five years ago - from Skarpi

Subject: five years ago .........from Skarpi.....
From: skarpi
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:21 PM

Hallo all , I just like to tell........ almost five years ago
my doughter came to us and said mamm and dad (Hrefna ) our friend had
a baby girl and she like to ask if I could help her out babysitting
and help her with the boy then he was 3 years old .... and we said
yes you can help her out , ofcourse and she did she took them to the playground slept with them stayed there took them to store and
many more things . almost 15 days ago the five year old told my
doughter that she would play holy mary and sing some christmas song
at her school and she sang for her , she also was here at my home
playing and singing .


Saturday one week ago we were driving from work and going home
we got a phone call , the person who was on the phone told us
that this little angel had died in a carcrash earlier that Saturday
, and it was like some one took our heart away .Her brother was badly
hurt and also there father , the boy will never walk again they say.


My doughter said to me yesterday dad , I feel like I have lost
a little sister and then she cried , tomorrow we go and
say good bye to her but on Wendsday we will get the funeral
done ,
this last week has been very difficult.

My dear friends I know this is happening all around the world
every min , but I just wanted to say that we should love our
love ones as much as we can.



We own them today , but we might not have them tomorrow .............

We will have her in our memory and enjoy all the good moments
that we had with her , that what I said to my doughter.

God be with you all ,
All the best Skarpi Iceland .

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From: artbrooks
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:23 PM

Oh...words fail, my friend. Give you daughter an extra hug.

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From: Sorcha
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:24 PM

And with you and yours Skarpi. This is one of the most difficult things you will ever have to do. Be strong.

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From: John MacKenzie
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:25 PM

Peace to you Skarpi my friend, and I know you will find the courage to face the funeral, and to help others do the same.
Giok

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From: Rapparee
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:25 PM

Tell her too, Skarpi, that because she is in memory she has never left and will always be with your daughter and all who knew her.

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From: Peace
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:25 PM

Keep well, Skarpi. Truer words were never spoken on this site.

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From: Den
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:30 PM

Skarpi, you will always hold her in your hearts and noone or nothing will ever take that away.

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From: Ruth Archer
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:31 PM

lots of hugs and love, Skarpi.

Subject: RE: five years ago .........from Skarpi.....
From: Wesley S
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:39 PM

These losses are always the tough ones. Death should come to us as an old friend late in life. Not sneaking up on the young healthy ones with so much to live for.

Subject: RE: five years ago .........from Skarpi.....
From: Maryrrf
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:39 PM

I am so sorry Skarpi. There is nothing worse than the death of a child.

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From: MMario
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:39 PM

skarpi - words fail me - but my thoughts are with you, your family your friends family.

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From: SINSULL
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:40 PM

Skarpi,
Hold your little girl close and help her deal with this loss.
I will light a candle for you all tonight.
Mary

Subject: RE: five years ago .........from Skarpi.....
From: Skipjack K8
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:54 PM

Saturday last, my eldest son (18) took our other son (16) and daughter (13) on a Christmas shopping trip in his car. All our precious children in one car with an inexperienced driver. Mrs S and I worried until they were safe home, and our prayer level dropped. That night, the oldest son was out driving alone in the first frost of his driving career, and spun his car on a bad bend near our village. I was unaware of this, and later that night, on the way back from playing a ceilidh, I lost the back end of the car on the same bend, and fortunately steered into the skid and controlled the car again.



So, noone or thing came to harm, but what a thin thread our modern lives hang by?


Skarpi, thank you for posting this heartfelt message, it reminds us again what we are always forgetting, to love for today.

Peace be with you.

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From: Anne Lister
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 03:56 PM

We will be keeping you in our most tender thoughts, Skarpi.

Anne

Subject: RE: five years ago .........from Skarpi.....
From: Amos
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 04:04 PM

Skarpi:

Encourage her to try to send her wishes and thoughts and anything she cares to communicate to her lost friend, wherever she may be. This is sometimes very healing.

My best thoughts are with you and your family.


A

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From: Bill D
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 04:04 PM

I echo what others have said above. Peace & good wishes for getting through this sadness.
..and thank you for reminding us how important it is to have and cherish friends, as one never knows.

