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Ignorant old people

07 Dec 10 - 02:24 PM (#3048230)
Subject: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Chris B (Born Again Scouser)

BBC Radio 4 today. So this American woman who lives in Portadown goes into the local post office to post off a few Christmas presents. The place is full of pensioners and she lets several go in front of her. Eventually she goes to the counter and when she's done she tries to exchange pleasantries with the old woman behind her when the whole queue rounds on her telling her she has no business being there on account of a) not being a pensioner and b) being American.   What the f......?


07 Dec 10 - 03:06 PM (#3048245)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Midchuck

Is it being old and ignorant, or working for the Post Office? In the US, we've come up with the expression, "going postal," for working for years in a place, getting more angry with life, until one day you lose it all at once, come into the place with a bunch of guns, and shoot your coworkers at random until the Police get there and gun you down, or you commit suicide before they can. It's called that because Post Office workers seem to do it more often than workers in any other business or occupation.

I think it has to do with too much job security. These people are so hard to fire, that they just hang in there for years, even as they get stranger and stranger. Donno if it's the same in the UK, but I shouldn't wonder.

(Apologies to the majority of postal workers, who are no more strange than the rest of us. But it happens.)

Peter


07 Dec 10 - 03:13 PM (#3048251)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Jack Campin

At a guess she got there at the time all those old people were collecting their pensions and didn't want to be held up by somebody doing a complicated transaction. Still none too friendly.


07 Dec 10 - 03:19 PM (#3048255)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: McGrath of Harlow

"...the whole queue rounds on her..." A queue is not made up of post office employees, Peter.

No excuse for bad manners, but maybe they thought she was jumping the queue. Could it be that without realising it she actually did that? "...she lets several go in front of her" sounds more like a melee than a queue.


07 Dec 10 - 03:25 PM (#3048261)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Midchuck

Yeah, you're right. I thought it was the person at the window giving her a hard time...read it too fast.

P.


07 Dec 10 - 03:27 PM (#3048267)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Chris B (Born Again Scouser)

Would you be trying so hard to be even handed if she'd been verbally attacked for being black? Or is it OK to attack people for being American?


07 Dec 10 - 03:46 PM (#3048281)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: MGM·Lion

It was probably the "stopping to exchange pleasantries" after completing here biznis that got to them: nothing more annoying than waiting in a queue while someone who has finished being served stops to talk to the harrassed server about the weather or whatever.

~M~


07 Dec 10 - 03:48 PM (#3048285)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: McGrath of Harlow

This is basically gossip.


07 Dec 10 - 03:52 PM (#3048290)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: John MacKenzie

The bare facts give no indication as the the character of those involved. It is therefore premature, and well nigh impossible to express an opinion.


07 Dec 10 - 05:32 PM (#3048361)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: JohnInKansas

While it's possibly not the practice everywhere in the US, at a couple of Postal Stations I frequent, during "busy times" there usually are two or three agents for general postal business and at least one other at a separate "window" marked "pickups only" for those who only want to get mail from "general delivery" or who have received notice that something couldn't be delivered.

Attempting to go to the "pickup" window to send something when the place is crowded might cause objections from others, and if the station is not marked it could be just "tradition" that reserves that line(?), assuming there's another line for other stuff. Or again custom may dictate that there's a particular time when "the check is in the mail."

The assumption that "everybody knows" is not the exclusive province of the elderly. And "everybody knows" that you should never have to explain what "everybody knows" to anyone who isn't "in the know."

John


07 Dec 10 - 07:45 PM (#3048445)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

I have no opinion; I wasn't there.
Rudeness is universal.


07 Dec 10 - 07:54 PM (#3048450)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: McGrath of Harlow

The post office seems to be experimenting with various alternatives to traditional queues. I suspect that the American lady might have fallen foul of one of these, and unwittingly offended. Queue jumping is traditionally something that stirs up people over here.


07 Dec 10 - 09:08 PM (#3048482)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

It can get you hurt over here.


