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27 Mar 00 - 01:31 PM (#202050) Subject: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Little Neophyte I was speaking to a girlfriend of mine who mentioned she had developed a close friendship with a man she was corresponding with through email but that their correspondence had to stop because his wife was feeling uncomfortable about the amount of time he was spending on the computer chatting to another woman. I knew another woman who spent so much time On-line playing backgammon and chatting with her ICQ friends that one day her husband picked up the computer monitor and smashed it onto the floor. Soon afterwards she and her husband seperated. I spoke with her husband some time later about their separation. He felt that much of their marriage problems were due to the fact she spent way too much time with her internet friends and not enough time with him. Made me wonder if other Mudcatters find they have family members who feel somewhat neglected due to the amount of time they spend on the computer. Little Neo |
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27 Mar 00 - 01:38 PM (#202053) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: wysiwyg Naw, I just get them online too! And I have been assured that one's 3D love can do things one's virtual loves cannot, and encouraged to play and seek things I need to bring back into our 3D world. It helps that I am extremely open with my partner about my online activities (so be advised, all you 'CatPals o' Mine!). So the occasional neglect, perceived or actual, doesn't last very long. 'Course I waited till I was nearly 40 to pick the winner. And I tend that 3D love with care and intention, too. ~Susan~ |
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27 Mar 00 - 01:40 PM (#202054) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: GUEST,Neil Lowe Yes. I wouldn't be surprised if someone had not already compiled statistics listing the percentages of divorce due to "Internet Addiction." Neil |
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27 Mar 00 - 01:44 PM (#202058) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Clinton Hammond2 MY wife loves the fact that I'm online and staying the hell out of her hair!! LOL!!!! That's why I love her, and how I know we're gonna be together forever.. we stay the F^@K away from each other!! LOL!!!!!!!
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27 Mar 00 - 01:44 PM (#202059) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: wysiwyg Well addiction is another topic-- a friend is struggling with her husband's and it's the nasty sort too-- Arseholes are arseholes, tho, surely no one HERE is one of THOSE??? |
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27 Mar 00 - 01:50 PM (#202062) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: dick greenhaus Check out The Lament of the Computer Widow in DigiTrad. |
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27 Mar 00 - 01:59 PM (#202067) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos Well, my on line life is rich and varied with a wide range of compassionate, erudite, witty, articulate and disparate points of view, all coming together on the monitor. BBW, my acronym for Best Beloved wife, on the other hand, has one (usually) point of view, which is also wiity, erudite, articulate, and often compassionate too! So its comparable, except that she is but one voice. And my online life is scores of voices of similar caliber. So I can see where it could be a problem. But as the lioness said when mocked by the whelping hyena -- yes, it is only one. But that one is a lion. And sad though I would be, if it came to a fork in the road, I would be off-line in half a minute and my cable modem sold at a swap meet. And BBW knows it too. But it is not a problem because she spends as much time on her own online life as I on mine. I was worried about not spending enoug tme with Barky, but then she joined the Cat too. Smart kid. |
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27 Mar 00 - 02:16 PM (#202078) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: wysiwyg Oh, I lied. There ARE voices I hear demanding I sign the hell off and go back to my old haunts--the soap opera characters I had grown co-dependent with!! Hahahahahaa! I told them to get a life!!! ~Susan~ |
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27 Mar 00 - 02:27 PM (#202083) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: ceitagh Well....my mother complains sometime...but then i ask for a drive into town and she quiets down. My Dad introduced me to the mudcat, so he's not allowed to complain! ceit |
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27 Mar 00 - 02:33 PM (#202093) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo My parents complain all the time, but I multitask to make them happy, and they seem to enjoy it. I sit at the computer in the dining room, while they watch TV in the living room, I yell out suggestions, comments, and witticism from my swivel chair. That way I can interact with both AT the same time, provided my well loved (at least in my family) non-sequitor humor while writing music to lyrics by a net buddy who lives a few thousand miles away (which is what I'm doing now, actually)! --Mbo |
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27 Mar 00 - 03:15 PM (#202119) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: TerriM I don't get grief from my SO for internet time but my addiction to computer games ( Dungeon Keeper, check it out!) gets the odd frown or two; I suspect he sees one as sociable and the other as certifiable. |
