BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!

Subject: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Flash Company
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 10:32 AM

Not for me, for a very dear friend.
Petrina, my best friend's (and Best Man's) wife has just been told she has ovarian cancer. Tests are in full swing, and a hysterectomy is currently scheduled for the 28th (Her Birthday, God help us!)
To add to her problems, like me, she has already lost a lung. Not to cancer in that case, but it aint going to help.
Sheila & I are offering all the support we can give but feel totally helpless.

Brian Q

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Jean(eanjay)
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 10:35 AM

Thoughts sent from Yorkshire.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 11:09 AM

Prayers and (((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))) for your friend.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: ranger1
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 11:16 AM

Hugs and positive thoughts from Maine.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: katlaughing
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 11:18 AM

She shares a birthday with me. It can be helpful if she and the rest of you can focus on the outcome you wish for, i.e. visualise her after surgery, full of energy, healthy and doing the things she loves to do. I have a set of visualisation tapes I used pre-heart surgery and immediately following. If you think she would be into that and would like to have them, PM me an addy and I will mail them out asap. My surgeon made sure they put the headphones on and played them for me as soon as I was sent to recovery. They REALLY helped.

Another thing which has helped, one woman healed completely from this, is to watch as many funny movies, etc. as possible, as laughter, I kid you not:-), has a healing effect.

Lots of hugs and energy coming you way.

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Bobert
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 11:35 AM

(((((Hugs)))), Petrina...

Bobert

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From: Alec
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 11:44 AM

Positive thoughts from here as well.

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From: Janie
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 11:52 AM

And from me also....

Janie

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From: Megan L
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 12:07 PM

thoughts and prayers from Scotland
Meg

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: jacqui.c
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 12:10 PM

Flash - pm me her address and we will send a copy of Kendall's tape and book to make her laugh.

Lots of good wishes coming from here.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: wysiwyg
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 12:16 PM

((((((((((Petrina))))))))))

((((((((((Petrina's Hubby))))))))))

((((((((((Petrina's Dear Friends))))))))))

~Susan

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: fat B****rd
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 02:48 PM

Kind thoughts and best wishes from Charlie.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: SINSULL
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 02:54 PM

A candle lit and good thoughts going Petrina's way. Visualize yourself healthy, lady.
SINS

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: mick p r.m s.c
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 03:17 PM

LOTS OF HUGS HUGS HUGS from The Walton On The Naze Shanty Crew. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: skarpi
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 04:23 PM

Lots of HUGS from the N-Atlantic ocean

((((((((( hugs ))))))))))))))))))

Petrina is a rear name ...... there are few here in Iceland though

All the best Skarpi Iceland

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Ebbie
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 04:30 PM

A "rear" name, Skarpi? Are you trying to make her laugh already? *G*

The best of good wishes to Petrina and those who love her.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: CapriUni
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 04:46 PM

{{{Hug for your friend}}}

and a

{{{Hug for you, too}}}

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Stringsinger
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 05:51 PM

Sending you positive thoughts and hope for recovery. Of course hugs as well!

What you are going through is tough. I had a friend who just finished chemo. She fought it and won. But it's very hard going.

I understand your feelings and I'm sure you have the support of everyone here in the Mudcat Community.

All the best of everything.

Frank

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: skipy
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 05:57 PM

((((((((((Petrina))))))))))

((((((((((Petrina's Hubby))))))))))

((((((((((Petrina's Dear Friends))))))))))

Stright "cut & paste" from WYSIWYG because it is not possible to say more than she said.
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: RangerSteve
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 08:37 PM

She is in my prayers.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Alba
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 10:08 PM

Petrina,
Holding you in my thoughts and in my Heart.
Sending you nothing but positive energy.
{{{HUGS}}}
With Love and in Light
Jude

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: lennice
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 10:56 PM

hugs and light from Massachusetts.

