BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Amos
Date: 31 Jul 05 - 12:20 PM

carried off to a jungle-bower motel room (I know of one!)

Dare we ask how Madame happens to have obtained this knowledge?


A

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: wysiwyg
Date: 31 Jul 05 - 12:48 PM

Honeymoon, except ours was desert island, not jungle. (There were choices of decor.)

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: SINSULL
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 11:34 AM

The police met a mutual friend at Thomas' apartment but refused to break in - lawsuits. Ranji asked if they plan to wait until he smells bad and the neighbors complain. Sheer idiocy. So he hasn't been seen or heard from since Wednesday.
So far a check of local hospitals has turned up nothing.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: suzi
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 11:41 AM

I will keep praying for him sins...

suzi

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: gnu
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 11:49 AM

Continued thoughts and prayers, SINS.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: JennyO
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 11:49 AM

Oh dear - this is going on way too long! This must be very worrying for you - especially now that your big weekend is over and you have more time to think about it.

Somehow though, I still feel that it will all turn out okay. I just hope for your sake that you hear something soon. Meanwhile, I'll keep the positive thoughts and energy coming your way - and send you a hug to go on with.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{SINSULL}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Jenny

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Dave'sWife
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 12:03 PM

OK. I am now very worried.

SINSULL - I still have a few relatives on the NYPD and I'm not afraid to call them. One Cousin is a Detective in brooklyn (no big help, but he can pehaps explain what buzzwords need to be spoken.)

From memory, I'd suggest that a NYC resident who has not seen him in at least 48 hours, go to the Precint that governs the missing guy's area and demand to file a missing person's report. Technically, the person filing has to be the one who hasn't seen or heard from the person and who has reason to suspect something is not right. This person can state that although the fellow had plans to board a bus - no evidence exists to suggest he ever made it out of NYC. If evidence does exist he got on the bus - then it's not NYPD's problem anymore and you have to then contact BCI Office with the State Troopers.

Sinsull - if you want.. I can have my Dad call you - he's a former NYS Trooper and has pals on other State Police Forces where any bus from NYC to your house would have to go through. Maybe he can help.

It would help if you knew somebody who knew your friends Social Security Number since that could help detectives track his bank records and see if anybody has made any ATM withdrawals on his account.

Also, if this fellow has ANY health concerns that might possibly cause him to fall ill in his APT.. say so. It takes very little to get a Landlord or super to let somebody in, but before it can be done, a Missing Persons Report must be filed.

Also.. My Dad is a HAM radio operator and if he has the dude's address, he can send out a Helath & Wlefare Check to NYC HAM oprators and somebody will go and knock on his doorand ring his Phone. ANY HAM Operator can do this for you.

Please advise

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Sorcha
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 12:06 PM

I'm surprised that either the lawyer or best friend doesn't have a key.....

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: SINSULL
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 12:25 PM

Just spoke with the editor of a local paper who contacted ABC News. Maybe they can get something in motion. The lawyer is not Thomas' lawyer but a friend. It is not unusal for city dwellers not to leave a key with a neighbor. Our co-op had to break down doors several times to check on elderly tenants with no relatives. No one has a key but Thomas and the building manager. The police wouldn't accept a Missing Person Report from me - out of state.
I have contacted a relative in the NYPD and another on the State Police force.
I hope he has not been lying on his apartment floor since Wednesday. DAMN!

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Donuel
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 12:29 PM

Anyone would be proud to call you a friend.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: MaineDog
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 12:32 PM

If you can find someone with a trained search and rescue dog, they may be able to tell you whether there is a live or dead person in an apartment without entering.

MD

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: bbc
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 12:50 PM

This is *very* upsetting. I hope you have news soon. You're being a good friend.

love,

Barbara

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 02:01 PM

Dear Mary, I'm holding you and your friend in my heart all the way from London, and I pray for a good outcome.
Big HUGS for you!
Love,
Allison

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: KT
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 02:01 PM

Sins, if you don't get an assist from your latest steps, call the manager again...and again ...and again requesting that he/she go in with someone. Some things are worth the risk.   That said, could there be some misunderstanding about your friend's committment to showing up? Hoping for the best here. KT

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: catspaw49
Date: 01 Aug 05 - 05:11 PM

Hang in there.......I have no ideas but just keep beating on the people you can.

