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21 Feb 08 - 08:03 PM (#2269090) Subject: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Big Mick I got a call from my baby Beef Brother, Jed. He told me his Mom passed away today, February 21, 2008, in Worcester, Massachussets. It is said one can tell much about a person by observing their children. Using this measure, and listening to the amazing lyrics Jed writes, Ruth Marum must have been an extraordinary person for she raised a man with an amazing heart. Jed Marum is an empath of amazing ability. Listen to his songs, crafted after he read letters of folks from other era's, and marvel at how he was able to hook into that person's life and bring it into relevance, and make them live again. Prayer From Little Round Top, Mama's Lilly, Con Este Beso, Banks of the Mobile, and the one that is most relevant today ...... The Locket. I remember when I first heard "The Locket". I had come to Toronto to lend a vocal to Jed's CD "Soul of a Wanderer". Paul Mills and I were in the control room when Jed recorded this song. He wrote it to honor his Mom who was suffering from Alzheimer's Disease. Jed and Louisa had attempted to keep Jed's Mom and Dad together by bringing them to Texas and taking care of them in their home. Eventually the task, with the medical care needed, was just too much. Jed describes how he felt about the moments he got to share in this amazing song. It is, at once, a wonderful tribute to a marvelous woman, while also teaching us that it isn't important that they can no longer always remember us, what is important is that we remember for them and pass it on. It is important that we remember the good times, and the debt of love that we owe. It is important to remember that in their caring for us, they taught us that one day we would need to care for them. You can hear this amazing testament to Jed's Mom from her loving son by going to this myspace page and scrolling down through the songs to The Locket. Ruth, rest well knowing that you did a wonderful job on that boy of yours. He will miss you, and he will keep you alive in the singing of your song. Good job, lady, and thanks for raising him to be such a good friend. I am in your debt. All the best, Mick |
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21 Feb 08 - 08:10 PM (#2269095) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Deckman So sorry to hear of this Jed. Hang in there. Bob Nelson |
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21 Feb 08 - 08:15 PM (#2269099) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Leadfingers Commisserations ! |
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21 Feb 08 - 08:20 PM (#2269103) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Jeri Big hug, Jed. Your mom did a great job helping you grow into the caring, insightful person you are, the good husband and dad, and the music lover. You have my deepest sympathy, my friend. Jeri |
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21 Feb 08 - 08:26 PM (#2269106) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: kendall I'm sorry to hear this Jed. It's tough to lose one's parents. You have my deepest sympathy. |
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21 Feb 08 - 08:30 PM (#2269109) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Janie I'm so sorry, Jed. May peace and all love surround you and your family. Janie |
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21 Feb 08 - 08:33 PM (#2269116) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Sorcha We're never ready to lose our Mom.....not really. So sorry, Jed. |
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21 Feb 08 - 08:36 PM (#2269118) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Peace My sincere condolences, Jed. |
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21 Feb 08 - 09:05 PM (#2269133) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: GUEST Jed, my sympathy and heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Seamus |
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21 Feb 08 - 09:18 PM (#2269139) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Stilly River Sage I'm so sorry to read this, Jed. Your Mom will still be with you. Every time you think "I have to call Mom to tell her some new thing the kids are doing" she will be there--because the values she gave you are what you wanted to share with her in that call. And you'll be surprised how often you think of a conversation you'd like to have with her. When the pain of loss passes, you'll find this is a good thing. Maggie (Stilly River Sage) |
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21 Feb 08 - 09:32 PM (#2269145) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Bill D deepest condolences, Jed. The song is a fine tribute, and I hope she is listening to it now, |
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21 Feb 08 - 10:18 PM (#2269184) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Amos Hang in there, Jed. I know this changes everything; but keep breathing and moving ahead. A |
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21 Feb 08 - 10:32 PM (#2269196) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Genie Jed, Having recently said goodbye to my 91-year-old dad's earthly form and knowing that he was in a better place now, yet still missing him deeply, I do empathize with your having to part with you in the passing of your mom. I would say more, but I'm lousy at expressing deep and complex feelings verbally. So I'll just say my condolences are with you and your family. Genie |
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21 Feb 08 - 10:44 PM (#2269205) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Alice Jed, I am sorry to hear this sad news. I lost my parents when I was 27. No matter what time of your life, it changes you forever. Take care of yourself. Alice |
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21 Feb 08 - 11:16 PM (#2269216) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: GUEST,Art & Carol Thieme Aye, Jed, we are so sorry to hear this grievous hard news. Lean on those who love you, and who you love. My friend, take care, and be well. Art |
