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13 Nov 04 - 05:09 PM (#1325954) Subject: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Hardiman the Fiddler I just received word this evening from a close friend of hers that Mary Giacomini departed this life on November 11th, 2004 at 9:55 PM. May she rest in peace. Greg |
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13 Nov 04 - 05:39 PM (#1325987) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: open mike oh this must be our dear Giac who we knew was lingering in this world and ready for the next.. blessings to those near and dear to her in their loss.. perhaps she and walking eaagle have found the great chat room in the sky together. http://www.mudcat.org/thread.cfm?threadid=73956#1311181 does any one have any more details? |
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13 Nov 04 - 05:43 PM (#1325994) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Catherine Jayne May she find rest as embarks on her next journey. |
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13 Nov 04 - 05:48 PM (#1325997) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: open mike more about her and her struggles and her joy here-- a search for her nick name brings up 427 posts here. among them is this: http://www.mudcat.org/thread.cfm?threadid=56381#1173925 and this post just breaks my heart: Subject: RE: Giac Hospitalized From: Rick Fielding - PM Date: 03 Feb 03 - 10:30 AM Wow, so sorry to hear about this. Heather and I will keep you in our thoughts. Rick |
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13 Nov 04 - 05:49 PM (#1325998) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: John MacKenzie Requiscat im Pace sorella Giok |
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13 Nov 04 - 06:14 PM (#1326019) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: SINSULL I am glad her suffering is over. Maybe she is singing in peace now. |
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13 Nov 04 - 06:26 PM (#1326027) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Tinker May her road be smooth and the harmonies sweet as she joins the gathering once more.... Blessings tinker |
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13 Nov 04 - 07:07 PM (#1326061) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: vectis A sad end to her long fight. |
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13 Nov 04 - 07:21 PM (#1326074) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Micca Indeed, a source of inspiration and dry (and sometimes risque) Humour, Will be much missed by Micca |
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13 Nov 04 - 07:28 PM (#1326080) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: katlaughing I am glad that her pain has ended, but very sad she is not among us anymore. I'd just talked with her a couple of weeks ago and posted the little story she told me. Today, I'd sent her an early Christmas present with a video of my grandson, who loved his "Grandma Mary" who taught THIS grandma just where his potato hole was (nape of the neck) and exactly how to give him a great big smooch from her right there! I also know she was pleased to have good friends with a small child who took her beloved Emily, her little dog, to live with them. She missed her, but was so happy they were a good "fit." Oh, dammit...I hate this. love you, Mary/Merkle...thanks so much for being here...your song seems even more appropriate now...mostly the Chorus part: Jesus In The Clouds By Giac She saw Jesus in some clouds in Oklahoma, And Elvis crossing Texas on a train. She sees her Mama's face in every flower. She keeps her fingers crossed and prays for rain. Chorus The voices, she says, are all around us, It won't be long til Mama calls us home. Daddy, he won't care if you come with me, But I'll ask him, if you want, next time he phones. She picks up strays like goats and dogs and kittens, Who go with her across the country wide, In a wagon pulled by two old bay mares, But they always make it home by wintertime. When she was young, she heard of Ferlinghetti, With his junked out men and naked horseback queens. She saw him and Rexroth in some cellar, And it led her stifled mind to Manisfree. Chorus She has a cabin down along the river, And says a spaceship landed in her yard. Aliens talk to her in the popcorn, They tell her why her years go by so hard. She has her pride and won't accept a favor, Or she lives on welfare, barely getting by, But she's got a thousand stashed out in the henhouse, To bury her real nice … when she dies. Chorus (guitar through verse and chorus, then…) She saw Jesus in some clouds in Oklahoma (guitar) She sees her Mama's face in every flower … (fade) May your peace be abundant and full of sweet dreams, Marydarlin'... luvyakat |
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13 Nov 04 - 07:37 PM (#1326086) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Joe Offer Thanks for the time you spent with us, Mary. It was a pleasure to know you. -Joe Offer- |
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13 Nov 04 - 07:37 PM (#1326087) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Liz the Squeak Very sad to hear this. I hope she got as much joy from us as we did from her. LTS |
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13 Nov 04 - 07:55 PM (#1326095) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Rapparee Aw, shit. The section on those who've gone is badly in need of updating. Again. |