07 Dec 10 - 10:24 PM (#3048502)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Beer

I don't know about this incident but i do believe that as we get older we tend not to take the crap that we did when we were younger. I am 63 and what I would have backed away from years before I now stand my ground and fuck what other people think. Maybe i should have been this way years ago but NOW in many cases I just can't be quiet.
Example though a simple one. At the local food check out cashier asks: " Did you find everything you needed sir?". Great question right!! Well after answering "no" for a good number of times, I decided to take a different approach. "Why are you asking this question. Are you going to do something about it?" She looked at me as if I was from another planet (which I am BTY.). I waved my hand at her and said "never mind, management never gave you the answer."


08 Dec 10 - 02:15 AM (#3048568)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Chris B (Born Again Scouser)

Good for you, Beer. That must have made her day.   The woman serving you must have felt priveleged to be in the presence of such insightful intellectual greatness.


08 Dec 10 - 04:33 AM (#3048599)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Patsy

Touch wood I have not yet encountered bad manners from young, old or from any race for that matter. Perhaps I am just lucky. With a multi-cultural society I realise that not everyone is aware of the social rules of the queue. In-fact the opposite I think people now far more easy going than they were 10 years ago in general.


08 Dec 10 - 06:07 AM (#3048647)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: The Fooles Troupe

OK - I have to ask - which is worse -
Ignorant Old People,
or
Ignorant Young People?

:)


08 Dec 10 - 06:37 AM (#3048665)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: MikeL2

hi

Only yesterday I had an embarrassing " senior moment " in our local village post office.

I went to the window to get some cash on my bank card and I entered the wrong pin number. The lady behind the counter was extremely friendly and asked me to put it in again. So I did and again the wrong number !! So I thought a little, and realised that I had changed over two of the digits.....but which two ??? You are right I got it wrong again !!!

By this time there was a fairly large queue developing behind me. ( our local post office only has one window !!).

The counter lady then explained that my card wouldn't work now after three incorrect tries and that I would need to phone my bank to unblock the pin no for me.

The lady was friendly and polite through-out and as I turned sheepishly to leave, all the people in the queue smiled knowingly.

No bad manners in our Post Office !!

I know this could go on the " You know you are getting old when.......thread but here is also relevant.

Cheers

MikeL2


08 Dec 10 - 07:19 AM (#3048690)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Patsy

I have only known on the rare occasion that if a young person is disrespected by someone old enough to know better should they speak up and react the finger of blame nearly always falls on 'loutish' youth more often than not. Regardless of the real reasons for it occuring.

Ignorant old people on the otherhand have the advantage of being old with all the courteousy given to them expected with age and would be more likely to get away with being rude rather than a younger person. Socially they lived in a time that was very Xenophobic and unfortunately still have not yet fully grasped political correctness. This can be very embarrasing for everyone even if it is done in a quiet unintended patronising way.


08 Dec 10 - 07:42 AM (#3048708)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Black belt caterpillar wrestler

I have realised that over the years I have always encountered more rudeness from people older than myself.
Extrapolating from this either the world is becoming more polite as the old rude people die, or eventually, if I live long enough, I could end up as the rudest person on the planet!


08 Dec 10 - 07:50 AM (#3048711)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Kendall

Beer, I'm with you. I used to be the "Peace at any price" type. Now, I'm like Russian toilet paper; I don't take no crap off nobody.

Usually, I like to make someone laugh every day if I can. A few days ago, I went to the drive in of my local pharmacy, got my prescription, and the young woman said "Do you have any questions." I said "Yes, what is your phone number." I thought she was going to foul her knickers. I wonder if she would have laughed if my prescription had been for Viagra? Remember, I'm 76.


08 Dec 10 - 08:47 AM (#3048750)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Patsy

Black belt, no you won't. By the sound of what you have written I don't think that would happen.


08 Dec 10 - 09:10 AM (#3048766)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Beer

A bit of a drift from the thread title but one to share just the same.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFsB6_U3RwU


08 Dec 10 - 09:20 AM (#3048775)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: goatfell

no matter what age you are you will always find ignorant people no matter age they are and some of them post on this site


08 Dec 10 - 09:45 AM (#3048800)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Chris B (Born Again Scouser)

I can't help wondering if the fact that it was Portadown might have had something to do with it (ducks)!


