BS: The modern fake apology

Subject: RE: BS: The modern fake apology
From: Musket
Date: 23 Aug 14 - 02:24 AM

Reminds me of the minister who resigned over his so called special advisor a couple of years ago. His "apology" speech to the house included the phrase "mistakes were made."

Obviously didn't have the balls to say he made them and tried, rather disgracefully by those three words to cast doubt on the judgement of his permanent secretary and staff.

Regarding football managers, the Colemanballs column could never have survived as long without them.

Subject: RE: BS: The modern fake apology
From: Janie
Date: 22 Aug 14 - 10:32 PM

Don't know about the first post - can't quite understand the point being made.

The old time fake apology you reference, Mrrzy, is one I have a different take on. "I'm sorry you got upset" is not a fake apology.

It is not an apology at all, and not intended to be.

It is an expression of regret.

If I say something mean or demeaning to another person with the intention of hurting or demeaning them, I owe an apology. If I disagree with another person and express that disagreement appropriately, I do not owe an apology should they be offended that I disagree. I may still regret that they operate from a place or paradigm that results in them feeling offended. But I am not responsible for that place or paradigm that they inhabit and which leads them to feel offended. That is their responsibility. Not mine. I don't owe them an apology. I can still regret they are offended.

Subject: RE: BS: The modern fake apology
From: Mrrzy
Date: 22 Aug 14 - 09:14 PM

The old-time fake apology: I'm sorry you got upset.

Subject: BS: The modern apology
From: GUEST,Rahere
Date: 22 Aug 14 - 07:21 PM

Having listened to a football manager trying to wriggle his way out of a mess he got himself into, I notice the following:
1. The use of the word "Inappropriate" meaning "I don't accept what you say"
2. The use of the word "Unacceptable" meaning "Oops": if it's unacceptable, then how can you apologise?
Why do we accept these buzzwords, designed to weaken and diminish the expression of offense and apology? Is it a serious apology when they're used?