Thought for the day - May 13, 2000

Subject: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 May 00 - 12:13 AM

The voice of the soul speaks in loving ways and not in "shoulds."

- Diane Mariechild -

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: Mbo
Date: 13 May 00 - 12:27 AM

So I believe, kat, so I believe.

--Mbo

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: Dave (the ancient mariner)
Date: 13 May 00 - 12:39 AM

Aye, but when the brain gets the message we have to open our fat mouths and screw it all up... Yours,(guilty as charged) Aye. Dave

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: katlaughing
Date: 13 May 00 - 01:10 AM

Oh, Dave, we are all guilty. I think it's almost a fatalistic wish within to hear our parent's voices forever or something, telling us what we should and should not do. What's that other quote, something about "is no should, just is!" It does pay off, in the long run, to watch our words, for they do have power, IMO.

Thanks, Embow and Dave for posting.

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: JenEllen
Date: 13 May 00 - 01:22 AM

Beautiful words from a beautiful soul. Thanks kat, Luv, Jen

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: Little Neophyte
Date: 13 May 00 - 02:06 PM

Every time I catch myself saying "I should do this or I should do that" it becomes so obvious to my heart that I am off track.
If I am doing the 'shoulds', my loving soul is very patient with me, hoping I will notice that this was not an honest plan.
So now when the word 'should' pops into my mind, I use it as a barometer that tells me something needs to be honestly looked at a little closer.

Little Neo

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: keltcgrasshoppper
Date: 13 May 00 - 05:06 PM

I always told my son and daughter listen to your heart. I think if we all would try to listen more honestly.. really listen.. the shoulds..would be over powered by the "I will"....Help each other be kind have a wonderful Mothers day..." A mother is not a person to lean on but a person who makes leaning unnecessary." KGH

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 13 May 00 - 06:28 PM

My mother always tells me not to "should" on myself!

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: Sorcha
Date: 13 May 00 - 06:34 PM

Great message for me today, kat, and yours also, grasshopper. I have tried to leave both "should" and "ought" behind, in favor of my heart. Today would have been my mother's 71st birthday, but she died in '98. For a while there, there were too many "have to's" to even think about "should's"........Mother's Day will always be tough for me, but I am LOTS better than I was last year. Thanks, guys.

Sorchawhosefamilyhasnoboobfaairiesatall

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: Megan L
Date: 14 May 00 - 11:11 AM

Sorcha hang in there the 13th is my birthday and a few years ago we buried my Mum on the 10th, she had had a stoke on St Patricks Day which that year happened to be mothers day. It's not easy but one day when I was really low I picked a fragrent rose, I sat looking at it drinking in the wonderfull smell and remembering the greatest gift God ever gave me.

I could have sat there forever but it would have done no good I couldn't remember her back to me. I wandered down to the burn that runs through the field behind the house and dropped the rose into the water. As it dissappeared from sight i realised she had given me a parting gift, understanding, standing there with the scent of the rose still on my fingers I knew I would never see it again but it would always be there for me to look at and smell once more in my memory.

Heck I was trying to chear you up not making my self maudlin, time I got back to a BS thread.

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 May 00 - 01:27 PM

Thank you all for posting such wonderful and heartfelt messages here. Sorcha, I know, this is my second mom's day without my mom and two kids too far away! BUT, as I said on my thread for, today, Mother's Day, I feel I've found a few "second" mom's here, at the Mudcat, and I am grateful for the nurturing and spirit of oneness.

MeganL, that was beuatiful, here is poem I wrote on my mom's the first year after she was gone from us:

To Mom on Her Birthday
March 19, 1999
she passed away on January 18, 1999

Your birthday will always find....
Swallows in Capistrano,
Pussy willows on the mountain
Never quite ready for plucking
in time for your natal day.

This year sadness deepens
At your lack of earthy body and
Sweet countenance to share them with.

Soft, grayness; signal of early Spring,
Earth still deeply sleeping
Brave catkins push through
Pleasing our eyes, warming our hearts
A ritual passing with your passing

Thanks,

kat

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: Amergin
Date: 14 May 00 - 01:35 PM

Kat,

I am so sorry for your loss. May you always be filled with warmth in her remembrance. That poem is absolutely beautiful. Makes me feel the emptiness. Take it easy.

Amergin

Subject: RE: Thought for the day - May 13, 2000
From: BlueJay
Date: 14 May 00 - 04:20 PM

Sorcha, Megan and Kat: Especially today, Mother's Day, brings this home to me. I buried my dear father eleven years ago, so my mother is my only living parent. She is 75, in fairly good health, and totally independant. But our family is really at the point of facing her beloved mortality: I will soon be without any living parents. Very sobering thought. Kat, that's a beautiful poem, may I empathize kind of in advance? I talked to my mom today, of course, and made plans for me to get up to Denver soon. But you never know, sometimes soon is not soon enough. We've been able to split the travel till now, but she can't take the trip to Trinidad any longer. I'm praying that by this summer, my time will be freed up enough that I can make regular trips, instead of twice a year. God, I love my mom, and I probably don't have much longer to demonstrate it. Thank you all for helping to bring me to reality. Jay