Sorry I have not been able to reply to your questions, I did not think it wise to access at home. I have two children 9 and 14. The others have left home. He is a very good dad, and his main problem is that he wants to be in control of all I do. He cannot understand why I go to festivals. Why I want to listen to folk music. He is not a "bad person" I think he would have liked to have kept me barefoot and pregnant. I have never changed - he knew what he was getting when we were married. I had no idea how possesive he was. Or perhaps I have changed - I can't put up with it anymore. Many thanks for your offers of support. I will see what the counselling does first. Please do not take my absense as anything other that it is - I do not have unlimited access to the internet and have to make the most of it when I can.
Mils