BS: Things I've learned this year

Subject: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,Blushing catter
Date: 11 Dec 04 - 10:00 AM

Well in the spirit of Yule, I'll go first. We need a nice postive thread after all the recent nippy ones. I've learned the value of true friendship and love from someone who means more to me than I can ever say but I suspect he knows!!!! *****BG****
I have learned to pace myself and realise its okay sometimes not to push onesself to the limits but to take it easy
I have learned to distance myself from people who would be detrmental to my health and well being...its quite acceptable to walk away

so come on you lot.......what have you learned this year that you'd like to share

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: mack/misophist
Date: 11 Dec 04 - 10:12 AM

Ilearned to count to five. It's quite a breakthrough for me. Thumbs are so confusing.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: jeffp
Date: 11 Dec 04 - 10:52 AM

I've learned how to do CPR and operate an Automatic External Defibrillator, pack open wounds, and got certified in basic first aid.

I've also learned how to make really good barbecue.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: katlaughing
Date: 11 Dec 04 - 10:54 AM

I've learned if you can't beat 'em, you don't have to join 'em...it's okay to walk away.

I've learned, just recently, I am an orphan.:-)

How fun it is to have a baby in the house after so many years of grown-up kids.

How deeply held and appreciated certain friendships are and that my choice of life partner is reaffirmed as the right choice, year after year...26 this spring, with 25 as married in March.

How to turn loose and let adult children do their thing without my hair turning white.

I am gratefull.

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Jerry Rasmussen
Date: 11 Dec 04 - 11:05 AM

Everything I learned this year, I learned last year. I just learned it a little better this year. The most important thing I'm slowly learning better is my limitations. My greatest limitation is changing. And, if I have so much trouble changing myself, why would I be so foolish to think that I could change someone else? Or even know what they should do with their lives? I have my hands full just trying to figure out what I should do with mine.

Some of the greatest revelations in life are just warmed over revelations that have already been revealed a thousand times.

Jerry

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: frogprince
Date: 11 Dec 04 - 12:39 PM

1.I'm still capable of painting the complete outside of a house.
2.I'm still capable of laying a substantal amount of hardwood flooring.
3.I'm too old to do either of the above again without some very strong incentive.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: freightdawg
Date: 11 Dec 04 - 01:58 PM

1. Happiness is a newly adopted kitten purring in your lap.
2. You can teach an old 'dawg new tricks (if he wants to learn).
3. If you treat others with respect, they will pretty much always respect you.
4. Even if they do not, it really doesn't matter.
5. Especially if you have a newly adopted kitten purring in your lap.

Okay, so none of those was original, and I didn't just learn them this year. But I sure was reminded of them.

F'dawgie

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: dianavan
Date: 11 Dec 04 - 11:29 PM

I learned how to drain the water from my hot-water heating system. I learned how to add rust retardant to the gravity fed reservoir. I learned how to replace valves. I learned that everytime I do something new I am apprehensive but that I am quite capable.

I learned that I can climb the ladder and clean the eaves and that if I don't look down I'm not afraid.

I learned that the effects of malnutrition on the brain are irreversible.

I learned that I still have lots to learn.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: freda underhill
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 12:25 AM

I learnt that I'm in a rut and have do do something about it.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,Blushing catter
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 08:19 AM

lovely......keep 'em coming in
ohh I learned I'm not invincible and that its ok not to be!!!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: KT
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 10:41 AM

This is a lovely thread and a great thing to ponder at this time of year!

I've learned........

lots of new fiddle tunes

how wonderful it is to meet Mudcatters in person!!!!!

the brain is always growing and developing, therefore, there's no time like the present to take up a new instrument!!

KT

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: CarolC
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 04:42 PM

I've learned quite a lot about the care and feeding of blackwater tanks and hoses that come with travel trailers. I have learned that blackwater does not flow uphill, and that if there isn't a natural sloping hill for your hose, you have to be the hill yourself. And I've learned that periodically, no matter how much tank treatment you use, sometimes you have to give the tank a good flushing out with fresh water.

;-)

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 04:53 PM

I learned that you can start again, regardless of what others tell you.

I learned that I'm not a hypochondriac, there really is a problem, and I should have gone on to private health care!

I learned that the best friend is the one who buys you extra batteries.

