Kat, Your explanation of the situation was very moving. It's funny how adults start to act like children when relationships break down.

There seems to be a set trend over here, get out, get a solicitor, get all you can and get even.

Kids are a lot more observant than most parents give them credit for. It is important to protect them from the poison these situations create.

Sadly a lot of fathers I know seem to think when they leave the marraiage the children become the property of the mother and it's up to the state to raise them. Another thing is the attempt to recapture their youth, new girlfriend taken n holiday, spending like hell to impress her and the responsibilities of fatherhood never gets a second thought.

Well in later years when he is sitting in a one room apartment and the kids don't want to know him will be his time for reflection.

Thoughts are with you all at this time.

Be strong.