I've just buried my grandson

Subject: I've just buried my grandson
From: Mantid
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 02:49 PM

I have just buried my grandson who I never met. He was five months growing and both he and my daughter were seen by the midwife last weekend. The sonogram showed every thing to be just fine. But Wednesday morning my daughter just went into labor and he was born weiging 11 ounces and 10 inches long. He lived about 20 minutes. The hospital dressed him in doll clothes and wrapped him in a blanket and provided a beautiful Chinese-style basket/box so they could bring him home. He is buried on a hill overlooking the Shenadoah mountains. He was my first grandchild. This being Valentines Day, Please have fun with your children and grandchildren. Give them some extra hugs and a bunch of juicy kisses. I will be giving my prayers and tears to little Hadrian Daniel.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Rapparee
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 02:53 PM

My heart goes out to you and yours this Valentine's Day. There's nothing more I can say or do, but know that my thoughts are with you.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Alice
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 02:58 PM

Mantid, I am very sorry to hear your loss. I have twin daughters in a grave together because they were premature. My sympathy to you, the parents, and all your family.

Alice

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: jeffp
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 02:59 PM

My sympathies as well.

jeffp

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: catspaw49
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 03:00 PM

No words will be enough.......We are so sorry. Know that our thoughts are with you. We know the tough times that all of your family must be experiencing. Hold your daughter close and dear; she needs you now more than ever.

Pat & Karen

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Ebbie
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 03:02 PM

My sympathies to each of you. Somehow we survive that kind of loss but it isn't easy. Take care of yourselves.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: InOBU
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 03:13 PM

There is really nothing to say, but know that the whole Mudcat family are holding you and yours in our hearts. Larry

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 03:15 PM

So sorry to hear of your loss. It was touch and go with my daughter's twins who were also born early. Makes one realise just how precious we all are. Please know we send our deepest sympathies. May you find solace in the love of one another.

kat & Rog

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Sonnet
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 03:26 PM

Love,light and hugs.

Jay McS

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Kim C
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 03:29 PM

I am so sorry. I wish you peace and hugs.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: TIA
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 03:49 PM

Hadrian-

May the blessing of the Earth be on you...
may it rest so lightly over you
that your soul may be off from under it quickly
and up and off, and on its way to God

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Sophie
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 03:50 PM

My thoughts and love are with you all.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Deda
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 03:51 PM

I also send hugs and my deep condolences. I am so sorry your family had such a loss. Praying for comfort and healing for you.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: open mike
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:04 PM

no parent or grandparent should have to endure the loss of a child or grandchild...i lost both parents this year, but thier lives were long and full I and I can only imagine how devastating it must be to lose a young one...blessings to all, and the angels have gained a pure spirit to add to their choir! I will send good thoughts to you all as I walk the labyrinth.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: RoyH (Burl)
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:08 PM

My wife and I lost a grandson in just the same way. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and his parents. Burl

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Tinker
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:18 PM

Blessings and Light to aid the dark tiem on your road. Hold each other closely... Kathy

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: McGrath of Harlow
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:18 PM

Hadrian Daniel - those are great names.

I hope some day you'll be able to tell his little brother or sister about the brother who's looking out for them.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Jimmy C
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:30 PM

Mantid, I am so terribly sorry to hear about the little one, my heartfelt sympathy to you and yours. My thoughts are with you today.

God bless

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: CarolC
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:36 PM

Our deepest condolences to you and your family on your loss, Mantid.

Carol and Jack the Sailor

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Mary in Kentucky
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:37 PM

I'm terribly sorry.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Sorcha
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:41 PM

My deepest, deepest sympathy to you and all the family.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST,maire-aine
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:48 PM

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Love and prayers to you and your family.

Maryanne

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Mantid
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:49 PM

Thank everyone for your kind words and warm thoughts. I am going to print this thread and give it to my daughter and son-in-law this weekend. I'm sure it will be a comfort to them.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: SINSULL
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 04:52 PM

I am sorry.Keep his parents close. They need you now.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: rock chick
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 05:05 PM

Mantid such a loss is so deep, now you need to be so strong for little Hadrian Daniel parents, may you find the strength in each other, my heart felt thoughts go out to you all.

shelagh

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Wesley S
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 06:00 PM

I've been there too. About two years ago my wife and I lost one of our twins when he was 6 days old. We were very lucky to have a wonderful support system that included many of the good people here at the Mudcat. I'll be keeping you and Hadrians parents in my thoughts and prayers. The next few months and years will be tough but it will get better.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: DougR
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 06:56 PM

Sorry for your loss Mantid.

DougR

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Brakn
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 07:41 PM

My thoughts are with you.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: smallpiper
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 07:50 PM

I'm sorry for your loss and will remember you all in my prayers
John

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST,jaze
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 07:51 PM

I'm so very sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Bobert
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 07:54 PM

I am so sorry to hear of your family's loss. I have just now said a prayer for you, your grandchild and the parents. God has a special place in Heaven this child.

