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22 May 21 - 04:10 AM (#4106945) Subject: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Dave the Gnome My Mum passed away on Tuesday. It is sad and upsetting of course but a blessing that she passed peacefully. For the last few years she had suffered from dementia and had lived in care. Still able to eat, drink and move about a little she managed pretty well. As her condition deteriorated we had to move her to a different home and both homes were wonderful in their caring. More recently she had a scan for a blood clot, which they found but at the same time they discovered renal cancer. With that she had to move to the sister home next door which did medical nursing as well as dementia care. A couple of weeks back she stopped eating much and while they managed to get fluids in her it became apparent that she had given up. At 89 I suppose she had enough and decided to go. She passed in her sleep, very peacefully and not in distress with one of the nurses by her side. I She had 3 marriages and one other name change so had the distinction of having had 5 surnames. It was not that that was her record though. That was in moving house. By the time I left home at 20, I had already lived in 5 different houses. She went on to live in at least 10 more not including the care homes! She often made us smile when in the care home by talking about moving back to the street where she was born and had lived in twice again in later life. Towards the end her memories were mainly of her first husband, my Dad, and she often used to tell us that he had just decorated her room. Quite a feat seeing as they divorced in the late 70s and he died a few years back :-) Her main love was her family but a close second was shopping. She had worked in shops most of her life and spent her leisure buying things and then taking them back to exchange them because she had changed her mind. Talk about a busman's holiday. She also loved country music and Irish rebel songs, an odd choice for a Lancashire lass brought up Methodist. Her favourite country artists were Mikki and Griff, who we saw once or twice as kids. We shall make sure one of theirs gets played at the funeral. RIP Mum. I hope this is the last change of address! Muriel Foster. 1931-2021. |
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22 May 21 - 05:47 AM (#4106956) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Dave Hanson Condolences Dave. Dave H |
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22 May 21 - 05:49 AM (#4106957) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: DMcG Sorry to her that, DtG. |
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22 May 21 - 06:00 AM (#4106959) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: John MacKenzie Sorry to hear this Dave, but it sounds as though she went peacefully, which is very consoling. She certainly lived a peripatetic life, and as I went to 9 different schools between 5 and 15, I know what that feels like. Still it gives one something to talk about in later life. Commiserations |
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22 May 21 - 06:04 AM (#4106960) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Monique My condolences, Dave. |
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22 May 21 - 06:08 AM (#4106961) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: fat B****rd Best thoughts and good wishes to you and yours Dave. Charlie (fB) |
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22 May 21 - 06:16 AM (#4106963) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Sandra in Sydney sending my condolences. Thanks for posting her story, Dave, she was a character. Dying peacefully in our sleep is something many folks (everyone?) would like. sandra |
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22 May 21 - 06:35 AM (#4106967) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: JennieG Condolences to your Mum's family, Dave.....sounds as though she had an interesting and full life, and a peaceful end. |
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22 May 21 - 10:35 AM (#4107010) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: GUEST,Observer Sincere condolences for your loss, no matter how expected the loss of a parent always strikes hard. |
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22 May 21 - 11:40 AM (#4107016) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Stilly River Sage Reading obituaries is a bit of a hobby, and the ones that don't just recite dates but that give a look into the character of the person are the most interesting. This accomplishes that. My condolences, Dave. |
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22 May 21 - 02:43 PM (#4107045) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Nigel Parsons Prayers and best wishes are with you, and with your departed Mum. Cheers Nigel |
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22 May 21 - 02:51 PM (#4107046) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: gillymor Sorry to hear this, Dave. It sounds like she left you with some good memories. |
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22 May 21 - 04:59 PM (#4107063) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: leeneia My condolences, Dave. I've lost my parents, and there are still times I see a beautiful bird and think, "I'll tell Mom and Dad about this!" |
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23 May 21 - 03:04 AM (#4107122) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Dave the Gnome Thank you all for your kind words and good wishes |
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24 May 21 - 08:58 AM (#4107354) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Mrrzy Thank you for telling us of her. You have my sympathies. |
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25 May 21 - 05:15 PM (#4107573) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: The Sandman Condolences,Dave |
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26 May 21 - 05:44 AM (#4107605) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Steve Shaw All the best from me too, Dave. |
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26 May 21 - 07:52 AM (#4107617) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Waddon Pete ...and from me. |
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26 May 21 - 12:12 PM (#4107647) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: The Man from UNCOOL …from me, too, tho' a pretty occasional Catter. One feels one knows Dave even through his postings. Guess Mum had the best end she could have, both for her and for you. |
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29 May 21 - 02:08 PM (#4108066) Subject: RE: Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Dave the Gnome Thank you all again. I have just been to see her and she was lovely. Obviously not there in spirit but the undertaker has done a great job of capturing her essense. I wish at times that we could do the old thing of washing and dressing our loved ones before committal but I will understand it is all regulated nowadays. How do.you, the traditional folk community, feel about doing your own presenting of the dead? |
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30 May 21 - 02:01 PM (#4108222) Subject: RE: 2021 Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: GUEST,# I thought I'd posted condolences and now I see I haven't. Please accept my apologies, Dave. |
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03 Jun 21 - 12:20 PM (#4108638) Subject: RE: 2021 Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Dave the Gnome Well, that's it now. All over bar the shouting as they say. But it isn't really. While there are people who still remember her, her spirit lives on in our minds. She may have shuffled off her mortal coil, which was pretty well used by now anyway, but the young, independent, proud woman she was is still about. Fussing over the kids, taking shoes back because she didn't like them and still looking for that perfect house :-D I may have said goodbye today but I will be a regular visitor and, from now on, it won't even cost me the petrol money! |
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06 Jun 21 - 12:23 AM (#4108999) Subject: RE: 2021 Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: vectis Sorry to hear this Dave but, at our age, it is, sadly, inevitable. |
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06 Jun 21 - 02:24 AM (#4109006) Subject: RE: 2021 Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Big Al Whittle Very sorry for your loss Dave. Its a great privilege to have a parent stay with you to the point where you' re a developed human being yourself. I'm not sure you ever really talk to them as equals, the way things are nowadays. The world moves on so fast - that we grow up in very different worlds from our parents. I remember Miki and Griff - they used to be part of the Lonnie Donnegan experience. He had very long hair that he used to pull over the front of his face as a gag - and they did great harmonies. In later years they did the domestic Country and Western scene, which Margaret Thar butchered along with the coal mines, and miners welfares. You have my sympathies. |
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06 Jun 21 - 04:21 AM (#4109012) Subject: RE: 2021 Obit: The Gnome's Mum From: Dave the Gnome Al, you set me thinking about the working man's clubs and I found an interesting piece in the Irish Times. I'll start a thread Once again, thank you all for the kind thoughts and wishes |