I also learned that I can too be 40 and go to a rock gig and not be out of place.... surrouneded by teenyboppers from 11yrs up, to someone's dad, who was at least 50 - and we were ALL boogying, clapping and bouncing around!

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 06:11 PM

I learned I was a know it all. But then again I knew that already:-)

Cheers

DtG

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Bee-dubya-ell
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 06:31 PM

I've learned that a Category 4 hurricane can knock down a lot of trees. As a result, I've learned to be a really good chainsaw operator.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 08:12 PM

to let go.....a hard lesson and well worth the learning as what I have now is of an immeasurable worth

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 08:14 PM

I have learned that some Mudcatters are wonderful and some are cra.......................................................... crabby
Best wishes, Mike.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 08:17 PM

and some are best left well alone unless you want a visit down the local GUM clinic

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: beetle cat
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 09:18 PM

When you move away from home, you get to steal your friends songs.
And learn new ones.
But you'll miss your friends, 'cause it's never the same as when they sing them.
~mary.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,Art Thieme
Date: 12 Dec 04 - 10:04 PM

...that I now know more dead people than live ones.

Art

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 13 Dec 04 - 04:06 PM

I am reminded how amazing your kids can be and what interesting people they become as they grow.

I learned how to use my circular saw better this year (lots of practice) and next year I want to learn to use my router and radial arm saw.

And I have just begun the long and eminently satisfying exercise in converting tape recordings into digital files to burn to CD. My children are becoming familiar with their grandfather all over again as they hear him sing so many of his songs. "It's nice to hear that song sung the right way," one of them remarked last week (of his particular version of "The Outlandish Knight"). They'll learn that there can be many good versions of things, but it's also okay to have favorites.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: open mike
Date: 13 Dec 04 - 04:30 PM

that i can be in a band and bring music to people
and be compensated for doing so!

that being at a music festival and being able to enjoy the music
while snuggling with someone is very satisfying.

but if that someone is deceiving you, it is possible(and adviseable)
to break away from the relationship and go on alone.

that having a dog as a companion can be better than
having a boy friend who is not honest with you.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Tannywheeler
Date: 13 Dec 04 - 04:35 PM

Goodnews/Badnews:
Good -- I'm going to have another grandchild next spring; hubby's going a little financially goofy(he got this computer); (reaffirmed)once your kids survive teenageitis they turn into reasonably decent human beings; I can learn to surf the WEB; there's a Mudcat site.....

BAD -- what a pleasure it can be to spend hours in front of this darn computer screen reading the learned, goofy, fascinating, outrageous, hilarious posts of 'Catters....

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: LilyFestre
Date: 13 Dec 04 - 05:06 PM

I learned quite a bit this year:

I learned that I need to trust my gut more often.

I learned that sometimes it takes a long time for an apology to be meaningful.

I learned that it's okay to lean on people for support sometimes.

That's a pretty good start for what I've learned this year.

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Ellenpoly
Date: 14 Dec 04 - 04:37 AM

Good thread, folks!

I've learned that I've forgotten a fair bit, but it's ok.

I've learned that I am still willing to take chances, and accept failure when it comes.

I've learned that I'm usually alright when I trust my instincts...even if they take a while to kick in.

I've learned once again that my friends are my greatest treasure.

I've learned that I need to be more social, and probably need to make a move from here. Both of these really itimidate me, but that's not such a bad thing...without challenges we stagnate.

..xx..e

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,Blushing catter
Date: 14 Dec 04 - 06:08 AM

keep 'em coming.......

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,Mingulay
Date: 14 Dec 04 - 06:32 AM

I've learnt to be silly again. With advancing years I find that I don't care any more if people think that I am going bonkers. There are, obviously, times when one has to be serious and learned and use some of that accrued wisdom and knowledge that age supposedly infers. But, on the whole, I like being silly now and then and fortunately often seem to find myself in the company of like minded others both in the real world and here within cyberworld of the electric word sending machine.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Ellenpoly
Date: 14 Dec 04 - 07:33 AM

Mingulay, I so agree with you, and to that end...


http://www.ladyjayes.com/oldwoman.html


;-D

..xx..e

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,Mingulay
Date: 14 Dec 04 - 08:25 AM

