Omigosh, Alice!!!
I've been a vintage ballroom dancer for years. I regularly go to Victorian, Guilded Age and Ragtime formal events. In fact, the picture of me in the Mudcat is from a Ragtime ball we had in New York City at a grand, lavish, turn-of-the-century restaurant, complete with vaulted ceilings and bronze statues, where we all dressed, dined and danced as if we were Vanderbilts in 1910. Even the musicians were in period dress.
Where do you go to events?