Ed

To repeat, with one amendment for clarity

"Just because the other chooses to see their opinions as so them that to attack one is to criticise the other, it doesn't follow that if I criticise their view, that I AM criticising them."

Put that another way, if a person chooses to take a disagreement personally, it doesn't follow that that was the intention of the other. Those who take things personally might like to take that thought on board and consider it.


Jack

Wow, pretty fierce response to a mere allusion to projection.

I'm a Gestalt therapist [rtd.] I have seen projection and its denial at work experientially. In my training as a therapist, we were obliged to know about projection, to see how each of us did it unknowingly. We weren't, of course, very willing to accept what we were doing any such thing[despite having CHOSEN to do the course, something most people don't choose]. Any more than we were willing vis-a-vis other forms of manipulation of the self. We were also highly indignant about any such suggestions.

Thus, incidentally, we didn't merely learn about it theoretically or observe it in others; we had to look at ourselves. The rest of the group as well as the trainers ensured we couldn't bypass such matters.

Perhaps you can specify anything of your expertise [certificates, testimonials not required :-)] in saying what you did rather vaguely and intemperately.