Nice one Ellenpoly. Will pass that one on to my girlfriend. Apart from anything else purple is her favourite colour. We may both be getting old, but by god we're silly and proud of it.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Ellenpoly
Date: 15 Dec 04 - 07:13 AM

Refreshing before it drops off the page..xx..e

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 15 Dec 04 - 07:42 AM

I've learned that life after divorce can be even better than it was when I was married...that independence is a wonderful thing.
That giving is much more rewarding than receiving.
Supporting others brings exceptional rewards.
Forgiveness of others takes a weight off MY shoulders.
Sharing love with everyone makes me feel good.
Best wishes.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,Blushing catter
Date: 16 Dec 04 - 03:58 AM

How not to deal with a teenager!!!!!!!!!!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Gervase
Date: 16 Dec 04 - 07:21 AM

That most things on a Land Rover can be fixed by yourself;
How to use three-coat haired lime plaster on lath ceilings;
Only about two new songs;
How to make my Yorkshire puddings rise properly;
That my daughter is a great mate.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Moses
Date: 16 Dec 04 - 07:30 AM

I learned (again) that you don't always get what you think you deserve and that however much you might want them to, people don't always treat you as you would wish them to.

I also re-affirmed but there is nothing so good as a true and supportive friend.

Peace and a happy Christmas to all.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Bunnahabhain
Date: 16 Dec 04 - 12:03 PM

Important lesson for the year:

      Always write stuff down.

The action of writing it down helps you to remember it, and even if you don't, it's written down.
My best example of this in in the kitchen. I now keep a notebook for all the known food allergies and dislikes for everbody I can think of. Gains you an reputation as a considerate chef rather fast.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Bat Goddess
Date: 16 Dec 04 - 01:16 PM

That Curmudgeon and I have an incredible bunch of friends. (I knew that before, but we REALLY know it now!)

That medical people, from nurse's aides to surgeons and everyone in between are truly wonderful people. I don't know how they do it all AND keep smiling and son't seem to get burned out with all the giving.

That "Big Corporate Medicine" can be truly generous when the recipient has nothing.

That even if the person in the hospital is feeling ill and not the slightest bit social, a friend popping 'round the door, saying "hi" and letting you know they're thinking about you, is very much appreciated. Especially if said visitor, realizing that the patient feels ill and not at all sociable or wanting to entertain a visitor, spreads good wishes and quickly leaves. But putting in an appearance helps!

Linn

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: gnu
Date: 17 Dec 04 - 07:15 AM

Being involved with a business that failed due to poor health of the prime investor bailing out halfway in, I've learned...

When the going gets tough, the bank doesn't give a shit.

If you bend over, a line will form.

There is no honour amongst anyone in business.

All work and no play is not enough for management.

Blood is thicker than competency.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: The Fooles Troupe
Date: 17 Dec 04 - 09:11 AM

When on line and connected to Mudcat, don't unplug the

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: SINSULL
Date: 17 Dec 04 - 08:34 PM

A little more about who I am and who I am not.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: LadyJean
Date: 18 Dec 04 - 01:18 AM

I leanred that the president of the board of the co op where I used to live is crazier than a bedbug.
I learned that, if you're going to buy a house you should know a good plumber.
I learned that that you don't really know how much stuff you have until you have to move it.
I learned that the Vietnam Veterans of America will pick up your old stuff if you leave it on your porch for them.
I learned that the new kitten can flush the toilet.
I learned that what I devoutly hope was absolutely last bridesmaid's dress was twice too big for Hollowfox's daughter, but she still wanted the thing.
I have yet to learn what she did with it.
I have yet to learn what the movers did with the hinges for my refigerator.
But I have learned where I can buy new hinges.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 18 Dec 04 - 07:03 AM

That when it gets so bad that you know you just can't take any more...

you can.

Especially when there are good, caring friends all over the globe supporting you.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 19 Dec 04 - 06:02 AM

I learned not to ask Manitas to go into the loft unsupervised (the old foot through the ceiling getting a ladder that HE put up there....).

And I learned that someone thinks I'm sexy, fat arse and all.... still glowing over that one!

(Yes I know I've posted that in several places but they are just too good to keep to myself!)

