I think a lot of the problem is that once the older male (I'm assuming they are male, because you mention "old boys" network) folkies reach a certain point, doing the grunt work of organizing and advertising gigs is perceived as grunt work that they are somehow above.

Same sort of dynamic you see in offices where old boys don't type or "waste their time" doing work the grunt force can do for them.

Of course, all the savvy young boys can type and organize circles around the old boys. But then, when they grow into a place where others begin to do for them just what you were asking for, they become the same as the old bossman "old boy" folkies.

Which is why fewer and fewer women folkies are putting up with any of you!