Where are you? I find it easier to visualize if I have some reference point.

ck the thread about songs for funerals and HEALING. Forget the funeral part. There are great songs listed there that are comforting and uplifting. Sing them to yourself, sing them to your friend. That's what got me through a bad patch. Make a tape for her like Rita did for me, or ask Rita (ferrara) for her tape! (cd now?). Carly also made a tape for me with input from a bunch of people, maybe get her friends together and all of you make a tape or cd for her!

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: lennice
Date: 04 Mar 07 - 11:48 PM

I'm an idiot. forget the reference to the thread - i'll quit being lazy and list some, and maybe others will do the same. Too bad Susan Hill's songs aren't in the data base - she writes the most comforting songs I've ever heard. Some of Rita's choices: Come to the Bower [SP?}, Turning toward Morning (Bok), the one about friends in the kitchen and the trumpet vine(bok?), skye boat song, mockingbird Hill is amazingly comforting (at least with Rita singing it!), Rose of Allendale, Children of the Heavenly Father. Friendship songs are good. I don't know about your friend, but I think "forget your troubles come on get happy" songs are dreadful and depressing when you have something real to deal with, and I'd leave out funny songs, or make another one of just funny songs for when she's in the mood. I'm sure you can think of more! Help out, mudcatters?

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: katlaughing
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 12:30 AM

For funny, a CD of Les Barker!

Great suggestions, lennice. Voices and singing of friends and family would be much better than that of a stranger. I would think they'd have more impact.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Partridge
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 01:19 AM

A huge hug and positive thoughts from Yorkshire. I know how effective the mudcat community can be when it gets behind someone who needs some support - it works!

love

Pat xxx

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Joybell
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 02:13 AM

My thoughts too, Brian, and hugs from over the sea -- for all of you.
Joy

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From: MBSLynne
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 02:50 AM

Brightest blessings, thoughts and light from North West Leicestershire

Love Lynne

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: JennyO
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 03:40 AM

Sending some warm Oz healing energy from this side of the world!

Jenny

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Ella who is Sooze
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 05:20 AM

Have just lost my father to cancer... two primary cancers. He got over the one in June 06 - had it removed. Me and t'other half got married in the September last year, and by Christmas dad was ill again. He died a few weeks ago, this time small cell cancer of the lung. It's a hard time, and wouldn't wish a loved one with cancer on anyone. Traumatic for all involved, stay strong, stay together and cherish each day each moment. Take each day for what you have and most of all find some strength to remain ever positive. Cos sometimes there is a happy ending for some.

My thoughts are with you.

Ella who is Suze, (first day back looking at the mudcat).

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: JennyO
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 06:49 AM

And my thoughts are with you too, Ella who is Suze. Take some of that warm Oz healing energy for yourself and your heart!

Jenny

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Flash Company
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 09:36 AM

I knew I could rely on all you lovely people, it is difficult for me at the moment as she is in full 'I don't want any fuss' mode.
I will print this in a day or so when things have calmed down a little and let her have a copy.
My thanks and love to you all,

Brian Q

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Hollowfox
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 10:36 AM

All right, no fuss then. But she (and you) are getting good thoughts and the start-up series of (you guessed it) genuine purebred Midwestern $#@!-reduction candles. (Thoughts now, candles when I get home from work).

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: GUEST,Cats
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 10:43 AM

Bright Blessings and Healing Thoughts to your dear friend and to you and Sheila. You'll need them to get yourself through it and be strong for her too. Jon and Kathy xxx

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Pseudolus
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 11:09 AM

I wish you all the best, I wish you strength to handle the journey and I wish you a happy conclusion.

God Bless,
Frank

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Gizmo
Date: 05 Mar 07 - 04:04 PM

HUGS and HUGS and warmth and love and the best wishes for you all, family and friends of Petrina.

I wish nothing but a positive outcome.

L&L

Nicci

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 06 Mar 07 - 06:03 AM

Can I have a few for my in-laws please? Father in law is seriously ill in hospital, where he's been for 2 weeks now, mostly in a high dependency ward. He has pancreatitis and now he's having difficulty breathing (2 weeks on oxygen pipes will do that), so all sorts of scans and things are happening. His wife needs an extra special hug from wherever she can get it.

