MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)

Subject: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 01:15 AM

Dad had a lesion removed a few months ago that turned out to be stage 2 melanoma. They thought all was well, but now it looks likely that he has metastatic tumors in his lungs, adrenals and lymph nodes. The nodules in the lungs turned up 2 weeks ago when his shoulder was x-rayed after a fall, and it has been a cascade of tests and waiting to get tests and scans scheduled since then.   After a follow up CT scan last week, his primary care physician is very concerned.   We are awaiting PET scan, MRI's and final biopsies to absolutely confirm, but there doesn't appear to be much doubt. Mom is the family rock, and Dad's "manager." She is trying to recover from a nasty bout with pneumonia, but it is very difficult for her to get the rest she needs and deal with all of this. She is worn down to the nubbins.

They are modest "salt of the earth" people, well practiced at living life on life's terms. Their lives have always been lives of quiet service to their family, their neighbors and their community, humbly observing where there are needs, and humbly offering what they can to fulfill those needs. It simply would never occur to either one of them to do otherwise.

I would appreciate your well wishes, prayers, loving-kindness meditations, etc. in support of them right now.

Thanks.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 01:58 AM

sending good wishes to Janie's parents (& Janie)

sandra

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Ebbie
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 02:36 AM

And from me also; the best to "Dad", "Mom" and lovely Janie.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: katlaughing
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 04:15 AM

They are modest "salt of the earth" people, well practiced at living life on life's terms. Their lives have always been lives of quiet service to their family, their neighbors and their community, humbly observing where there are needs, and humbly offering what they can to fulfill those needs. It simply would never occur to either one of them to do otherwise.

Just like their daughter, I see. My empathy and compassion are yours, Dear One, as well as my thanks-givings and positive thoughts for the best possible outcome for all involved. If it is not too intrusive, may we have their first names, please? It helps when thinking of them.

Hugs to you all,

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Micca
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 04:20 AM

Janie, count me in, My Healing candle will be lit at sunset with you all "inscribed" on it, If they are anything like you they must be real nice
Micca

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: maeve
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 05:17 AM

Of course, Janie. Thank you for letting us know.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: gnu
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 05:48 AM

T&Ps here too.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: catspaw49
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 07:24 AM

Sending all my best Janie......to all of you.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bobert
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 08:03 AM

Geeze, Janie.... I could have gone a long time without reading this this morning... You tell dad that the resident hillbilly here has him and your mom in my prayers and thoughts...

And you as well...

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 08:08 AM

You and your parents are in my thoughts and prayers, Janie. You always are anyway.
Hang in there.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 09:28 AM

Pouring the love your way<<<<<<

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Maryrrf
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 10:39 AM

I don't know how much influence my well wishes will have on the almighty - but may (s)he bless your parents and ease their burden.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Amos
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 11:24 AM

Behind you all the way, Janie.


Amos

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: GUEST,Russ
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 12:05 PM

Janie,
I am truly sorry to hear the news. Good luck to you all.

Russ (Permanent GUEST)

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Morticia
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 12:10 PM

You and parents have all my love and best wishes, Janie xx

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 12:22 PM

Good thoughts coming from Maine melove. Having seen Kendall through a bout of pneumonia I know just how debilitating that can be, let alone having the worry about your father. Please give them both my best wishes.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bill D
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 01:11 PM

Awww.. Janie, that is hard, but you KNOW how many people will be pulling for the best possible outcome for both of them... and for YOU to have the reserves to cope as you struggle with it all.

Many good wishes and thoughts heading that way.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: ClaireBear
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 01:20 PM

Janie, I'm sorry, and I stand with all my brothers and sisters here in sending you and your parents strength and love in the hard times.

If Kat and Micca (in particular, but among many others) hadn't already posted exactly what I was thinking way up yonder, this post would have to be much longer.

Prayers and a whole lot of good thoughts --
Claire

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Tinker
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 01:47 PM

Janie, blessings and light wrapped in the best of hugs and song and prayer. As I clean and prepare my garden and rejoice in the gifts of the earth, I will keep you and yours in my prayers.

tinker

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Allan C.
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 04:44 PM

For some reason the lyrics, (or at least some of them,) to the old McGuire Sisters song, "May You Always" entered my mind as I read your post. I was especially touched by, as Kat pointed out, your loving description of your folks. What parent would not give everything they own to hear their child speak of them in such dear tones!

MAY YOU ALWAYS
(Larry Markes / Dick Charles)noting that this is a somewhat abbreviated and altered version of their original lyrics

May you always walk in sunshine slumber warm when night winds blow
May you always live with laughter for a smile becomes you so
May good fortune find your doorway may the bluebirds sing your song
May no trouble travel your way may no worry stay too long

May your heartaches be forgotten may all tears be spilled
May old acquaintance be remembered when your cup of time is filled
And may you always be a dreamer may your wildest dream come true
May you find someone to love as much as I love you


My sincere best wishes to you and your parents.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: katlaughing
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 06:01 PM

Allan, that is beautiful. Thanks for sharing.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: ranger1
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 06:53 PM

Janie, you and your parents have my thoughts and warm fuzzies. Knowing you, I know they must be wicked awesome (a Maine-ism) folks.

