you're doing). They are important.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Ebbie
Date: 29 May 06 - 11:15 AM

My religious, pragmatic, prosaic, non-mystical father said that after my mother died he heard her speak his name several times. He was surprised- and thrilled.

She is with you still. And will be, as long as you need her.

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Severn
Date: 29 May 06 - 03:01 PM

Vince,

So sorry to hear about your loss of a beloved and wonderful wife and the loss of a friend to all who knew her. Your love and devotion have been constantly evident since I've known you, and it must be an unspeakable viod in your life. I did not get back from the UK in time to make the service, or you know I surely would have been there.

My best to a friend, in loss of another...

Subject: RE: Obit: My Beloved Wife Robi
From: Wincing Devil
Date: 29 May 06 - 03:37 PM

Thanks Severn

You'll be glad to know we sang "Ben Backstay" at the Funeral Home. I hope it surprised the Funeral Director to hear a Sea Chantey right on the the heels of "In the Garden".