08 Dec 10 - 10:51 AM (#3048845)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Steamin' Willie

In my experience, postmen fall into two categories;

Those who play out of tune banjos.

Those whose false teeth fall out whilst singing unaccompanied.


08 Dec 10 - 01:58 PM (#3048995)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,999

Fuck em if they can`t take a joke.


08 Dec 10 - 04:42 PM (#3049116)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: olddude

No worries she probably couldn't hear a thing they were saying


08 Dec 10 - 04:43 PM (#3049117)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,999

LOL


08 Dec 10 - 08:10 PM (#3049249)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

"If they can't take a fuck, joke 'em." (Robin Williams)


08 Dec 10 - 08:39 PM (#3049266)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: frogprince

I always heard that as "Joke 'em if they can't take a fuck" - Lenny Bruce.


08 Dec 10 - 10:29 PM (#3049312)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: YorkshireYankee

Chris B (Born Again Scouser) -- you said in your original post that you heard this on Radio 4. I'd like to try to hear the item myself, so I was wondering: was it on a programme I might be able to "Listen Again" to, or was it just a snippet on one of the 2-minute news bulletins? (BTW, did a quick Google on the words "Portadown", "post office", "pensioners" and "American woman", to see if I might find some article or other mention of it online, but the only thing that came up (on the first page(s); I wasn't motivated enough to trawl further) was this thread...

Thanks -- YY


09 Dec 10 - 04:58 AM (#3049421)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Grishka

YY, I did the same. Let's face it: the incident doesn't have any news value, it happens every day: person X breaks a rule she is not aware of, those in the know (proud of their tolerance) don't say a word for a while, X continues to break the rule, patience wears off, insults follow ("Do you think you can do what you like because you are young and American?"). Ignorant? Rather lacking "soft skills". The right thing to do is to inform the offender about the rule when your patience begins to wear off. On the other hand, a stranger should try to learn as many of the rules as possible, and ask if in doubt.

Interesting about the special case: if an insult is required, old ethnic clichés can be warmed up any time, in conjunction with the ever-acute generation gaps.


09 Dec 10 - 05:39 AM (#3049451)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Patsy

Some people can be abrupt with the way they say things and it can be sometimes mistaken for rudeness. Is speaking ones mind rude? When I was younger I was painfully shy, it was mistaken for aloofness many times.


09 Dec 10 - 09:23 AM (#3049584)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,kendall

We should all lighten up.


09 Dec 10 - 09:39 AM (#3049601)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Greg F.

OK - I have to ask - which is worse - Ignorant Old People, or Ignorant Young People?

Ignorant people in positions of power.

vide TeaBaggers, BuShites, etc.


09 Dec 10 - 10:05 AM (#3049621)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: bubblyrat

The truth is "Patsy ", that we Old People were not actually "xenophobic" all the time ; in fact,we grew up in a society where there just WERE NOT any "foreigners" !! I am 63 (like "Beer" ) ; I grew up in Midhurst, in West Sussex, in a TOTALLY "white" environment, where there were NO "black" or "coloured" people,no Europeans,no Orientals,no Indian or Pakistani or Chinese restaurants, no Poles, no displaced "Slavs",no Americans, no Italian or German POWs,no Irish tinkers,no Scots (that I can recall) and the only Welshman was our Primary School headmaster ( Mr Bevan !!). OK ; I admit that there WAS a boy at school called "Mueller",,who came in for a bit of "Heil Hitler"-type joshing,but didn't seem to mind ( unlike today !!)
             And, I must admit that there WAS a Maharaja of somewhere-or-other who was wont to play polo at Cowdray Park occasionally, but otherwise.....that was it !! And I did not ever set eyes on a "black" man until I saw one,at age TEN,in Reading !!(prior to that ,my knowledge of such matters was restricted to what I could glean from the pages of the school-provided "Little Black Sambo" books .....Ouch !!!) So knock ye not us older folks ; the world we grew up in was more different than you could ever imagine.


