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24 Dec 02 - 03:03 PM (#853214) Subject: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: katlaughing Anyone else missing their grown-up kids or grandkids, etc.? I don't really feel depressed or anything, just left to wonder if we will ever all of us be together for the holidays, again. My kids are in three different states, all working hard, saving or paying their money out for homes, etc. The closest one is about 7-8 hours away, the other two are in Indiana and Connecticut, lots farther away! As soon as we upgrade our computer we are getting webcams for the grandkids' parents and ourselves, so that they can actually see us and visit with us and know who the heck we really are. Anyone else do this with their kids/grandkids, etc.? Anyway, thanks for listening. I am grateful, just wish my kids were here. kat |
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24 Dec 02 - 04:41 PM (#853256) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: open mike yep the nest is empty here, too, today. i will see the 2 daughters tomorrow, though. the pal talk site seeme to be a wonderful place to conference--plus there are quite a few mud catters on there and there are live music sharing rooms which are fun. you might want to use that as a place to connect wi5th your family and friends. take a ddep breath and know that you are loved, and that you can be in touch with you distant ones telpathically and through phone, mail, e-mail and the 6th sense too! |
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24 Dec 02 - 05:09 PM (#853264) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: Jerry Rasmussen Hi, Kat: This will be my first Christmas without our two sons from my first marriage. The oldest is between jobs and homes, and is spending Christmas with his wife and our two Grandkids at Disneyworld. The other is in Rockford, Illinois. But, we'll be blessed with our two sons on my wife Ruth's side, and plenty of other family, friends, neighbors, Gospel Messengers and if past years are any pattern, a few people we not only don't expect but don't know. But, I'll sure miss my two sons.. Have a Merry Christmas, Kat! Jerry |
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24 Dec 02 - 05:27 PM (#853274) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: wilco Kat: I'm going down to out local clubhouse for the mentally ill in the morning. Play Christmas music for about three hours. All of these 100+ people have been abandoned by their families, or their fa,ilies have died, or the families are away. But, they think of one another as family. I have eight kids, and six of them will be here tomorrow. New grandson will be here Thursday with mom and dad. Some years, we have fewer of them than others. But, somewhere in your community, somebody, at this very minute, is looking for someone just like you to complete their "family." merry Christmas!!!!!! |
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24 Dec 02 - 05:39 PM (#853281) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: Amos Kat -- So far Barky is still coming home for Xmas and her gramma's here as well this year. But I tell ya what -- you and Rog dance around and make it uproarious and delightful and merry as hell together, ok? Have a good one, A |
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24 Dec 02 - 05:42 PM (#853284) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: Liz the Squeak If anyone is really feeling down, I'm quite happy to rent Bratling out for seasonal get-togethers.... she does enjoy a good party! I know, enjoy her while I can.... but if I can share that enjoyment..... and if anyone is passing East London tomorrow, feel free to drop in for lunch at about 2, we've a big enough gammon ham to feed 10 and only 3 of us there..... original guests couldn't make it and I'd already bought the meat (extra loyalty points). LTS |
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24 Dec 02 - 05:50 PM (#853286) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: Jerry Rasmussen Good for you, Wilco! My wife Ruth and I try to pay special attention to those who don't have and family. You're right... there are so many of them. We invited Walmart Fred for Christmas, but fortunately, he already had several offers. Let no one be alone during the Holidays.. Glad you're going to have so many kids at home.. Merry Christmas! Jerry |
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24 Dec 02 - 06:14 PM (#853295) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: katlaughing Thanks, everyone, very much appreciated. We will spend part of the day with my sisters which will be nice. Then tomorrow evening I will drive them around to look at the lights, as one of them is too blind to drive and the other is not comfortable driving in the dark. I know of others whom we could visit, play music for, etc. all of which is very valid and wonderful, I am not saying it isn't. This is just a very specific longing for my kids. They've all turned out to be really wonderful people and I just miss them more at certain times than others, or I think about it more. Which may be my only real problem; the acupuncturist says I think too much!**BG** And, then bet went North to Alaska and left her dog to spend Christmas with us and his "cuzzin" Merlee! Whoo-hoo! They do look cute though with matching santa bandanas and her dog is a sweet old fellah. Maybe Rog has the right idea, like that old Merl Haggard song, if I can figure out how to acclimate the cats to travel... Lately I've been getting that urge to roam Gonna go out and by myself a motorhome Say goodbye to my pinochle club and my job at Sears Forget about security, (something, something) This life I lead is far worse than my fears. Oh travelling with you would be like heaven We could even make love in the parking lot of any 7-11 Oh baby can't you see, just you and me Let's sell the house and let the good times roll. Oh you can play bass?...(can't remember the rest) but, anyway, Rog keeps teasing me about doing this, then we could drive all over on a great Mudcat adventure seeing kids and all of you! You all are wonderful family!! Thanks, luvyakat |