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Dewey
Date: 19 Dec 04 - 07:40 AM

1. God Channels through us all
2. God perfects through us all
3. God is the source of our intentions
4. God is the source of our will
5. God knows our will
6 God's Will is Guaranteed (because it is perfected in morality)
7. God is our intelligents
8. God is our emotions
9. God is the source of ALL creativity
10.God is the source of all physically sound health
11.God is our unified source to every other thought, person or event
   magically placed in our life for ours and his perfecting benefit.
12.God is our TRUE mind and un-ending resource
13.God is our director, envisioning events and circumstance before they occur, given us ample time to prepare our minds to recieving the Good that is in the event, which is our destiny.
14. God is our secretary, reminding us of what is missing in our lives, and telling us what it is we need to focus on in the upcoming days, years of our lives etc.
15. God is our ticket to a Great parking space if we only believe and envison in this possibility (LOL)
16. God is our supervisor and knows which thoughts are working toward our benefit and which ones we should discard.
17. God is the only source of genius, all other so-called human geniuses are thus not giving credit to where it is actually due.
18. God is the source of forgiveness.
19. God is the source of freedom from fear
20. God is the cure to in-decisiveness

Basically I learned alot about God this year (though my intention was on making money)

Totally amazing, God works in mysterious ways, folks.

The Kingdom of Heaven is WITHIN YOU!

Seek you FIRST, the kingdom of God and his RIGHTEOUSNESS and ALL THESE THINGS will be ADDED unto YOU.

Dewey

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST
Date: 19 Dec 04 - 09:07 AM

dewey...have you got God?

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,LtS's secret elf
Date: 19 Dec 04 - 09:15 AM

but surely our lovely LtS,you knew that all ready???? Manitas should tell you more often!!!!

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,anon
Date: 23 Dec 04 - 11:01 PM

to let go...with good grace and walk away from a bad situaton that was detrimental to my health, both physical and mental. I have learned the hard way that it is not in my nature to share my partner with another person. Good luck to those who can but I now know its not for me. While I'm aware this reads like a tale of woe, it isn't, I have become astronger person because of this hard but valuable lesson.
peace and merry christmas to you all

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Dec 04 - 11:29 PM

I learned that there are people who prefer the hope of better times, to the reality of getting there.

I learned that not all people make it.

I learned that good things given can take years to kick in for the recipient.

I learned that there is no way to predict who will make it, and who won't, before I help them-- that many who seem on the verge of making it will not in fact make it, ever, and that many who seem like complete failures turn things around, sometimes quite efficiently... and that one cannot offer help based on whether one thinks it will do any good, because one never can really tell.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: CarolC
Date: 23 Dec 04 - 11:48 PM

I learned that it's not up to me to try determine what is best for others, but to let others make that determination for themselves... to not judge the paths othes choose (either by accident or by design), because I am not omniscient, and I simply don't know what is best for them. I only know what is best for myself. And I learned that the people I care about deserve no less than my unconditional love and support for them and for whatever choices they make in their lives.

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: Peace
Date: 24 Dec 04 - 01:50 AM

I learned I have more good friends than I thought I ever could have. It's a very humbling experience to be reached out to and comforted. I am not used to that. Who'd a thunk it would happen on the www?

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST
Date: 30 Dec 04 - 10:27 AM

to value good friends, to take it easy, to let go of the negatives, to be happy, that I am loved

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: muppitz
Date: 30 Dec 04 - 11:15 AM

This year I have learned that it is possible for someone deserving to penetrate that emotional wall I built around myself.

I have also learned that I'm not as good a judge of character as I thought I was as the one who penetrated the aformentioned wall gave me a reason to put it right back again.

Ah well, this time I am not bitter!

muppitz x

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,blushing catter
Date: 31 Dec 04 - 05:35 AM

been there done that Muppitz! I expect we aren't the only ones. More power to you for not being bitter. Move onward and upward and may 2005 be better for you

Subject: RE: BS: Things I've learned this year
From: GUEST,shycat
Date: 31 Dec 04 - 06:06 AM

I went through four heavy years. really heavy. 2003 was okay, but I was pretty wound up by the events of the previous four years.

During 2004 year I have come to terms with the experiences of those four years, as much as you can, and have put them in a bundle on the way. I am still walking forward, and am valuing and focussing on the loved ones and good friends I have. I have had a good year, I feel a bit healed, and things are good. I somehow know that this next year will be good, whatever happens. And I wish the best for other people going through tough times, that they will come through and feel some hope and peace in their lives again.