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From: wysiwyg
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 04:09 PM

Skarpi, what a beautiful heart you have, and what a beautiful daughter you have raised. The love that hurts so much right now never really dies, and is always right.

Thanks so much for telling us about it. You told it beautifully.

~Susan

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From: My guru always said
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 04:13 PM

So sorry to read this, thinking of you all,
Hil

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From: Deckman
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 04:23 PM

When I became a parent, I really didn't have a clue as to what all "being a parent" meant. This situation that you are in, forces you to be stronger than you might ever have expected. Like it or not, and once again, you are not only being a loving Father, but you also are being a teacher to your child. You are teaching her how to deal with this.

We'll light a candle for your family. Bob

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From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 04:31 PM

Very sorry to hear, Skarpi. Stay strong for your daughter through this.

LEJ

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From: jacqui.c
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 04:45 PM

Oh Scarpi - one of the heaviest burdens a parent has to bear is to watch a child's heart break and to be able to do little to help. I have friends who lost a daughter to leukeamia when she was nine and it just seems so unfair to see children suffer and die.

As has been said, the little girl will always be alive in the memory of those who knew her. There is a little boy who is now going through the loss of his sister and, possibly, his own ability to walk - it could be that your daughter might get some solace in helping that little one through what will be a difficult time for everyone involved.

Good thoughts are coming from Maione to you and yours.

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From: LilyFestre
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 05:02 PM

((hugs to you and your family))
((((((an extra hug for your daughter))))

Michelle

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From: katlaughing
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 05:12 PM

Dearest Skarpi,

Your strength, compassion, and love are the best things for your daughter and everyone else involved, including yourself. They shine through your words and lend grace to us all. My heart is on the ground at the sorrow which has come your way.

I echo all of the other postings. Please know you are in my thoughts and heart. May you find Peace and the energy needed to travel this road with your daughter.

Ast,

kat

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From: Rasener
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 05:13 PM

Keep strong Skarpi. Not much I can say. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Skipjack you must have done a lot of evil things in your life. You escaped the grim reaper.

I always think I am being over the top, when I concern myself that people who perform at Market Rasen Folk Club and the audience get home safely. I am always relieved when I know everybody is OK.

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From: Hawker
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 05:18 PM

Skarpi,
You told this story so beautifully and the pain you are all feeling is very apparent in the way that the story is told. How true that we all get so bogged down in living that we forget how quickly things can get taken away too. I send my love and kindest thoughts to you and your family - and this little girls family, and thank you for sharing this painful story with us.
Much Love, Lucy

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From: GUEST,Dani
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 08:19 PM

Dear friend Skarpi,

Thank you so much for sharing this. It does not matter where or to whom these things are happening around the world when your own heart is being torn.

I am so sorry for your pain and your little girl's. She is very fortunate to have a strong, wise Daddy to hold and help her through this.

I will give my girls extra hugs tonight and think of you.

Dani

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From: GUEST,meself
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 08:30 PM

The death of a child is always heartbreaking. And there's no parent who wouldn't take his child's pain for him- or herself if it could be done.

Be strong. But there's no shame in a few tears.

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From: karen k
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 09:20 PM

Skarpi,
My thoughts and my heart go out to your family and to that of the little girl. Your daughter should remember the happy times with the children, be proud of all she did with this child and be available to the little boy if she can. How old is your daughter? She sounds like a wonderful young woman. A child's death is a tragic loss.

Condolences,

karen kobela

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From: Elmer Fudd
Date: 11 Dec 06 - 09:27 PM

Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.

Elmer

Subject: RE: five years ago .........from Skarpi.....
From: JennieG
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 01:53 AM

Skarpi, I am so sorry to hear this. I can only echo what has already been said - your daughter will have the memories of her friend, and they will be precious to her.

JennieG

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From: Ebbie
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 02:25 AM

Love to all of you.

Tomorrow is the memorial service for a lovely man we lost lsst month. Death is always nearby but the pulse of life beats strong.

Sometimes all we can do is hold someone and admit that we don't know why these things happen.

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From: KT
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 02:40 AM

Skarpi,

I'm so sorry.