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21 Feb 08 - 11:24 PM (#2269218) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: GUEST,Bob Ryszkiewicz Condolences Jed. May she Rest in Peace... |
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22 Feb 08 - 12:56 AM (#2269243) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Uncle Phil Jed - We're sorry to hear about your mom's death. Please accept our condolences and our sympathy. - Phil and Michelle |
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22 Feb 08 - 01:45 AM (#2269263) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: KT Jed, I'm so sorry for your loss. You are blessed, in that you hold in your heart, who she is. Heartfelt sympathy to you and yours. KT |
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22 Feb 08 - 02:01 AM (#2269269) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Ernest My sincerest condolences to you and your family, Jed. Best wishes Ernest |
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22 Feb 08 - 02:25 AM (#2269275) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: catspaw49 When my Mom died, my Dad said, "Not a day will go by that you won't think of her."..............41 years ago, and he was right. Sorry for your loss Jed and you know you have all my best thoughts.......and I pass on my Dad's wise and true words to you. She'll always be there, just a thought away. Pat |
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22 Feb 08 - 04:40 AM (#2269324) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: fat B****rd Sympathies and kind regards from Charlie. |
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22 Feb 08 - 05:00 AM (#2269331) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: bfdk Jed, heartfelt condolences to you and yours for the loss of your mother. A big hug from your friend in Denmark, Bente |
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22 Feb 08 - 05:27 AM (#2269338) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: My guru always said So sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with Jed and his family. Keep the good memories. |
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22 Feb 08 - 08:19 AM (#2269419) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: SouthernCelt My condolences, Jed. Having recently lost my sister after ten years of adjusting to the loss of my parents, I can understand how the loss of a close loved one can hurt deeply. Although it can sound trite at times like this because so many people offer this observation, in our hearts we know that passage from this life means an end to all the infirmities of body and spirit that plague mortals. Reflecting on and believing in that can help as you adjust to your mother's passing. With prayers for you and your family, SC (Wayne) |
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22 Feb 08 - 08:29 AM (#2269427) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: jacqui.c So sorry Jed. Good thoughts coming from Maine. |
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22 Feb 08 - 08:36 AM (#2269434) Subject: RE: ObitRuth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Rapparee Spaw said what I was going to say. I've been where you are, it's not at all easy. But remember...remember...and she's always with you. |
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22 Feb 08 - 09:00 AM (#2269471) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Wesley S My condolences too. There's been just too much death around lately. I've got "The Locket" out in the car today. I'll give it a listen later and be thinking of Ruth. She left her mark on this world - and it was a good one. |
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22 Feb 08 - 09:41 AM (#2269518) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: katlaughing My condolences and may I echo what Spaw and Wesley said? We never really are without them even when they are gone. It may sound trite and dismissive, right now, but she is there and will *hear* your innermost, heartfelt thoughts of her and know, once again, what a wonderful job she did in raising you, her son. RIP, Ruth, Kat & Rog |
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22 Feb 08 - 09:47 AM (#2269525) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: MMario People have already said much of what I would have said, better then I could say it, earlier. YOur Mom lives on not just in you and your kids - but because she was and is a part of you - she is now a part of many of us here at the MudCat as well. the melody may be ended but the harmonies linger on It's true, you know |
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22 Feb 08 - 09:51 AM (#2269526) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: SINSULL Jed, There is nothing to say but that I am sorry. I will play The Locket tonight and say a prayer for you. Mary |
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22 Feb 08 - 10:06 AM (#2269539) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: gnu Thoughts and prayers. |
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22 Feb 08 - 10:11 AM (#2269552) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: GUEST,frog and frogette So sorry to hear that news its one of those things you know will happen one day but it dosent make it any easier our thoughts are with you |
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22 Feb 08 - 10:46 AM (#2269584) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: WFDU - Ron Olesko My condolences to you and your family Jed. I know how difficult it is to watch a parent slip away, and you are never really prepared for the moment when they are gone. I know she will live on in your heart and memory. |
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22 Feb 08 - 10:51 AM (#2269589) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Sandy Mc Lean My deepest sympathy Jed! |
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22 Feb 08 - 01:18 PM (#2269690) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: ranger1 Jed, I'm so, so sorry. I lost my dad last week, so I can empathize somewhat with what you're going through right now. Tami |