09 Dec 10 - 10:21 AM (#3049648)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: MGM·Lion

Absolutely right, Bubbly.

Louis MacNeice's long poetic record of part of his life as it passed, Autumn Journal, contains a memorable summation of our view of the Classical world, "It was all so very, very different - And all so long ago". But never mind the Classical World. At my age [78] I often find myself quoting it of things I myself can well remember which just are not so any longer.

~Michael~


09 Dec 10 - 11:43 AM (#3049715)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,999

`We should all lighten up.`

I just did and now I have to leave the internet cafe. Thanks.


09 Dec 10 - 11:44 AM (#3049716)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Grishka

Bubbly, the lady in question has been told she
has no business being there on account of a) not being a pensioner and b) being American.
Are you suggesting all people were pensioners in your days??

What sort of ignorance are we talking about? The only sense I can make of the story is what I wrote above, where xenophobia just serves as a handy source of insults. (BTW: who says there were no persons of Pakistani background in the queue?)

The effect I described in my own version of the story is not restricted to persons deeply rooted in their traditions, though they may be most susceptible. Many middle-aged people who know the world are nevertheless convinced that their own set of rules is valid universally, and that not knowing it constitutes a moral vice.


09 Dec 10 - 03:02 PM (#3049844)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

Had that been me I would have said, "And can you point out where it says that in the Magna Carta"?


10 Dec 10 - 12:12 AM (#3050149)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Naemanson

I am an ignorant old person and I wouldn't do that to anyone.


10 Dec 10 - 03:56 AM (#3050183)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Bugsy

Someone should write a song about it.............


Cheers

Bugsy


10 Dec 10 - 03:59 AM (#3050184)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Patsy

I do remember how it was back in the 60's and 70's and less so in the 80's the same was for me in the outskirts of Bristol where I lived. The only differences that I was aware of was the attitude towards class and gender differences, ethnic people were mostly in the inner-city anyway, where I lived in the outskirts and suburb it was made quite clear to me by the very teachers teaching us probably they had all mostly come from Public School that we would never make it in life because of that. But yes it was a rare thing to see anyone from a foreign country that is until the school began the foreign exchange programme with students from France. Immediately the difference was quite evident the students being quite ahead on the fashion front for a start!

Fortunately young people seem to be well aware of the differences of bad manners and on the whole can see it for what it is even amongst their own.


10 Dec 10 - 05:46 AM (#3050221)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Van

Rounding on someone because they are American should come as no surprise to anyone living in the UK. You also get the challenge of you're not from round here are you when you live 10 minutes up the road. My late wife, who was English, had to give up work because of the attitude of her colleagues in Scotland - and that was in a government department.
Face it the world has a fair share of idiots and unfortunately we seem to let them run it.


10 Dec 10 - 08:28 AM (#3050281)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Patsy

The funny thing back when I was a teenager on a holiday on the Isle of Wight most of the other kids were from London and quite a few from the North of England and while we were sat in the usual hippy circle I was encouraged to 'say something' just like a show and tell because they thought I sounded American. It wasn't in an ignorant nasty way but I presume some of them hadn't been through Bristol but I did feel on display. I think they were disappointed that I wasn't.

In later years I have been accused of being a 'carrot cruncher' or having a straw in my mouth so I can understand how horrible it can be to be treated this way.

Sometimes families can be like that about other families too if they are thought to have a bad reputation.

Perhaps we could start another thread about New Year Resolutions for the good.


10 Dec 10 - 08:33 AM (#3050286)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

It's the same thing when dogs piss on bushes. They are marking the boundary of their territory.If you don't belong to the local pack you are not welcome. We are not that far from the lower animals.

I've traveled quite a lot outside the USA and some of the Americans I have seen in other countries exhibited appalling behavior. If a New Yorker came here and acted like that they would also be told they were not welcome.

