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10 Jan 01 - 08:41 PM (#372606) Subject: Biggest Fool From: GUEST So I fell in love with the wrong person. I really thought there was a mutual feeling. After a very long period, I made sure I was not incumbered; I separated from my spouse, a troubled relationship; I moved to another state. The object of my love refused my invitation. I grew very, very lonely. Have you ever been or done anything so stupid and foolish? I should have found something selfless to give my energy towards to make me happy and fulfilled. I am pathetic and can't bring myself to use my mudcat name. I am also broked hearted, but that will mend. Geez....... |
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10 Jan 01 - 08:48 PM (#372610) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: catspaw49 Here I thought this was somebody flaming my ass again........... While love may mean never having to say you're sorry, it can also mean, "Shit. Fucked up again." Move on and don't let it get you. Sometimes the magic works and sometimes the light bulbs are on sale at K-Mart. The fact you care makes it worse but proves you to be lovable, so move on after throwing a few darts. Spaw |
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10 Jan 01 - 08:49 PM (#372611) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Sorcha More than once, dear Guest, more than once. The sun will rise tomorrow, and you may always be humbled when you think of this, but you can overcome/outgrow it if you work at it. Right now, YOU need to be first in your life...love yourself as you would love others....... |
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10 Jan 01 - 08:51 PM (#372612) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: little john cameron RICHT ON SPAW. LJC |
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10 Jan 01 - 08:52 PM (#372613) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: little john cameron an sorcha ljc |
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10 Jan 01 - 09:40 PM (#372627) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Jon Freeman Guest, love can make fools of any one of us. Jon |
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10 Jan 01 - 09:44 PM (#372628) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: kendall Even me Those who love give hostage to fate. |
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10 Jan 01 - 11:09 PM (#372664) Subject: Lyr Add: LOVE CHANGES EVERYTHING^^ From: Mary in Kentucky ...Love makes fools of everyone... LOVE CHANGES EVERYTHING Andrew Lloyd Webber Love, love changes everything Hands and faces, earth and sky Love, love changes everything How you live and how you die Love, can make the summer fly Or a night seem like a lifetime Yes love, love changes everything Now I tremble at your name Nothing in the world will ever be the same Love, love changes everything Days are longer, words mean more Love, love changes everything Pain is deeper than before Love will turn your world around And that world will last forever Yes love, love changes everything Brings you glory, brings you shame Nothing in the world will ever be the same Off into the world we go Planning futures, shaping years Love (comes in) and suddenly all our wisdom disappears Love makes fools of everyone All the rules we made are broken Yes love, love changes everyone Live or perish in its flame Love will never never let you be the same Love will never never let you be the same
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10 Jan 01 - 11:12 PM (#372667) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: wysiwyg Well, anonymity can be a great thing, but do you have someone-- anyone-- to talk to about this? ~S~ |
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10 Jan 01 - 11:13 PM (#372668) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Matt_R Thank you Mary!! Love that song! And so true... |
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10 Jan 01 - 11:15 PM (#372670) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Sorcha Other than us'ns at MudCat, she means? MudCat is better than nothing, but face to face is better......if there is nobody else, keep talking. We'll listen, we promise. |
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10 Jan 01 - 11:16 PM (#372671) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Jimmy C It's very difficult some time to emerge unscathed from a broken relationship, but I have to echo what both Spaw and Sorcha (and LJC) said, you have to suck it in and get on with living, for your sake, nobody elses', You are the only one that matters now, so treat yourself with the respect and importance you deserve and go forth and forge your immediate future. Good luck and god bless |
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10 Jan 01 - 11:47 PM (#372691) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: GUEST Thank you all. Praise, you've given me a good direction. I need counseling. Thanks 'catters. |
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10 Jan 01 - 11:53 PM (#372696) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: wysiwyg For the most powerful {secular) counseling approach, see: www.rc.org All peers; free; people-based; organized approach to natural healing processes. And singing at workshops! See me for details, contacts. (I add prayer to it, but it's designed to work on its own.) ~Susan motormice@hotmail.com |
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11 Jan 01 - 12:09 AM (#372702) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: GUEST Praise, this(www.rc.org) is a good site. I am going to spend some time there. Muchas gracias, sweetie pie. |
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11 Jan 01 - 12:36 AM (#372715) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: GUEST,Artie (Executive Producer, Larry Sanders Sho Roll a joint. Walk it off. |
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11 Jan 01 - 12:47 AM (#372722) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: wysiwyg If you can find the fundamentals manual, bookmark it. It moves around and can seem not to be there but it is. Check out the journal excerpts too. All true. Living it. The videos are great too. Worth the expense. Drop me a line, huh? ~S~ |
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11 Jan 01 - 12:49 AM (#372725) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Sorcha Artie, I hate to have to be the one to tell you this, but there are times when a joint just isn't enough.......LOTSA times actually, if you are living in the real world. |
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11 Jan 01 - 01:38 AM (#372734) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Amergin Hey, Guest, I have gone through a major breakup recently....In fact, your story is very similar to mine...except I was the object of the affection....So similar is your story, that I thought you were her until you said that the one you loved rejected you....if you want to talk, I can listen....maybe we can help each other....Just remember to get up every morning...I know from personal experience that it is harder than it sounds, but it must be done....PM me if you want....Take care. Nathan |
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11 Jan 01 - 01:42 AM (#372735) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Amergin BTW Guest, you are not the only one love has made a fool of....and remember you have friends here and that we care....May the sun shine on you again... |