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: jacqui.c
Date: 06 Mar 07 - 06:13 AM

(((((((((((((Senior Drapers))))))))))))))))))))

All the best Liz.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Flash Company
Date: 06 Mar 07 - 10:21 AM

Hi Liz, that is terrible, we lost another dear friend to that one around the time when Dennis Potter had it and was appearing on TV with a whisky in one hand and a bottle of Morphine tabs in the other.
S & I will be with you.

All our love
Brian Q

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: wysiwyg
Date: 06 Mar 07 - 11:16 AM

((((((((Liz and everyone in her heart))))))))

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Joe_F
Date: 06 Mar 07 - 08:51 PM

{{{An m-brace}}} (here m=3).

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Mudlark
Date: 06 Mar 07 - 11:56 PM

Hugs and all good wishes from California. I understand the "no fuss" feeling, but it can't hurt to know there are powerful thoughts at work on her behalf. Take care of yourselves. Don't be afraid to laugh, or cry. Both are helpful.

Nancy

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Flash Company
Date: 16 Mar 07 - 04:16 AM

Positive news from Petrina yesterday, tests indicate that the cancer is contained in her Womb and has not spread to other parts. We know that the situation is still not good, but at least there appears to be a chance that they can get it all in one go.
She goes in on the 25th with surgery planned for the 26th, so thankfully not now on her Birthday. She will go straight into a High Dependency Ward because of the lung problem.
Thanks from all of us for the support and good wishes received.

Brian Q

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: jacqui.c
Date: 16 Mar 07 - 06:53 AM

Flash

I was diagnosed with cancer of the womb three years ago. They took me in for a total hysterectomy three days after diagnosis. Tests showed that the cancer had been contained within the womb and I didn't need any further treatment.

It's most lilkely, for Petrina, that they will want to gop in the traditional way, via an incision into the abdomen, so that they can look around while they're removing the womb. That will mean a longer recovery and convalescent time but means that they can do a more thorough job of getting rid of any cancer that is there.

Petrina will need to take it very easy for quite a while and, even after recovery, may need to take heed of the fact that there are large internal scars. I overexercised and have ended up with an incisional hernia as a result.

Please send her lots of love and good wishes from me - I hope that all goes well.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Flash Company
Date: 16 Mar 07 - 10:59 AM

jacqui... Yeah, know all about that one, same thing happened with my Mother back in the 1960's. Beware of that hernia! medics will blame every pain you get from now on on it. They missed a perforated ulcer in Mum's case as a result!

FC

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Liz the Squeak
Date: 17 Mar 07 - 02:35 AM

Glad to hear things are improving for her. Speedy diagnosis is always good, but speedy action is imperative.

LTS

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: katlaughing
Date: 17 Mar 07 - 10:00 AM

My mom survived uterine cancer from the early 1970's when treatments weren't as advanced. She lived until 1999 at 83 and never had a recurrence. May it be so for Petrina. Thanks for keeping us updated.

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Flash Company
Date: 17 Mar 07 - 11:28 AM

Thanks for that folks, How are things in your camp Liz?

FC

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Pistachio
Date: 02 Apr 07 - 06:06 AM

How is Petrina? Has another thread been opened? You've probably been too busy to post... anyway I hope all went as well as it could and she'll take advice and the time required to let it all heal up.
Hazel.

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Flash Company
Date: 02 Apr 07 - 11:15 AM

Hi everyone, sorry I have not been in touch again, Internet tech problems!!*#*!## (or words to that effect)
Op was carried out on Monday last, and appears to have been a total success (fingers crossed), S went to see her on Thursday and she was walking about, although in some discomfort. With a following wind she should now be back home.
We will give them a ring tonight and hopefully see them later in the week. John looked a lot happier on Thursday afternoon when he and Petrina's Mum (89) called in for a cup of tea!

FC

Subject: RE: BS: Think I need some of those Mudcat hugs!
From: Hollowfox
Date: 02 Apr 07 - 11:35 AM

Thanks so much for the update. Give her a (gentle) hug sometime for me.The $#@!-reduction candle series is still going to continue for a bit, just to be sure.