In Jamaica I saw a gang of toughs from England acting like assholes, so, ignorance is universal.


10 Dec 10 - 11:09 AM (#3050391)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Richie Black (misused acct, bad email)

I feel there are more ignorant young people these days.


10 Dec 10 - 01:33 PM (#3050485)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

Right, I wonder what they are teaching in today's schools. They have no manners, can't hold a thought, can't converse without "Like" or "Nome sayin". Their spelling is atrocious and their grammar is worse.


10 Dec 10 - 01:53 PM (#3050497)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Little Hawk

It's spelled "know'msayin'?"

U R the 1 who can't spell it right, know'msayin'?

U R, like, soooooo out of it, know'msayin'?

R U, like, over 50?

I soooo bet U R and that is sooooo OLD!



*(The above is a joke, Okay? Satire.)


10 Dec 10 - 02:02 PM (#3050502)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,999

Jean Paul Satire, no doubt.


10 Dec 10 - 02:31 PM (#3050516)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Don(Wyziwyg)T

And of course we mustn't forget the other favourite:-

Know' ahmeen innit.

Don T.


10 Dec 10 - 04:21 PM (#3050582)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: gnu

Stupidity knows no age.


10 Dec 10 - 05:22 PM (#3050606)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Amergin

I think old people should not be allowed to drive....and should be banned from the buffet restaurants...


10 Dec 10 - 08:42 PM (#3050713)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

And there should never be more than one in any of the market isles.Two old women can take up more space than a foot ball team.


10 Dec 10 - 11:42 PM (#3050744)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Beer

Not allowed to drive is a good start, but to banned them out of buffet restaurants is going just a little to far. Hell, "Wait a minute, what age is it that old people start at"? 50?, 60?, 70?, 80?, 90 I would say yes. And did you ever sit in a coffee house setting and hear some old gentleman (Lets say around 80.)say, I'm getting there. Where the heck is there?
ad.
Having fun.


11 Dec 10 - 06:51 AM (#3050864)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Teribus

Foolestroupe asked:

"OK - I have to ask - which is worse - Ignorant Old People, or
Ignorant Young People?


The former without hesitation, they should know better having been round the block a few times and there may well be a very good reason that the latter are ignorant.

"Stupidity knows no age." - gnu

Ignorance and stupidity are not the same thing. One thing the younger generation has over the oldies is that today both "ignorance" and "stupidity" has been elevated to an art form and is actually taught. Wasn't in my day.


11 Dec 10 - 08:21 AM (#3050898)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,kendall

I had a cousin who always addressed his Father as "Sir". If he forgot, he might pick his head up in another zip code.

That's going too far.


11 Dec 10 - 08:35 AM (#3050907)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Silas

"Would you be trying so hard to be even handed if she'd been verbally attacked for being black? Or is it OK to attack people for being American?"


I think Americans are fair game really.


11 Dec 10 - 08:45 AM (#3050910)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Teribus

Don't know the lay out of the place but it could be possible she fell foul of local rules, i.e. standing in the line for pensions, or being in the Post Office at a time and on a day that the other "locals" stay clear off as it's pensions day.


11 Dec 10 - 02:17 PM (#3051107)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,999

Hate to break this to y`all, but most of the young people I`ve met are very polite. I see about as much bad manners today as I saw when I was a youngster. IMO.

As for old people, cut `em some slack. Some of us miserable old bastards will be there soon enough, and I doubt we`ll want these types of generalization said about us. IMO.


11 Dec 10 - 03:13 PM (#3051137)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Little Hawk

The word "ignorant" means: Not knowing about something.

Since there are a great many things that any one of us doesn't know about...we are all, technically speaking, ignorant...when it comes to those things...but not when it comes to things we do know about. This has little bearing on whether we are stupid or not.

The word "stupid" means: Being unable to use good judgement about something even IF you know a good deal about it. Stupidity is a more serious problem than ignorance, because ignorance is just lack of knowledge...not necessarily lack of innate intelligence or ability to think clearly.