Pat

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: SINSULL
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 04:50 PM

I just received a call from South Carolina. Thomas died of a massive heart attack. He had two suit cases with him. i will have more details later.
SINS

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Tinker
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 04:57 PM

Mary, I so wish we were still there. There's so much going on and I'm holding you close as can be. Give those kitties some serious boobie hugs and let the tears flow. Perhaps sleep will come now. I find myself relieved that he hadn't gone back on drugs and just lost track of things, but I do wish you had a chance to say good bye. I do think that was his plan.

Love and Hugs

Tinker

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Donuel
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 04:59 PM

I am so sorry Sinsull.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: maeve
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 05:01 PM

I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope you get the answers you need soon. Thomas was so fortunate to have you for a friend. Best wishes from Maine.
Respectfully,

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: rumanci
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 05:04 PM

SINSULL
I am so sorry to hear of this great sadness for you. Thankyou for the caring and sharing. May you take the greatest of strengths from us all hoping and praying. We are still here for you now.
My love
rum x

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Amos
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 05:05 PM

Aw, hell, Sins, I am so sorry to hear this, and I can only send you my best and hope you find your way through this rough time in good order...What a damned shame.


A

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: katlaughing
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 05:11 PM

Oh, Mary...wish I was there to give you a REAL HUG. At least you know, now, but oh I was hopeful of a better outcome. Give me a call if you'd like...you know I'll listen.

Peace be unto you, Thomas, you were loved by a True Friend.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Sorcha
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 05:13 PM

Oh, Mary....so sorry to hear this. But, at least now you know and he isn't 'lost' anymore.....

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: gnu
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 05:16 PM

Oh my. My thoughts and prayers are with you Mary.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Peace
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 05:17 PM

Sorry, Mary.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Emma B
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 05:24 PM

I'm sorry for your loss Sinsull

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Ebbie
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 05:26 PM

I am so sorry. {{{{{{{Mary}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: open mike
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 05:38 PM

it was good of you to be persistant here.
sorry about the out come. are you in touch
with his family? has there been an autopsy?

what a nightmare....

hugs to you, and thanks for being a good friend.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Dave'sWife
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 06:24 PM

oh bummer.

Sinsull, I am so sorry. A very dear friend of mine died from a massive heart attack very suddenly when he was all alone and I didn't find out about it for wo weeks. luckily, he was a Brother in a religious community and was found in the AM by his colleagues. The only cosolation might be that due to the nature of his death, he very likely didn't suffer.

I am so sorry for your loss and that he's gone. Sometimes when we pray for somebody to be found , we don't realize the anser to our prayer might be that they are indeed found, but not alive.

Still, he can now be cared for and put to rest.

I must say, a person would be blessed to have a friend such as yourself.

I'll keep him and you in my prayers still.

Godspeed, Thomas.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Little Hawk
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 06:34 PM

One thing that occurs to me is that any one of us could suddenly "leave"...in a variety of possible ways...and people who knew us would be wondering why they couldn't reach us. It's a wrenching shock when one finds out that a friend has died suddenly. I hope you are managing okay, Mary.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 06:38 PM

Oh, Mary.

I don't know. I think not knowing is still harder than knowing even when the result is what it is.

His last thoughts were probably happy thoughts of visiting you in Maine -- and I so wish he had been able to so we could have met him.

Wishing you comfort, peace and some sleep.

Much love,
Linn

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: jacqui.c
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 06:41 PM

I've just a call from Mary and we've talked about Thomas. She's OK and thinks that she will be able to sleep tonight.

We're only about ten minutes away from her and she knows that we are here anytime that she needs us.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Ebbie
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 06:44 PM

Thanks be to all that's good for friends.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Amos
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 06:56 PM

Thanks, Jacqui!


A

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: SINSULL
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 08:26 PM

Thomas died suddenly and very quickly. He was on his way to the bus station to visit me in Maine and I know he was happy and excited about the lobster boil. The doctors were unable to revive him. His organs have gone to those who need them.
It looks as if I will be arranging his burial and may have a service for him in NYC. The best send off would be a church full of people singing. My family has promised to attend. I hope some of you can join us.
Thomas was a simple man with a good heart. I am proud to say he was my friend. Rest in peace.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Tinker
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 08:35 PM

Let me know when Mary. You know you have a bed here if you would like to rest your head on this side of the river.