Your daughter is blessed to have had this little girl in her life, AND to have you to hold her and help her through this time of sorrow. Tomorrow and Wednesday at the memorial service, when it seems more than you all can bear, may it help in some small way to know that all of your mudcat friends the world over, are thinking of you, and holding you in their hearts. PM on its way to you soon.

love,

KT

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From: Partridge
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 02:56 AM

Dear Skarpi,

I'm so sorry to hear your news. I just cant think of what to say, so I echo the more elequant contributers. My heart goes out to you, your daughter and the little girls family and friends.

love
Pat xxx

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From: gnu
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 06:02 AM

Thoughts and prayers.

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From: catspaw49
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 06:22 AM

Skarpi, I have no idea what I could say that these friends of ours haven't said. You are greatly loved in this community and I know your pain is felt by all here. I guess I want to say everything that has been said again and again.

You had exactly the right words for your daughter and she is blessed to have you as a father as we are blessed to have you as a friend. Stay strong.

Spaw

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From: Keith A of Hertford
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 06:38 AM

I am so sorry that this tragedy has struck you and your family.
I am glad that you have felt able to share it with us all.
Very best wishes and thoughts,
Keith.

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From: GUEST
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 07:26 AM

so, so sad, be strong.
Skipy

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From: Big Mick
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 07:55 AM

Skarpi, I have started and deleted a dozen posts on this thread. This is so sad and there simply isn't much to say. Hold your daughter close, and try to find whatever is there to help her learn the tough reality of this. But mostly just be there, and don't forget to let your grief out while you do this. The tragedy of this is the loss of this beautiful child, but the loss of another bit of your daughter's innocence is tragic in its own right.

You and I have become such good friends, and I ache for you and your family right now. You are in my prayers.

Mick

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From: ragdall
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 08:47 AM

Skarpi,
I'm very sorry that this tragedy has happened and that your daughter must deal with the heartbreaking loss of the "little sister" who had such a short life.

May your family find comfort at this difficult time, through the prayers and the thoughts that are being sent to you by your friends, all over the world.

rags

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From: Flash Company
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 09:44 AM

What can I say that has not already been said? Sad, sad, sad, And why oh why do these things always happen around Christmas?
We are all with you,

FC

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From: Wolfgang
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 10:21 AM

That's the worst possible news for parents and close friends or relations. I think I'd never fully recover from such a tragedy.

Wolfgang

Subject: RE: five years ago .........from Skarpi.....
From: Megan L
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 01:20 PM

A flower to soon to fade

I do not know why it should be a flower as beautiful as she
Should come to bud then with life's first frost be gone
While others not of fragrance sweet do linger on.
I do not know I cannot say why she has gone and you must stay
But I do know and so will tell that she within your heart will dwell.
Not growing old or frail and week nor teenage angst nor sorrows meet
She will remain the sweetest flower to ever grow in memories bower.

MeganL

Strenght and peace be with all who love her for love fades not.

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From: skarpi
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 01:35 PM

Hallo all , thank you all for your kindness and good words..
I just came home from see-ing the little girl for the last time...
sniff ..it was hard for us, but I cannot imagine the pain
that the parents have ..... its like some one takes out my heart..
I dont know what to say .....sorry some tears running down ..

Me and my wife and doughter are feeling a little better after this
memorial moment , there was a lot of peace and we will never
forget this moment that we had with her family there today .


Tomorrow we will go to the funeral , but tonight we will light a
candle outside for her,her brother and family .

Its strange how little we become when we stand against the death .


(((( A BIG HUG TO YOU ALL AND LOTS OF LOVE ))))))) sniff .....

All the best Skarpi Iceland ..

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From: John MacKenzie
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 01:40 PM

Skarpi, I don't have the words to say how I feel, but I share your grief.
We will be supporting you tomorrow in our hearts.
Giok

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From: Seamus Kennedy
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 01:46 PM

Skarpi, my heartfelt sympathy and condolences to your family and to your daughter especially.

Seamus

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From: Cllr
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 01:52 PM

Thank you skarpi for sharing this with us while i can offer my thoughts for you and this family what i really wanted to thnk you for was for reminding me how much i love my wife and our little nieces who are four and six,
thank you for reminding me not to ever take such things for granted
Cllr

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From: ard mhacha
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 02:52 PM

Poor oul Skarpi, from you came on this Site you entertained all, what a tragedy, from Ireland my sincere sympathy on this sad event,God bless.

