As a side issue, one of the prerequisites for playing music is that when you hear a recording of yourself (a decent recording, of course) it offers you no surprises. In order to play music you have to be able to hear yourself accurately in real time. Hear your intonation, your timing, your tone etc. You have to be able to hear if you're being boring, hear if you are the volume you want to be in the mix, hear if you are not putting someone off etc.

If you only discover these things after hearing a recording, you are not listening attentively enough to your self