Kathy

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: GUEST,Jon
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 08:37 PM

I'm sorry Sinsull

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: karen k
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 09:09 PM

Mary,
My thoughts are with you. I am so sorry for your loss. Tell us something about Thomas when you can.

love,
karen

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: wysiwyg
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 09:18 PM

He was lucky to have such a faithful friend that an international community heard her scream "WHERE IS HE?".

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Tinker
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 10:08 PM

I found myself playing and replaying this Grit Laskin song tonight. I think I was singing for you....

Won't Somebody Sing me a Lullabye
Grit Laskin

Chorus:
Won't Somebody sing me a lullabye
Good night Good Night
So much more than in childhood I need my dreams to be --tranquil and sweet

I'm weary now, burning out, shoulders tense and knotted
There's more to do with each new day ,and each day less gets done.

Just shadows of my carefree days, of innocent abandon
If wish I may, wish I might relive them for awhile

In soft embrace of flannel sheets, that beckon me with promise
Of seemless and untroubled sleep, suceed you well this time.

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Bobert
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 10:39 PM

Sniff...

Prayers and hugs....

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: KT
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 10:46 PM

Oh, Mary...I'm so sorry. What a shock for you. I'm sure you have so many things buzzing through your head right now. Perhaps you can find some solace in this thought. Thomas may have been missing, but he wasn't alone. You kept vigil for him and invited your friends here to join you in doing so. The power of love and friendship knows no borders and no time. He wasn't alone. But I think you already know that. Take good care, Mary, as you go through these next few days. May Thomas rest in sweet peace. KT

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Deckman
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 10:47 PM

SHIT!!!!

Mina Rakkastaan Sinua!

Do what you need to do.

Bob and Judy

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Dani
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 11:18 PM

Good Mary, you have so much love. Thomas knew that, I'm sure, and it certainly helped. He wasn't afraid, as I think people here picked up. He would have liked to say goodbye, I think, but sometimes it's just as well not.

Thinking of you, and all that must be in your heavy heart. I'm here when you want to talk.

Dani

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Metchosin
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 11:46 PM

Sinsull, since you first posted I was hoping for some good news for you. My condolences that it turned out as it did and my sympathies to his other friends and family as well. Take care.

Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: bbc
Date: 02 Aug 05 - 11:49 PM

Oh, no, Mary! Your instincts were right. I am so sorry.

Thinking of you with love,

Barbara

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: catspaw49
Date: 03 Aug 05 - 12:56 AM

Did he have time to get the tatoo finished?

Okay, it was crude and crass but so am I and I had to say something to lighten the mood a bit. Thomas sounded like a person I would have enjoyed and he obviously had passion for life. I'm sure he is already missed and will be for many a day. I used to believe that time would heal some things like this but nothing really seems to do it as time makes no difference and the pain doesn't care. All we can do is to fill to overflowing the hole left open in our heart with the memories of great times now past. Maybe that is all our hearts are made up of........wonderful memories of precious friends

Anyway, if he didn't get the tatoo finished you might ask for a refund.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: Highlandman
Date: 03 Aug 05 - 10:50 AM

Sins, I don't know you or your history with Thomas, but I'm moved that you cared so much about him. All will be well. The fact that these sort of griefs are never really cured is not a bad thing. Pain you carry in your heart because you did the right thing and cared for a person despite the risk is what makes you who you are in the long run.
Blessings
-HM

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: JennyO
Date: 03 Aug 05 - 10:52 AM

I haven't been able to get to my computer for a couple of days, but this was the first thread I checked. I was really hoping for some good news.

I'm so sad for you that this has happened. You know you are surrounded by a big worldwide hug, and that may help just a tiny bit. I will keep you in my thoughts.

Jenny

Subject: RE: BS: Strange Prayer Request from SINSULL
From: CarolC
Date: 03 Aug 05 - 11:07 AM

So sorry to hear this, Sinsull. My deepest condolences on the loss of your good friend.