Obit: My grandma

Subject: Obit: My grandma
From: Morticia
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 05:25 PM

My much loved grandmother,Micca's mother, died today.She was an amazing woman.....I was lucky to have such a role model. She loved her family and opera, and books ....she had the gift of making me feel that, no matter what, she was always on my side.She made time for me when everyone else was too busy. She was convinced that one day I would be a great woman.....I did the best I could and I hope she knows that a lot of it was due to her.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: DonMeixner
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 05:34 PM

Morty,

My condolences to you and Micca. I am always amazed at the wisdom of Grandparents. They seem to know our futures and possibilities long before we do.   You are blessed to have such a Grandmother as yours.

Don

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: CarolC
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 05:35 PM

Our condolences to you and to Micca on your loss, Morticia. You very were lucky to have one of the good ones.

Carol and Rob

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: open mike
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 05:49 PM

oh, sorry, hun. hugs. treasure the memories.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Alba
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 06:05 PM

Oh Morticia, I'm sorry to hear of your Loss.
She always will be on your side my Dear no matter where she has gone on to. How good it must be for her to know that you have indeed became the Woman she wished you would be...because you are.
Love to You and Micca and all your Family.
You will all be in my thoughts as will your Grandma.
Blesssed Be
Jude

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 06:10 PM

Love and light and hugs to you, dear Morty, and to Micca, too.

Love,

Allison

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Amergin
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 06:26 PM

sorry to hear of this, Terri...grammas are very special people..and the world seems so much darker without them...

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Áine
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 06:55 PM

Morticia, Micca,

I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like you'll always have such lovely memories of her to hold close. You are very lucky in that way. Your grandmother must have been a treasure.

Big hugs to you both, Áine

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: katlaughing
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 06:58 PM

It is wonderful that you had your grandma for all of these years, Terri, and that, as Alba says, you've grown to be the woman you wanted to be, as your grandma showed you to be. I am so sorry she has gone on.

Miccadarlin'...you know...all of our love is with you both, now, and the energy will flow with Light, Life, and Love,

So mote it be,

love,

Kat & Rog

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: ranger1
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 07:16 PM

I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like she was a wonderful woman.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Fibula Mattock
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 07:27 PM

Morty, Micca - I'm sorry to hear that. Good thoughts be with you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: MMario
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 07:34 PM

I always regret not having met the loved ones lost by people I respect and admire - so your grandmother is doubly regretted - Morti and Micca you have my sincere condolences.

(yeesh - that sounds stilted!)

Bug hugs to you both - even if they are only virtual.

MMario

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Leadfingers
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 07:42 PM

Oh Bugger!!! Serious condolences in BOTH directions.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: MMario
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 07:47 PM

urp - make that "BIG" hugs - though if I had six arms they would be bug hugs

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Herga Kitty
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 08:47 PM

Morty and Micca

I'm sorry that you're grieving, but the pair of you - and Pixie - are proof that she has left a wonderful legacy, and cause for celebration as well as grief.

Kitty

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: wysiwyg
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 08:54 PM

Loss is profound, innit?

Morty, the thing about elders who inspire us is that they always are our elders... at any given point in time, they were becoming the great person we saw. Just as you are now, always, becoming the person others see. The greatness is in the becoming, and I would bet there are people now who see, in you, what you saw in her when she was the age you are now. The great ones never feel great-- and that's part of the greatness... it has to be named from others' viewpoints.

~Susan

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Big Mick
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 09:18 PM

My dear friends Micca, Morticia, and Pixie of Doom. I am sorry for your loss, but I hope you take consolations of the teachings of your people. Those who have gotten away are never far, and will be heard if one but listens.

I hope, when the sadness abates a bit, that all three of you will share some stories about, what I suspect was a remarkable woman.

God be good to her.

Mick

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: SINSULL
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 09:51 PM

Morticia,
I am so sorry. I lost both grandmothers before I was 12 yet they had a more profound influence on me than my parents. Wise women both. Yours too - she saw the greatness in you.