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22 Feb 08 - 01:28 PM (#2269701) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Genie When I said I wasn't good at verbal expression, I didn't mean I was usually this bad: "Jed, ... I do empathize with your having to part with you in the passing of your mom. ... " I meant to say I empathize with you in your mom's passing. And, as my sister told us when she finally succumbed to cancer after a 12+ year battle, "I can see beyond the curtain. It's so beautiful. I am not leaving you. ... I'm flying." I do believe those we love are never really lost to us, though that doesn't mean we won't or shouldn't grieve their physical loss. Ron and others have said it well. |
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22 Feb 08 - 01:40 PM (#2269710) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: PoppaGator Tough news, Jed. I'm sure your Mom is at peace now after all those years suffering from dementia. My mother went though something very similar before she passed back in August of '06. I'm glad that we spent a few of her final months living with her up in New Jersey; it would never have happened except for our being displaced by Katrina, but it was sort of a blessing in disguise to be able to share that time with her. God bless, Tom |
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22 Feb 08 - 01:50 PM (#2269719) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: BusyBee Paul Jed, My thoughts are with you. Deirdre |
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24 Feb 08 - 02:47 PM (#2271156) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: JedMarum Thanks all for your thoughts and prayers. Ruth was ready to go and her death a few days ago was a blessing. Now we are free to picture her in all her various stages of life, not just those last hard days. |
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24 Feb 08 - 03:12 PM (#2271186) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Deckman May the remberance of those last few days fade fast ... and the treasures return soon. Bob |
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24 Feb 08 - 03:16 PM (#2271191) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Beer Deepest sympathies Jed. Adrien |
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24 Feb 08 - 04:12 PM (#2271250) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Fortunato Jed, I'm very sorry to learn of the death of your mother. I hope that any pain you feel in weeks to come will in time be replaced with memories of your mother that bring you joy. Chance |
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24 Feb 08 - 08:36 PM (#2271445) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: open mike (((((jed))))) |
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24 Feb 08 - 09:00 PM (#2271479) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: GUEST,Dani I am so sorry for your loss, Jed. Difficult times around the end of life create such terrible mixes of feelings, and it will take a long time to sort them all out. Deep abiding love prevails. Dani |
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24 Feb 08 - 09:35 PM (#2271512) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: harpmolly *hugs* I'll be thinking about you. |
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24 Feb 08 - 11:35 PM (#2271560) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: open mike My mother's name was Helen, too. She and my dad have been gone for almost 6 years now...but still are alive in my memories. Recently my mother-in-law passed away after a long battle with Alzheimer's. It is good to know that the suffering is over. It is such a difficult situation to have to contend with. Blessings on you and your family. Laurel |
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25 Feb 08 - 10:33 AM (#2271815) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: M.Ted It is hard to understand why a lot of things happen the way that they do. And those "things" are usually as hard to deal with as they are to understand. Our blessing is that no matter how hard they are to deal with, and no matter how hard they are to understand, all things eventually pass. All the best to you and your family. |
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25 Feb 08 - 03:50 PM (#2272141) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: JedMarum Thanks again y'all. I appreciate your kind thoughts. We are arranging a memorial service near home for the end of March. That gives us time to get family there from all over and say our goodbyes all at once. Seems like yesterday we were saying our goodbye to her mother's generation. |
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25 Feb 08 - 04:06 PM (#2272152) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Wesley S Sometimes the best way to get a family together is for a memorial service. Expect some tears - but also some great stories, memories and laughter too. |
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25 Feb 08 - 04:43 PM (#2272178) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: wlisk The great storm is over, lift up your wings and fly... Our thoughts are with you Jed, Bill & Deanna Lisk |
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25 Feb 08 - 04:48 PM (#2272187) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: dwditty Jed, Thoughts and prayers are with you. My Mom's mind went those last few years, but she never tired of listening to me sing, and she never forgot how to say, "I love you." I have always been grateful for that. Blessings to your family. dw |
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25 Feb 08 - 04:55 PM (#2272193) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Marion I'm sorry to hear this, Jed. My thoughts are with you and Louisa. Love, Marion |
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26 Feb 08 - 12:58 AM (#2272487) Subject: RE: Obit: Ruth Marum - Jed's Mom From: Partridge My thoughts are with you love Pat xx |