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24 Dec 02 - 06:25 PM (#853302) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: Ebbie kat, I see my three grandkids only once a year, for about 10 days, when I visit in southern California. In between, however, we use Instant Messenger a lot- and I have their permission to print off our exchanges, so I have the equivalent of letters from them. It's great fun - and very immediate to have a page pop up and a kid write "Hi, Grandma!" They tell me about soccer practice and football and musical theatre and plays they're going out for and friends and weather and when are you coming to visit? :) Ebbie |
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24 Dec 02 - 06:37 PM (#853307) Subject: Lyr Add: QUARTZITE From: Mudlark Merry Christmas, kat... I don't have any kids of my own, and my step-daughter is in Vancouver, B.C., and out of communication at the moment at her place on Salt spring Island. I do think holidays are an especially hard time to be without those that are nearest and dearest. I feel fortunate, since my family of origin is a washout, to have my oldest and dearest friend staying with me now, with one week still left of her 6-wk visit. We'll see the new year in together. Thanks for the Haggard song...am sending you another along the same lines, this one by D. Morrison, from a Small Potatoes CD... Quartzite Roy took his pension after 30 some years A machinist at Allied in Cleveland Now he passes his days pretty much all the same Maybe listens to the Indians in the evening He watches his options whittle down to a few And his once wide horizons grow narrow Roy went downtown, took a 2nd on the house And drove home in a brand new Pace-Arrow There's a cab-over Roadstar with a Datsun in tow On a road 10 mi. out of Sedona Three days ago they closed the house in St. Paul. And tonight it's southwest Arizona She's slower in rising, sometimes she forgets And what's left of his hair has gone white But by anyone's measure there's life in them yet And they'll dance on the desert tonight Up north where we come from it's snowing, of course But it's warm as a baby here in Quartzite The rivers are frozen way back to their source But we'll dance on the desert tonight There's a bunch of old duffers with drums and guitars Tuning up on an old plywood stage We'll pull on our boots and our best Western gear Just to get out and act half our age I ain't leaving none of these pages unfilled Always felt like a rascal, I feel that way still Stay with me my dear up this one final hill And we'll dance in the desert tonight Up north where we come from it's snowing, of course But it's warm as a baby here in Quartzite The rivers are frozen way back to their source But we'll dance on the desert tonight **** I love this song! |
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24 Dec 02 - 07:39 PM (#853339) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: SINSULL My son is among the missing again. But I am OK. Put up a tree and decorated it - almost. Couldn't find the hooks so it has lights and garlands and a few clip on decorations and the wrappings from some gifts. Quite pretty, really. Then I opened my gifts - lots of them. My Secret Santa went all out. WOW. As did a few relatives. I feel strangely contented in my new home. Warm and safe. The nest is empty but my heart is full. Merry Christmas all. |
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24 Dec 02 - 08:06 PM (#853354) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: Amos Sinsull: From the SW Corner to the far NE corner, floods of the very warmest good will to you and all yours (including that curmudgeonly Capting gent). A |
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24 Dec 02 - 08:23 PM (#853363) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: SINSULL Amos, Since the captain got his voice back he is no longer curmudgeonly. Strange but true. He even hums in noisy restaurants and rarely complains about the food. Mudcat needs a new resident curmudgeon. Tom (Hall) is too good natured to qualify. Want to try out for the position? I will be holding auditions in Portland in February. Mary |
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25 Dec 02 - 10:46 AM (#853554) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: *daylia* Christmas blessings to you, kat! And remember your kids ARE with you in their minds and hearts, if not in the flesh. Thanks for just being you! Peace and love - :-) - daylia |
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25 Dec 02 - 02:35 PM (#853648) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: katlaughing Thanks to you, too, daylia. You've sure been a welcome addition to our community. Sure glad you decided to take yer shoes off and set a spell.:-) kat |
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26 Dec 02 - 11:57 AM (#853676) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: Amos Sinsull: HEre's my audition tape: I suppose this offer is supposed to be an honor, huh? An invitation to fly to Maine in February at my own expense? Thanks, but I'm holding out for the Nobel Prize!! (How was that? Sardonic enough? LOL!! Thanks for the invitation but I really can't -- it would disappoint those who think of me as the world's shmooiest pushover!) A |
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26 Dec 02 - 12:02 PM (#853679) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: Amergin I'd send you a tape, Sins....but I'm too bloody cheap to pay the postage.... |
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26 Dec 02 - 07:01 PM (#853809) Subject: RE: BS: Empty nest during holidays From: Bat Goddess Dad died 2 years ago and Mom moved into an apartment last year just 6 blocks away from the home in Milwaukee they'd shared for almost 45 years. There's three of us kids. Mom used to fantasize about us being on each coast and in the middle so she could visit us, which actually happened, but unfortunately her arthritis (and Dad's emphysema) made travel complicated. My brother in Waverly, Iowa gets to visit most often. I was lucky enough to hitch a ride to Wisconsin with my cousin (in southern Massachusetts) this past summer and it looks like I'll be able to do it again this year. And my sister, who lives in the San Francisco Bay area, is visiting her right now. We're all broke, but we manage. More important now than the past 30-some-odd years since I first moved to New England to visit. Mom's getting older, other relatives getting older (the "baby" is 80), even my old high school classmates are getting older. (How did THAT ever happen?!?) If only she'd get e-mail . . . And Sinsull, wahdyamean Tom's too good natured to be the resident curmudgeon?!? You only see him when he's being good! ;-) Linn |