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13 Nov 04 - 08:13 PM (#1326104) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Leadfingers Mary was my secret santa Last year - lovely note from her with a very interesting box of goodies !! Another good one gone !! |
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13 Nov 04 - 08:45 PM (#1326120) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: catspaw49 I am so sad tonite.........I am thankful that Mary, like Julie, is out of the pain they each endured for so long but I am selfish enough to be very saddened to no longer have so many fine folks among us. Giac was so special. I looked forward to reading any post she contributed. Seeing her name in a thread list guaranteed I would read the thread and her post of course was most often spot on with just the right amount of humor or seriousness as required. A wise woman and a gentle and kind human(e) being. I have already missed her hilarious and often dirty jokes in my e-mail and her PM's were as special as everything else. Christ I hate this place........... I used to have a circle of friends and acquaintances of average or smaller size and then I came to Mudcat. Somehow this place brought so many together and many of us grew here together, getting to know each other in ways we never thought possible before. We became close in different ways but close we were....and many still are of course. But with that came the inevitable and it comes far too often to people far too good. Murray and Winters Wages and Brother Mole, the inimitable Little John Cameron, Julie who was far from being a walking eagle as her spirit always soared, and now Giac.............and of course Rick. Yeah.....I hate this place tonite........ We shall all miss you Mary....Your wit and wisdom and your oft bawdy jokes enrichened our lives and we were all blessed and bettered for knowing you in this little village. Thank you Dear Heart for brightening so many days for me and I hope I was able to give back some of those good feelings to you. May we meet wherever the journey leads. Spaw |
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13 Nov 04 - 08:56 PM (#1326125) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: katlaughing {{{{{{SPAW}}}}} been thinking of you a lot, tonight. luvya |
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13 Nov 04 - 08:59 PM (#1326126) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Amos The price of love always gets paid, Pat. And...no matter...it is still and always a bargain. Amos |
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13 Nov 04 - 09:30 PM (#1326139) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Alba Oh no I really didn't want to see this. Mary, may your journey be smooth and may You travel in the Light. I can't handle writing this really. It is so sad. Love to All Jude |
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13 Nov 04 - 09:42 PM (#1326144) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Sorcha Oh Mary Mary....we are losing too damn many lately. Have a good walk, Mary. |
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13 Nov 04 - 09:46 PM (#1326148) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Ebbie Fare thee well, Giac of the tender voice. See you down the road. |
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14 Nov 04 - 12:09 AM (#1326206) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: karen k Mary, My heart is saddened but I know that now you are at peace and that makes me smile. karen |
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14 Nov 04 - 02:22 AM (#1326235) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: KT Mary.....love....and peace...... |
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14 Nov 04 - 02:32 AM (#1326236) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: open mike somebody check that damn hen house... maybe she was saving up to go out in style! (cryptic message?) "She has her pride and won't accept a favor, Or she lives on welfare, barely getting by, But she's got a thousand stashed out in the henhouse, To bury her real nice … when she dies." |
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14 Nov 04 - 03:21 AM (#1326245) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Morticia She was my friend, I loved her and the world is just that bit colder and lonelier for her moving on, but she will be with Misty and waiting for Em and I am so glad she's not in pain anymore.I will miss her a lot. |
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14 Nov 04 - 05:24 AM (#1326267) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: alanabit I wish I could say something less obvious, but I'll just say that I go along with everything that has already been written here. That's one of the most moving posts I've ever read from Spaw. Bye Bye Mary. |
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14 Nov 04 - 06:10 AM (#1326282) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: katlaughing Here's one of my favourites pix of her which she sent out this past year: click here. luvyamarydarlin'....kat |