Tami

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Allan C.
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 07:58 PM

Here's the song as done by the McGuire Sisters.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 12 Apr 10 - 08:49 PM

Much gratitude to all.    I may not be posting often here because I don't have much time to write the thoughtful responses you are due for your kindness. Even if I don't post more than daily, if that often, know that I am reading and that the knowledge that there are people from many different places offering care and concern will mean much to all of us.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: ranger1
Date: 13 Apr 10 - 09:09 AM

Janie, right now we don't expect you to do anything other than take care of your family and yourself. We're here for you, not the other way around. Promise us no guilt for not replying to each and every one of us and promise to take care of yourself. That's all we want.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 13 Apr 10 - 09:45 AM

What a lovely accolade to your parents. I am wishing healing thoughts to your folks, Janie. And an extra helping of strength for you.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 13 Apr 10 - 11:17 AM

Take care of you and yours, Janie. We'll be here.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 13 Apr 10 - 03:35 PM

Best wishes from Charlie, Janie.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 18 Apr 10 - 09:45 PM

Without going into mind-numbing detail, let me just say how difficult it is to make sure information and care is coordinated across the health care system when one has multiple medical providers - and that no matter how much confidence one has in one or more of one's physicians, the physicians can not be relied upon to remember significant information they learned several months ago for which they were not the treating providers.

While we humans acquire more knowledge about the body and disease processes such that specialists are more and more required who are more fully informed about particular parts and body systems, no one doctor or physician's practice is involved (or can be involved) in all aspects of care. Not only is something lost, there is danger to the individual patient. Patients and their families need to fully understand the reality that they are themselves in the best position to function as clinical care case managers.




Dad is awesome. Overheard when he was talking to Mom Saturday morning, "No sense in feeling troubled over the weekend, since we can't talk to anybody until Monday morning." To me, Saturday afternoon, "These doctors make a thousand good decisions that benefit people, and they are only human. They're bound to make a mistake now and then. I'm not upset. I'm grateful, and I know they are doing the best they can by me."   To Sis and me Saturday night, "I don't want you to get too torn up about this. A fella that is 85 years old that has had a good life and and a good family that loves him has got no cause to complain."

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Ebbie
Date: 18 Apr 10 - 09:53 PM

Well, bless his heart. Sounds like his acorn didn't fall too far from his tree. You are a lot like him. :)

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bobert
Date: 18 Apr 10 - 10:38 PM

Well, Janie... You tell Dad that he is okay in my book... You tell him that I lived 20 years in Wes Ginny, too... I don't wnat him thinkin' that a bunch of folks from far away are concerned about him... Tell him that I heard that 85 is the new 30... Okay, he might think that is silly but I reckon he'll ata least get a good laugh from it...

But seriously, I really hope and pray that he get's thru this so in a year he and I can go mushroom huntin' in his parts of Wes Ginny... You tell him that... Tell him to put me down on the calendar for next spring...

Mean while, stay strong...

My deepest heartfelt prayers and warm thoughts...

b~

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 18 Apr 10 - 10:41 PM

(((Janie)))

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bill D
Date: 18 Apr 10 - 10:51 PM

Wise words from your Dad, Janie. He thinks about how things are.
Take care, and keep on keeping on.... ♥♥♥♥∞

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 18 Apr 10 - 11:09 PM

Thanks, Ebbie.

Mom is pretty awesome too, but in a different way. She is a "the" conduit through which all passes. She is Dad's rock. As in so many families, at least of a different age and time, she is the carrier of the emotions, and the interpreter of emotions for her mate. She simultaneously follows his lead, and takes the lead, if you know what I mean.

Almost 20 years ago, my older sister died from breast cancer after a 5 year battle. My parents were with her, her husband and children through every step of the way, and largely raised my nephews during her illness and after her death. My oldest nephew, who has mental health problems, still lives with them.   

Both of my parents characterize their lives as good. They realistically do not regard life as easy. Mom is more inclined to express her pain, fear, and anger, but is also essentially an optimistic realist. Quote from her this weekend, "Well, we have done this before, and I guess we can do it again.. Your Dad is such a good man. He doesn't deserve this on top of all the pain he is already in. But we'll manage whatever comes. I'm so grateful for all the blessings we have always had. So much love...."

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 18 Apr 10 - 11:12 PM

And thanks the rest of ye motley crew who was a postin' while I was a composin'!

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Apr 10 - 05:11 AM

what a family!

sandra

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: catspaw49
Date: 19 Apr 10 - 08:15 AM

Gotta' love your folks Janie.......I think your Dad would have gotten on well with my Mom.   She died at 43 when I was 18. She'd had cancer for three years and fought it hard although it was terminal from the gitgo. Friends came by a lot and the most common comment I got from them ran along the lines of, "I came by to cheer her up and I was the one who felt better afterwards."

LOL......Margie was like that.....I'd think your Dad is too. Anyway, this neighboring Buckeye is rootin' for him....and your Mom......and you too.


Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 19 Apr 10 - 08:18 AM

Janie,
Hospitals are handling huge amounts of information and they do get confused. Jacqui is an expert at coordinating and monitoring hospital staff while keeping them friendly and cooperative. PM her for advice if you need it.
Meantime, hang in there. You have had more than your share of grief lately. I am sorry.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 19 Apr 10 - 08:20 AM

Good thoughts still coming to you all Janie. What wonderful parents you have.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Genie
Date: 19 Apr 10 - 07:25 PM

Janie, you are so right that "Patients and their families need to fully understand the reality that they are themselves in the best position to function as clinical care case managers."   That, plus a lot of prayers and visualizations by friends and family, let my sister outlive her own cancer death sentence by more than 7 years. True, she & some other family members were medical practitioners too, but she sort of had to become an expert on her particular type of cancer and on possible treatments. It is so easy to fall through the cracks of the medical bureaucracy, and I am so glad your parents have you to help them with this monumental task.   I hope that the prayers, positive visualizations and energies from us here at Mudcat and from other friends I know you must have will strengthen and help heal your dad and keep your mom and you well too.   Whatever course your dad's journey takes, please know that you and your family are loved. Your parents must have done something right to have such a sweet, caring, and capable daughter.

Genie

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: maeve
Date: 19 Apr 10 - 07:32 PM

What Genie said, Janie. Holding you and your family in light.

m

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 19 Apr 10 - 08:01 PM

Jacqui's had the experience as much as I and I'm sure she'll join me in giving you advice by PM.

Your father has a GREAT attitude, and that helps a lot.

White healing light, prayers, good thoughts and everything coming at you from this neck of the woods.

Linn

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: GUEST,hg
Date: 19 Apr 10 - 08:20 PM

Janie, I just saw this. I know only too well what it is to have two aging parents. I hope your dad can stay optimistic and that your mother looks to you for emotional support so she can help your dad.

I am in my third year of having my parents close by so I can help them. I am there every day to cook, make the bed and care for my mother while my dad gets respite. He is wearing out and fell again yesterday but he seems to be alright. Mom fell getting out of bed this morning.

I know your folks aren't too close by so it must be worrisome to be unable to zip over there to help out. I don't know what else you have gone through lately but I wish you well. Abby

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 21 Apr 10 - 01:33 AM

Annie, whom many of you know from the Getaways, retired just a couple of months ago, and she is providing much more instrumental assistance to Mom and Dad than I am able to do, going to WV to sit in on the procedures and MD appointments, setting up a system of files for all medical records and procedures, educating herself and Mom on what they need to do to overcome systemic obstacles, and to insure as much as possible that medical errors do not occur and that medical providers are fully informed before they make recommendations, etc.

Retired or not, it is quite strenuous to be making so many trips to WV to be there for appointments and provide so much help and guidance. You would never know that to talk to her. She is simply seeing what needs done, recognizing she is in the best position to do it thoroughly, and showing up for work, because it would never occur to her to do otherwise - love in action.

She has a gift, and she is a gift within our family.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: katlaughing
Date: 21 Apr 10 - 11:55 AM

We all need an ombudswo/man like that. What a blessing and your own self, too, Janie. Never doubt the impact and blessings you share so willingly esp. for your own dear parents. They sound like such good people. My good thoughts, surroundings of Light and thanks-givings continue for you all.

Much love,

kat

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 22 Apr 10 - 11:43 AM

Still thinking of you, Annie and your family.
SINS

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Tinker
Date: 22 Apr 10 - 12:23 PM

Send Annie the most amazing hugs she can imagine. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.....

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: katlaughing
Date: 26 Apr 10 - 06:34 PM

Janie, girl, just want you to know I am thinking of you and your family. Lots of {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: KT
Date: 26 Apr 10 - 06:55 PM

Janie, I've just now seen this thread. Know that another from afar is holding all of you in heart and mind. Though I've never met your folks, I can't help but think how much better a place this world is for their (and you & Annie) being in it.

Heartfelt prayers for you all-
KT

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: maeve
Date: 26 Apr 10 - 08:55 PM

Still here, Janie. Know that whether I can post or not, you and your dear family are in my thoughts and prayers.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 27 Apr 10 - 12:50 AM

Thank you, friends.   

Others here, much younger, are dealing with shocking losses and/or health threats to themselves or family members that are extra-ordinary in their unexpectedness or severity.      I understand that is not the case for my family or parents, at their ages, and so do they.

And of course, throughout the world, there are many, many people who have lived their entire lives, however long or short those lives are or have been, in very precarious and threatening circumstances so severe as to be well beyond what I can even imagine.

Folks all.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Allan C.
Date: 27 Apr 10 - 06:07 AM

Yes, I suppose there is some good to recognizing that there are (and always will be) others who have what seem to be greater troubles in their lives. But when you come down to it, your troubles are your own. It has often been said that the true measure of character is in how one deals with the problems of life. If that is so, then, (in my opinion,) it likely appears obvious to all of Mudcatdom that you and Annie are people of great character. Blessings to the both of you and powerful good wishes to your folks.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: catspaw49
Date: 27 Apr 10 - 07:57 AM

Ya' know.......Allan just put together one of the best posts I can recall at the 'Cat. Sums it up perfectly and I will ride his coattails and echo the same. We're all still here and you have our very best.......