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11 Jan 01 - 11:24 AM (#372761) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: GUEST,kendall Love is rare, life is strange Nothing lasts, and people change. Depressing eh? |
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11 Jan 01 - 12:04 PM (#372793) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Irish sergeant Guest; If love hasn't made a fool of you then you haven't loved. Your posts tell me you are a caring person but they also tell me that you will endure. I went through a long period in my life of screwing up relationships etc. when I firmly believed I was destined to be alone forever. It passed and so shall this. In the mean time you can pm me if you so desire if you want to bend my ear. Kindest reguards, Neil |
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11 Jan 01 - 12:09 PM (#372799) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Gervase Bin there, done that, and hurt a lot of people into the bargain. But this isn't one of those "my angst is bigger than your angst" posts; I feel for you on this one. Love may be the most wonderful thing in the world, but it can also hurt like hell. I'm surprised it's not a proscribed drug, given its potential to wreck one's life! And, Guest, no, you're not pathetic - even if people who mean a lot to you are telling you so right now, it's only because they're hurt too. You're a valued human being, and tghe fact that you're able to express yourself here and acknowledge that things haven't gone the way they might shows that. Things WILL get better, but meanwhile, get out there, sing and play, and don't whip yourself too much. We all fuck up - it's in our nature. And who's to say that hingsight might not one day put an entirely different perspective on today's misery? Good luck. |
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11 Jan 01 - 12:29 PM (#372823) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Morticia It's better to have tripped than never danced at all...but I bet it doesn't feel that way right now.Everyone's right, we've all been there....and it sucks and blows.....big time!Are you feeling foolish because you left one relationship for another or would you have done that sooner or later anyway?If the latter,this is a sucky way to start your new life but nonetheless, it is a start, not an ending.Please add me to the list of shoulders ready to get soggy, ears to get bashed etc. if you feel it would help, and it just might you know. |
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11 Jan 01 - 12:32 PM (#372828) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Amergin Guest, it has been helping me to know that there are people who support me in my heartbreak. |
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11 Jan 01 - 08:47 PM (#373077) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: bflat Woah, close to home. Forget someone who turns you down. Anyone who hurts you doesn't love you. They are too much involved with who they think they are to be able to give of themselves in a relationship. You are a quick learner, not some pathetic lovesick fool. The sun does rise and you will be okay, probably better for the experience. Don't look back, I am warning you, look forward. It is how you avoid potholes. Best Wishes. Ellen |
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12 Jan 01 - 09:17 AM (#373277) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: GUEST Thank you one and all for your support, especially those of you who have offered to be my personal supporter. You are very kind. With therapy, time and whatever else it takes, I'll get over my lonliness and heartache. My work should help provide purpose to get going and a place to retreat. BIG THANKS to'catters. |
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12 Jan 01 - 09:26 AM (#373284) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: kendall I'm sorry to disagree with bflat, but, the fact is no one can hurt you..no one can make you happy. That is strictly up to you. As Shakespere said "Nothing is good or bad, thinking makes them so." If a good friend tells me I'm full of shit, I will probably laugh. If someone I dont like says the same thing, I will retort. Same words, different thought process. Two and a half years ago, I lost the love of my life. I was extremely upset, but, now, I see her once in a while, and see how she interacts with her new husband, and I thing "Some things never change" and, I smile. She didn't hurt me...she did what she had to do, and I decided that it hurt. |
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12 Jan 01 - 10:56 AM (#373328) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: catspaw49 Ya' know Kendall, once a great while, and I do mean a great while, you hit the nail right on the head. I'm big on that concept myself, so it probably means its wrong since you believe it too. But I think I'll hang onto it anyway. Spaw |
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12 Jan 01 - 11:26 AM (#373350) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: SINSULL Anyone who hurts you doesn't love you??? Any of you have children???? Guest, Wallow in it for a while. You are not a fool or pathetic. A pathetic fool wouldn't feel as deeply about this as you do. Learn from it - if you find you are attracted to the same person in another body, notice the red flags. You will probably wander in any way but at least you will be prepared. "Fools rush in where angels fear to tread" How else could someone as normal as Karen end up married to Spaw? |
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12 Jan 01 - 12:59 PM (#373399) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: bflat Kendall, I have to agree with you. Not a good choice of words in my post. It is always how you choose to deal with the matter that in the end results in your pain or your gain. Thanks for the insight. Ellen |
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12 Jan 01 - 01:09 PM (#373405) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: catspaw49 Actually Sins, I always figured I just caught her on an off day. Spaw |
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12 Jan 01 - 08:32 PM (#373661) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: SINSULL Don't be a fool, Spaw. She saw you and wanted you. You didn't have a prayer. |
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12 Jan 01 - 09:21 PM (#373690) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: Troll SINS is right, 'Spaw. Actually, I rather admire your taste in women if Karen is any example. Can't say much for her taste in men though. **BG** troll |
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21 Jan 01 - 07:46 AM (#378926) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: GUEST Here is an update. I was right about myself. I am a fool but that doesn't make me a bad person, and I could be much worse things. I am seeing a therapist for my issues. It did help my mental state just to start this thread and face the reality of what is. Prior to that, it was just me and my thoughts and they weren't doing me any good. But,YOU have! Great bunch of people! |
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21 Jan 01 - 07:59 AM (#378930) Subject: RE: BS: Biggest Fool From: John P I don't mean to sound flippant, but there is a great song around somewhere that might be pertinent to this thread. It's called "Why Does Love Make Us Stupid" or something like that. Does anyone know it? John |