The thread title appears to be using the word "ignorant" to mean "stupid". That could lead to quite a bit of confusion as to just what it is that people are talking about here.

A person who has never learned to read is ignorant of that particular ability. This doesnt' mean he's stupid...but many people may assume he is stupid just as a matter of course, because they take the ability to read for granted...and therefore assume that he is quite stupid. They may be wrong about that. He might even be a good deal smarter than they are in practical intelligence and reasoning power and objectivity, but just not have had any life experience of learning to read.

So what are we really discussing in this thread? Ignorance? Or stupidity? Or senility? Or complacency? Or a sense of entitlement? Or arrogance? Or inflexibility? Or dullness? Or lack of attention? Or impatience? Or self-centredness? Or lack of respect? Or prejudice? Or....etc....etc...etc....

It could be any or none of the above, couldn't it?


12 Dec 10 - 12:25 AM (#3051428)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Naemanson

My dad used to say (and still does when the events call for it), "Gawdammit, Ah'm iggorant,an' ah'm goanna stay iggorant!" I think it was a holdover from Johnson's War on Ignorance.


12 Dec 10 - 01:50 AM (#3051454)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: MGM·Lion

Little Hawk ~~ "Ignorant" is also colloquially used to mean "ill-mannered", which I suspect was the meaning intended by OP of this thread.

~M~


12 Dec 10 - 02:19 AM (#3051457)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Backwoodsman

As this is a music forum, I'd just like to say that I spent last evening being entertained by a choir, an orchestra and a school swing band. Their ages ranged from around 14 to at least 75 (I knew some of them). They were all paragons of politeness and charm, all displayed astonishing talent, irrespective of their ages, and they all interacted as equals.

Friendship in music clearly doesn't recognise age difference as any kind of barrier. It was a privilege to be in their company, and a joy to witness 150 or so people of all ages joining together to produce something truly beautiful.


12 Dec 10 - 03:28 AM (#3051565)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Lizzie Cornish 1

I had good and bad in Cafe Nero the other day...

I staggered in with some bags of shopping, and...not wanting to be an ignorant old person taking up the queue with them I placed them by the table farthest away from me, so as not to be in anyone's way. And that was where I was also going to sit down, obviously.

So, I'm waiting patiently in the queue when in comes a group of young folks, and over they march to the very table where my shopping is, despite there being MANY other empty tables. One guy sits down...

So, over I go and say, politely, "Excuse me, but I was just about to sit there, this is my shopping which I put here so as not to trouble anyone you see, and I'm just waiting in the queue for my coffee before sitting down here, *next* to my shopping."

He stared at me....

"I don't care. I want to sit here."

Then, he turned away and smirked at his pals, who were staring at me...waiting to see my reaction.

"Oh! I'm SO sorry!! And there was I thinking Chivalry was DEAD and BURIED! What a fool I was to think that you might just be an ignorant bastard who'd give me a mouthful of rudeness, when it's perfectly plain to me now that you're really such a polite and thoughtful young man!"

He looked at me, slightly shocked...obviously not getting my drift at all.

So I tried again...

"Do you know, that in all of my 55 years I've never had the misfortune to meet anyone so bloody rude, so bloody uncaring, and so bloody arrogantly up themselves before!" I continued....

This time, the penny dropped...as did the jaws of most of the folks in the cafe....

At this point, he finally realised that the mad woman in front of him could possibly have launched all her shopping at him en masse..and he decided, finally, to move his arse. His pals decided they didn't even want to sit in the same cafe as this Ignorant Old Person, and so they left. ;0)

I went back to the queue, apologised to the young staff for losing them some customers, and explained that good manners are sooooo important and I don't take shite from anyone any longer. They laughed, grinned widely and gave me a free Gingerbread Father Christmas to calm me down! :0) They also told me to go and sit down and they'd bring my coffee over to me, bless 'em.

So there ya go.

The Good
The Bad
and...
The Ugly

....all in one cafe, on one day... :0)

(the latter being me in full "AAAAARRGGGH! Don't MESS with me!" flight.