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 03 May 10 - 07:42 PM

Still here and thinking of you, Annie and all your family.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 12:30 AM

I again won't go into all the gory details but the good doctors (and they have all been very caring and concerned) have not been able to get a conclusive biopsy through relatively non-invasive procedures. However, the two pulmunologists agree that the scans are strongly suggestive of melanoma that has spread. Because of Dad's age, other health concerns, the risks involved, and quality of life issues, they are recommending against a surgical lung biopsy. Finally, he is being referred to an oncologist. We have been told it may take a while to get him an appointment. We take all of this as an indirect way of saying that any treatment should be palliative.

None of us are surprised, but we are now awash in sadness we had been holding at bay. Sadness is part of the parcel of life. There is comfort in accepting that, even though it doesn't make it any less sad.

I don't know if I have already said that Jacqui sent a shawl to Mom, with a note to the effect that it was full of Mudcat kindness. Dad pulls it over his torso anytime he lays back in his recliner for a nap or to try to breathe away pain (not related to the cancer, which, so far, is only causing weight loss and fatique.) What it symbolizes is a bonafide comfort to both him and Mom.

Annie and I tiptoed away Sunday afternoon, while he was sleeping there in his recliner, the shawl wrapped around him like the Mudcat hug it is.   Meaningful solace to an old man and woman, and those of us who love them.

Thank you. We are grateful.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Eiseley
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 12:45 AM

Dear, dear Janie,
I wish peace and sweet comfort for your parents---and for you.

Eiseley

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Ebbie
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 01:04 AM

Janie, I am so glad, so honored to know you and Annie both.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: catspaw49
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 01:24 AM

How about a Spaw hug? We love you Janie..........and we'll be here.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 02:21 AM

hugs & best wishes from me, too

sandra

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: katlaughing
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 03:11 AM

Janie, you are so full of wisdom and grace. All my love, light, and hugs to you and your family. Thank you for being here.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 08:04 AM

I often think that I should be giving more back. Thank you Janie, for those words.

I'm keeping you all in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bill D
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 08:05 AM

More of ALL the good wishes expressed above...better than I can invent any.

Since I don't know your Mom & Dad, I'll just imagine what good folks they are from meeting their pretty great daughter... *smile*

Take care of yourself as you take care of them.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 08:10 AM

Janie,
I keep you and your family in my prayers. One day at a time, girl.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bobert
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 08:45 AM

Danged, Janie...

Tell dad again that thias ol' fellow hillbilly has him in his thoughts and prayers... Tell mom, too...

Bobert

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: ClaireBear
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 11:45 AM

I wish I had some new and profound thing to add, but instead I send my own virtual {{{hugs}}} and the promise of prayers -- for strength, for courage, for healing, for peace, for all of you.

Love
Claire

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: ranger1
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 06:33 PM

(((((Janie and family)))))

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 06:53 PM

Best wishes to all of you as you navigate this stage.

How about lighting a match in the toe of the shoe of whoever said it might take a while to get that appointment? (I can't find a cartoon image of that-- but think a Bugs Bunny stunt.) Whether for treatment or palliative care, there's no good excuse for a long wait to be seen.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Tinker
Date: 04 Jun 10 - 08:24 PM

Janie..... Annie..... I'm so glad you have each other. Wish sometimes that it was easier to cross cyberspace into that 3-D real time so hugs and such could be give first hand.

Blessings and Light all around

Tinker

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: KT
Date: 05 Jun 10 - 03:00 PM

Thinking of you, Janie, with love.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Genie
Date: 06 Jun 10 - 12:51 AM

Again, Janie, I'm so glad your mom and dad have you (which is no accident) to help them navigate the sometimes treacherous waters of the health care system, and that you all have the love and support of the good folks at Mudcat, among others.   It is, indeed, hard to have your care overseen by a doc who knows that "the toe bone's connected to the foot bone, the foot bone's connected to the ..., etc." and can keep in mind the various ailing body parts/systems and their interrelatedness, but that is so important. When you, the patient or family, can "connect the dots," so to speak, that can be invaluable.

I won't bore you with the details, but I've been wrangling with a similar sort of specialist-disconnectedness myself recently and really appreciate having a doc who can and will look at me as more than just skin or just a hip joint or just a liver, etc.   So I do hope you and your dad have been able to find a primary care physician who can look at him as a whole person.   And even if that doesn't happen, I'm so glad you're there for your dad.

All I can offer is what so many others are, that is love and prayers and positive energies and visualizations of your dad and mom and you healthy and happy.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Janie, Janie's dad & mom}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 25 Jul 10 - 11:25 PM

Refresh.

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From: jacqui.c
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 06:58 AM

How are things going, Janie?

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From: Bobert
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 08:41 AM

Yeah, what's up???

