BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.

Subject: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Peace
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 02:37 PM

Jeanie, our Mudcatter friend in England has been dealing with the death of her mom a few days back. Jeanie's mother had a long fight with illness--a fight she had been waging for the past year. I asked Jeanie if it would be OK to start this thread and she graciously said yes. I think she could use some comforting words from Mudcatters; she would really appreciate that.

Jeanie, you know you have my thoughts and condolences despite the seeming emptiness of words at this time. You and your family are in my prayers.

Bruce

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 02:40 PM

Jeanie I lost my Mother 18 months ago, I know how you feel, please accept my condolences.
Giok

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Ebbie
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 02:48 PM

Ah, Jeanie, how sad. We wish so much better endings for our loved ones than they sometimes get, but it is always a wrench to let them go.

{{{{{{{{{Jeanie}}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: open mike
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 03:34 PM

I am a poor, Wayfaring Stranger
a travellin' thru this world of woe,
yet there's no sickness, toil or danger
In that bright world to which we go..

I lost both my parents 3 years ago.
I still think about them every day.

Know that your mother's suffering is over now

and that she is in a brighter place.

I wish for you the strength to get thru this time ahead

and to enjoy your memories...think of the good times.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: jacqui.c
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 03:52 PM

So long as there are people who remember her your mother will still be around.

Deepest sympathy Jeanie. Keep hold of the good memories.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 03:57 PM

The apple tree in my mother's yard bloomed yesterday. It's beautiful. My father found a wee sprig in the hedge and replanted in the middle of the yard just to see what kind of fruit tree it was. That was over thrirty years ago. He passed in '83. Today, Mum and I and my brother sat in the yard and enjoyed the tree and our fond memories of Dad.

The loss of a parent is one of the hardest things that any of us ever have to face. I can only echo what has already been said and add my thoughts and prayers. As open mike said... "think of the good times." It helps. Even after over twenty years.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: jimmyt
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 04:29 PM

Ah, Jeanie, sorry to hear of your loss! I am thinking of you sweetie!jimmyt

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: alanabit
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 04:36 PM

There is never a good time to lose your parents, no matter how inevitable it is. I am sure you gave her all you could before she left and I have no doubt at all that it would have eased her passing. I'll be thinking of you.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Allan C.
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 04:46 PM

Few things hurt more than losing a loved one. Few hurts are more long lasting. My thoughts are with you, Jeanie.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: skipy
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 05:08 PM

I don't know who you are & I don't need to, thinking of you stranger & sharing your loss, be strong Skipy.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Alba
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 05:27 PM

I am so sorry Jeanie.
You are in my Thoughts.
I lost my Dad 6 months ago. I think of Him daily and He will always be in my heart. I wish I could say something that helps you at this difficult time but all I can do is send you {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Love, Light and Blessings to you Darlin,
Jude

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Mooh
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 05:29 PM

My condolences and sympathy. I lost my own mother on mother's day this year. The hurt and sadness passes eventually and you'll be left with good memories. Look after yourself day by day, and day by day it gets easier. Take comfort in the little things, the smiles, and the words of friends.

Peace, Mooh.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 05:49 PM

And, peace be with you, Mooh. I did not know. My thoughts and prayers to you as well.

g

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Little Robyn
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 05:51 PM

Kind thoughts from the other side of the world.
Robyn (in NZ)

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Peace
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 05:52 PM

Same as Gnu, Mooh. My condolences.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Helen
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 07:00 PM

Jeanie,

Love & light from Oz, as well.

I lost my Mum about 3 years ago and it is still hard to believe that she is gone. The first few weeks can be a bit of a blur, but it is after that that it seems to become harder. People stop asking how you are feeling and seem to think you should be over it but it is worse, I think, because just after she passed over I had this irrational feeling that she was gone for a short time but that she would be back, but after a few weeks or months it hit me that she wouldn't be back and I really started to miss her a lot.

I'd see something and think, I'll tell Mum that. I'd find a great present for her and then realise I couldn't give it to her. Something would happen at work or with my friends and I'd save it up in my head as a story she would like to hear.

But, since I was little I have felt the presence of people passed over, and quite often I will get a "visit", often in my dreams, about 3-6 months after they pass over, telling me they are ok.

A few years ago I told my Mum that after my cousin died I kept finding little gold foil hearts, made of scrunched up foil from an antacid tablet packet that I was using daily at that time. The bits of foil seemed to make themselves into flat heart shapes, and I strongly believed that it was a message from my cousin to say she was ok. Mum wanted to see them but I didn't get a chance to show her.

Five months after Mum passed I found the little hearts again. Also, we have a family sign, two crossed sticks/twigs, which we leave on the doorstep if we have visited and no-one was home. I started finding them near the doorstep at about the same time and still see them now and then.

So, they are not gone, they are just in another place. I think of my Mum upstairs, helping people, talking to strangers, being a nice person, the same way she was here. She hasn't changed she has just gone somewhere else.