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14 Nov 04 - 06:18 AM (#1326285) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: katlaughing Just a couple of weeks ago when I spoke to my dad, I told him Mary always asked about how he was doing. This last time, she said to please tell him she listened to his tape of old cow songs a lot; that she could just put it on and it would take her to another place. I told my dad this and that she was losing out to cancer. It sure brought a tear to his eye, to know that he'd helped out someone with his music in that way, esp. when he's on the downhill side, too. Anyway, here's something about all of that which Mary sent me. I am sure she wouldn't mind my sharing it: "It had been awhile since I listened to Sparky's tape, so I popped it in this morning. Gosh, I do so love that tape! "It's almost like being in the room with him. "Anyone who's not had the pure delight of hearing an older ballad singer has missed out on a lot. I was fortunate, as a child, to be around quite a few older fellas who sang and played music. My favorite, and one of the reasons I wanted to play guitar, was my aunt's husband. He was 6'6" and legally blind. He was, of all unlikely things, a bookkeeper for a coal mine. He had no vision in one eye and only 10% vision in the other. He had to hold his columns of figures within a few inches of his "good" eye. "My aunt thought guitar music was too "country" and she wouldn't allow it in the house. He'd played since he was a child and I'm sure it was hard for him to give it up, but she was in charge. When I was very small, probably around three, I was staying at their house and he said he wanted to show me something in the attic. I was afraid of the steep, dark stairs, but climbed up after him. My aunt had walked to town and he knew she'd be gone quite awhile. He went behind some "stuff" piled on the floorless rafters under the eaves and brought out a box. When he opened the lid, there was a "Gene Autry" guitar from a mail order company, quite a cheap model, I later realized, and he'd probably had to stash change for some time to order that guitar. He'd had it sent to the coal mine and smuggled it into the house. "He took it out of the box and tuned it, then played a Carter family rendition of "Pal of Mine." I thought I might burst open. It became a weekly event, if I was at their home on weekends, that when my aunt walked to town, he and I would go up to the attic and he'd play and sing. So, Sparky's tape brings back those memories and I do so enjoy the "visit" with him" |
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14 Nov 04 - 06:25 AM (#1326287) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: katlaughing About her song: "Jesus In The Clouds is not a religious song, but in a way, it's spiritual. It's about, um, eccentric women who live alone, just a bit off to the side of the road. All the women described are, or were, real. I know them all and I'm in there, too. When it gets really cold, I always hope they have a warm place to stay. The words fell out in rapid order on just such a cold night a few years ago." |
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14 Nov 04 - 06:30 AM (#1326288) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Oh, Kat, thanks for that story~ tears... Mary, walk in the Light. There sure has got to be amazing music going on over there- add your voice to the chorus of heavenly singers. Blessings- Allison |
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14 Nov 04 - 07:10 AM (#1326305) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Sandra in Sydney Mary was my secret santa 2 years ago & that's when I first got to know her thru her hints. My wonderful presents didn't arrive until early February & by the she had been diagnosed with cancer. We corresponded & she sent emails & lots of pictures, most of them lost in the crash a few months ago, including that pic if her wearing her Mexican hat. I sent most of her flower pics to work where they are screensavers - some are even on colleagues' machines! - & I think of her everyday when I see these beautiful pics. I'll miss her - but at leasrt she's not in pain anymore, and Emmy has a good home. sandra |
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14 Nov 04 - 01:22 PM (#1326535) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Justa Picker I am very very sorry to learn of this. My condolences to her friends and family. I am glad she is at peace. |
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14 Nov 04 - 03:26 PM (#1326637) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: RolyH Very sad news. Condolences to all. |
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14 Nov 04 - 06:29 PM (#1326760) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Big Mick Won't be hard finding this wonderful woman's voice in those left behind. God be good to her. Mick |
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15 Nov 04 - 03:45 AM (#1327054) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Partridge Sorry to hear this news, but glad that she has no more pain. love Pat x |
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15 Nov 04 - 09:48 AM (#1327306) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: dwditty God bless you Mary. No one could convey such warmth with just a few words in PM or email like Mary. See you in the sweet bye and bye. dw |
