I've just buried my grandson

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: weerover
Date: 15 Feb 03 - 05:39 PM

My wife and I had the same experience. My daughter lost her own (perfectly healthy) daughter through a complication just a day before she should have been born. I never knew that mental anguish could be such a physical pain. I had had a faith of sorts which took a major blow that is still reverberating. My heart goes out to you and anyone else who has ever been in this position.

We now have a grandson a few months old who lights up our lives every time we see him.

wr

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Tig
Date: 16 Feb 03 - 05:29 PM

Mantid, my heart goes out to you.

I couldn't post when I first read this thread as it brought back the heartache when our second daughter (Firecat's little sister) was still born. She would have been severely handicapped if she had lived but we didn't know this until the delivery.

You will never forget him and he will always have a special place in your heart.

Lots of love and hugs,
Chris xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Socorro
Date: 16 Feb 03 - 08:29 PM

Dear Mantid,
Your post touched me very deeply. I can only add my prayers.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: M.Ted
Date: 16 Feb 03 - 11:27 PM

From our own experience, I know that this is a different kind of pain than any other--all the best thoughts for you and your family.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST,.gargoyle
Date: 16 Feb 03 - 11:43 PM

He wasn't into the third tri-mester.

Most mudcatting pro-abortionists would feel no grief - since there was "no passing" of a "human being."

I, on the other hand, understand your pain, and commiserate with your loss....life begins at conception.

Sincerest condolances,
Gargoyle

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Bugsy
Date: 17 Feb 03 - 12:10 AM

We too have lost a grandson, though we were lucky enough to have him with us for 3 months.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you, your daughter and all your family.

I do believe they look down on us from some higher place.


Bugsy

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: aussiebloke
Date: 17 Feb 03 - 11:04 AM

Mantid

I used to be a delivery suite midwife, and saw plenty of the human side of these type of tragic events. I was the guy who would speak to grandparents (such as your good selves) over the phone, and (with the permission from the parents) deliver the devastating line which begins "I regret to inform you...."

It hurts everyone really bad, parents and grandparents alike. Over time you hurt less and less, but you never forget. I am sorry for your loss, please accept my condolences...

aussiebloke

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Steve Parkes
Date: 17 Feb 03 - 11:55 AM

Yes, we've been there too. A long time ago now, but Sue lost (we think) abut four altogether; two stopped growing at three months and had to be removed (not a nice word for it, but just not nice at all), and the others were a little earlier and went by themselves. We have two wonderful grown-up kids whom we're very proud of, so maybe it's just not time for your daughter just yet. We sahll think about you all.

Steve & Sue

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST,Codfish
Date: 17 Feb 03 - 01:58 PM

It's so hard to understand why these things have to happen. It happened to our daughter but fortunately she went on to have three healthy sons. I hope and pray that the same holds true in your family.
May the Good Lord bless all of you during this difficult time.

Codfish

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST,Dumbfounded
Date: 17 Feb 03 - 04:01 PM

Reading the genuine sympathy and feeling of the postings to this thread emboldens me to ask
What do I say to my friend Jim whose beautiful young student grand-daughter lost her life , tragically, at the week-end. I know that I must speak to him soon but the fear of adding more grief to what must be by now an overwhelming burden makes me hesitate.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Jack The Lad
Date: 17 Feb 03 - 04:15 PM

My thoughts and prayers go with you Mantid, and with the parents. May Hadrian enjoy everlasting peace.
Jack The Lad

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Jim Colbert
Date: 17 Feb 03 - 04:15 PM

Nothing's going to make it better, but know that you have our sympathy, empathy and prayers. Everything I would have said has already been said here.

Be well, and be there for your family. And know that people you don't even know, or wouldn't know if you fell over, feel your sorrow and loss.

jpc

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST,.gargoyle
Date: 17 Feb 03 - 11:26 PM

SAY NOTHING - just listen....bite your tongue, even if it bleeds.

Sincerely,
Gargoyle

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST
Date: 18 Feb 03 - 05:30 PM

I was not able to post when I read your thread, I wanted to call my wife so that she could read it too. I had to go and get her and point to the screen as I was too close to tears to talk. We sat together and cried.
Today is our son's 11th birthday, when he blew out his candles I remembered you and the tears welled up again so I just had to find this thread again and say something - but what can I say that may help? nothing other than there are strangers out there hurting with you even thow we don't know anything about you other than your name.
Be strong in the knowledge that there is support out there.
Send another thread in a years time & another a year after.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: bfolkemer
Date: 18 Feb 03 - 07:52 PM

Mantid,

As tears well up, I want to add my post to the others. Hadrian will always be part of your family, just as my elder brother is. Prayers and love for you and your whole family.

Beth

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Seamus Kennedy
Date: 19 Feb 03 - 02:55 AM

Mantid, my sincerest condolences to you and your family on this loss.

Seamus

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Ella who is Sooze
Date: 19 Feb 03 - 03:06 AM

Condolances to you and yours for your troubles. Not much else I can say except I'm sending my best wishes. These things are unfair, but remember he'll always be with you and around you.

Regards

Ella

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST,Sandy Paton
Date: 19 Feb 03 - 04:20 AM

Your heartbreak makes me cherish my own grandchildren even more. God! I can't imagine the pain of losing one of them. My wife and I offer our deepest sympathy to you and your family.
    Sandy

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: GUEST,JohnL
Date: 19 Feb 03 - 04:35 AM

So sorry to read of your loss.

My daughter (who is a midwife) had our first grand child, a beautiful baby girl, 2 1/2 months premature weighing in at 2lb 7 oz last November. After several weeks in intensive care and many ups and downs including blood transfusions, infections etc. she is now at home at last and putting on the weight.

We know how lucky we have been but your message still hits home to me.

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: JennyO
Date: 19 Feb 03 - 11:21 AM

I am expecting my first grandchild in about 4 months and, thinking about how I would feel, my heart goes out to you and your daughter. You will get through this, and there will be happy times in the future! Sending love from Australia.

Jenny

Subject: RE: I've just buried my grandson
From: Beccy
Date: 19 Feb 03 - 01:40 PM

Mantid- My little sister lost 2 babies this year, (her first two pregnancies) as well. The grief is not any less than had she birthed them at full term. I'm terribly sorry and I send my condolences to you and your daughter. Hadrian Daniel will be among the angels.
May God Bless and keep you,
Beccy