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BS: Frying pan into the fire................

23 Sep 02 - 10:29 AM (#789574)
Subject: Frying pan into the fire................
From: GUEST,Patrish

A long time since I started a thread, well sorry its a BS, but here goes.

As the title suggests I seem to be really good at removing myself from one bad situation and jumping straight into another. Is there something in my genetic make-up? Or am I just an idiot? Its probably something between the two.

Its not that I'm tearing my hair out, or looking for high buildings to jump off, just a bit annoyed with myself.

I have to make a better start this time and need a bit of advice.
I am thinking about joining a morris side again, probably slubbing billy if they will have me back. I was also thinking about joining a gym. Perhaps I should give up smoking - but i don't think thats possible for me just now. I just need a kick start(no offers for a kick up the backside - thanks) plastic surgery, new identity, move continents....................any ideas
Patrish xxx


23 Sep 02 - 10:43 AM (#789579)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: mg

the gym and the dancing sounds great. Lots of fresh air and sunshine also.Get rid of all clutter in your life if you can and maybe take a stop smoking class to prepare for that in the future. mg


23 Sep 02 - 10:48 AM (#789581)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: songs2play

Stop smoking.

I know it's easy to give advice, but of all of the choices looked at, THIS IS THE ONE.

It's well worth it.


23 Sep 02 - 10:55 AM (#789585)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Skipjack K8

Lovely to hear from you, Pat. Hope things aren't too grim for you, but that you can make a good new start. Is cycling a possibility. I've been pedalling to work (in Hull) for rising 6 months, and there isn't a downside to it. I feel great, and really enjoy the ride, even when it's pissing down.

The smurkin' will go when you're ready, but do keep working towards it.

Lots of love, pet.


23 Sep 02 - 10:56 AM (#789586)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: GUEST,Patrish

Thanks, shouldn't have mentioned the smoking thing......help Bill where are you!
Patrish xx


23 Sep 02 - 10:58 AM (#789589)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: GUEST,Patrish

Skipjack, pedalling would be good if it was flatter here and I had a sense of direction and a modicom of road sense! Perhaps an exercise bike would be safer.
Things are not grim at all, I just have to stop getting involved with grumpy, over possesive gits
Patrish xx


23 Sep 02 - 11:07 AM (#789597)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: wysiwyg

Water exercise therapy is doing it now for me, on top of everything else I have shared with you in the past, Patrish.

All the best,

~Susan


23 Sep 02 - 11:52 AM (#789624)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Bobert

Quit the cigs and exercise and the rest will take care of itsself.

Bobert


23 Sep 02 - 01:17 PM (#789675)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Mudlark

If you find yourself repeating unhealthy or unfulfilling patterns with relationships, it might help to try and figure out what draws you to these gits in the first place. Repeating behavior often is a signal that you are unconsciously trying to get an old, unresolved relationship to come out right, choosing the same type again and again, in hopes of a better ending. Which is, sadly, doomed...as, difficult as it is to change ones self, it's easier than changing OP.

Will now take off psychologist hat...sorry. The dancing and exercise sounds great for both exercise and endorphin stress therapy! Good luck.


23 Sep 02 - 02:24 PM (#789734)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: CarolC

Good luck with everything Patrish!


23 Sep 02 - 04:48 PM (#789820)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: SharonA

Don't know if Mudlark is on to something with the relationship advice but, if you are "between" significant others, I'd like to chime in by saying that smoking can be a real "turn-off" in a relationship with a non-smoker. Sure, you could restrict yourself to relationships with fellow smokers, but then you'd have to expect your significant other to be grumpy until (s)he has a cigarette to satisfy the craving that's causing the grumps, and you seem to want to avoid grumpy people! Of course, two questions must be asked: (a) are you grumpy when you want a cigarette and haven't had one yet; and (b) if so, would non-grumpy people want to be in a relationship with you?


23 Sep 02 - 05:32 PM (#789836)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Kim C

Most smokers I have known, did not quit while they were under stress, because it makes more.

Exercise is a good thing. As you get in better shape, you'll probably find you want to give up the cigs. But you won't be able to give them up until you decide you REALLY want to.

I have really, really enjoyed bellydancing - it's a good workout, and it's just a lot of fun. I realize a lot of people snicker at this - go ahead - and others say things like "oh, I could never do that because I'm too fat/uncoordinated/undisciplined/insert your choice of excuse here." But it isn't about that at all. In my class, there are women of all shapes and sizes. All you have to have is a sense of fun.

Find something YOU like to do. Do it. You'll be amazed how it changes your attitude.


23 Sep 02 - 05:54 PM (#789849)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: McGrath of Harlow

Morris Dancing might be a bit drastic, but go for it. On with the Motley!


23 Sep 02 - 06:04 PM (#789854)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Susanne (skw)

Patrish, there is so much good advice in this thread that I wouldn't know what to add. Enjoy the Morris dancing and whatever else you take up, and try to make it to Groningen next year! All the best, Susanne


24 Sep 02 - 04:11 AM (#790113)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: GUEST,Patrish

Thanks for all the advice.
Having slept on the relationship problems I have, I have decided to become "halibut" at least for a year.
Get fit either dancing or at a gym or maybe both
Visit here a little more often
And, Susanne I hope to see you in Groningen next year.

