We never got into large scale observances. Quite a few times, we booked various bed and breakfasts within a reasonable drive, often with a hot tub in the room, and we were lucky enough to have really enjoyable experiences each time. But our ninth anniversary still stands out. We went to St. Martin, which was out first comparable pleasure trip, and on our anniversary evening we had an excellent meal and then wound up alone on Orient Beach skinny dipping under a full moon.

On our 34th anniversary, I sat with the pastor at church planning her memorial service.