Bobert

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST,darkriver
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 08:02 PM

Mantid,

So sorry about this news. My thoughts are with you and with Hadrian Daniel's parents.

darkriver

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Mudlark
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 08:46 PM

Very sorry to hear this news. My deepest sympathy to you all.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST,DancingMom
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 09:29 PM

I'm sorry.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Morticia
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 09:46 PM

Holding you and your family in the light....may you have the strength to come through this.....much love,

Terri

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Steve Latimer
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 10:02 PM

My condolences to all.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Rustic Rebel
Date: 14 Feb 03 - 11:49 PM

My heart-felt sympathy to you and your family, Mantid.
Love, Rustic

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Gypsy
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 12:07 AM

((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) to one and all. Am so very sorry to hear of your families loss

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Art Thieme
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 12:23 AM

Mantid,

Just terrible. So sad. No words really. All I can think of tonight is the fact that---just today---I mailed off a birthday gift for our granddaughter who will be two years old the 28th of this month. My daughter-in-law also had a miscarriage. It simply devastated us all. Then, a year later, the light of my life, Chloe Moon Thieme was born helthy, happy and with a smile like the rainbow and the pot of gold combined.

All the best----now and in the future.

Art Thieme

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: BlueJay
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 01:52 AM

Dear Mantid- So sorry. I can't even pretend to know you and your family's grief. My grandson was premature, and it was pretty touchy, but he is OK today. My family's thoughts are with you. Sadly, a lady at work just had to go out of town because her daughter's child was stillborn.
Thanks for the reminder, Mantid. I'll hug my grandson tomorrow. My other kids as well. You did a good thing by sharing this. A lot of kids are gonna get a lot of hugs tomorrow. Thanks, BlueJay

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: mouldy
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 03:07 AM

My heartfelt sympathy and warm loving wishes to all of you. I cannot even begin to imagine your pain at the moment. But by sharing it, you are helping yourself and your family.

My neighbour had to have her second child, a daughter, aborted at 5 months due to an extremely severe heart deformation, which meant that she was unlikely to survive even gestation, let alone labour. (The defect was picked up on a merely routine scan, when she had gone there on her own; she was told to go home and talk it over with her husband and make the hardest decision of her life). After the birth the hospital held a form of Baptism for the baby, and her name is in a beautiful book of remembrance in York Infirmary chapel: one which is kept specifically for babies. She is buried in a churchyard in the village where her grandparents live (as her parents were in rented accommodation and still house-hunting at the time). Since then my friend has had her third child, but has never excluded Lucy from the family number. Both children knew all along they have a sister "with God", and each Christmas she has her candle at the candlelit services in our village church. She would have been about 12 years old now. When Heather moved to our village it was only a few months after the event. She was always open about it, even then, and we have cried together over our respective kitchen tables!

There is a difficult road immediately in front of you, but it will get better, I'm sure, because of the love and support you have for each other. It will just take as long as it takes, like any road, and you must go at your own pace.

Andrea

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Genie
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 04:53 AM

So very sorry to hear of this great loss to you and your family, Mantid. My deep sympathy and concern go out to all of you at this saddest of times.

Genie

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Pushkin
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 04:57 AM

Our thoughts are with you at this time Mantid.

Pushkin and StevetheORC

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Escamillo
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 05:12 AM

I'm very sorry, Mantid, you don't know me, I have been silent for months because I've lost my dear wife after a long fight against cancer, on December 6. Your grandson and family will share my prayers for her and for our first grandson who is now coming.

Un abrazo
Andrés (in Buenos Aires, Argentina)

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Jeanie
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 06:00 AM

Sending Love to you Mantid, your daughter, her husband and all your family. May you find every strength and courage to see you through this sad time.

Like others who have posted here, I too lost my first little one, who I called Patrick. Although he never set foot on this earth, it gives me great comfort now, sixteen years on, to know that his brief visit left as much of a positive, life-changing, lasting influence for good as if he had been here three score years and ten.

With Love to your family and to Hadrian Daniel,

- jeanie

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: gnu
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 06:31 AM

Thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 06:38 AM

Love and prayers. The fact that you never held your grandson doesn't diminish the anguish. Know that you are being held in light and love.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Cllr
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 07:25 AM

Difficult to add to the thoughts expressed here, so just to say my prayers are with you and your family. Cllr

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: fat B****rd
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 04:02 PM

I feel so bad for you and your family. Please accept my kind thoughts and best regards.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Carly
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 05:26 PM

My heart-felt sympathy.Hold on to those who you
care about and who care for you;
love is the best response I know of to tragedy.