Helen

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: SINSULL
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 08:37 PM

I will keep you in my prayers, Jeannie. Celebrate her life.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Mooh
Date: 03 Jun 05 - 10:10 PM

I just refreshed the Bede Jarrett's Prayer thread for us (above the line, sorry), but especially for Jeanie.

Peace, Mooh.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: wysiwyg
Date: 04 Jun 05 - 12:20 AM

May the lives of all who've gone from us, continue to pour blessings into this world-- through all they were.

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Jeanie
Date: 04 Jun 05 - 03:05 AM

Thank you all so much. Thank you Mooh for refreshing the Bede Jarrett prayer - I remember now how it struck me as being so beautiful. I will write later about my mother and her incredible bravery and strong willpower to overcome setback after setback. This feisty lady, born 1919, is now at peace, among old friends again and, I believe, not very far away at all.

My daughter Isobel and I are now preparing the funeral service. Isobel is going to play the flute (She's just passed Grade 8 having only just turned 16 - forgive me for being a proud mum) and I am going to read this - "A Parable of Immortality" by Henry Van Dyke:

I am standing upon the seashore. A ship at my side spreads her white sails to the morning breeze and starts for the blue ocean. She is an object of beauty and strength, and I stand and watch until at last she hangs like a speck of white cloud just where the sea and sky come down to mingle with each other. Then someone at my side says, 'There she goes !'

Gone where ? Gone from my sight - that is all. She is just as large in mast and hull and spar as she was shen she left my side and just as able to bear her load of living freight to the place of destination. Her diminished size is in me, not in her. And just at the moment when someone at my side says, 'There she goes !' there are other eyes watching her coming and their voices ready to take up the glad shouts 'Here she comes !'

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With Love and special thoughts to those of you have also lost someone recently,
- jeanie

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Amergin
Date: 04 Jun 05 - 03:27 AM

jeanie,

I wish there was something I could do to take your pain away. I wish there was something of comfort I can say to help ease your pain. There are no words, I can think of....save to tell you she is with you still...in your heart...where it truly matters, for that is where all the true memories reside....


Nathan

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: GUEST,katlaughing
Date: 04 Jun 05 - 01:43 PM

My thoughts and condolences are with you and your family, Jeanie. I feel like and orphan now I've lost both my parents; time does seem to lessen the sadness, though. Your service sounds lovely. Thanks for posting it.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: LilyFestre
Date: 04 Jun 05 - 11:19 PM

(((((((HUG))))))))))

Words just don't cut it sometimes.

Michelle

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: GUEST,brucie
Date: 05 Jun 05 - 12:11 AM

Jeanie, the reading is beautiful and profound. And Isobel, I have never met you or spoken with you, but your mom has talked about you to me and she is very, very proud of you ans she loves you deeply.

Bruce M

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: GUEST,Azizi
Date: 05 Jun 05 - 12:21 AM

Jeanie,

My condolences.   

Words are sometimes inadequate. But know that in times like this others care about you.

Be gentle with yourself and don't forget to call on your friends when you need and want to talk.

Peace,

Azizi

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: saulgoldie
Date: 05 Jun 05 - 09:06 AM

I can't add to any of the wisdom or depth of feeling here, except to add my condolences.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: GUEST
Date: 05 Jun 05 - 09:31 AM

Thinking of you Jeanie - please accept my condolences too
rum x

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: CarolC
Date: 05 Jun 05 - 08:02 PM

Deepest condolences to you, your daughter, and to the rest of your family on the passing of your mother, Jeanie.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 06 Jun 05 - 03:51 AM

Thinking about you and your daughter.

{{hugs}}

Khatt x

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: kendall
Date: 06 Jun 05 - 08:40 AM

It seems like I am losing loved ones right and left and it doesn't get any easier. You have my deepest sympathy. We recently buried my only sister, and at the funeral I quoted a favorite piece which has always given me great comfort. It's from Thannatopsis by William Cullen Bryant:

...So live that when your summons comes to join that innumerable caravan that moves to that mysterious rhelm, where each shall take his chamber in the silent halls of death,
Thou go, not like the quarry slave at night, scourged to his dungeon, but sustained and soothed by an unfaltering trust, approach thy grave like one who wraps the draperies of his couch about him, and lies down to pleasant dreams.

I hope you find some comfort in this, as I have.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Firecat
Date: 06 Jun 05 - 02:11 PM

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: Peace
Date: 06 Jun 05 - 02:44 PM

My condolences to you, too, Kendall.

Subject: RE: BS: Jeanie's mom has passed away.
From: LilyFestre
Date: 06 Jun 05 - 03:08 PM

I have never heard that Kendall, thanks for sharing the quote with us. It brings about a certain visual and sense of peace.

(((((((((Hugs for you too))))))))))))

Michelle