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27 Mar 00 - 03:34 PM (#202126) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: katlaughing Naw...Rog is a vicarious Mudcat because I share so much of it with him; it also gives us alone time, which we both need. Usually, if one of us is upstairs on the computer, the other is downstairs watching a favourite program or working on something else, in his case broadcast equipment, in mine, music, or reading. We get along better and are happier with some time apart. Our computer is a gift, in a way, from his mother, as we bought it with some of his inheritance. This happened just before my physical activity became more restricted and has been a gawdsend, mindsaver, eye/worldopener and there isn't a day that goes by that one of us doesn't give a silent thanks to her for this blessing. I think it depends on the people, how much they trust and love one another and how much the are NOT codependent on one another. Good thread, LilNeo
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27 Mar 00 - 03:52 PM (#202138) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Linda Kelly my husband loves the internet. since it allows him more time to nip off down the pub.God, I hope he never gives up drinking! |
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27 Mar 00 - 04:04 PM (#202155) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Caitrin Well, myy brother makes fun of me (in a goodnatured way) about spending time with my imaginary friends. I keep telling him you guys aren't imaginary, but he doesn't believe me. : ) |
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27 Mar 00 - 04:09 PM (#202162) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: GUEST,ajgoodkids LOL, Susan. Don't feel sorry for those soaperstars. Rest assured there are still plenty of dumb, attractive soaper dopers out there for them. Remember, you're on the Net 'cause you can spell! I once had a girlfriend complain "You love that truck more than you love me." I responded "And ... ?" Computer time vs. family time is not so much how much as when. Your own time, whenever it is, is your time. Just don't put the kids to bed early so you can have more "time to your self".
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27 Mar 00 - 04:09 PM (#202163) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: canoer Ummmmmm......ummmmmmmmm......I think I should go now ....(grin but not too big...) ... got some TCB pending ..... |
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27 Mar 00 - 04:10 PM (#202165) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: ceitagh I don't know Caitrin....your brother might be right. Are you *sure* we're not all just figments of your overworked mind? ceit (or so you think...) (maybe berkely was right, after all!) |
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27 Mar 00 - 04:15 PM (#202172) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: wysiwyg AJ-- U a member here? Join!!!!!!! I can tell yer one of us! Is THAT why Max didn't bother to giove us a spelcheeckerr??? ~Susan~ |
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27 Mar 00 - 04:20 PM (#202178) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Um...that would mean I'm a figment of my own imagination? Man, now I'm REALLY confused! Just tell Little Richard that if he STILL don't believe you, he can meet us IN PERSON in May! --Mbo |
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27 Mar 00 - 04:24 PM (#202182) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: ceitagh No Mbo, you're a figment of *caitrin's* imagination. ceit |
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27 Mar 00 - 04:25 PM (#202184) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos I invent myself, therefore I am! The solipsist's answer to Descartes! Awwright, this beats Philosophy 210 all to pieces! Whattya mean, circular ... so it's circular...what's your point? You got sumpn against circles, man???? |
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27 Mar 00 - 04:38 PM (#202190) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Caitrin Ceit's got a point. Maybe y'all ARE just figments of my imagination. Or maybe this is an elaborate communist plot! |
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27 Mar 00 - 05:31 PM (#202219) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos Solipsists of the world, Unite! You have nothing to lose but your Existence!ยท C, the proposition is logically tenable but humanly provides a very tenuous (not to say treacherous) footing for real living. It is one of those things that takes infinite steps to disprove and therefore gets very attractive to sophomores who want to impress ladies on campus. I can guarantee you if you go around and condemn all your friends to the status of figments, they'll find friends more ready to believe in them reciprocally. It's much nicer that way -- here...I'll believe in your figment, and you can believe in mine! A |
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27 Mar 00 - 05:37 PM (#202225) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: GUEST,TTCM Quoting MBO: ''Um...that would mean I'm a figment of my own imagination?''
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27 Mar 00 - 05:40 PM (#202228) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: GUEST,TTCM Perhaps the monikerfont face=arial color=blue> DWEEBO would be more appropriate.
