Steve Shaw:

You are describing one type of life as though it is the only type of life. As an example of another type of life check out the phenomenon of "honor killings". Those are up close and personal. Likewise the disfigurement of would-be wives or girlfriends by spurned lovers using acid. In the West we frequently practise male genital mutilation. In other parts of the world they also practise female genital mutilation.
These practices are acceptable for some. They are familiar to many more.

I think we can understand them quite easily. Different traditions/ educations lead to different outcomes.

It is easy to foment hatred. A woman from Alaska was killed in South America many years ago based on a false rumor circulated among a crowd. The whole thing happened too quickly and with NO intrnet required. We live in an age which is dealing with the internet being used as a tool not only of information sharing, but misinformation sharing.

We need to build tools of de-escalation. One of my favorites is from South Pacific

You've got to be taught
To hate and fear,
You've got to be taught
From year to year,
It's got to be drummed
In your dear little ear
You've got to be carefully taught.
You've got to be taught to be afraid
Of people whose eyes are oddly made,
And people whose skin is a diff'rent shade,
You've got to be carefully taught.
You've got to be taught before it's too late,
Before you are six or seven or eight,
To hate all the people your relatives hate,
You've got to be carefully taught!