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15 Nov 04 - 12:41 PM (#1327458) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: SINSULL From GIAC: "Got an email hint today from a friend that I've used before and it worked, but I had forgotten about it. Put water in a white plate, add a couple of drops of Lemon Fresh Joy (gag at the name, but the scent is an attractor). Mosquitoes, and some other flying biters, are attracted by both the yellow color and the scent. They drink the mixture and then drop dead, usually within about 15-feet of the plate. Also works fairly effectively with fleas. Just thought I'd pass that on as it does seem to work." She was practical as well as insightful. Just went through all my PMs to see my first from Mary, Kendall, Catspaw, AllanC, Max, Pene Azul, Naemanson and some friends long gone - gnu, Spider Tom, Brendy. Thanks for reminding me Mary |
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15 Nov 04 - 05:35 PM (#1327773) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: wysiwyg Aw crap..... And, I just drove by her area yesterday.... she had said not to plan on stopping to see her but I wish I had known about this, I'd have stopped anyway to have a hug with all her friends there. I'm so glad I had a chance to say goodbye before I got this road trip underway. Mary, kick some ass up there, and I'll post that drop-dead gorgeous pic you sent me, when I get home. ~Susan |
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15 Nov 04 - 10:21 PM (#1328088) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Rustic Rebel My heart goes out to all who knew and loved Mary. Unfortunatly I never had the honor. Happy trails Mary. Rustic |
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16 Nov 04 - 10:25 AM (#1328578) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Bat Goddess Merde! I hadn't seen this thread until just now. Earlier this morning I addressed her Christmas card . . . Merde, merde, merde! At least her pain is over . . . and I'm in tears over the loss of someone I never met except here at Mudcat. Barely knew her, and I'm the poorer for that. We PMed about bats and jobs and Divine's obit in Spanish . . . I hope she got the last card and letter I sent a few weeks ago . . . and the iridescent wild turkey feather I added at the last moment. I guess winter is here. Linn |
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16 Nov 04 - 10:28 AM (#1328583) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Fibula Mattock Really sorry to hear this. |
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17 Nov 04 - 01:45 AM (#1329542) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: Mudlark Oh Mary...we are all poorer for your leaving. Amos said it well...the price of loving must be paid, but it's a bargain at any price. Mary loved very well. Much as I will miss her, I'm very glad I knew her, and I'm glad to know Emmy found a good home. |
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02 Dec 04 - 01:17 AM (#1345136) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: GUEST,Mary's friend Laura Thanks to all of you for your wonderful words. I was with Mary when she left this world for a better place her passing was very quiet and peaceful. She simply stopped breathing here and took the next breath somewhere else. I have heard so much about all of you, I feel I know each of you. Msry dearly loved her mudcat family and those of us who will miss her will also miss the stories she told about her mudcat friends. Mary and I were friends for over 25 years and lots of folks thought we were sisters. I will surely miss her. |
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02 Dec 04 - 02:46 AM (#1345181) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini From: GUEST,sandra in sydney@work Laura thanks for thinking of us. It's good to know her ending here was peaceful, so why am I crying? sandra |
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02 Dec 04 - 03:32 AM (#1345200) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini (Nov 11, 2004) From: katlaughing Thanks so much Laura for letting us know. My dad, Sparky, whose tape of old cow songs Mary listened to, has joined her and many others, on the 29th. Last time I spoke with her, she said she could put on his tape and it would just take her away to someplace else. My dad was still coherent enough back then, that when I told him what she'd said and that his music was helping her through this last struggle, it made him cry. I hope the two of them have met up somewhere and are singing with the rest of them. If you happen to come back to us and have a way of posting her obituary, if there was one, we'd really appreciate that, too. Or, if there is one which we may access online. She was just so special to so many of us. I'd mailed off one last package to her the day we found out about her passing. I am sorry it didn't get sent to her in time. Thanks again and may this virtual hug help you in your sorrow {{{{{Laura}}}}} kat aka Kat LaFrance, Sparky's Daughter:-) |
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02 Dec 04 - 09:24 PM (#1345916) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini (Nov 11, 2004) From: GUEST,Laura Per Mary's wishes she as cremated and her ashes placed with her beloved Misty. There was no formal announcement or service or obit. In lieu of flowers some of her friends here are making donations to defray creamtion cost since she had no insurance or family. Memorial Funeral Home in Maryville Tennessee was in charge of the arrangements. It is so nice to communicate with those of you who loved Mary as much as I did. I am so lost now that she is gone. I have spent the last few years taking her to appointments and just visiting with her that I feel I have nothing to do even though I have a husband and a grandson at home and a job. I am sure time will help. Thanks again for all the good words and yes the hug did help. |