Micca, the Pixie and you will be in my prayers.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 27 Apr 04 - 10:01 PM

"Bug Hugs" from here, also--I like that image of MMario enfolding each of you in a six-armed hug.

I hope as they occur to you and you're ready that you'll share stories about your grandmother.

SRS

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Jeanie
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 02:58 AM

Sending Love to you Morticia, Pixie, Micca and all your family.

- jeanie

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: jacqui.c
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 03:38 AM

Dear Terri, so sorry to hear of your loss. Your granny was right, you ARE a great woman in my eyes.
Micca and Fiona, it sounds like you were blessed with a great woman in your lives, my warmest best wishes to all three of you. Kendall.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: freda underhill
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 06:09 AM

Micca, Morticia, and Pixie of Doom

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news, and send my love and best wishes

Freda

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Steve Parkes
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 06:42 AM

I still miss my grandparents after all these years, but I can tell you (and you already know, I'm sure) that when the pain begins to fade, the love will still be there, and always will.

Steve

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: JennyO
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 10:58 AM

Sending loving thoughts and hugs to you all from Oz.

Blessed Be, Jenny

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Janie
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 11:28 AM

Dear Terri, Micca & Pixie,

So very sorry. Love and prayers to you all.

Janie

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Willie-O
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 11:34 AM

Condolences, Terri. She obviously lived a full and valuable life and I know you'll miss her.

Now I'm confused or curious about how all of you are related. Family tree?

W-O

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Sorcha
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 11:43 AM

Hugs, big 6 armed bug hugs from me, Morty.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Allan C.
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 11:46 AM

Micca is Morticia's uncle. Terri's grandmother, Pixie of Doom's great grandmother, was Micca's mother. My condolences to all.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Mrs.Duck
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 01:11 PM

Thinking of you all and sending the biggest of hugs to each of you.
Jane and Geoff

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Tig
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 01:50 PM

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Tig, FC and the Badger.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: GUEST,Diva
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 02:38 PM

Sorry to hear your sad news

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Raptor
Date: 28 Apr 04 - 04:21 PM

I'm Sorry!

David

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Mooh
Date: 29 Apr 04 - 12:59 PM

I'm sorry for your loss.

The only grandparent still around when I was born managed to live to 99 to make up for the absence of the others, I always believed. She was the simplest and most wise woman I knew, a combination of qualities which still makes me ponder. I take comfort in what she left me in love and example, and I hope you can do the same.

May her years of life now ended, be years of love remembered.

Peace, Mooh.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: fat B****rd
Date: 29 Apr 04 - 01:01 PM

Please accept my sympathies. Kind regards from the fB.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Tinker
Date: 29 Apr 04 - 01:25 PM

I truely thought I posted yesterday, but my thoughts must have gone off into cyberspace. Teri, I'm holding thoughts of you all very close. She sounds like one of the wise women one hopes to love and emulate. Since she was of the opinion you would become a great woman, you clearly can not doubt her wisdom.   I read not long ago that you and I will have to wait til we hit 56 to become "young crones" I think I've still got a hell of a lot to learn, but give thanks for all the lessons she shared on her way.

Blessings and Light

tinker

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Pistachio
Date: 29 Apr 04 - 01:44 PM

So sorry to hear your news. Hold on to those memories. Hazel

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Morticia
Date: 29 Apr 04 - 03:14 PM

S'funny, my grandma was the one who taught me to knit in spite of all the evidence that I was two left thumbs only. She just persevered, in her patient and humourous way, knowing I'd catch on in time. Just these last few months I've been working on a really complex knitting project and thinking how much she'd smile to see me now.Maybe she can.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: jacqui.c
Date: 30 Apr 04 - 02:45 AM

Hi Terri - just to add my own condolences to all of you. Bug hugs from here as well.

