And friends, remember to call him often- even weeks from now. Especially weeks from now! Make note of the date of her death, call him every month on that date. Let him know he's loved. Invite him to supper. Tell him your memories of his wife, however trivial they may seem to you, they will be precious to him. Dig out every photo that might have a glimpse of her. David will need you for the long haul.
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Forive me again Allison.

You are right and wrong at the same time.

You are correct that David's friends should lend their support and contact him often.

I would NOT recommend calling David on the monthly aniversary of Heidi's passing. That day would be a good day to take David out to eat, or go out to a movie to lift his mood.

Calling on the monthly aniversary of her death would lower his mood instead of elevate it.

Two Bears.