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: maeve
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 08:44 AM

We're still. here and keeping y'all in thought and prayer. Lots of digging-in-the-garden thoughts, too.

maeve

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 08:54 AM

What Maeve said-- near or far, posting or not.

May the Mojo be always with you, Janie.

~Susan & Hardi

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 03:46 PM

Nothing new to report. We are spending as much good time together as a family as we can. Mom and Dad again commented on how knowing others hold them in their and prayers is a support to them, so I thought I'd bump the thread back up for a little bump up for them.

Thanks.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bobert
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 05:18 PM

"Hey" again to both of them from a fellow hillbilly...

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: katlaughing
Date: 26 Jul 10 - 05:18 PM

Thanks for checking in, Janie. You are always in my heart and thoughts...you and your folks and Sun.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 04:11 AM

sending more good wishes to Janie's family

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: catspaw49
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 07:01 AM

"We are spending as much good time together as a family as we can."

Well it doesn't get much better than that does it? My parents have been gone since the late '60's so it makes me sorta' envious. Sometimes these threads give back more than we send..........thanks for that Janie and all my best to all of you.

Spaw

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 04:02 PM

Janie,
I lost my mother very suddenly when I was in my early 20s. No time to say goodbye or talk through our differences. Cherish the time you have and the gift you've been given.
Much love,
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 04:05 PM

hugs and good thoughts refreshed from me to you. pass them along where needed.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 04:27 PM

We have absolutely no cause to complain.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Amos
Date: 27 Jul 10 - 04:30 PM

Bumpy times are always a heart-strain; you have my best flitter coming your way for comfort and support among your family. Chin up!


A

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 06 Oct 10 - 10:11 PM

Dad got roped into being evaluated for a clinical trial being conducted at Vanderbilt. I'm sorry about that, for my sake. It brings back intrusive memories of our older sister's hellish last 5 months of life from the adverse effects of a bone marrow transplant when that was an experimental treatment.   As I have said previously, however, it is his call to make.

This came up quite suddenly, and Darlin' Annie cancelled out of the Getaway last minute to drive them to Nashville, TN for the evaluation. The neat part is that my Dad has loved country music since country music was invented, and for years listened to the Saturday night radio broadcast of the Grand Ol' Opry like it was his religion.   Annie took them to a show there last night. I just got off the phone with him, and he is floating on air! They all had a grand time. His favorite was 90 year old Little Jimmy Dickens, but he loved it all.

If he were the type to make a bucket list, I am pretty sure going to the Opry would be on it!

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Amos
Date: 06 Oct 10 - 10:20 PM

HEll, he should put the next Getaway on it, honey. You can bet we would take good care of him.


A

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: katlaughing
Date: 06 Oct 10 - 10:25 PM

I had no idea Little Jimmy Dickens was still around! So good that your folks got to see that!

{{{{{HUGS for ALL o'YA}}}}}

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bobert
Date: 06 Oct 10 - 10:47 PM

What Amos said... Get him registered and tell him that he's in BobertsBluesBand... Bring whatever... A 2 quart pan an' a wood spoon do fine...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 06 Oct 10 - 11:22 PM

We will be very, very fortunate if he lives to see the redbuds bloom come spring, but you are right Amos. Our Dad would greatly enjoy spending a few hours listening in at the Getaway.

He has always been too inhibited to make music himself. Had a good voice, but was afraid to use it, even in the shower. He has always loved accoustical music, however. He was who brought home the Kingston Trio albums that were my introduction to folk music. From the time Annie learned to change smoothly through three chords and we three sisters learned to harmonize just a bit, he was often asking us to come into the living room and put on a little Hoot for him.    Even now, if Annie is practicing fiddle in some corner of the house, Dad will stop what he is doing and wander into where ever she is to listen, and on the rare occasions Annie and I are there at the same time, it is guaranteed that if we don't get around to doing a few tunes on our own, he will get around to asking us to play "just a couple of songs."

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 07 Oct 10 - 09:27 AM

Thanks for the update, Janie.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: olddude
Date: 07 Oct 10 - 09:28 AM

You got my prayers my friend
always

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 22 Mar 11 - 11:23 PM

Hard times. Precious times.

A common story. The ordinary warp and weave of what it means to experience life and love. But it happens to be my family's story right now, the headline news among a very small circle of people.



Good thoughts, prayers, energy, mojo, any little tidbit you might have to spare for a stalwart old man dying, and a stalwart old woman walking with him as far as the path allows.

All of us hoping now the path will be short, and fearing it will not be.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Nancy King
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 12:08 AM

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts, Janie.

--Nancy

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: ClaireBear
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 12:11 AM

Oh, dear Janie. Sending love, blessings and release.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Ebbie
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 01:03 AM

A friend of mine who owned a nursing home said that she had observed that many old people have a certain bulldog quality to them, which makes it hard to finally let go.

As KT wrote in a lovely song of hers, Changin' of the Seasons: "like the last leaf on an Autumn branch comes a time you must let go."

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 02:04 AM

sending good wishes to you & your family, Janie

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 03:46 AM

There is so much sadness in the Mudcat family these days. Yet when facing sadness it so good to have some family at arms distance. Knowing they are clumping together and all wishing and hoping and praying for best for their brothers and sister here.

