thanks kendall,
not sure about abused but there has to be have been something to make them even think of it in the first place, let alone try it.
the problem is we are all individuals, what works for one child doesn't for the next one.
how many prgrammes have we watched where the parents say they were all treated the same, but this one turned out different? whether for medical or psycological reasons.
personally i am in the middle or nature verses nuture.
i think we are predisposed to some thing, if the enviroment is right then those tendancies can be given free rein. some struggle all their lives to curb them, because they have been given the tools to do so, others who haven't been so fortunate are likely to get themselves into trouble.

AAAHHHRRRRR brain ache!
there is no quick solution, no one size fits all. the one thing i think we can agree on, is that children must be made to face the consequences of their actions, in what form that takes, i don't know.

take care all
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