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From: Paul from Hull
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 04:54 PM

A very sad thing to happen Skarpi, you & your wife & daughter, as well as the bereaved family, have my sympathies. I am glad to har that the Memorial has helped.

Very best wishes,
Paul.

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From: Gizmo
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 07:11 PM

Hi Skarpi

I know we don't know each other, but you are in my thoughts during this painful time.

All my sympathies to you and your family, especially your daughter.

All the best

Nicci

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From: GUEST,lox
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 07:34 PM

and with you skarpi

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From: GUEST,Skipy
Date: 12 Dec 06 - 07:42 PM

Lots of us will be with you in spirit tomorrow, perhaps not at the right moments due to the time zones, but we will be there, be stong for your little girl, cry if you need too, I am.
Skipy.

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From: skarpi
Date: 13 Dec 06 - 02:03 PM

Well my friends day has come to an end and its dark outside
funeral is over and it was almost the hardest thing I ever done
in my life , but it has helped us to be come stronger than we was
before, faith has become stronger, in the funeral we had sadness
and gladness , music from artist that the girl liked they came and played and sang
her most favor song , a song she sang all day long .

Now she is in gods hand , and he will take car of her by his side
along all others , god is the light.

Thank you all for all the support its good to know how many friends
we have around us .

Lots of love and hugs to you all .

All the best Skarpi Iceland.

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From: GUEST,Partridge
Date: 13 Dec 06 - 02:08 PM

Again my heart goes out to you

lost of love
Pat xxxxx

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From: John MacKenzie
Date: 13 Dec 06 - 02:53 PM

It's healing time now Skarpi, cherish the memories and try to forget the pain.
Giok

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From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 13 Dec 06 - 07:32 PM

((((Hug))))

LTS

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From: Wilfried Schaum
Date: 14 Dec 06 - 02:51 AM

Skarpi - I'm feeling with you. Give your dear daughter a big hug.

I nearly lost one of my daughters in a carcrash; she came out of it nearly unharmed - thanks to God. Life is so fragile. Every loss of a beloved one will leave a scar. It will hurt less and less in time, but it will remain and remind you of a loved one.

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From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Dec 06 - 06:21 AM

Love and Peaceful energy to you, Skarpi. Thanks for finding the strength to post an update for us after such a hard day.

It is said that God gave us memory so we could have roses in winter.

luvyakat

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From: GUEST,lox
Date: 14 Dec 06 - 06:47 PM

Love bro!

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From: GUEST,Dani
Date: 14 Dec 06 - 07:06 PM

God absolutely is the light, Skarpi. And it is people like you who see it in others, and reflect it and share it.

Please tell us her favorite song!

Dani

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From: Divis Sweeney
Date: 14 Dec 06 - 07:22 PM

Skarpi, you always had my respect here. Tonight you have my support and I know you will get through this.
Very much in my thoughts.
Best wishes from Ireland.
DS

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From: JennyO
Date: 14 Dec 06 - 10:26 PM

{{{{{{{{ SKARPI }}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: five years ago .........from Skarpi.....
From: wysiwyg
Date: 15 Dec 06 - 05:44 PM

A young, much-beloved girl in our parish died in a car crash a few years ago. We were all shocked and grief-stricken. What a lively young lady she was! She had dimples that could charm anybody.

She had let someone know what music she would want "if anything ever happened" to her. So to everyone's amazement, at her funeral home service, out from the speakers came the unmistakable opening riffs of "Spirit in the Sky." People were physocally galvanized with the surprise-- I was sitting behind them all and saw a lot of backs go stiff-- but the song gdid its trick. By the middle of it-- and it was LOUD-- people were chair-dancing more than a little bit, and grinning to each other even as the tears streamed down their faces.

By the time everyone came over to the church for an after-service lunch visit, it was all joyful sharing of memories. People still talk about that song choice, as they remember her.

What we remember is how her smile lit up anywhere she went-- and how she is still infecting us with the gift of that smile every time we think of her song. I mean, you have to know that people here tend to be very reserved, proper, and composed, and her family had a lot of older friends, pillars of the community, and so forth, who came to be with them for the occasion.

She.... she made us better for having cared for her.

~Susan

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From: Alison M
Date: 15 Dec 06 - 06:28 PM

Skarpi, my thoughts are with you.