Adding my best wishes to you and your family.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 07:03 AM

I'm sad to hear this, Janie. Please accept my best regards and take care.
Charlie in Dunfermline.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 08:30 AM

You are always in my thoughts and prayers, Janie. Hard times indeed.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bobert
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 09:07 AM

Well, this ol' hillbilly is right there in spirit with dad and I hope he feels me and others there 'cause we'll lovingly walk him right to the door where the Big Guy will welcome him into the Kingdom... And there he will be without pain and be filled with peace...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: olddude
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 09:09 AM

Janie
In my thoughts heart and prayers my friend

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: katlaughing
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 10:14 AM

I give thanks for an ease of passing in Divine time, may it be soon. This or something better for the highest good of all concerned. So mote it be.

Just one note, it seems sometimes, as in the case of my mom, some folks don't let go until alone, even for a short time. My mom waited to let go until she was alone for the night in hospital. We think she didn't want to put us kids through the actual passing. My sister had just left her and got home when she got the call. Speculation on our part, but I've heard similar when working as an aide in a nursing home, etc.

Lots of hugs and loving thoughts to you and your family, Janie. It's a tough path.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 12:27 PM

Here and thinking of you all Janie. Please give everyone a hug from me.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: ranger1
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 12:57 PM

Janie, you and yours are in my thoughts.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 23 Mar 11 - 10:04 PM

For me, the ability to write long posts with readers in mind makes journaling possible. Have never found it effective to write just for myself, just to "hear" my own voice. I can not begin to say how many times in the last month I have typed and edited long posts to this thread, read them, gained clarity, solace or perspective from them, and then deleted them as much too personal, egocentric or revealing of that about myself I don't really want held up to public scrutiny.

Thanks for being here. Your care and attention matters in ways and gives a gift you may not always be aware you are offering that is in addition to your cherished responses to my asking for care and concern for my parents.

Janie

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Mrrzy
Date: 24 Mar 11 - 02:26 PM

I'm so gald you reached out to us, Janie, and I hope we help! The 'cat has always been there for me... I hope we can do even better for you.
I'll be thinking of you.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Maryrrf
Date: 24 Mar 11 - 02:36 PM

Best wishes to you, Janie, during a difficult time for your family.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 06:38 AM

(((Janie)))

prayerfully,

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 30 Mar 11 - 09:55 PM

The world of home health aides is a universe previously unknown to us. Pretty awesome, most of these lovely, compassionate women who make a poor living helping families tend to the dying.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bobert
Date: 30 Mar 11 - 10:06 PM

I remember the folks who came into our home whe n my late wife,Judy, was dieing... I mean, they knew what to do with her and with us... I remember playin' Scrabble with one of them on our dining room table...

But they also knew everything else from nursing to funeral arrangements and this was all done with the most dignity, grace and love...

I hate it that your dad is at this point in life but I am so comforted knowing that he is also being comforted...

God bless the folks who do this... I mean that from the bottom of my heart...

And tell Dad that this ol' hillbilly right there with him... Guess the only thing that would make it better is fir me to be sittin' with him and be able to pass a shot of good Wes Ginny shine over to him...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bill D
Date: 30 Mar 11 - 10:13 PM

There are good people out there....they often make it possible for folks to spend their last days at home. I often wonder how they develop the strength.

Thinking of you, Janie.....♥

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: maeve
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 08:22 AM

Good morning, Janie. We have a bucket loader full of snow coming to us tomorrow, but Spring will again poke up her pretty head.

There's a special feeling of grace those helpers can bring to the home-in-need, underneath an outward ordinary appearance. Let them be kind to you. They will absorb some of your family's kindness and wisdom and love, as well, multiplying all three to be given to another family, and another. You are their recharging station, just as they are your gracious conductors and porters on this energy-rich, solar powered train ride.

Love to you,

Maeve

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 08:38 AM

Being allowed to die in the peace of one's own home with loved ones around is a real gift. Stay strong Janie.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: catspaw49
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 10:09 AM

Hospice and Home Health................Amazing people doing amazing work. It takes a very special person............

I think of you often Janie and hope that the best thoughts and prayers from this place are as helpful to all of you as it has been many times for me.

All my best .....


Pat

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 11:51 AM

Thanks so much to all of you.

Daddy stepped gently out of life about an hour ago.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 11:52 AM

Strength to you and yours, Janie.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 11:53 AM

I was thinking of you both while I worked on "Boulevard in Heaven."

Much love,

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 12:00 PM

Please accept my very best regards and condolences, Janie.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Ebbie
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 12:16 PM

{{{{{{{{{{Janie and her loved ones}}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Bill D
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 12:32 PM

.......peace.......

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: catspaw49
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 01:03 PM

Bill had exactly the right word.............peace.........

Pat

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: gnu
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 01:05 PM

Agreed.

My condolences.

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 01:23 PM

Now is when you begin to realize all the more how much of him is in you and in the things you think and do, or respond to. I hope this time is peaceful for you all.

