BS: Flirting

Subject: BS: Flirting
From: Donuel
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 12:56 PM

As a man I have found that if I greet a stranger or acquaintance along with a reference to a past incident and the woman initiates even a hint of flirting the ensuing ping pong game is great fun especially when it is entirely a vicarious game. It is far more entertaining than clumsy contemporary wham bam hitting on techniques.

[ INSERT the hundreds of pick up lines here....]

I found going waaaay over the top with artistic and romantic themes including a 17th century kiss of ladies hand, creates a role playing encounter that will be easily saved to long term memory. Exaggerating flirting to the point of parody engenders a humorous safety to the encounter. Of course the less is more technique may be distilled down to a single "milady" and slight bow.

Example of Ping Pong game:

In self check out grocery line.
"say aren't you the lady who wore a knee brace for a year or more?"
[deciding who will serve]

"That's all people seemed to have noticed? Don't you notice anything else?
[ah ha the ball is served]

"I have so few groceries, there is not time enough to count all the noticeable nice things".
[slow lob return]

"Oh yeah, such as?"
[courteous return]

"Well there are the obvious things like your being a statuesque blond trimmed with excellent athletic discipline or your glasses that have a hint of naughtiness but there are the secret shadows of beauty in every curve and hue that not even the sculptor Carivaggio could ever have smoothed you by hand to perfection in the finest marble because your beauty exists now so recently born and he is gone.'   
[ruthless overhand smash]

'Oh,you noticed. haha    Do you do any sculpting yourself?'
[remarkable save]

"I have the tools but finding the finest marble is so rare it is hard to stay in practice. What I like to do is show the gentlest and firmest pressure against the flesh with indentations that tell their own story."
[right hand spin shot]

"I love playing with clay so much but I was wondering if you ever give lessons?
[shot to the corner and scores point]


HEY DO YOU THINK YOU COULD LET THE REST OF US CHECK OUT?
(spokesperson for impatient shoppers still waiting to scan their donuts)

"It would be a pleasure milady" (while slightly bowing, taking her right hand and lightly kissing the top of her fingers while smiling to near laughter)
[With pen or smart phone visible appear ready to copy phone number or not, once your grocery carts are outside]

ping pong score 1-1




Technique 2... With Your Eyes Only

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,CS
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 01:02 PM

Sorry Donuel, that all just sounds rather cheesy to me and maybe even a bit smarmy, I guess you had to be there? ;-)

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,musket being romantic
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 01:04 PM

You don't sweat much for a fat lass.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,CS
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 01:05 PM

That made me laugh!

CS - fat lass!

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 01:09 PM

LOL Musket!! The best most men in my past have managed is "Nice day, isn't it?" When I lived alone, a plumber who came to fix my toilet said, "Would you like to come with me in my van to B&Q to get a new flushing valve?" I thought that was VERY romantic, but sadly I didn't fancy him.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: mg
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 01:40 PM

I like to be called milady...a woman at the grocery store calls us that..I will use the term sometime...it seems genteel...I like the statuesque blond trimmed with athletic discipline too..suits me to a t.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Donuel
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 02:13 PM

I suppose going over the top without parody would be smarmy. One has to be like an actor on stage playing the part of a bad actor portraying over the top bad acting so that role playing is understood and improvisation of any kind can evolve.



If the shoe fits a statuesque athletic blond wear it. Such an agile Cinderella foot as yours might benefit from a massage after a work weary day full of evil bosses, absurd aunts or lazy step sisters.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Deckman
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 02:41 PM

I had to laugh at this thread ... BECAUSE ... just three days ago Bride Judy and I witnessed one of the greatest pick up lines ever.

We have a gorgeous 21 year old lady friend visiting us for a few days. We had a small hoot for her, and as a long time friend arrived, he hobbled in on his cane. We introduced them across the room. He hobbled over close to her ... bent down close to her face ... and said: "MY GOD GIRL! I thought I was beautiful!"

Her eyes got real big and then the whole room broke up with laughter. bob(deckman)nelson

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Elmore
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 03:36 PM

Always been to shy to do much of that flirting stuff unless I was really interested in the woman in question. Now that I'm 72, (which is the new 72) I rather enjoy a bit of flirting, and don't give a damn if I make a fool of myself.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: kendall
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 03:44 PM

I enjoy flirting. Right, Jacqui? Dani?

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Joe Offer
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 05:09 PM

Same as Kendall said...

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 07:29 PM

Who was that, Bob?

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Deckman
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 07:34 PM

You know him ... but my lips are forever sealed!

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,Ed T
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 07:48 PM

I never enjoyed flirting with others, or being flirted with. I never had much time for the non-direct approach, either way. Good wishes for those who have the time to dedicate to that flakey-fakey stuff.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Janie
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 08:28 PM

25 years with a jealous man took the flirt right out of me for a long time. Been working on getting my groove back for the past 4-5 years. And still only when I have a glass of wine or 3 in me.

