For my mother

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: Naemanson
Date: 25 Nov 00 - 11:12 AM

I'm so sorry to hear of your news. Please accept my sincere sympathy and wishes for strength.

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: GUEST,Sheila
Date: 25 Nov 00 - 12:30 PM

Dear Carol,Some words that were a comfort to me: Mourn not too long that she is gone but rejoice forever that she was." With sympathy, Sheila

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: BigDaddy
Date: 25 Nov 00 - 01:05 PM

Warmest regards and sympathy from one who has been there. My mom departed on Thanksgiving Day, 1995.

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: Robo
Date: 25 Nov 00 - 02:21 PM

Been there, Carol, and know what you must be going through. Both my folks are gone -- and yet, they aren't, not at all. All our best to you and yours.

--Rob-o

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: RocketMan
Date: 25 Nov 00 - 04:18 PM

Carol, My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Your second note brought back memories as my father passed away suddenly 6 years ago just after Christmas. I was lucky to be home visiting and had a nice time together. We were in the area when he suffered a heart attack. He was gone by the time we got there. He didn't suffer long and we had no unfinished business between us.

RMan

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: KT
Date: 25 Nov 00 - 06:32 PM

CarolC, I am so, so sorry. May there be some measure of comfort for you in knowing that so many of us here, are carrying you in our hearts.....Sending much love to you over the miles.....KT

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: Cobble
Date: 25 Nov 00 - 06:48 PM

'For now there is another star in the heavens'. our thoughts are with you. Brian +margaret.

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: Catrin
Date: 26 Nov 00 - 12:07 PM

Carol - My thought are with you.

Catrin

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: MMario
Date: 26 Nov 00 - 09:19 PM

Carol - I just read this having been a way a few days- my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: Kim C
Date: 27 Nov 00 - 03:14 PM

Oh Carol. I have just been there too, since I lost my father in August. I miss him very much. Love and hugs to you and yours and please feel free to send a PM if you want to talk.

Kim

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 27 Nov 00 - 05:05 PM

I haven't been able to get on most of the weekend, so let me add my belated hugs and love, Carol.

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: Ebbie
Date: 28 Nov 00 - 12:22 AM

How are you doing, Carol? It's a rough one- not something you'd wish on your worst enemy, but somehow we all muddle through. Nurture yourself. Every day you make it through is another day survived.

Ebbie

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: GUEST,Fibula Mattock
Date: 28 Nov 00 - 12:12 PM

Carol, I'm sorry to hear that. Best wishes to you and all your family.

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: Little Hawk
Date: 28 Nov 00 - 04:38 PM

Hello Carol,

I just heard last night about your mother...from flattop at song circle. I had not been on Mudcat much for the past 2 weeks. I want to send my condolences and love.

I honestly don't believe that anyone ever dies, but I know that people move on, and we don't see them for awhile, and that can be hard to take.

I've had dear friends who either passed on or simply vanished to places unknown, and I sure miss them sometimes.

I send you a wave of the hawk's wings and the best thoughts and prayers I can muster.

May you be well,

George

Subject: RE: For my mother
From: CarolC
Date: 01 Dec 00 - 04:45 AM

I want to add one more post to this thread before I let it go.

Thank you, everyone, for your words and your kind and loving support. They have helped me more than I can tell you. I'm doing pretty well. The Mudcat is providing me with many opportunities to laugh and enjoy myself despite the events of the last week.

I think it would be fitting to use this thread to tell people something that is very important for women and their loved ones to know. Apparently, most people are unaware of this...

In women, pain in the lower back can be an indication of heart problems. My mother had been complaining of lower back pain for a week or two before her heart attack. While the heart attack was progressing, she was complaining of severe pain in her lower back.

No one thought to be concerned about her heart because the pain was in her lower back. She thought she had hurt her back lifting grandchildren. She had been having these symptoms for a couple of hours before my father realized she needed medical attention because at first, they progressed gradually. By the time he realized she needed medical help, her symptoms had begun to progress very rapidly.

If we had known about the lower back pain symptom, she might have recieved medical attention in time to save her life.

The most severe symptoms that she reported as long as she was able to talk, were lower back pain and difficulty breathing. This doesn't sound anything like what we usually think of when we hear the term "heart attack". Apparently, women experience heart attacks differently than men. I think this is important for everybody to know.

Love to all,

Carol