Maggie

Subject: RE: BS: More Good Mojo Please Janie's Dad (Mom)
From: katlaughing
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 02:09 PM

{{{{{Janie & Family}}}}} May we all have a similar passing.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Amos
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 02:34 PM

Hugs and comfort, sweet heart. You are in my thoughts.


A

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 02:39 PM

Peace to you too Janie.
Mary

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Neil D
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 03:02 PM

You have our deepest sympathies. May our prayers now bring you peace and comfort.

                                    Neil and Christina

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: ClaireBear
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 03:21 PM

Gentle hug, wildwood flower. Peace, comfort, release, sweet memories, and strength for whateve's next, even though it's my sincere hope that strength will not be needed.

Wish I could bring you a casserole.

Love,
Claire

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: maeve
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 04:36 PM

"...begin to realize all the more how much of him is in you and in the things you think and do..." SRS/Maggie

I have tears on your behalf, Janie, yet you will find smiles too, as you see Stilly's words, above, returning from time to time throughout the rest of your life. What a rare gift you've been able to give one another!

Maeve

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 31 Mar 11 - 04:53 PM

Sincere condolences, Janie.

Bruce

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 12:49 AM

Dad was, plain and simple, just a good, good soul. He was one of only a few truly humble people I have ever known. Dad always strove to do the "right" thing in all his dealings with his family, in his career and within his community. He lived his own life in strict accordance with his values, and the first and foremost things he valued were love, compassion, and responsibility to family and community. At the same time, he steered away from judging others. He was a man who counted his blessings and counted his blessings as just that, gifts, not "just desserts."

Dad was a mentor to so many people, and a leader within his community, without any sense within himself of that reality.

These last couple of months, when he reached the place where it was no longer possible for him to get out and about, there had been a steady stream of people coming to visit him. Neighbors, friends, former employees, business associates, old family friends, drunks from the local tavern (Dad was never much of a drinker, stopped drinking ethol at all several years ago in support of some one dear to him who has a problem, but has very much enjoyed spending an hour before supper at the local beer garden since I was a young girl,) friends of my sisters and I from high school who developed their own relationships with Mom and Dad and maintained them long after we girls had flown the coop and moved away, even naming children after them, or after my deceased sister, knowing what that would mean to my parents.

These are indeed good, good friends to my parents, and that is how my Dad has understood their visits - good friends reaching out to support a friend in need. Indeed, that is what they were doing. Good, good, friends indeed. At the same time, they have made clear to my mother, sister and I they were simply trying to return in some measure what Dad has given and wanted to try to convey to him what he has meant to them.

I know what my darling father has meant to me in my life. I am stunned by what he has meant to others.


Dad had a talent for story-telling and for humor. He had the gift of laughter, and saw to it that his daughters learned there is always cause for laughter, no matter the situation.

Coming from a very religous, United/Old Regular Baptist upbringing, in our younger years he was strict and and initially uncompromising, but never harsh. He was not an intellectual by any definition, but always thoughtful and willing to reflect and question himself and his positions. He had rules by which he lived. Some few of those rules he ultimately thought everyone should live by, and counted anyone who did not a scoundrel, particularly those related to adultery, or lying for personal gain. In all other areas, his first principles were love and compassion, and a bonafide belief that he is among "the least of these."

This is my little tribute to my Dad. I believe he was realistic in his conviction that there was nothing unique about him in terms of how he lived his life and loved his family, and how he made a difference in the lives of others. I believe there are millions of daughters who could write pretty much the same thing I have written here.

Blessed be.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Joe Offer
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 12:56 AM

Well, Janie, you are also "just a good, good soul." Guess you're a chip off the old block. May you find comfort in his memory.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 01:17 AM

agreed

condolences to you & your family

sandra

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed 3/31/11)
From: Genie
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 02:04 AM

Janie,

I know this is a hard time for you and all your family, and pretty much what I want to say has already been voiced by 'Spaw, Bobert, Kat, and so many others.   I haven't been around the 'Cat much for the last few weeks, so I hadn't been up on what was happening with your dad, except that you had shared a lot of it with me last fall at Getaway time.    Having been through times like this with my sister and later with my dad, I do understand the many conflicting feelings, including the comfort that it is when a loved one can make the "transition" peacefully and surrounded by love (even if they choose to make the final step of that journey without having others around to draw their attention away from the passage itself).

Your dad sounds like a real mensch, the kind of person anyone would be blessed to have in their life, especially as a parent.    It's obvious that a lot of those qualities you appreciated so much in him were passed on to you, as well.   The fact that there are millions of other such humble, hardworking, honest, compassionate, humorous people who love their families does not make his life any less special.

As Joe said, may you find comfort in his memory. And also in knowing that he really does live on in you and in the lives of the many others he touched.