A few years ago in a conversation with a close female friend, I commented that I am such the "girl next door" that men rarely have flirted with me. Her response was "Yes they do. You just don't recognize it!"

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Ebbie
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 12:43 AM

I enjoy flirting. This admission, coming from an overweight practically 80-year-old, may seem pathetic but it is not. It is simply a recognition of the fact that one is female and the other male- and that never changes nevermind the march of time. Don's approach strikes me as a bit heavy but banter is fun. That is true whether the man is my own age or 50 years younger. I like a playful man.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: kendall
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 10:04 AM

Flirting doesn't necessarily mean you want to lay someone! It's fun, and it makes most people feel good.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Rob Naylor
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 10:48 AM

Got a climbing buddy who does the exaggerated hand-kissing thing. Almost all the women I know who he's done it to think it's creepy!

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Jack the Sailor
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 02:39 PM

I like to give compliments. I don't like to flirt. I don't like to write checks I can't cash.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: jacqui.c
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 03:12 PM

I rather enjoy watching Kendall flirt. It's fun to watch the reactions.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: gnomad
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 04:35 PM

Flirting is good as long as both parties are playing the same game, ie both mean it, or neither means it.

It only falls apart when one thinks it might go somewhere and the other is just playing, that can be hurtful. A really big age difference can be helpful, but it isn't rocket-proof, so handle with care.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 05:01 PM

I only do the hand kissing when I've had a bit to drink...

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Bobert
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 08:35 PM

Hey, let's' get real here...

I loves all the womenz and I like to let 'um know...

So what's wrong with that???

Nothin'...

The End...

B:~)

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Ron Davies
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 09:50 PM

It's just too bad it's a capital crime.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: dick greenhaus
Date: 26 Sep 13 - 10:04 PM

Why does this make me think of an old dog I had once?---loved to chase cars but had no idea of what he'd do if he caught one.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Joe Offer
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 01:54 AM

Kendall and I do our best to flirt with you every year, Janie....and you're pretty darn good at flirting back.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Will Fly
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 04:13 AM

The day I stop flirting is the day they lower me into my plot in the natural burial ground.

The best flirting is done with the eyes...










... and it helps if you don't dribble at the same time.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Amergin
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 05:11 AM

I flirt with myself in the bathroom mirror....

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Nigel Parsons
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 05:12 AM

(from Tootsie)
You know, I could lay a big line on you and we could do a lot of role-playing, but the simple truth is, is that I find you very interesting and I'd really like to make love to you.

Very funny in context.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,kendall
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 06:05 AM

Where ever I go clerks say "Have a nice day." I usually respond with, " That just started when I met you." Every one of them smiles and responds with something like, "You are so nice."

I went to the drug store yesterday and one of the druggists said to me, "Hello, handsome"! I said, "You just made my day."
She just happens to be a knock out, and I have no illusions about her, it simply made my day, and hers.

If I tell you how often that happens, you would say I'm lying.
I'd like to believe it's not just the leather jacket.

Lighten up, life can be fun, unless you enjoy being miserable.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Amergin
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 06:21 AM

Kendall, my friend...I will have to remember that! Thank you!

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Joe Offer
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 10:01 AM

The flight attendant handed me a Coke yesterday and said, "Here you are, my dear." I wouldn't have dared to say something like that to a woman I didn't know, but I liked it when I was on the receiving end. Little things like that are nice. I guess they can go too far, but usually they're quite wonderful.

-Joe-

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: kendall
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 12:32 PM

It's cyclical, whatever you put out comes back in kind.
Guaranteed if I had said to her, "Where did you go after you broke your comb?" her response would have been quite different.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Donuel
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 01:26 PM

A social scientist was conducting research on octogenarian sex and was paying $300 per participant whom she supplied with conjugal partners. Although well funded the research was stopped after only 2 weeks due to lack of funds.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,CS
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 02:22 PM

Talking of flirting, it's surprised me to discover that men and women seem to think differently about different things. Apparently a man is far more likely to misinterpret having a chat and a joke with a woman as a 'red light' than the woman he's chatting and joking with. A woman who thinks she's just being 'friendly' is likely to be seen by a man as being 'up for it'. Maybe it has something to do with males being biologically programmed to be more sexually opportunistic than females and so they're looking out for 'sexual signs' everywhere, including in most circumstances that women aren't thinking about them at all?

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 02:40 PM

I think this is quite true. I'm am a chatty type and try to be friendly and kind, but never have been the sort of woman to chat men up. However, many times it's been taken the wrong way. I do feel for men, it can't be easy to risk a rebuff. If a man flirts, one should let him down gently!