That is how we think of you anyway. |
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27 Mar 00 - 05:46 PM (#202234) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: skarpi Well ,Hmmmmm at first my wife was not happy about the time I spend on the computer, but after I started to help my wife with all the housework when we come home after work it is okei,I mean we both have free time right. I think I spend not long time on the computer every night about from ten to one hour at most. all the best skarpi Iceland. |
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27 Mar 00 - 05:50 PM (#202239) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: GUEST My computer boots up faster, and stays up until I am finished with it. Once my computer knows my birthday, it never forgets. (or in the event that my computer needs a better memory, I can buy one for it). Any others?
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27 Mar 00 - 05:59 PM (#202244) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Ebbie Thread creep... Mbo, you're a breath of the fresh stuff. I always check to see what your opinion is on a given subject. So keep it comin'! Ebbie |
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27 Mar 00 - 06:13 PM (#202254) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Little Neophyte 'The Lament of the Computer Widow' in DigiTrad was mentioned by Dick greenhaus, but I can not seem to find it. Is that an old thread I overlooked? And if so, I would grately appreciate if another Mudcatter would be able to blue clicky it onto this thread. I would really like to read it. Maybe I should take up Neil Lowes suggestion to me on the Cyberspace Friendship thread to write a sociology research paper on this subject. Lord knows I spend enough time around here analyzing the psychology. Dr. B. Neo |
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27 Mar 00 - 06:19 PM (#202257) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: katlaughing here ya go, dear "Dr." |
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27 Mar 00 - 06:35 PM (#202271) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Actually, truthfully, I wouldn't be so into the internet if my mom spent more time with me and less time with her computer. She's always doing something that has to do with a computer. She's a damned good computer consultant, so she's almost always away consulting. Then, when she gets home, she works more for her clients, or for her regular work. Always on the computer. And, as ceit said, my dad introduced me to the 'Cat, so he can't complain. |
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27 Mar 00 - 06:40 PM (#202273) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky OK. I've just read the entire thread, and I'd just like to say one thing. TTCM: If you even THINK of saying ANYTHING bad to Mbo while I'm around, I will personally make sure that the rest of your life is a living hell. Got it? Good.
Everyone else: don't be worried, and don't send me any personal messages relating to this message, PLEASE! This guy has gotten to my last thread. Thanks. You can e-mail me though.... I like getting e-mail. *BG* ~Barky |
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27 Mar 00 - 06:50 PM (#202277) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo And we're MIGHTY pleased you are here, Barky lass! --Mbo |
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27 Mar 00 - 07:12 PM (#202287) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: catspaw49 Karen actually enjoys the 'Cat too and stays up on what's going on........I think a lot of the things that happen as far as relationships and the like go are very weird. These guys who have affairs on the Net were probably heading that way to begin with. Like life in 3-D, it is what you make it. But I will agree that its much nicer to live at Mudcat than in most towns I've lived in. Rarely do you get a group of people together who are so well versed in so many topics. Spaw |
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27 Mar 00 - 07:27 PM (#202293) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Pleased to be here! Creeps like him ruin fun things like this for the rest of us. ~Barky |
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27 Mar 00 - 07:37 PM (#202302) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo MUDCAT YOUTH UNITE!--Mbo |
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27 Mar 00 - 07:45 PM (#202306) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: katlaughing Only if you let it, Barky. |
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27 Mar 00 - 07:51 PM (#202310) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Too true, kat. Doesn't really ruin it... t'was said in the heat of the moment... please, I bow down and beg forgivness... *kneels, and raises huge puppy eyes filled with tears to kat* pweeeeeze????? ~Barky "watch out or I'll start the lip trembling" Amosdaughter |
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27 Mar 00 - 07:59 PM (#202318) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Don't cry Barky...I always start sobbing when the girls let the tears doon fa'... --Mbo |
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27 Mar 00 - 08:19 PM (#202332) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Caitrin So how 'bout the Communist plot idea, Amos? Hm. I note that you don't address it...you must be one of THEM! |
