Another case of "looking for all the right answers - in all the wrong places."
SWIZLE - This is THE PLACE you and your friend should begin.
Like Mudcat is to Folk Music - THE AUTISTIC SOCIETY FORUM is to mental processing; it has a hundred different parents discussing and supporting each other. Your friend just needs to introduce herself.
http://www.autisticsociety.org/Forums.html
ANOTHER Forum:
A high quality, high volume support list where parents share stories, treatments, therapies, ideas, advice and support about their children with moderate to high functioning autism or Aspergers syndrome.
http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/Autism-Aspergers
Descriptions:
People who understand
http://www.emergingworlds.com/ch_article.cfm?link=Aspergers_Syndrome.htm
What you are asking for is a "Pen Pal" - you will find dozens if you go to the right "postoffice."
Sincerely,
Gargoyle
Your most humble of servants.