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,Ed T
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 04:02 PM

Well, maybe it's not flirting. But, women who do a lot of touching while talking to me makes me very uncomfortable. I tend to back off quickly in these situations.

On another note, this summer I was at a campground and there was a seniors day cooking demonstration with entertainment and free food sampling on the BBQ. I was in the line up for food, and two 80'ish senior ladies (in age appropriate bathing suits) lined up behind me. We started chatting and they asked me what the event was all about. I replied "it's sexy seniors day" with free food and entertainment. I am not sure if they thought I was "flirting" with them, but they looked startled,looked me up and down, put their heads in the air while taking two steps back. That ended the (friendly (up to that point) conversation:)

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Donuel
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 04:18 PM

I bet the two ladies had food for their imagination for months.
Be it a virtual side dish or dessert, flirting is cheaper than drugs and makes people feel good at best or at worst just get scared. Its up to the user and is probably the oldest game ever played..

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Bill D
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 07:38 PM

I was never really good at generalized flirting.. or even clued in to semi-subtle remarks. Many years ago, (45?) I was giving a young lady a ride to a party, and somehow she worked around to the remark "I've been having problems establishing an 'interpersonal relationship'."
I mumbled something, but didn't quite 'get it', but always remembered it. 15 years after that, another woman used almost the same language to me... THEN it dawned on me! Duh! The first one was young & cute, but it's probably a good thing I was so dense, as she was kinda mixed up, I found out later. The 2nd was not my type at all.
When I met my wife, she simply smiled in the most charming, inviting way, and it was easy to begin a conversation that led to dating... and over 30 years later, I am still appreciative of the honesty... and happy!

I have always coped better when the conversation and signals were more clear and un-ambiguous.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Bobert
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 08:01 PM

Here's the "Bobert's 10 Point Flirting Guide"

1. When the women complains about here age always say, "You don't look a day over 17 to me"...

2. There is no dress or pair of slack that makes any womanz butt look big... "No, Honey... That dress make you look like you'd have to run around in the shower to get wet"...

3. There ain't enough "baby, sweetheart, sugar or honey's" to go around... Use 'um... A lot...

4. "Nice tits" ain't gonna get you no where...

5. "You ever think about modeling?" is a 24 carrot winner...

6. Now for you men you have to learn "The Voice"... "The Voice" drops at least a dozen octaves to as "how low can you go"... There is nothing that you can say if you have the timing and "The Voice" that won't drive womenz crazy, ahhhhh, in a good way... Here's how it is done...

7. ..."Hey, baby, when I die I want to come back (in your normal voice)... Then switch to "The Voice" and as you deliver the flirt that can get you in trouble with...

8. ..."as you bath water"... Ouch!!!

9. Here's an easy one: smile!!!

10. Lastly, enjoy your flirting but keep it at flirting unless you're in a position to take it to another level...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Ebbie
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 08:04 PM

lol, Beaubie.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: kendall
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 08:19 PM

I find that women love to flirt, but they have to feel safe. It's been my experience that if they want more than flirting, they will give a signal that is unmistakable.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Bobert
Date: 27 Sep 13 - 08:39 PM

Jacqui told me that you used "The Voice" to get her, Capt'n with...

..."Hey, baby, wanta see...

...my harpoon?"...

Nice... No, not nice... A masterpiece...

B;~)

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Suzy Sock Puppet
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 12:53 AM

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,Ed T
Date: 25 Sep 13 - 07:48 PM

I never enjoyed flirting with others, or being flirted with. I never had much time for the non-direct approach, either way. Good wishes for those who have the time to dedicate to that flakey-fakey stuff.

My sentiments exactly.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 04:55 AM

"Nice tits!" not a good remark says Bobert. I have absolutely no pretensions to beauty in any part of my body except my feet. I have to boast that my feet are completely perfect, no corns, no bunions, all toes straight etc. But no man has ever said "Nice feet!" Sad really.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Bobert
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 09:42 AM

Nice feet, Eliza...

B;~)

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,leeneia
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 11:58 AM

An excellent post, Bobert. Thanks.

Eliza: I have cute feet too. The DH remarks on them but only because I've clued him in.

I've never been good at the dating game. When the DH approached me for our first date, there was a movie called 'Jeremiah Johnson' being advertised heaviily everywhere. Of course I was paying no attention and had never heard of it.

