Lyr Add: The Stillborn Angel

Subject: Lyr Add: THE STILLBORN ANGEL
From: Amergin
Date: 12 May 04 - 12:45 AM

or at least that is what i'll call it for now....

anyways some one i know at another board was pregnant...31 weeks and was really excited and looking forward to being a mother...then she went into labour early...and the child was still born...I read her blog and from ecstatic joy it went to devestation...anyways i wrote this and was wondering what others thought of it before I showed it to her...which it may yet be too soon....but anyways:


THE STILLBORN ANGEL
(tune: Carrickfergus)

I wish I had you for one more day,
Just to hold you in my arms
I would fly across the heavens,
For one more night to be with you,
But the sea is wide and I cannot cross over
And neither have I the wings to fly
I'll have to wait til my time is over
Til I may join you among the stars

Every waking day bring back sad reflections
Of happy times that seem long ago,
When I would look forward to your coming
When you'd be with us, my own sweet babe.
Now I spend my days in endless mourning,
My heart is broken, the tears run free.
I sit staring at your empty bedroom,
Sometimes I see your sleeping form


But I know, that you are watching,
From above, a glistening star
As we stand here with dampened eyes
Laying your body into your grave.
And then you sprout wings, my little angel,
And fly to greet your loving god,
Oh, the time will come when I'll be with you
Then I'll hold you tightly and never let go


nathan tompkins

Subject: RE: Lyr Add: The Stillborn Angel
From: Jeanie
Date: 12 May 04 - 03:12 AM

This captures the feelings of the moment perfectly, Nathan. Although it will be impossible for her to see it now, please tell this lady from me that there *will* come a time when her feelings *will* change and she will be able to come to a point of understanding that the gap is not so wide, that nobody actually went *anywhere* and that the closest of connections still exists between them. I lost my first baby, and my own twin sister was stillborn. These souls, dear to me, are leaving their mark on this world as much as if they had lived three score years and ten.

With Love and prayers for this lady and her partner and family as they go through these inevitably dark days, until a new day dawns more brightly, with a new song to sing.

- jeanie xxx

Subject: RE: Lyr Add: The Stillborn Angel
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 12 May 04 - 06:28 AM

When grief is raw, there may seem no words to express it. I found poetry of grief to be one of the most helpful things. This is beautiful, Nathan. You show such compassion and understanding in it, two things she's needing right now.
Please also be aware that it may open fresh expressions of grief, and she may not be able to respond to you for awhile.
Thanks for sharing the song with us.

Allison

Subject: RE: Lyr Add: The Stillborn Angel
From: LindsayInWales
Date: 12 May 04 - 07:32 AM

I lost four babies in the 1970s before finally having a son in 1980 and a daughter in 1984 - the two most precious people on earth to me. Anything you can do, however small, to ease the grief of your friend I am sure will be welcome. I am certain that the Miscarriage Association, based in Wakefied Hospital, would love a copy of this.

Please pass on my love to your friend

Lindsay -x-

Subject: RE: Lyr Add: The Stillborn Angel
From: Moses
Date: 12 May 04 - 07:34 AM

Nathan

Sometimes even the kindest and most sympathetic thoughts and deeds can't help or reach the bereaved. The important thing is that you care and show you care.

A hug, a kind word, a gentle touch, a heartfelt poem. She will remember these things.

There will be times, even 30 years on when something, like your poem perhaps, will bring to the surface her grief, but mostly things will get better. Time and love, the healers.

- Christine xxx

Subject: RE: Lyr Add: The Stillborn Angel
From: black walnut
Date: 12 May 04 - 08:07 AM

My first, Joanna, was stillborn at full term. That was 20 years ago, and time has yet to heal or make the memory distant. I've never been able to write a song about it, but my garden is her garden.
Nevertheless, despite the pain, there have been many important things learned...including the preciousness of my other children, of time, of friendships, of beauty. And there is the strength of hope and courage that comes from endurance.

And there is an unspeakable understanding between people who have gone through similar experiences.

Blessings,

~b.w.

Subject: RE: Lyr Add: The Stillborn Angel
From: GUEST,amergin
Date: 12 May 04 - 02:59 PM

Thank you all for your kind words...I haven't shown it to her yet...but i may wait and see what those who know her better say about it before i do...her situation has affected me more than it normally would...possibly because as an expectant father myself...i never want to know for sure what it feels like to lose a child...

again thank you.

Subject: RE: Lyr Add: The Stillborn Angel
From: open mike
Date: 13 May 04 - 12:56 AM

It is possible that you could put into words
what the parents of this angel are not able to
and you seem to have spoken for them, and done it well.
My younger sister was still born also and your
words speak to me as well.
It seems that another mud catter has written
a story or song about a similar situation
recently...does any one recall?
maybe it is a song or story about a miscarriage?

Subject: RE: Lyr Add: The Stillborn Angel
From: Amergin
Date: 18 Jun 04 - 10:42 PM

I do remember that Marion wrote a lovely song about such an occurrence...

i want to thank again everyone's kind words i have shared it with the mother and she loved it and everything and your words have touched her.