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27 Mar 00 - 09:09 PM (#202365) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos What Communist plot is that, C? I had it beat into me when I was your age, by a North Philly cop, that I was part of one, but hadn't even known about it until then. Actually, though, circular logic is a Commie favorite used for suppressing enemies of the State. When you reflect on it, communism is an extension in some respects of the same unworkable notion that solipsism is. And just about as successful. Tell them they are figments, and your friends will go off to find better friends. Tell them "From each according to their ability, to each according to their need", and sooner or later your citizens will find other means of survival, not because it isn't a sweet idea but because it doesn't work. The truth may not be nice, but it kinda stays true regardless. |
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27 Mar 00 - 09:28 PM (#202372) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo WORKMEN OF THE WORLD, UNITE! --the proletariat has spoken :-) |
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27 Mar 00 - 09:35 PM (#202377) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos Gee whiz, Mbo -- you get out of the box one day an' you come back a dramatizing radical bolshevist! I swan! Wherefore do you need thes eoverpowering generalizations? How's about we just set and talk person to person a spell, and leave all them collective nouns off in the woodpile where they belong, huh? |
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27 Mar 00 - 09:47 PM (#202384) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Actually, my daddy's a "commie pinko faggot" ~Barky |
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27 Mar 00 - 09:48 PM (#202388) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky Sorry... It's a "pinko commie faggot bastard" (This ain't what muh daddy is... is wha' he wuz call-ed) ~Barky |
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27 Mar 00 - 10:03 PM (#202397) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: katlaughing Barky, git up off your'n knees and wipe away them tears, womon! Ain't know apolgising necessary nor explanation needed. I was jist makin' a opsirvashun. Now, Mr. Amos, you said, "From each according to their ability, to each according to their need". That might not have worked too well in a societal context as in pinko commie structures, BUT, in my experience, it can work mighty well in the spiritual realm of cooperative give and take, IMO. boy, those cops didn't know what the haitch they were talling about, eh? Course, ya knwo there's still some who'll make that claim. One fo my favourite bumper sitckers a frined of mine sported was "I might be straight, but I am not narrow!" all the best, kat |
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27 Mar 00 - 10:04 PM (#202398) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Ouch. Barky....isn't that a little harsh? And Amos, if it weren't for a collective of united Mudcatter shoving me, I wouldn't have got out of my box for one day. --Mbo |
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27 Mar 00 - 11:04 PM (#202418) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: canoer Actually, a Communist plot is where Barky's dad and I raise vegetables. *BG* |
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27 Mar 00 - 11:11 PM (#202422) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo OH NO! HAIL SPODE!!! "Something...something...BICYCLES!! Yes, very good...something...something ASPARAGUS!!!" "The British knee is MUSCULAR!!!" --Mbo (P.G. Wodehouse fan, sorry...) |
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27 Mar 00 - 11:23 PM (#202431) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: canoer I assume the P.G. stands for Pretty Garbled? |
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27 Mar 00 - 11:27 PM (#202434) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo Pelham Grenville, actually! --Mbo |
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27 Mar 00 - 11:29 PM (#202435) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: ceitagh Only if you don't happen to know what's going on...or Bertie's been caught in a difficult situation (ex, climbing thru someone's window or vandalizing his dear aunt's property) without jeeves as backup. glad to see we have something else in common mbo! pax, ceit |
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27 Mar 00 - 11:35 PM (#202438) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo YES! Thank you Ceit! Viva la Wodehouse! --Mbo (who's Drones Club nickname is Blotto)
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28 Mar 00 - 12:53 AM (#202484) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Barky No, actually, it's not harsh of me... It was harsh of the cop who called him that many many many many many years ago. Ask him the story... I don't remember it too clearly. I just remember it had something to do with him, his best buddy Darius Brubeck, and instruments. Hmm.. ~Barky |
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28 Mar 00 - 12:57 AM (#202488) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Mbo I'm so sorry, Barky--I didn't realize you were quoting! Stupid cop! How could he think that of dear, honorable Amos! Fool of a fuzz! Will you forgive me? --Mbo |
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28 Mar 00 - 03:28 PM (#202780) Subject: RE: BS: You Love Your Computer More Than Me! From: Amos Kat: I will have to defer to yer wisdom on spiritual matters, where the boundaries of self-concern are as little more permeable. On the mortal plane, where "self-interest" (enlightened or otherwise) is a driving force, it doesn't work because it chokes the engine of market renewal and growth, undermines innovation and demotivates the able, while motivating and elevating the inept. Come to think, of it our socialized educational programs do that too. As do our capitalist management cultures. Maybe it's just a biped thing... |