He came up to me and said, "Have you seen Jeremiah Johnson?" and I said,

"Is he a student? I'm not acquainted with him, but I know a Jim Johnson." That brushed the DH back a little, and we soon got everything figured out and went to see Disney's 'Fantasia' instead.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,Eliza
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 01:58 PM

Thank you very much Bobert, you're the first ever to say that! It's funny leeneia how people get together in spite of misunderstandings and setbacks. My husband many years ago doubted that I was in fact British. Far from flirting, he fired questions at me about UK like a Mastermind quizmaster, with the aim of catching me out. Only after I correctly gave him the name of the Queen's husband, the Prime Minister and some Premier League football teams was he convinced. Not very romantic. But over the years he has more than made up for that. Neither he nor I are flirting types. I used to jokingly call him the Abidjan Strangler, because a dear friend of mine was convinced I'd be done in over in W Africa by this attentive chap, and was sure I'd be found murdered in the hotel! We both feel that Fate decides who meets whom.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: kendall
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 02:26 PM

I don't see flirting as strictly a come on. I'm happily married, have no intention of being otherwise, yet I have a few women friends with whom I like to flirt. They seem to enjoy it too.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Rob Naylor
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 02:36 PM

Will: ... and it helps if you don't dribble at the same time.

When one gets to a certain age (so I've heard) one tends to "dribble" all the time, n'est ce pas?

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,Ed T
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 03:32 PM

I flirted. With death a few times, when driving fast cars in my youthful days (don't try this at home)

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: kendall
Date: 28 Sep 13 - 04:19 PM

I flirted with death a few times too, lucky her husband was too numb to notice.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,JTT
Date: 29 Sep 13 - 06:10 AM

Perhaps we should define our terms here. It's quite easy for someone to give a delicate compliment (as s/he sees it), which feels to its recipient like verbal rape. A week or so ago I heard a woman complaining about a trog who saw her cycling by and leered "I'd like to be the saddle on that bike".
I would gently suggest to those proposing flirting techniques that using the appearance of the body God gave a woman as a reason for admiration is less loveable than admiring her for skills she has developed.
If the same man had told the woman she was a wonderful cyclist, he might have got somewhere. (Though somehow I suspect that the leering tone of the comment meant he didn't want to get anywhere - he wanted to make her feel threatened and inferior.)
I'm pretty lousy at flirting myself - too shy - but I'd suggest that the best way to flirt is appreciation, smiles, genuine kindness.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: kendall
Date: 29 Sep 13 - 06:42 AM

That asshole wasn't flirting, he was being a neanderthal.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,JTT
Date: 29 Sep 13 - 06:06 PM

Well, apart from the slur on Neanderthals, you're right, Kendall; my point, however, stands: someone may think he's flirting, and it may not feel at all like that to the recipient of his attentions.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Bobert
Date: 29 Sep 13 - 08:45 PM

Flirting may be a regional "thang"... Here in the South it is a time honored tradition... Probably one of the positive things one can say about the South but...

...we take pride in flirting...

B;~)

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: kendall
Date: 30 Sep 13 - 07:59 AM

I think it is just another way of saying "I like you."

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,member keeping anon
Date: 30 Sep 13 - 03:23 PM

If your flirting is not meant to be anything but fun, KEEP IT on the safe, cute, charming level (like how they're dressed, what they like to read/eat/listen to/whatever).

If you intend, even SLIGHTLY, for your flirting to "go somewhere", THEN and ONLY then should you say or do anything that could (or should!) be "read into" or re-interpreted.

The only reason I say so is because several times in my life, I've said or implied more than I meant to act upon. The ladies in question were unsure as to how to play that particular game, and went away thinking that I was interested in something I was not (or hadn't considered at the time).

When I did not proceed in the near future to make "something" happen relationally, they were hurt and confused.

Never assume that ANYTHING to do with flirting, teasing, playful come-ons or such things are ever totally innocuous. Even a good friend might harbor a ship that you don't want setting sail, and EVERYONE has a good memory when it comes to things like these.

Lots of experience speaking here (and 25+ years of being KNOWN as a flirt).

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: GUEST,JTT
Date: 30 Sep 13 - 06:13 PM

Well hot damn, Mudcat's shedding posts again! Repeating this post:
I'm with GUEST member keeping anon. I love a flirt for fun. Was just out walking the dog, and passed by a neighbour's house, the neighbour out doing a little late gardening.
"What a night!" I said to him, as it's a steaming 16C in Ireland at the moment.
"In such a night," he said with an expansive gesture, "Stood Dido with a willow in her hand, upon the wild sea banks, and waft her love to come again from Carthage."
"Whoo!" I said, "Red hot!" and the two of us laughed, and he went in and I on my way around the neighbourhood.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: kendall
Date: 30 Sep 13 - 07:47 PM

The best way I know to get info is to ask! Confusion is a waste of time.

Subject: RE: BS: Flirting
From: Donuel
Date: 30 Sep 13 - 08:05 PM

Confirming someone else's reality and worth is a fine and simple thing that is kind at heart.

It sure beats the earphoned isolation and screen staring button pushers walking and driving around in near oblivious blind non involvement with the immediate face to face reality that evolution has best equipped us with.