Patrish x


24 Sep 02 - 05:00 PM (#790534)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Noreen

Good to hear from you Pat, but sorry to hear that things have gone pear-shaped for you.

I think we both know that you're not going to give up your fought-for independence and self-confidence after all you've been through, and that you're not going to settle for something that's not right. Good for you! Do something YOU want to do, and let others fit in with you for a change! *smile*

Doing something positive like exercise works for me - makes other things fall into place.

Hugs,

Noreen
xx


24 Sep 02 - 08:01 PM (#790637)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Allan Dennehy

Here's my suggestion: keep on the ciggies as a reward IF you make some consistent and worthwhile changes on the diet and exercise front. Promise yourself that if you don't "keep the deal" you'll go off the ciggies for ever. Then after you have won one of the two battles then maybe you'll have the confidence to tackle the other side. Good luck with whatever you decide.


24 Sep 02 - 08:24 PM (#790654)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Mr Red

change hair style is a safe bet. Dye it red!!!!!!!


25 Sep 02 - 07:56 AM (#790898)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: GUEST,Raggytash

Patrish, if you thinking of joining Slubbing you will be near Golcar. At Fieldhead Surgery Dr Mike Wallwork does acupuncture on the NHS. I went from 50 a day to stop in ten minutes, no withdrawal symptons apart from now being HOLIER THAN THOU with smokers. Seven years ago, great thing to do


25 Sep 02 - 08:37 AM (#790909)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Guessed

Frying pan and fire seem to be the problem,
microwave oven is what you need. Try the 1/4 power setting and go for the slow burn or no burn preferrably - including the nicotine.


25 Sep 02 - 09:20 AM (#790936)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: sian, west wales

I'd go for the hair dye and the Morris. I joined a gym in March and I'm finding it MIND NUMBINGLY BORING!!! It's a good thing that cross-trainers aren't fitted with machine guns, or I'd be tempted to take my boredom out on some of the more Dedicated Followers of Fitness. grrr.

(If you're stuck on the idea DON'T pay 'up front'. Pay per session until you know if it's for you or not.)

On the more exotic side, there's always Bog Snorkling. (that's 'bog' as in 'marshy place' ... says she trying to ward off inevitable comments on the platform.)

sian


25 Sep 02 - 09:58 AM (#790948)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Morticia

glad to hear from you Patrish, even if things could be jollier for you, still you have an air of resolve that I reckon will get you through most anything. If not, there's always gin, chocolate and the phone....PM me for my number if you'd like :)


26 Sep 02 - 06:32 AM (#791577)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: GUEST,Patrish

Thanks again for all the comments. And for the phonecalls. I am fine and quite happy, as I said at the start of this thread - I was annoyed with myself, I think just putting the problem on here has put things into perspective. So I am no longer annoyed and I am thinking happy thoughts.

I found this interesting frying pan site, its nothing to do with falling in fires, but does have some nice recipes. I just hope I've remembered how to do a link

cheers

Patrish xx

Frying Pan


26 Sep 02 - 07:55 AM (#791617)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: Mr Red

Re excercise - do you ever see a jogger that smiles? I go ceilidhing a lot more since I gave up badminton. It is far more kind to the joints and you get to change partners a lot. WIN WIN.


26 Sep 02 - 09:13 AM (#791676)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: kendall

Mudlark is right on the money. Excellent advice.


26 Sep 02 - 09:45 AM (#791704)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: GUEST,maryrrf

I was going through a slump a couple of years ago - feeling fat and that I had no energy. My friend at work kept saying - join a gym and get some excercise! Well, I'd joined a gym a couple of times and felt like an idiot. The aerobics class I took was way out of my league - I was falling down from exhaustion and everybody else was after the instructor to speed up the music. It was awful. But my friend persuaded me and actually went with me three mornings a week to work out and show me how to use the equipment. Then I joined (for a very modest fee) a group that met three mornings a week and worked out - cardio and weights. That got me in the habit and I started to enjoy it - not to mention I felt better. About a year later I invested in ten sessions of personal training - well worth it. Excercise lifted my spirits and toned me up and it was the best thing I ever did. And if I can do it anybody can. I was in such bad shape when I first started that once I was lifting something and whining about how heavy it was and I couldn't do it. "How much weight have you put on that bar?" I demanded. "Nothing" said my friend. "That's just the bar with no weights on it!". Chart your progress and that makes it more interesting. You'll be delighed at seeing yourself get stronger and more toned.


26 Sep 02 - 10:46 AM (#791744)
Subject: RE: BS: Frying pan into the fire................
From: mooman

Dear Patrish,

What a pleasure and joy to hear from you!

Plastic surgery is definitely not a necessity in your case.

Hope to see you in Groningen if not before. You're always welcome to visit us in Brussels if you feel so inclined.

All the very best,

Richard