Jacqui

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Micca
Date: 30 Apr 04 - 06:18 AM

First may I sincerely thank, on my own behalf and my family's, all who have posted here or who have e-mailed and PM me, Your support and wishes have been a great comfort.

What can I say about my mother? That would even begin to give you a flavour of the Unique person she is (and always will be to me) Perhaps just a few points:

She taught me to read and love books before I went to school (aged 4)
She taught me to love singing , and music of all kinds, but it was her family tradition of singing that I finally led me to take it up , though sadly , she never heard me sing since I acquired the confidence to do so in public nor to hear any of the songs I wrote..
She taught me love Opera, even tho' she was a Puccini and Verdi fan, and I was a throwback to her father, preferring Mozart and Wagner
She taught me to cook and do Laundry and stuff like that, because she believed that they were essential skills for living,
She encouraged me to think for myself, to stand on my own two feet and to acknowledge some as my equal and NONE as my "betters"
She was a Catholic all her life but NEVER forced it on her children, once they were old enough to think for themselves (in my case age 14) but I realised there was always more than a hint of a different spirituality about her
She had a very tough childhood, if you want an inkling, read Frank McCourts "Angela's Ashes" the Blind lady that lived next door to him whose radio Young Frank used to listen to was her mother, my Grandma, so she came from that background and rose above it.
She brought up 5 children in Limerick around the same time as McCourt, mostly alone and single handed by her own efforts, by doing menial cleaning work, and then moved us to London so that I could get an eyesight saving operation in 1960, working in the laundry of a Hotel.
Yet in all this she retained a sharp sense of humour and wit
She had a love of gardening that was almost a mania, and possessed a green thumb to the extent that if a tall plant was sagging and she put in a cane to support it , as likely as not the cane would start to grow too!!!!
She moved to Hawaii in 1976 ( about) to live with my late Sister Fin, so that the climate would ease her arthritis and Bronchitis (the damp in London was making it increasingly difficult to garden) and found a complete new Flora to play with, I understand she grew roses again too.
She was all these things and yet so much more, a small Feisty fighter to the end that will be missed by all of us and those that knew her

She was Ita Patterson (nee Purcell) 1916-2004
And Today is the 2nd anniversary of the passing of her daughter and my beloved sister Fionnuala (Fin) Nakamura Manassas (nee Patterson)
May they both Rest in Peace

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 30 Apr 04 - 09:22 PM

Oh, Micca, my dear, thank you for that wonderful eulogy. What a beautiful, strong woman. And she gave us you, and Morty besides!

Blessings on you all.

Love,

Allison

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Bobert
Date: 30 Apr 04 - 10:09 PM

Sorry to read of yer loss... A real bummer...

Mine? Loiuse Oliver. Born 1899. Died at 101 years old in 2001 just short of her 102nd birthday.

She was a pistol. Lived most of her life in Detroit and worked in bars but she had class and an eye for art and design... She had a boyfriend who was a draftsman from 1949 until his death in 1996 and she never saw him without his suit and tie. She owned a house in the ghetto and wandered the tough streets carrying food to stay cats...

Purdy amazing woman, come to think about it...

But still sorry to read of yer loss...

Sniff...

Bobert

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: KT
Date: 01 May 04 - 01:07 AM

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Truly, the world is made so much better by her having been here. Sending warm thoughts your way. KT

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Peace
Date: 01 May 04 - 11:36 PM

Accept my condolences, and I do apologize for being so late with them.

Bruce M

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: Mudlark
Date: 02 May 04 - 01:11 AM

A devastating loss...my sympathies go to all of you. Thank you Micca, for the wonderful eulogy...the more remarkable the person is, the harder, sometimes they are to sum them up. You've made a great start.

Subject: RE: Obit: My grandma
From: karen k
Date: 03 May 04 - 12:01 AM

Terri and Micca,
My thoughts and condolences are with you both. May her memory live in your hearts forever.

love,
karen