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02 Dec 04 - 10:21 PM (#1345941) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini (Nov 11, 2004) From: Ebbie And here's a hug from me too, Laura. (And thank you for letting us see and feel your loving spirit) {{{{{{ HUG }}}}}} Ebbie |
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02 Dec 04 - 10:53 PM (#1345949) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini (Nov 11, 2004) From: wysiwyg Laura, Mary spoke of you often and sent me a picture once that I believe is you, taking her somewhere. I know for a certainty that yours is the kind of heart we Mudcatters can't get enough of-- I recognize in you, one of us. Please know that you have a place here among us. Please consider us, if you want us, part of your extended family, too, as Mary did. That was you who called my husband with the news, wasn't it? We thank you so much for your kindness in doing that, especially when your own burden must already have been heavy. Your description of Mary's passing is, I think, the prettiest thing I have ever heard about her, and you know Mary's gift with words-- your description surpasses even her turn of a phrase. I had been wondering how her going was. I'm so grateful you came to tell us, and that you told us so clearly. I'm so grateful, as one who was never there for Mary as much as I wanted to be, that not only was she not alone at the last, but that it was YOU who was there. I'm glad for her, and glad for us all. She always did choose well, didn't she? I don't know if the site's managers know of your role in Mary's life, but it might be a good thing for someone to go through her stored messages here sometime. If you want to do that, or if you want some help on that, please, let us know and I think it can be arranged. I'd also be very interested in posting some of Mary's writings, if any of her stories and essays are accessible. She had so much to share-- if it would be the right thing to do, there are many of us who would love to hear more of her thoughts and impressions on life. But anyway-- thank you again, and again and again, from the bottom of my heart. And-- you have my phone number. Call us, anytime. ~Susan |
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02 Dec 04 - 11:50 PM (#1345971) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini (Nov 11, 2004) From: catspaw49 Laura, I too have to say what a beautiful turn of phrase you used in describing Mary's passing.........."She stopped breathing here and took the next breath somewhere else." That's very powerful and the kind of strong image that makes death easier to see. We all loved Mary and it comes as no surprise that her friends there were such wonderful folks as well. We were blessed with her presence here and want you to feel free to come here anytime as well. We talk folk music but we just plain talk a lot as well about anything and everything. Come here anytime....you are mightily welcome to pull up a keyboard and sit a spell with us. And whenever I take that next breath somewhere else, I hope I run into Mary right away ...... and we can share the latest raunchy jokes. Spaw |
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26 Dec 04 - 10:47 PM (#1364786) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini (Nov 11, 2004) From: GUEST,Laura (Mary's friend) It has certainly been a lonely Christmas without Mary she always made the days seem more cheerful. Even when I was trying to forget that December is the month that my Dad died (2) and that my Mom (16) and Dad (24) were born and the month they were married (18). In going thru Mary's things I discovered several Mudcat cds and several tape she had made and some that had been sent to her by the members of mudcat. They have been of some comfort knowing how she loved music. I hope that all of you have had a great holiday season. |
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26 Dec 04 - 10:55 PM (#1364788) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini (Nov 11, 2004) From: wysiwyg Laura, if you read our comments above your newest post, you know how much we love having you with us. I've been thinking about Mary a lot, and I miss her terribly.... She was the Real Deal, eh? ~Susan |
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27 Dec 04 - 05:22 AM (#1364908) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini (Nov 11, 2004) From: Alba Laura, Thank you for sharing with us. I send you my Love and {{{{{hugs}}}}}}. Mary is a Special Woman and will always be in our Hearts. Special People have Special Friends....Mary obviously has that in You, a dear Sister. Stay in touch with us if you can. Blessings to You and Yours Jude |
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27 Dec 04 - 01:48 PM (#1365212) Subject: RE: Obit: Mary Giacomini (Nov 11, 2004) From: Stilly River Sage Laura, An acquaintance of mine, who lives in Montana now, is trying to track down information about an acquaintance of hers. Something she said made me wonder if her friend might have been our Giac. Did Mary participate in other discussion lists, in particular, American literature discussions? SRS |