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BS: Where is Lilyfestre

12 Nov 11 - 01:11 PM (#3255656)
Subject: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: olddude

I am worried about you


12 Nov 11 - 01:19 PM (#3255666)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: maeve

Michelle has posted quite recently, Dan. She's been busy with family needs, I think. Perhaps a PM?


12 Nov 11 - 01:25 PM (#3255670)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: olddude

ok thank you, just got worried


12 Nov 11 - 02:47 PM (#3255728)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: Little Robyn

Check here Dan.
Robyn


12 Nov 11 - 05:26 PM (#3255822)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: olddude

Robyn
Thank you hon


12 Nov 11 - 05:34 PM (#3255824)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: VirginiaTam

she posts almost daily on Facebook. Her uncle passed away recently.


12 Nov 11 - 11:33 PM (#3255957)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: LilyFestre

Hi Dan,

   I'm here but have been out of town with no computer access for about 2 weeks. I've been helping with my uncle who recently passed away.

(((((((((((((Love you my friend))))))))))))))))

Michelle


13 Nov 11 - 11:21 AM (#3256198)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: Stilly River Sage

Thanks for checking on our Michelle, Dan!

SRS


13 Nov 11 - 11:56 AM (#3256228)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: LilyFestre

:) Yes, thank you for checking on me!!! :)

XOXOXOOX

Michelle


13 Nov 11 - 01:43 PM (#3256291)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: olddude

Love you too Michelle, I was worried you got sick again


13 Nov 11 - 05:06 PM (#3256401)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: LilyFestre

Noooo....I'm NOT doing THAT EVER EVER AGAIN!!!!   ;)

It was my uncle this time. He had multiple myeloma and bone cancer and opted to not continue treatments. He was doing ok for a bit and then went downhill incredibly fast. We have a small family and so the baby and I needed to go help as much as possible. While my uncle was at home, the area got hit with a strong snowstorm leaving about 2 feet of snow and no power. My uncle's house was heated with electric only. They had no choice but to call an ambulance as the house was getting too cold and he was bed ridden...we had no way to wash him or keep him warm. Three ambulances came and a firetruck (they provided lights) and they took him out on a flexible back board as the stretcher wouldn't go in the snow. The next day I was supposed to drive an hour north to get my nana so she could visit with my uncle but she called saying she was sick and needed to go to the ER. I called an ambulance for her and met her at the hospital. She was there for 2 days. Meanwhile, my uncle was put on a morphine drip and then moved to a wonderful hospice house. They won't give morphine drips there but they did keep him comfortable for the most part. Without all the morphine, he had a few times of being coherent and could talk somewhat but it was still very limited. His eyes were expressive though and then he slept for 2 solid days. The hospice house was wonderful in that we could stay there 24/7 if we wanted and my aunt did. He passed last Saturday at 3:35am. My aunt was there and we were called to come. The hospice house let us stay with him as long as my aunt wanted. She held his hand until he was very cold. One thing that I thought was really something interesting is that in the 24 hours prior to his death, his eyes were closed. His hands did not move....I held his hand but his fingers no longer wrapped around mine. When we arrived at the hospice house that final time, he was gone. His eyes were slightly open and his right hand was out from under the baby blue blanket that was covered with clouds and he was pointing at something. He saw something. I know he did. I hope that with all my heart, he saw something extraordinary or a loved one that he's been missing. I took a photo of that and have it framed sitting on the table next to where I sit most of the time. It's a reminder for me that this life is not the end, that something better awaits us all. There were more extraordinary moments but that's one of the best ones to me. Thanks for thinking about me Dan...you're a good egg my friend. XOXOXO Sorry to have worried you!!

Michelle


13 Nov 11 - 06:38 PM (#3256455)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: olddude

I lost my beloved aunt, she was like my second aunt to the exact same form of cancer ... awful ...

I am so glad you are home safe

Love Dan


14 Nov 11 - 06:39 AM (#3256681)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: maeve

(((Michelle & family)))


14 Nov 11 - 07:22 AM (#3256696)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: Sandra in Sydney

love & hugs

sandra


15 Nov 11 - 06:21 AM (#3257315)
Subject: RE: BS: Where is Lilyfestre
From: fat B****rd

I'm sorry to hear about your loss but it's good that you're posting again. Take care.
Charlie