Genie


{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Janie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: KT
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 02:07 AM

Janie, what a beautiful tribute from a daughter who has been, I've no doubt, very deeply loved by her Daddy. And it's not hard to imagine he was fiercely proud of you, too. Take good care during this time, dear Janie. Holding you and your family in love and light.
KT

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Micca
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 06:52 AM

Janie, My condolences also to you my dear friend is this time, Hugs to you and a wish for peace to you and your family

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: GUEST,kendall
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 07:41 AM

Sounds like he left this world a better place than when he found it; and the apple doesn't fall far from the tree. My best to all of you.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Bobert
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 08:09 AM

Thanks for sharing your dad's story, Janie...

Sounds like the kinda man that Mark Twain described in say "live your life so that when you pass even the undertaker will be sad..."

((((((((((((sniff)))))))))))))))

Bobert

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: MMario
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 09:09 AM

Janie - I can't add anything to what has been said. Thoughts are with you and yours - hugs...

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 10:47 AM

Darling Janie - your eloquence had my eyes tearing up. As Kendall said - the apple didn't fall far from the tree and we are lucky to have a friend who was raised under the influence of such a man.

((((((((((((Janie, Annie and family)))))))))))))))

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 11:00 AM

That is beautiful, Janie. Many of us here at Mudcat hold you in the same esteem.
Mary

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Nancy King
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 11:02 AM

Sounds like your Dad was a truly fine man, Janie, and that doesn't surprise me a bit, knowing you. It's a huge loss, I know, but hang on to all those wonderful memories.

Love to you, Annie, and the rest of your family --

Nancy

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: GUEST,VaTam
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 11:08 AM

Oh Janie... How very fortunate you are to have fond memories of a man you held in such high regard.

Would that we all had Dad's like yours. The world would probably be a better place for it.

Hugs to you and your loved ones.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 11:13 AM

Thanks, Janie. It's difficult to write, yet impossible not to, when you lose someone so close. Thanks for posting that.

SRS

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Maryrrf
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 11:33 AM

I'm sorry for your loss, Janie. May your dad RIP.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Bill D
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 11:41 AM

Sounds like the kind of guy I'd like to have known...*smile*. Now, I feel like I 'almost' did...

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 01:04 PM

My condolences, Janie, to you and the rest of your family.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 04:22 PM

Light and love and condolences, dear one.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: mouldy
Date: 01 Apr 11 - 05:12 PM

Only just picked up on this..

My sincere condolences to you and your family. It sounds like your dad's passing was just as it should be, and we should all be lucky enough to have something similar. Your tribute to your dad is very touching, and it's often only after something like this that we actually find out everything else about the person.

I used to do care work, and although I was never actually at a death, I was privileged enough to be involved in some palliative care work. All our hope was to be able to make our people as comfortable as was possible, and to take a little bit of the caring burden off the families at such a time, in the short periods we were visiting

Andrea xx

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 02 Apr 11 - 04:35 PM

Just one more thank you for all the good thoughts, prayers and intentions offered over the past year, and your recent words of comfort and caring. It truly mattered to Mom and Dad, as well as to me.

Janie

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 02 Apr 11 - 07:04 PM

Very sorry to hear it Janie.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: olddude
Date: 02 Apr 11 - 07:28 PM

All my thoughts prayers and heart with you and your family my friend
love
Dan

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 19 Aug 11 - 03:08 PM

Free hugs welcomed. Today is Daddy's birthday.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: gnu
Date: 19 Aug 11 - 03:14 PM

Give him a hug and a kiss for me.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Jeri
Date: 19 Aug 11 - 04:32 PM

Janie, I don't remember the dates my parents died - Dad was sometime in August and Mom was in July, 20 years apart - but I remember their birthdays.

Hugs.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: olddude
Date: 19 Aug 11 - 04:53 PM

All my love my dear friend

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: ranger1
Date: 19 Aug 11 - 07:00 PM

(((((Janie & Mom)))))

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Bobert
Date: 19 Aug 11 - 07:02 PM

(((Hey, dad)))

B~

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: maeve
Date: 19 Aug 11 - 07:54 PM

Missing my daddy too, Janie. Check your email.

Maeve

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 19 Aug 11 - 10:05 PM

hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs hugs

and they are all free!

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Janie
Date: 19 Aug 11 - 11:00 PM

Thanks all. And hugs back at you.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Aug 11 - 11:16 PM

Hugs. Lots of them.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 20 Aug 11 - 03:47 AM

Hugs and love to you all Janie.

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: catspaw49
Date: 20 Aug 11 - 01:52 PM

You can have all the hugs I got Janie!

Spaw

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: SINSULL
Date: 20 Aug 11 - 02:01 PM

Janie,
Holding you close, girl.
Mary

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: katlaughing
Date: 20 Aug 11 - 04:23 PM

More hugs from Colorado for you, your mom and sis.

The main character in a new series, to me, I've been watching on netflix, "Emily of New Moon," writes as a little girl to her deceased dad. Each letters starts out, "To Douglas Star, on the Road to Heaven." (The spirit of her mother said he was on the road to heaven, to her.) It's every bit as good as Anne of Green Gables and takes place on Prince Edward Island.

luvyamuchlykat

Subject: RE: MoreGoodMojoPleaseJanie'sDad(Passed31Mar)(Mom)
From: Genie
Date: 20 Aug 11 - 05:50 PM

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