Age has nothing to do with it. Personality is at the root of it. The caring young people couldn't have been more caring and they shone like diamonds next to that ignoramus...who, hopefully, will think twice before being so rude again.


12 Dec 10 - 06:36 AM (#3051629)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: MikeL2

hi

My wife is a bit off-colour right now. Nothing serious just a bad cold. So although I hate shopping and am most impatient when I do I went out yesterday with a list of requirements.

I was buying some fruit in a greengrocers in town.As I approached the counter with my purchases a lady of similar age (old) to me approached at the same time. We both stood back and motioned for the other to go first.
Eventually I waved to her to go and said " Ladies First "....and then joking added, " there are still some ladies left in our World".
She smiled, thanked me and said " and some gentlemen too ".

I had a slightly lighter step as I trudged over the frozen ground to complete my tasks.

Is it a case of be nice to others...........????

Cheers

MikeL2


12 Dec 10 - 08:13 AM (#3051682)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

Silas, why have you got against Americans?


12 Dec 10 - 08:21 AM (#3051684)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Silas

Sorry Kendall, you'll have to translate that into English for me...


12 Dec 10 - 11:13 AM (#3051786)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Naemanson

One of the nice things about being in Guam is that the young people here, for all their posing and emulating the urban hoodlums in the hip-hop videos, still have some respect for the elderly, the manamko.

It's really great to see some urban fop drag in with his hat on sideways, and his sweatshirt (85 degrees in the shade!) too big for him and his pants dragging down around his knees, to see him walk up to an old manamko, take his or her hand, and finehi over it. (To finehi you take an older person by the hand bow over it and bring it close to your face and breath in through your nose. The idea is you are inhaling of his/her wisdom and patience.)


12 Dec 10 - 01:02 PM (#3051848)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Little Hawk

Good one, Lizzie! ;-) I'm glad you had the confidence to assert yourself that way. Many, sadly, do not.


12 Dec 10 - 01:10 PM (#3051854)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

Ok, what do you have against Americans?


12 Dec 10 - 02:43 PM (#3051924)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Silas

Well, not a lot really, more disillusionment with our own political leaders who are led by the nose into things that we don't want to get involved in because of some 'special relationship' that we are supposed to have.


12 Dec 10 - 03:19 PM (#3051948)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

Then logic says blame your leaders not ours. We blame ours, not yours.


12 Dec 10 - 03:30 PM (#3051956)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Silas

FFS Kendall, read the bloody post!


12 Dec 10 - 04:44 PM (#3052007)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

Are you sure you want to lock horns with me? I don't appreciate being yelled at.


12 Dec 10 - 04:50 PM (#3052011)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Silas

Whatever, I just thought you were deaf as well as blind.


12 Dec 10 - 04:51 PM (#3052012)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

I did read the bloody post. First you said Americans are fair game and when I called you on it, you said not really, just disillusionment with your own leaders. Make up your mind.


12 Dec 10 - 04:54 PM (#3052016)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Silas

So why do you think I am blaming American leadership when I clearly said it was our leadership I blamed?


12 Dec 10 - 07:21 PM (#3052105)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

Because you originally said Americans are fair game. Americans, not American leaders. If I misunderstood, I apologize.


13 Dec 10 - 06:59 AM (#3052347)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: Midchuck

Guest Silas: I know it's none of my business, but I have two bits of advice for you to consider:

1) Don't tangle with Kendall.

2) If (1) is unacceptable, and you must tangle with Kendall, do it quick before his wife gets back. She's nicer than he is. Until she gets mad. Then she's meaner.

I'm just saying...

Peter


13 Dec 10 - 07:46 AM (#3052374)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

Even I can't "Take her out". She was with the Royal Marines, taught them how to fight dirty. She's teaching me now.


13 Dec 10 - 08:08 AM (#3052388)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: GUEST,Silas

Oh I think I can handle Kendall.


13 Dec 10 - 12:32 PM (#3052549)
Subject: RE: Ignorant old people
From: kendall

Famous last words.